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Re: My Recent Breakup Experience - I Couldnt Tolerate Disrespect by ImaIma1(f): 7:06pm On Nov 11, 2018 |
openmine: I think the problem here is that you don't like the fact that I have a contrary opinion to yours. Even the op understood my point but you have just been going on and on about nothing. Is the girl wrong? Yes and I told the op she probably has an attitude problem. Could the op have a fault in the whole issue? Yes and I pointed that out. I do not have issues with men. I usually speak from an objective stance but somehow you are not an easy person to talk with. So take care and enjoy the rest of your Sunday. |
Re: My Recent Breakup Experience - I Couldnt Tolerate Disrespect by gabbylight: 7:23pm On Nov 11, 2018 |
lefulefu: guy u no go kill me with laugh jare. wetin be buhari own dia again... lolz 1 Like
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Re: My Recent Breakup Experience - I Couldnt Tolerate Disrespect by openmine(m): 7:35pm On Nov 11, 2018 |
ImaIma1:The issue is you think or alleged am in support of the guy due to his side of his story which is rather unfounded and irrational! You also assumed that i took the side of men and went on a bashing spree which is partly due to the fact that you just could not comprehend my comments clearly! You said you are objective but clearly its the opposite! Unless the word objective has a new meaning,i think you are just trying to be sentimental towards the lady... Its just too obvious that you are now saying what am saying.... Like i have said,from the trail of your comments and responses,its obvious that you just have issues with men or maybe you have a problem comprehending! |
Re: My Recent Breakup Experience - I Couldnt Tolerate Disrespect by Daniwes: 7:36pm On Nov 11, 2018 |
ImaIma1:I have to come in here. Downplayed what I really dont want to go TMI, but trust me, I am a gentleman in many ways. Imagine someone out of a moving car, stopped at a traffic light, just because I wouldnt turn down the volume of the music, when she is making spiteful remarks about me. I still had to act matured to stop and convice her to go back into the car. No way... absolutely no way... I personally felt it was all due to her immaturity and nothing else which is why despite my attempts to explain how what she did was disrespectful, she still continued saying crap. I wanted to have a normal proper conversation with her, but she will still continue with the attitude. People say I am soft, but I know that once I make up my mind, I could be a heartless devil. Too much I cant say in here. I remember another incident when we had a fight and words were exchanged, she went calling one of my friends who private chats her right in my presence, despite warning and advising her that we both cannot share the same close friends... It doesnt make sense. I had to warn the guy to stay in his lane. I still blamed her cos at the end, you give the rappour you get. In summary, Its all immaturity which I am not ready to deal with at all. Gladly, some time has passed, and its all waned off. She sure will be making a mistake to try to come back, cos then it will be pure revenge. |
Re: My Recent Breakup Experience - I Couldnt Tolerate Disrespect by Daniwes: 7:37pm On Nov 11, 2018 |
juniorstar:I actually saw the signs and knew a day like this will come. Well it has come. what can I say?? |
Re: My Recent Breakup Experience - I Couldnt Tolerate Disrespect by Nobody: 8:01pm On Nov 11, 2018 |
rosalieene:Your a fool. |
Re: My Recent Breakup Experience - I Couldnt Tolerate Disrespect by Nobody: 8:06pm On Nov 11, 2018 |
Seandisputed:there was this guy i know for school then wey collect im dad bike come school when im dad buy new ride.na so the guy go take the bike carry one babe wey im dey eye all 0ver town.if d babe wan go class oo,go church and market na so d guy go zoom the bike reach d girl place wen d girl call am for fone.e go burn im fuel carry d babe dey go where she wan.upon wetin im do for her she no still gree for d guy.d guy toast ooo and still say she look am like a brother.funny tin be say if u ask d guy to carry u he will tell u dat fuel no dey im bike.op is just like dis guy wey i yarn about only say na car op get . |
