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|Re: If Your Boyfriend Moves To USA Without Green Card, Just Move On by Angela777(f): 5:51am On Dec 28, 2018|
2buffagain:Yes I am.
|Re: If Your Boyfriend Moves To USA Without Green Card, Just Move On by Lordtimothy66(m): 6:45am On Dec 28, 2018|
Angela777:i don't subscribe to this fraud marriage of a thing, but this white old women what are they thinking? how can a white old woman in her 50s 60s be marrying African man who's in his 20s and 30s thinking it's real love .
how many time have you seen a white man marry an African woman who's old enough to be his mother?
|Re: If Your Boyfriend Moves To USA Without Green Card, Just Move On by 2buffagain(m): 7:16am On Dec 28, 2018|
This is akin to old wrinkly-balled 60 year old men marrying 20-something year olds.
It is obvious to everyone and the oldie that its about the money...and it's not a bad thing either. At that age, the man should know he is old and cannot in any sane way hold the romantic attention of a hot-blooded young woman all by himself unless he is making up for this with A LOT of other benefits....benefits that mean little to him at that point in his life but that mean a lot to the other person...hence an exchange of value is made.
This old man becomes a down-right FOOL if after the time of companionship with the young blood comes to an end and he starts crying "I thought she loved me not my money". We would call this old man a fool and a pervert who deserved it for pathetically getting all feely about what was basically a utilitarian fling.
Why would we bestow old women a different treatment?
As an old lady, you'd have to be a fool to think you can hold on to a young buck. Enjoy your time with him, help the youngin achieve their dreams while you're at it, and let him on his way when its time for him to move on.
She would have to be a SELFISH FOOL to think it was anything more. Like....HOW did you expect your wrinkly old azz to keep a young stud tho? You got greedy is what. And one would have to deduce that you deserve it as much as the pervert old man. You are no different.
If what y’all really needed was true love, y’all should have found someone your age. You just wanted to stunt on those other old cronies in the nursing home with your shiny young toy didn’t you? Show them that “You still got it”. Sure, it’s allowed. But don’t think it’s not a transactional thing. Don’t be absurd.
This is hard facts. Swallow it still.
|Re: If Your Boyfriend Moves To USA Without Green Card, Just Move On by bassette(m): 8:17am On Dec 28, 2018|
2buffagain:And also true is that a lot of these go into these marriages knowing this. So it isn't about being cheated on really, the situation differs to many. Know one someone who got to the US and hook up with this white Lady with two lovely kids that was separated and they did fine but he left her and joined the US army and shockingly she wasn't mad at him but wud even still make comments on his posts on FB responding to follow up comments by frnds n family that she knew. Now dude has remarried a black Nigerian lady and even procreated.. Said white Lady was even in the late 30s early 40s bracket. Another fact is its earsier to hook with someone once u there. The major ish is actually getting there first .
|Re: If Your Boyfriend Moves To USA Without Green Card, Just Move On by 2buffagain(m): 9:21am On Dec 28, 2018|
What difference does your grad school make?
You still have to use OPT, and try for green.
Trump halted that express greens and h1bs last I remember.
|Re: If Your Boyfriend Moves To USA Without Green Card, Just Move On by ghettochild4u(m): 12:00pm On Dec 28, 2018|
abbey621:I didn't read d post from d first page...
If u marry an american here...
Don't even bother applying for Visa... 101% they won't give u if u tell the V.O u r married
U will be told to tell ur wife that when she gets to d USA.. She should file for u.... A spousal visa either the i130 or i129 form.
|Re: If Your Boyfriend Moves To USA Without Green Card, Just Move On by ghettochild4u(m): 12:00pm On Dec 28, 2018|
bassette:Very very easy
|Re: If Your Boyfriend Moves To USA Without Green Card, Just Move On by Angela777(f): 3:26pm On Dec 28, 2018|
2buffagain:Lol! Are you writing about me? Go and talk like that to your own mother. You don't know me. I am all well set lady with 2 Masters degrees and great career as well in no need to chase men, they still chase me. But yes, I am curious how so many young Nigerian men try to chase me online and what does it mean to them.
All my understanding from many male answers I read here, Nigerian young men hate white women yet chase them for to cheat and scam and are willing to bang the old azz for little money or some for more money selling their youth and hating themselves and women for that. It's pathetic and sad as many are intelligent, smart and handsome yet lazy to get the real job, good studies and the real love and marriage. And when they go for easy way cheating and selling themselves, it's backfiring to them as nothing good is at the end.
Fortunately not all are this way, I met the good ones and we are very good friends. There is a way where the older woman can help the young intelligent man to succeed and it is not the way through sex and bragging as you said. You judge white women as all of them without knowing them. It's like would me saying all Nigerian women are ashawo and all Nigerian men are scammers, but they are NOT. No country in the world is totally bad, we all have different kind of people. And only ignorant people can talk like that about old white women, think about your mother, grand mother when you talk like that.
