I like how this topic pains men so much but if the op was encouraging men to have multiple girlfriends they would've been saying stuff like "men are polygamous in nature".

Lmao...bloody hypocrites.

One in a million.

chronique:
I don't even know how people who think this foolish, manage to become famous. I've never had a back up gf and I don't ever intend to have one cos it's a whole lotta stress. Anybody who can't be exclusive with me should not bother dating me. God help you that I find out you're keeping a side nigga, that would be the end. If you like, be fine like mammy water, it's not my business.

Hahahaha...

solasoulmusic:
Lmao me that can’t even talk to more than one man without feeling guilty

Suulola:
I'm 100% faithful myself and know what you mean. It hurts but remember... a man who has a backup gf ((( yes, tons of men do while "dating" ))) n moves on quickly to marry another was never urs to begin with and is not the type of man u want to marry. Be thankful it didn't work out bc u only dodged a bullet.

okay, thanks

If u find out about the writer of this, she may not have a home,thereby wanting other ladies out there to fall in her. Ladies beware of wrong councel !!!

The ever bias Tokoni. Would you give this same advice to your fellow me? No?

Toks2008:


And when the contingency guy becomes the main guy you will now start looking for a contingency husband...

Rather than spend time to make your affair work by beeing the best you can be you are fooling around looking for back up.

Hardly any girl has one bf at a time... me I can manage 5 at once plus concubines ...

I never have to worry about heartbreak

Biglittlelois:
Backup/Contingency boyfriend- this is something i'll continue to regret not having, sometimes being 100% faithfull is'nt worth it at all.

I agree and concur.

twerkjack:
Hardly any girl has one bf at a time... me I can manage 5 at once plus concubines ...

I never have to worry about heartbreak

Olosho

Biglittlelois:
Backup/Contingency boyfriend- this is something i'll continue to regret not having, sometimes being 100% faithfull is'nt worth it at all.

u sure must have had it rough with that guy...but if truly a guy messes up and u easily move on to the backup guy, then maybe u never really loved the first one at all...
when love is deep it takes time to find a replacement

Biglittlelois:
Backup/Contingency boyfriend- this is something i'll continue to regret not having, sometimes being 100% faithfull is'nt worth it at all.

Please regret not, I am available for you.

izzou:


Did it occur to Joro Olodo Olumofin that the CONTIGENCY BOYFRIEND whom she just loves on a platonic level, and refuses sex will have like 3 other girlfriends on the sidelines giving him much more than what she's offering?

The truth is there's no perfect way to find the perfect one. Just pray you end up with someone faithful. Learn from your past experiences. Learn to endure some shiits and forgive, because you'll need a lot of that in marriage

Over-sense will not kill you!

Thumbs Up bro.....

On a contrary footing, I feel this advice is just another device to aid cheating.. my question is, if she leaves her boyfriend to date the contingency boyfriend, will she need to have another contingency boyfriend?
secondly I beg to ask WHERE IS THE PLACE OF LOYALTY AND COMMITMENT IN THE RELATIONSHIP SINCE THE ATTENTION WILL BE DIVIDED?
crap this guy just put up is dumb in all fours...

every one promoting crazy ideas to get seen on the internet.

Its so unfortunate that every dick,tom and harry will claim relationship expert and start dishing out ridiculous and stupid advises that only put unsuspecting folks into more bondage and endless depression!

I pity the lady that will listen to such senseless and wayward advise!

izzou:


Did it occur to Joro Olodo Olumofin that the CONTIGENCY BOYFRIEND whom she just loves on a platonic level, and refuses sex will have like 3 other girlfriends on the sidelines giving him much more than what she's offering?

The truth is there's no perfect way to find the perfect one. Just pray you end up with someone faithful. Learn from your past experiences. Learn to endure some shiits and forgive, because you'll need a lot of that in marriage

You too know book

I had known my husband for 2 years, while still dating my then current guy.
Me and hubby(then,was a very good friend) would hang out, talk, chat and all that.
He knew my guy and I knew his babe.
His relationship ended like 3 months before mine.
I consoled him, as a good friend will.
When mine ended... It was his turn to console me.
We ended up consoling each other.
And the consolation ended in marriage 8 months after.
It was like "feem" trick to my ex.
He came around to beg.
Told him it was over. I had moved on.
3 years down the line.. We have been blessed with 3 kids... 2 sons and 1 daughter including a set of twins...

I am glad I had a side B plan... A contingency boyfriend.

Nobody is single.. Yes.
But people don't always marry the people they are currently dating.
There is a huge difference between a boyfriend and husband.
When husband comes, you suppose know say this one Na marriage.
You don't need to date for long.

As Joro rightly said.. Men know this and always have PLANS B, C, D, E etc.... And they fvck these girls...
Then when they dump you, the plan A, they quickly marry any of the other plans, leaving you so heart broken.


Relationship is not marriage.
Nobody owes anybody faithfulness.
Just play safe and smart.
Toto no dey read metre

Babyforever:
Only a naive girl puts all her eggs in one basket girl when dealing with Nigerian men you play them 50 in a 55 and when one clicks you dump the rest

Blood of God

MrsNwaAmaikpe:


just look at them promoting oloshoism everywhere.

Any girl forking more than one cuccumber at a time is an olosho. One of the unwritten law of nature says that only the joystick is permitted to drill more than one kpekus at a given point in time. A kpekus that has an option while been drilled by a joystick is an olosho and will rot in the pit of hell

liar

I used to believe in putting all ur eggs in one basket and giving in 100%.. I even criticised girls that keep back up boyfriend until I learnt my lessons in a hard way.

