vingeophysicist:
But really I think the main problem is from the ladies.

Recently, I met a girl in a public bus and she initiated discussion with me, along the line I fell in love with her conversational skill and how intelligent she was.I made her realize I like her after studying her for like a week. That same week this lady ask me to buy her birthday gift which I intentionally ignored. Thinking the bitch was joking.Two weeks later after she got a job she was begging me for money for one useless thing.After this scenario I realize she is a bitch and stop pinging her on whatsapp. The fool noticed it and started forming good friend, now almost everyday she always asked of mine well being.
Nigerian ladies are to materialistic yet they lack drive to seek for their own wealth.I am ready for a healthy relationship but most of all this ladies are too money conscious. They will always choose money above love.

It's only when they are aging you will hear something like "any man can fit".

vingeophysicist:
But really I think the main problem is from the ladies.

Recently, I met a girl in a public bus and she initiated discussion with me, along the line I fell in love with her conversational skill and how intelligent she was.I made her realize I like her after studying her for like a week. That same week this lady ask me to buy her birthday gift which I intentionally ignored. Thinking the bitch was joking.Two weeks later after she got a job she was begging me for money for one useless thing.After this scenario I realize she is a bitch and stop pinging her on whatsapp. The fool noticed it and started forming good friend, now almost everyday she always asked of mine well being.
Nigerian ladies are to materialistic yet they lack drive to seek for their own wealth.I am ready for a healthy relationship but most of all this ladies are too money conscious. They will always choose money above love.

It's only when they are aging you will hear something like "any man can fit".

resurgent2019:


Same old tribal BS. You must be igbo.

ImaIma1:


Even from the way, you keep addressing her as "bitch" "fool" is already highlighting a problem of many guys.

Not all ladies are materialistic and you should tread carefully. It is not every girl from all locations that you relate with.

Hanseel1:


No. You lack the necessary cognitive ability to understand my post because my posts aren't meant for the feeble minded and dull individuals (Not trying to insult you)

Being financially responsible as a woman doesn't mean you should take care of the home(except it's your choice or whatever) -I think you should do some research on “collective financial responsibility”

You shouldn't tell me before I know that a man who wants collective responsibility will also be a homely man -by being homely

Cooking, taking care of the kids too, and doing other house chores.


You might not necessarily contribute much but be financially responsible .


I can't continue with this conversation because you won't understand my post.

Sophyrocks:


Your first sentence is the truth. I just can't imagine living my life RETRAINING A BOY masquerading as a man just because his father didn't do that job well. My goodness! What sort of life is that?

victorian:








My dear, that's a very good question.
I asked myself same question and the answer I got is this :
Men who are trained well, prefer ladies who do not look flashy . In their mind, they feel flashy or very pretty ladies are either promiscuous or badly trained. These men size up women from afar, based on the lady's look and that's where they miss it.
They feel a dull looking, plain or average is the ideal wife material. But most times, it doesn't work that way. That's another reason u see good men married to troublesome wives
When the dotted lines are signed, that plain meek Jane u feel is a perfect wife material becomes a thorn in their flesh. So u cant judge a book by its cover. Not all pretty ladies are evil, not all plain Jane are perfect.

While the untrained guys, spoilt, egoistical guys love to show off, so they go after pretty and flashy ladies pretending at first to be the ideal man but after a week or so, they can't keep up such fake good guy attitude anymore. They now show their real character, take it or leave it they don't care. There are so many fishes to catch anyways, so their mind tells them.

But I thank God am wiser now. This life ehn? One will be seeking for love and companionship but God will say that's not where I want your focus to be. At 22yrs , I was still a virgin and wanted to marry immediately settle down and have kids after my youth service but heartbreaks No let me rest.
To survive ,I had to focus all my energies and mind on buisness later on. At least at all at all naim bad pass.

I made my first million naira at the age of 26years old, since then I delved into my career and Making money came so easy for me. A time people thought I was into money rituals but I wasnt. Even at that the monies didn't freak me but that's what God wanted me to have first, as love almost killed me.