And yes, I learn, learn a lot about sweet love lies many Nigerians tell to any woman, young or old, pretty or ugly and I believe the American women any skin color should stay away from any Nigerian as 99% are lies and no need to try to find a good Nigerian man, much more easy to see through American men who are maybe lying but we can tell when they do.
And if you are mature and intelligent enough, you should understand that for a real woman age, sex, D is not all, real love, care and respect is what it makes the real dating and marriage. Yet, as I see, many young Nigerians think just because they met few white women who happened to be crazy or trash or some good ones who really fall in love with him, you guys assume we all are an easy target and you can impress a white woman with your D only and youth. Sorry to inform you but there is the saying, bigger and better Ds are everywhere, the real person love and respect is what it is hard to find and it goes both ways, for men and women.
|Re: If Your Boyfriend Moves To USA Without Green Card, Just Move On by AutoElectNG: 4:17pm On Dec 28, 2018|
|Re: If Your Boyfriend Moves To USA Without Green Card, Just Move On by 2buffagain(m): 8:56pm On Dec 28, 2018|
Then you have chosen to misunderstand what I wrote.
Young Gold diggers approach old wrinkly balled 60 year old men too so you are not saying anything New.
I am saying that the same way YOU look at a man of that age dating females young enough to be his Grand daughter is the same way old women are seen.
In your society, you people are fond of making men out to look like dogs but women to look like saints, when all are perverts still.
There is nothing wrong with enjoying some young blood, just as long as it is done with UNDERSTANDING. It is not love, it is simply an equation that must be balanced. It does not add up without an exchange of value. This young person is simply providing you with youthful company, in exchange for something else you have. Be okay with this, so you don't have to start getting sour when that relationship comes to an end.
If what you want is love, you should be finding that with people your age range... Especially when you are a woman.
I could care less if you are white black or orange.
I am teaching you about reality and the necessity for balanced equations of value in human relationships.
Youth is priceless. Everything else has a price. If they are spending youth on you, and you not on them (10+ years diff), you need to be balancing that equation with something else. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. I will say this to any adult of advanced age.
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|Re: If Your Boyfriend Moves To USA Without Green Card, Just Move On by Angela777(f): 12:45am On Dec 29, 2018|
It's good to marry a man around your age when you build a family and kids, careers, etc. The old lady over 50-60s and suddenly a widow or divorced, ... why should she to pick up and marry a man around her age or older if the woman is healthy, well set Do you know how much care represent for a woman to be married to take care of a man her age or more? Many of us do know it, sick husband, disabled, wheelchair which is heavy and needs to be put in the car and out, hospitals, bathing and poop of a big man? Many men in America are the real burden, alcoholics and bipolar when they age, they become very crazy and even aggressive, it's a hard job, we do care of them when we know them from better years but once he is gone, ... why should we to look for another one to clean his poop? We already know how bad it could be and we have the right to live life after raising kids and going through all of this.
Many American men in their 30s or 40s are asking to date a woman who is in her 50s-60s. The woman has the right to choose when she has suitors and it's not necessary to choose the older man, we choose what we like the best or just fall in love and marry or just dating.
What I am trying to say is not good to choose or fall in love with a foreigner, even an old foreigner. Foreign men don't adapt easy, can't get a good job for the first 1-3 years, don't have any income, they are the same babies who need to be fed and learn all around, yet African men are very bossy and don't like to be taught by a woman.
I only see the older woman who marries and older American man or any age young or not so foreigner, ... it's only if she really loves him and is willing to go through hard times together. Of course there are also drug addict women or trash people who wants to be paid for a fake marriage.
|Re: If Your Boyfriend Moves To USA Without Green Card, Just Move On by 2buffagain(m): 1:06am On Dec 29, 2018|
When you get off your entitled horse for a bit (typical western woman mindset), slow down and ask the question....WHY, among all the other young, well-to-do, sensible women in his age range....is he going for me an old lady?...you might then begin to understand what I am telling you.
There is nothing wrong with being hit up by these young bloods. There is nothing wrong in enjoying the moment with these young bloods.
...but understand that the equation always wins, so don't get a hernia when it does. The same way you don't want to deal with men your age (soo entitled) is the same way nobody will want to deal with you too. You are not special or an exclusion to the equation. So get it through your entitled head madam.
Women have been dating older men since time began for certain benefits. Now when you become old you want to switch it because men your age and up are of no further use to you? Well all power to you. But understand that these young bloods will also discard you when you are no longer of use to them....and you should be perfectly okay with this if you are truly mature as you say.
You can't eat your cake and have it. If I were a 60 year old man dating a 20 something year old, and I ran out of money...or I decided to help a young foreign girl get her life started in the US by marriage, I would have to be the biggest FOOL in the world to EXPECT her to stick around. I just can't bring myself to be that entitled in the head. I would be positively surprised if she did stay, but I wouldn't plan on it...and that wouldn't make me hate her...because I understand the equation.
It applies to men, and it applies to you too. (Men are simply better at understanding or accepting reality... as it seems).