The truth is that Nigerian guys are very selfish, they expect and encourage you to be 100% faithful and not talk to any other guy while they keep 3 or 4 backup girls for emergencies. The moment you guys break up, they switch over in seconds without hesitating.

My advice to ladies is this:

While you 're dating that your Prince charming that has promised you heaven on earth, please keep male friends, go out on dates, hangout with ur female friends, don't push anybody away. The truth is that not even an engagement ring will make a man stay so until you walk down the aisle, you are still very single!

Even at that, there's a woman for every man, but sometimes, there's a never a man for every woman. Back up or not, no boy would not marry except he choses otherwise but for some ladies even with the back up, they might be the Third wife.

kandi006:
I used to believe in putting all ur eggs in one basket and giving in 100%.. I even criticised girls that keep back up boyfriend until I learnt my lessons in a hard way.

The truth is that Nigerian guys are very selfish, they expect and encourage you to be 100% faithful and not talk to any other guy while they keep 3 or 4 backup girls for emergencies. The moment you guys break up, they switch over in seconds without hesitating.

My advice to ladies is this:

While you 're dating that your Prince charming that has promised you heaven on earth, please keep male friends, go out on dates, hangout with ur female friends, don't push anybody away. The truth is that not even an engagement ring will make a man stay so until you walk down the aisle, you are still very single!

In other words,you should stop being good since others take ur goodness for granted right?

So You should also stop being faithful simply because your exes took your faithfulness for granted?

....And you think once the guy marries you,that will stop him from cheating?

Where are you folks getting all these misguided and unintelligible ideologies?

So let's say you have a backup plan which is a spare bf,how sure are you that ur spare/emergency bf doesn't also have his own spares?

kandi006:
I used to believe in putting all ur eggs in one basket and giving in 100%.. I even criticised girls that keep back up boyfriend until I learnt my lessons in a hard way.

The truth is that Nigerian guys are very selfish, they expect and encourage you to be 100% faithful and not talk to any other guy while they keep 3 or 4 backup girls for emergencies. The moment you guys break up, they switch over in seconds without hesitating.

My advice to ladies is this:

While you 're dating that your Prince charming that has promised you heaven on earth, please keep male friends, go out on dates, hangout with ur female friends, don't push anybody away. The truth is that not even an engagement ring will make a man stay so until you walk down the aisle, you are still very single!

With your Nigerian guys statement, I'm sure I'm not included, because I'm always 500% faithful and never cheated , back up? I wonder how people do that? Maybe you can explain. Even when a lady is married, It doesn't Mean both partners can't be strangers in the end. In all, whatever you do, always give your 100% in your relationship, it would count for good someday, but when you start having back up, even your back up boyfriend could be a set up from your Real boy friend, people like you can Sweet to deceive,chop, clean mouth, scatter the relationship and go separate ways

Some ladies can be so unwise with their decisions.....always acting without thinking!

Some even see marriage as a safety measure that will enable a guy to be faithful?
Chai

Just because a guy decides to marry you doesn't mean he will stop cheating.....Its all about the guy you are marrying.....
If you guy wasn't faithful or loyal to you,just know you dodged a bullet and a better guy is on the way!

But leaning on the mentality that you must have more than one bf just to avoid disappointment and heart break is only just the beginning of your problems!

Exactly my point some guys knows and have who they will marry but they will keep one lady somewhere for years then breakup and marry their assurance God dey

kandi006:
I used to believe in putting all ur eggs in one basket and giving in 100%.. I even criticised girls that keep back up boyfriend until I learnt my lessons in a hard way.

The truth is that Nigerian guys are very selfish, they expect and encourage you to be 100% faithful and not talk to any other guy while they keep 3 or 4 backup girls for emergencies. The moment you guys break up, they switch over in seconds without hesitating.

My advice to ladies is this:

While you 're dating that your Prince charming that has promised you heaven on earth, please keep male friends, go out on dates, hangout with ur female friends, don't push anybody away. The truth is that not even an engagement ring will make a man stay so until you walk down the aisle, you are still very single!

My dear, with the way it is these days, marriage is no longer the finishing line. Teach yourself the right orientation and live the right life for your own good. It's good to be good. Then find people of the opposite who are as good as you are.

Who even told you marriage is a guarantee sef A man who lacks integrity and self-control would throw you out of your marital home and bring in a new b!tch if he's fed up with you. I mean, the same way you take enter im house na the same way im go take pursue you if im like.


But in case you're looking for any justifiable reason to have a random d!CK in your kitten and you think you've found a cool one, just pm one of these randy males on this forum. They would help you satisfy your lustful desires.

i say no

Biglittlelois:
Backup/Contingency boyfriend- this is something i'll continue to regret not having, sometimes being 100% faithfull is'nt worth it at all.

It's stupidity dear. I used to be a faithful mofo. I've been there and when I advice my younger one on this, she thinks I'm wishing her bad. Smh

Babyforever:
Only a naive girl puts all her eggs in one basket girl when dealing with Nigerian men you play them 50 in a 55 and when one clicks you dump the rest

The moment you decide to have a backup guy, it means he’s not your first choice and you’d never give your best to your main guy and I can assure you of this- the relationship will likely fail cos you have already set it up to fail with a second choice backup.

Biglittlelois:
Backup/Contingency boyfriend- this is something i'll continue to regret not having, sometimes being 100% faithfull is'nt worth it at all.

The moment you decide to have a backup guy, it means he’s not your first choice and you’d never give your best to your main guy and I can assure you of this- the relationship will likely fail cos you have already set it up to fail with a second choice backup.

Your mum must have been the reason behind this conclusion. Am just observing ooo