But who am I to complain? Life has taught me to accept there is a higher being ordering our steps and handling what comes our way. There are things we have no control over. That's what I know about life.

majekdom2:
can I ask, what is the sole reason of having a partner? Is it a means to sustain one’s financial needs or a means to make one better?

The thing is some women have this mentality a man is just there to meet their need just like you have put upthere, thus when they can meet their needs without the support of who they call partners, the wisdom and sense to keep a partner is gone. The reason they are single. They can’t love or see a man beyond his financial abilities at that time. The reason why we work as a team in organizations is to achieve higher grounds, meet goals faster. This is same for relationships. What can you say of a lady whose fiancee suggested they open a joint account, save together towards a goal and the response the guy got was “ you are looking for someone to sponsor you abi”. We need to have the right mindset, this is where is starts from.

Eze2000:

I disagree!
There is life and there is blessing which you know as luck

DeRay98:


That's assuming that you were even properly trained to be a worthy companion at all.
Empty vessels make the most noice.

v2:
It is clear and simple.
The probability of having a male child is 25% while it is 75% for a female child hence for every male child born there will be a corresponding possibility of 3 female born too.

The most hazardous occupation is dominated by men. Too many men die everyday from work related illness. For example, how many police women have you heard died in the line of duty? How many women in the military die in the line of duty? I guess no one can give a figure. The women will never be put in the line of fire. How many female sailors do you know? How many female palm wine tappers do you know? How many female do you know clean windows of high rise buildings, pain telecom masts, use Rope access technique to go overboard offshore platforms e.t.c? How many female do you know do deep see diving?
The rate at which men die from these high risk activities have also added to the case of birth rate earlier mentioned.
That is why when i see feminists making so much noise on social media i just feel they talk because they have diarrhea of the mouth. If you want equality then put your money where you mouth is. Pick up a gun and go to the front line. Do what the men do and you can get the equality you want. Nature already provides equity because it is what a woman needs not equality.

As for why you have so many unmarried women, we as a people have lost our family values. The roles of a man and a woman in the home are not taught. In as much as responsible men are few, finding a wife is like going looking for a coin under the sea. The young men and women have been consumed by the ills of our society and whether you like it or not, after a man and a women have lived a reckless life, the man will still easily pick a wife. The wife is the pride of of the husband so preserve yourself as a woman. Whether a man have sex with you or not, if he wants to marry you, he will.

For the females on this thread attributing the reason to guys not able to measure up so they prefer to remain single and have children, that's all bullsh*t. It is the option available and not the preferred. If every guy dating a girl decides to propose right now, how many will say know? except those screwing the one guy for money and dating another. So to me remaining single and having children is rarely what the woman wants.

ImaIma1:


She supports financially and still handles the chores, children, cooking and the whole household but the man still wants to be the demigod that she calls "lord" just because he was born with a peniss.

djon78:




I think you got the answer there. The average Nigerian man wants to marry a submissive, obedient wife. And you normally get that from not so flashy girls.


If you look at the thread you find out that most of these modern girls are brash, rude, disrespectful and no man will tolerate that

Also many guys have high eyes so they keep on going to women they feel are high class, but they can't maintain there high lifestyle.


So guys should remove all those high standards, they will see simple women who will give them peace. They can package their wife to their standards they want

ImaIma1:


So you know the tribe. The ones that act like they carried their sons for more than 9months. The ones airtel even threw a jab at in the advert. You must be from there .

No i am not igbo

Peacefullove:


Are you husband material yourself ?

victorian:








But before I got to this healthy relationship nko?

I saw hell on earth from my past relationships.

I swear, it's just God keeping me sane ,at peace and alive.. It's just God.. Every other person around me is secondary. As one will say, no man is an island.

resurgent2019:


That tribe will forever best your tribe in Nigeria. We are in this together.


You will never escape your slave status in Nigeria.

