Grow up.
So because she has an ex...she cannot communicate with him again?
My ex has helped me get interviews into top Nigerian companies of which my family and I were grateful
Being an ex doesn't mean enemity or you must sleep with each other when you meet anytime
Some people are mature enough to develop great friendship with ex-es and it remains so.
If U think staying away from people that you have dated is the norm, then you still have some growing up to do.
Every one you have met is as network link. Useful or unuseful in the future.
She has done no wrong. Sleeping in his house may be frowned upon. That's where trust comes in. If she slept with him, do U think she will tell you she got the job through him?
Be your judge.

CASTOSVILLA:
You're the problem boy, you're worrying like a small girl.

Aswear to God bro. You're right

Ur girlfriend going to crash in her ex's place in d name of helping her get a job and people think that is not a red flag! I can't believe what am reading here!

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
So she should have missed the job opportunity? Her ex just added a positive value to her life, the op should at least b happy for her progress.

But the ex is screwing her now, did you just say he should be happy that his babe is screwing her ex?

oluwakekz:
Hello. Please a kind advice is all I need .

Have being dating this lady since last year December 8months now. I met her at her sister's place that happens to be my mum's neighbour when she came for a visit. She just finish school and looking for a job. We were both looking for job for her even if it's far from her place (Ekiti) as I thought she should be productive to herself.

Thought I was lucky when she called weeks ago to inform me that a friend called her about one vacancy here in Lagos. I was so happy because I can't do long distance relationship (experience)

She came to my place this said Friday and stayed till Sunday. She left for that so called friend's place because we think it's not too safe to get to the interview venue late. She got the job and we thank God......

After two weeks of resumption, I saw this advice on nairaland that talk about 10 Questions To Ask Your Partner In Order To Build Trust "What do you find hard to talk about with me?" She said "nothing " I try talk to her to open up because I can't settle down with someone that will hide anything from me, then she said my ex got me this job. She has kept in contact with him. I ask her" we've being together for three days, you left my house for your ex house and passed the night there? You keep contact with him without telling me all this while? You guys have being seeing each other since you resumed (two weeks?) All she kept saying is am not cheating on you.....

I really love her and I'm confused right now. Please I need advice on what to do because am just tired right now.

isn't it obvious you are dating a dumb chic. What advice are you still waiting for yourself??y you couldn't get her a job and she helped herself in a way which you are not cool with. Some people won't have a problem with what she did. For you, you have a problem. Different values.. so what advice do you want really.

Temptee101:
Hear yourself out, you did not read the write up yet you want to comment and form relationship expert? Typical lazy Nigerian, what baffles me the most is the fact that you are not even ashamed of yourself

if u aren't foolish enough, u would have follow up my comments and replies to know if I read it or not. And the last time I checked u have blocked brain cos I never introduced myself as relationship expert, neither did my profile says. Omale, Oloshi jati jati

Respect55:

On which ground were u able to establish ur claim that she answered 'truthfully'?

at that point it didn't matter anymore, whatever it was would have remained that way if he didn't ask

NnamdiN:
at that point it didn't matter anymore, whatever it was would have remained that way if he didn't ask

U ask to know. He didn't do any wrong by asking.

1stolax:

Keep fooling yourself.
How many of your exec pass the night at your place ?

One of them actually, I spent the night on the couch, while she and my wife used the bed.

Any question?

The question i want to ask are, is she living with the ex or it was a one time thing?

1stolax:

Lol
So na face me I slap u...
You must have lied to your wife...

A bedroom self contain actually. My wife knew her as my ex, we have the same heart and it has never failed us from helping anybody regardless who he or she is or was.

Is that all?

SenorFax:

A bedroom self contain actually. My wife knew her as my ex, we have the same heart and it has never failed us from helping anybody regardless who he or she is or was.

Is that all?

No.
You should have slept in the same room with her in your wife's absence

hummm... a night with ex without something between them... chai... ex for that matter

VampireeM:
So she shouldnt be friends with her ex because you are who? Thats how she would have missed this job connection. you are just an insecure dude. Fiancée kor, if you serious marry her, get her a better job and dish rules as you like. You better grow up and act like a man and stop seeking validation from a faceless forum

its words like this that make men belittle ladies...
do u know how damaging this would cause

1stolax:

No.
You should have slept in the same room with her in your wife's absence

When you are married, you can do that.

cos of job your fiancee girl u want to marry went to sleep in her ex house without telling u

she has failed

u can even follow her, or even rebt an hotel room close to the office

your ex is unfaithful

cut the relationship wt her and find another lady

a dog should not go back to his vomit. there is not need for her to still connect with an ex since in.the first place to the extent of the ex helping him.to secure a job. that means she is still having connection with her ex.
my opinion

her receiving help from her ex is not a bad thing but spending the night with her ex hmmm. bro I leave that to you to judge.

Respect55:

U ask to know. He didn't do any wrong by asking.

which is my point, he asked and he was answered. Why vex?