Re: My Recent Breakup Experience - I Couldnt Tolerate Disrespect by tiredoflife(m): 8:10pm On Nov 11, 2018 |
Handicap people always have issues Having to run around someone on crutches is more than a factory job |
Re: My Recent Breakup Experience - I Couldnt Tolerate Disrespect by homirefacuny(m): 8:11pm On Nov 11, 2018 |
rosalieene: Sorry for her. But let me point at something very vital with your writeup. Being friendly with other guy is not entirely bad but according to the OP.. She was talking the guy matter with a supposedly male friend right in his presence. Who does that? Like seriously, I will kick her out of my car that very moment. That's stupid.... Reason most of una no dey get husband at the right time. No respect whatsoever.. I smh. |
Re: My Recent Breakup Experience - I Couldnt Tolerate Disrespect by itsmeurLady(f): 8:12pm On Nov 11, 2018 |
Daniwes: I read all the comments here and not one single person advised you that relationship is not an easy sail.... This only shows that we have hypocrites on NL or most people don't know what love is. From what u posted up der, u simply allowed those things... The moment she told you or u knew abt her male bestie, you shld have communicated with her as a friend and her man that you can't stand it and it's disrespectful and at such u will not entertain it. Rome was not built in a day! The next girl will give you attitude, and the next, and the next.... So u will continue leaving? Do you know how mentally challenging that is? That is why you should not rush into relationships, it is not for babies. Build friendship and your friendship will blossom into relationship. From your post, it's not much of a big issue but Wat I see on your own part, is that you have been observing and keeping things to yourself which is not good. Communicate with your next partner, it will save you from all this drama and lastly, relationships require lots of work and tolerance. Everyone giving advice here did not tell u how they beg their ladies or how their ladies beg them, nobody is perfect yet, so if you feel this is something you both can work out fine, go ahead and work it out. This is not an issue, it's a phase and it will pass. Pls don't blame her blame yourself for rushing into a relationship with someone that has attitude problems! Didn't u see the signs before you asked her out? Or u didn't even observe her, u just asked her out? Pls look before you leap next time! 1 Like |
Re: My Recent Breakup Experience - I Couldnt Tolerate Disrespect by Nobody: 8:29pm On Nov 11, 2018 |
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Re: My Recent Breakup Experience - I Couldnt Tolerate Disrespect by ImaIma1(f): 8:30pm On Nov 11, 2018 |
openmine: In which of my comments? Being sentimental towards the lady |
Re: My Recent Breakup Experience - I Couldnt Tolerate Disrespect by rosalieene(f): 8:37pm On Nov 11, 2018 |
Omoluabi9:and you're the bigger fool 1 Like |
Re: My Recent Breakup Experience - I Couldnt Tolerate Disrespect by openmine(m): 8:41pm On Nov 11, 2018 |
ImaIma1: I am not missing the point. It is a relationship between two people who know exactly how they have been running it. We talk about this respect as if it is only given by the lady. Does he also show respect to her? Obviously you speak from the standpoint of a guy. You think guys don't flirt with other girls instead of solving their issues. It is just that when a lady does it, it is termed "disrespect". We all agree that cheating is not only resident in a lady...however in this case,instead of condemning the lady for what she did,you are shielding the lady... In other words,you are trying to make excuses for her misbehavior and ill mannered nature! My analogy is simple... whats wrong is wrong and must be totally condemned no matter the gender involved! |
Re: My Recent Breakup Experience - I Couldnt Tolerate Disrespect by ImaIma1(f): 8:47pm On Nov 11, 2018 |
openmine: ImaIma1: Is the above comment sentimental or being supportive of the lady? |
Re: My Recent Breakup Experience - I Couldnt Tolerate Disrespect by ImaIma1(f): 8:48pm On Nov 11, 2018 |
ImaIma1: Is this being sentimental or supportive of the lady? |
Re: My Recent Breakup Experience - I Couldnt Tolerate Disrespect by Sparkles003(f): 8:49pm On Nov 11, 2018 |
NwaAmaikpe:Amen |