Sophyrocks:


Hahahahahahahaha. You ladies are Cracking me up here. Ain't that the truth. Wonderful comments from you all so far.

kunleweb:
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Where we both belong


What field are you into? I'm into food production, processed chicken and commercial ( large-scale ) farming

ImaIma1:


best indeed. "My mummy said" people.

I told one once "abeg go and meet your mummy
Me and your mummy cannot marry you. Go and marry her in peace"

Even my mother inlaw that carried one of her sons for 12months doesn't attach herself to him.

victorian:
Most men are not ready to be responsible, that's why.

And women these days prefer to be single have kids, than settle with just any guy for marriage sakes. Gone are those days, a woman will be suffering and smiling.

More women are not ready to be treated as slaves in a marriage they spend their hard earned money on. The guy more or else doesn't contribute anything other than sex, collects her money and he will still be as controlling as fucvk! Some slaps here and there, feeling he should be able to make her scared of him.
Why would a man instill fear in his wife instead of respect from his wife
So,
Most single ladies don't need such stress biko. Carry yourself like a queen and you'll be treated as one. No Man wants to end up with trash.

Personally, I can never marry a controlling, abusive, lazy man. I rather remain single and have kids instead.

victorian:
Most men are not ready to be responsible, that's why.

And women these days prefer to be single have kids, than settle with just any guy for marriage sakes. Gone are those days, a woman will be suffering and smiling.

More women are not ready to be treated as slaves in a marriage they spend their hard earned money on. The guy more or else doesn't contribute anything other than sex, collects her money and he will still be as controlling as fucvk! Some slaps here and there, feeling he should be able to make her scared of him.
Why would a man instill fear in his wife instead of respect from his wife
So,
Most single ladies don't need such stress biko.

Personally, I can never marry a controlling, abusive, lazy man. I rather remain single and have kids instead.

Paulagada:
Because most mature and responsible men are jobless.

resurgent2019:
I never knew Nigerian women were this bitter and frustrated. See what Nigerian poverty and skewed value system has caused?


Everything has fallen apart, how did we get here?

I now believe the religious folks who say this World is coming to an end. The situation in Nigeria makes that belief so vivid and surreal.

MissWrite:


Don't be so quick to jump on a comment just because you perceive ill intent. Take another minute to confirm what you think you understood.

Women who can afford to take care of themselves, can afford to have standards with men. A growing number of women fall into this category these days. They would rather stay single than be with someone who gives them no value. There was a time when women were so financially dependent on men that all of a man's vices would fade into the background when compared with his ability to provide a living. I can't say that this doesn't happen anymore, but it is definitely becoming less frequent. Now that women have more freedom to evaluate what they want from a relationship, it has become clear that while men in general are still common as water, men of quality are few and far between.




The words in green: There used to be a time when the most important benefit to a woman from relationships (marriages in particular) was financial security. In those days, women did not have the luxury to pursue anything else (like love) and they even had to overlook certain vices (like infidelity, for instance)

The words in blue: Now that an increasing number of women can provide for themselves, they are no longer confined to needing financial security, and they can decide what qualities in a man would give their life value.

The words in purple: the freedom to evaluate what they want from a relationship. Does this not mean that they aren't limited to wanting money? After this evaluation, some women will decide they want good companionship, or someone responsible to raise kids with, or whatever else there is to want from the plethora of things men have to offer. But all these requirements shrink the pool of eligible men. Because not all men can give a certain woman good companionship. And not very many would be considered responsible father-types by a specific woman. For the women in focus, if they cannot find what they are looking for, they would stay single. It is not a matter of life or death if you are looking to meet desires. If it comes, hurray; if it does not, life goes on.

Quality is the degree to which something meets requirement. So, when I say that men of quality are few and far between (as a result of women affording standards), it is precisely because these women aren't looking at finances (exclusively) anymore, and they are begging men to have more to offer than their check-books. But if they don't, why should she bother? to prove to you that she can value a man? That should not be a woman's burden.