Bros most ladies are guys ex, but they still maintain their friendship.. Taking myself as an example, most of my ex are very friendly with me,, same as I to them,,, we communicate, we connect, most contract I handle comes from them..
She keep in touch with her ex or communicate with him doesn't make her to cheat on u or there about. All u need to do is to keep ur eyes on her study her, get updates from her and know what so take u for.. Treat her as a woman, one-day u will know her stand n her wing

NnamdiN:
which is my point, he asked and he was answered. Why vex?

Was he supposed to be happy?

SenorFax:
I still keep contact with my exes, even helped them whenever they need one, and I've never for once cheated on my babe.

Who knows
She might be saying the truth.
Or she might be lying.
Don't assume, have your facts in place, then conclude on what to do. Else you might end up punishing an innocent girl.

The sun stood still the day you were born... you have indeed spoken like a man... a true son of your father..
#Respects

oluwakekz:
Hello. Please a kind advice is all I need .

Have being dating this lady since last year December 8months now. I met her at her sister's place that happens to be my mum's neighbour when she came for a visit. She just finish school and looking for a job. We were both looking for job for her even if it's far from her place (Ekiti) as I thought she should be productive to herself.

Thought I was lucky when she called weeks ago to inform me that a friend called her about one vacancy here in Lagos. I was so happy because I can't do long distance relationship (experience)

She came to my place this said Friday and stayed till Sunday. She left for that so called friend's place because we think it's not too safe to get to the interview venue late. She got the job and we thank God......

After two weeks of resumption, I saw this advice on nairaland that talk about 10 Questions To Ask Your Partner In Order To Build Trust "What do you find hard to talk about with me?" She said "nothing " I try talk to her to open up because I can't settle down with someone that will hide anything from me, then she said my ex got me this job. She has kept in contact with him. I ask her" we've being together for three days, you left my house for your ex house and passed the night there? You keep contact with him without telling me all this while? You guys have being seeing each other since you resumed (two weeks?) All she kept saying is am not cheating on you.....

I really love her and I'm confused right now. Please I need advice on what to do because am just tired right now.

please get out of this girl's life. she doesn't deserve a low thinking ijiot.

so you have been strafing all you ex that reached out to you?

SenorFax:
I still keep contact with my exes, even helped them whenever they need one, and I've never for once cheated on my babe.

Who knows
She might be saying the truth.
Or she might be lying.
Don't assume, have your facts in place, then conclude on what to do. Else you might end up punishing an innocent girl.

You are a senior man. Nice reasoning and straight up.

I know its disheartening to you but try to understand that she needed to work so she won't be a liability to you.I had a similar experience but we sorted it out cause my fiance trust that I can't cheat on him worst still my ex.so if she could open up to you just forgive her and try to communicate more to know your kind of woman.it will show maturity on your part.

First she did bad by sleeping over in her ex's crib without your knowledge, but OP are you also saying she has been sleeping in her ex's apartment for the past 2weeks?

jewelpeter:
I know its disheartening to you but try to understand that she needed to work so she won't be a liability to you.I had a similar experience but we sorted it out cause my fiance trust that I can't cheat on him worst still my ex.so if she could open up to you just forgive her and try to communicate more to know your kind of woman.it will show maturity on your part.

Understand what exactly? Sleeping in your ex's house without my knowledge or permission?
I do not understand how maturity comes into play here.

Bullhari:




please get out of this girl's life. she doesn't deserve a low thinking ijiot.

so you have been strafing all you ex that reached out to you?

I hope your wife or fiancée sleeps over at her ex's room and then you find out months later, and I hope that you thank her for being very matured to show you are not ijiot.

Who is talking about reaching out to ex's? I hope to you reaching out does not mean sleeping in the same room with them?

nandyz:
Bros most ladies are guys ex, but they still maintain their friendship.. Taking myself as an example, most of my ex are very friendly with me,, same as I to them,,, we communicate, we connect, most contract I handle comes from them..
She keep in touch with her ex or communicate with him doesn't make her to cheat on u or there about. All u need to do is to keep ur eyes on her study her, get updates from her and know what so take u for.. Treat her as a woman, one-day u will know her stand n her wing

Most kids here are just trying to sound matured. Why would someone still maintain relationships with ex's after marriage? It doesn't make sense. If you still need friendship and emotional support from your ex's after marriage, why marry at all? There is something called emotional cheating. Cheating does not always have to be sexual


I had a fair number of ex's in my heydays, but as soon as I said I do before God and the law, I deleted all their contacts and blocked them all on social media. I explained to them why I had to do that. One of them even tried to destroy my marriage and called my wife saying all sorts of rubbish. I had to change that line to stop the harassment.

The lady did wrong by engaging in relationship with the ex without the knowledge of her fiancée, and had the audacity to sleep (or be sleeping) at his place.

Why would she pass the night at her ex.
What Audacity and you telling me to my face.

SenorFax:

A bedroom self contain actually. My wife knew her as my ex, we have the same heart and it has never failed us from helping anybody regardless who he or she is or was.

Is that all?

You underestimate a woman.