It's a simple, eternal equation (even amongst age-range relationships)...no western feminist-opportunist thinking will change this.
|Re: If Your Boyfriend Moves To USA Without Green Card, Just Move On by Angela777(f): 1:18am On Dec 29, 2018|
2buffagain:All set then, as a western woman I see the tendency of couples and marriage young man with much older woman and many stay for life together. What was the male privilege to marry much younger women, now is happening women can marry much younger men, younger men in America who don't need anything from an older woman apart of being with her as a man, he has his own income and is well set yet he prefers to have an older woman and they understand each other as friends, lovers and on intellectual level. Why these well made young men marry much older women? Ask them. About Nigerians me, I don't believe a word about love what they are saying, they do act like you say and they don't value the real love and marriage as your society is about other people opinion and critics, still tribes and a medieval traditional weddings. Also because as I said Nigerian men are looking how to use a woman and being supported by her when American men support and pamper their women.
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|Re: If Your Boyfriend Moves To USA Without Green Card, Just Move On by 2buffagain(m): 1:28am On Dec 29, 2018|
Don't get me wrong.
I don't support it, I just understand it.
I also hate how a lot of Nigerians think, but this is as a result of the harsh realities of living in Nigeria...as well as our societal inability to think past retrogressive cultural practices.
In all honesty, I will be real with you, if a younger Nigerian man who needs papers marries a much older white lady, I am 210.69% sure it is for the papers.
Consider what you did a humanitarian effort.
Had it been you saw it as that, instead of a love thing, you would have less feels about it now....and they would probably not feel like they have to scam you to do the inevitable, because you'd be real with them up front that you understand the equation but you are just sowing a seed in their life...and enjoying the ride at the moment.
If you can't operate on that level of reality then yeah, leave young foreign studs alone.
|Re: If Your Boyfriend Moves To USA Without Green Card, Just Move On by smartleo(m): 1:32am On Dec 29, 2018|
2buffagain:God bless you for this post .
I know of a family in Ibadan whose husband had travelled for close to 24years before the wife could join him with family .24years is a long time
|Re: If Your Boyfriend Moves To USA Without Green Card, Just Move On by Angela777(f): 5:20am On Dec 29, 2018|
2buffagain:They should leave alone the older white ladies, they are too persistent and too pushy. And yes, I agree, they try to get visa, better life and frequently they deceive themselves thinking they are too smart to play around and only few get the papers this way.
And ... yak, enjoying the ride at the moment. Who wants that? Only crazy European sex tourists going to visit those studs. In America we have plenty of studs all colors and all kind of handsome, if the woman wants to enjoy a moment, is not necessary to do a humanitarian favor and travel so far. You see sometimes in the news very old white ladies marrying young Nigerian boys and you assume we all wish that? Nigerian boys who do all kind of juju and yahoo plus on an old and maybe senile woman, not well thinking lady. All wrong.
As for a healthy normal woman, we get much better men locally.
|Re: If Your Boyfriend Moves To USA Without Green Card, Just Move On by SilentListener: 9:05am On Dec 29, 2018|
Angela777:lol take it easy,you are just too emotional
|Re: If Your Boyfriend Moves To USA Without Green Card, Just Move On by khiaa(f): 1:52am On Jan 01|
Happy New Year.
|Re: If Your Boyfriend Moves To USA Without Green Card, Just Move On by Nig4Greatness: 5:26am On Jan 03|
Sweetest,how are you..being a while.hope you are good.
Have a blissful year ahead.
|Re: If Your Boyfriend Moves To USA Without Green Card, Just Move On by khiaa(f): 5:52am On Jan 03|
Thank you, I have been fine, and you?
|Re: If Your Boyfriend Moves To USA Without Green Card, Just Move On by ProfOjah1234: 7:25pm On Jan 10|
Jchi9876:Baba, where have you been?. I don miss you aswear Jchi for president!!
|Re: If Your Boyfriend Moves To USA Without Green Card, Just Move On by myk2mic: 7:37pm On Jan 12|
Are you a white lady , just curious.
I am not in support of a guy lying to a citizen just to get green card. I am of the opinion that he shld tell her straight from the start what he wants ND if she would like to help him. But lying ND dumping her afterwards is a no no for me.
Currently is someone I know thru a friend who has been kicked out of his "matrimonial " home by his American wife becos she found out that he was married with kids who are back in Nigeria. She is threatening to deal with him for toying with her ND lying wen he cld have told her from the start wat he really wanted.
|Re: If Your Boyfriend Moves To USA Without Green Card, Just Move On by Angela777(f): 8:13pm On Jan 12|
myk2mic:Yes, I am a white, old, American lady. And nobody likes to be used and played, emotionally, legally and financially.
I guess I need to change my signature saying I am white.
|Re: If Your Boyfriend Moves To USA Without Green Card, Just Move On by myk2mic: 2:48pm On Jan 15|
No need to change it, it means u r proud of who u are
|Re: If Your Boyfriend Moves To USA Without Green Card, Just Move On by gloria34(f): 3:18pm On Jan 15|
JoseVanMoyes:Just imagine Ur thoughts, so d woman is d one who will be jumping on dicks but d man wont be going in and out of different pussies? mtcheeew
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