Re: My Recent Breakup Experience - I Couldnt Tolerate Disrespect by tosyne2much(m): 8:50pm On Nov 11, 2018 |
homirefacuny:That's very true.. It's a serious sign of danger |
Re: My Recent Breakup Experience - I Couldnt Tolerate Disrespect by ImaIma1(f): 8:54pm On Nov 11, 2018 |
openmine: Your bolded statement doesn't even indicate that I am being sentimental towards the girl. You just read your own meaning into it and that has informed your rant |
Re: My Recent Breakup Experience - I Couldnt Tolerate Disrespect by openmine(m): 8:57pm On Nov 11, 2018 |
ImaIma1:Just seeing this comment... Your first comment on this thread was clearly biased and in support of the lady... however the comment above was made just after OP responded to your quote and explained about her attitude... Remember i only responded to your first comment and not the one you put up which was directed to the OP! |
Re: My Recent Breakup Experience - I Couldnt Tolerate Disrespect by icogb: 8:58pm On Nov 11, 2018 |
ImaIma1:Exactly. One can easily tell he jst broke up to prove a point. Op, jst as highqueen said, you both lack manners. I wld advc you to hld bck a bit. Dnt listen to all des 21 yr old male nairalanders as most rltshp if not all hv their peculiarities. Hw did you guys start? Can you say she was really serious wif all dat? Jst like I said, calm dan. Dnt alw d urge to shw your support for d male cause make you loss sth you knw your hrt wld likely ache for for d rest of your life. 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: My Recent Breakup Experience - I Couldnt Tolerate Disrespect by Nobody: 9:00pm On Nov 11, 2018 |
rosalieene:swear say u wont get mad if ur boyfriend start recieving flirty calls from different girls on the phone 1 Like
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Re: My Recent Breakup Experience - I Couldnt Tolerate Disrespect by openmine(m): 9:02pm On Nov 11, 2018 |
ImaIma1:Clearly its obvious you don't even peruse or even comprehend your own comments before clicking the submit button! I guess you know the meaning of being sentimental? right? |
Re: My Recent Breakup Experience - I Couldnt Tolerate Disrespect by openmine(m): 9:14pm On Nov 11, 2018 |
Sylver247:Exactly.... i refuse to believe all ladies act this way! i think those who act that way have issues with themselves hence they exhibit such attitude to cover up their annoying flaws! |
Re: My Recent Breakup Experience - I Couldnt Tolerate Disrespect by ImaIma1(f): 9:16pm On Nov 11, 2018 |
openmine: It is either your comprehension level is really low or you just are unable to see far from your own thoughts and words. I will keep reading your comments and respond if I have to. You can go on. |
Re: My Recent Breakup Experience - I Couldnt Tolerate Disrespect by openmine(m): 9:29pm On Nov 11, 2018 |
ImaIma1:Cool I knew this will be your last ditch effort to sound sensible! ...once pushed to a corner,your sorry likes resort to petty insults thereby making a mockery of yourself! See who is saying one's comprehension is low Your trash above is tantamount to a 1960 beatdown volkswagen calling a prado Jeep ugly! |
Re: My Recent Breakup Experience - I Couldnt Tolerate Disrespect by nalizzzy: 9:30pm On Nov 11, 2018 |
NwaAmaikpe:correct 1 Like |
Re: My Recent Breakup Experience - I Couldnt Tolerate Disrespect by Nobody: 9:34pm On Nov 11, 2018 |
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Re: My Recent Breakup Experience - I Couldnt Tolerate Disrespect by Snow87(m): 9:38pm On Nov 11, 2018 |
ottohan:spot on sir, ur observation is correct, I dey ur back like hunchback sir. |
Re: My Recent Breakup Experience - I Couldnt Tolerate Disrespect by Nobody: 9:40pm On Nov 11, 2018 |
rosalieene:NO! Based on your first comment, YOU ARE THE FOOL! |
Re: My Recent Breakup Experience - I Couldnt Tolerate Disrespect by ImaIma1(f): 9:42pm On Nov 11, 2018 |
Daniwes: Wow! She really seems to have some deep issues and seems like a toxic person and one prone to abuse and violence. It is not only women who suffer abuse in relationships/marriage. So please be careful when it comes to matters of the heart. I don't like to advise people to leave or stay with their partners except it is life threatening situation. But I am sure you know what to do. |
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