Khabuto:
op, NEPA has not given us light in our area. One time my neighbour's gen. was on, i misread it to be light

resurgent4oodua:


I ain't gay. Gay ke? I am just tired of pussy. I want security and a family of my own.

masterchi:
Ok, here's for the girls of Nairaland. Guys pick up on little hints and even somewhat obvious hints. The problem is that guys can also be wrong.

If we take something the wrong way we take the risk of being shot down or completely embarrassed.

If you're friends with a guy and he's always nice and helpful but then takes a signal wrong (think you're interested) and makes an advance he could end up in a situation where you're saying "he just wanted to bang me, that's the only reason he was nice". Nobody wants to lose a friend like that.

If you want to be sure guys notice your signals, just be point blank. Guys get the short end of the stick, our actions towards women are judged more harshly than the reverse. We don't always like to take risks because we stand to lose the most.

Romancelanders What do you think?

Guys,Have you ever misread a 'green light' or 'hint' before?

Girls, Has someone ever misread your body language before?
Share you experience

walexy06:
Just last month, I thought she was all out for me, even as she whispered you are my bf here (my head ring say dos days self girls no dey bring ds kind leg bfo i cut am), not to sound too ungrateful with her gesture, I talked about it codedly to know her real intention. Lo and behold she said (Nooooo, u r just too nice nd i dont intend anything more). sharply i replied "good" just to make sure we re on the same page". then i closed the chapter for dat ever green light...Lets make money mbok....Want to act like Eddie Murphy in "Boomerang" (in Eddie's voice I hit it once, I lose interest)

masterchi:
Ok, here's for the girls of Nairaland. Guys pick up on little hints and even somewhat obvious hints. The problem is that guys can also be wrong.

If we take something the wrong way we take the risk of being shot down or completely embarrassed.

If you're friends with a guy and he's always nice and helpful but then takes a signal wrong (think you're interested) and makes an advance he could end up in a situation where you're saying "he just wanted to bang me, that's the only reason he was nice". Nobody wants to lose a friend like that.

If you want to be sure guys notice your signals, just be point blank. Guys get the short end of the stick, our actions towards women are judged more harshly than the reverse. We don't always like to take risks because we stand to lose the most.

Romancelanders What do you think?

Guys,Have you ever misread a 'green light' or 'hint' before?

Girls, Has someone ever misread your body language before?
Share you experience

pcguru1:


Actually for alot of us, we pick the signal, we just don't want into the wahala of rejecting the girl esp if we are not interested and explanation of rejection, so we pretend to ignore it.

kollinzgee:


oga you mean the reverse abeg she reject you stop feeling special oga.

Coldfeets:


Who cares what he said or didn't say?

The fact is that I so much hate it when people go on and on and on about this making money of a thing as if making money is all there is to this life.

Worse still, when you look at them closely, you can't even see any atom of the so called money they have supposedly been making since.

Coldfeets:


Who cares what he said or didn't say?

The fact is that I so much hate it when people go on and on and on about this making money of a thing as if making money is all there is to this life.

Worse still, when you look at them closely, you can't even see any atom of the so called money they have supposedly been making since.

victvames:
Screw that green light!

So i was friends with this girl in school, we go to night class together to study. She alwas wants me to sit close to her,,, she alwas rests her head on my shoulders or laps. She alwas asks me to invite her to my room. Even during break from school, she visits me at my home well-dressed. This happened for two semesters so i decided to give it a shot having realized the "green light" and she was very single.

I asked her out one night with all confidence, thinking i already i have her. Guess what i heard??

"I really like you as a friend, but it can't happen"

kollinzgee:

why did you ask her out !! you shot yourself on the leg develop you emotional strength .you should have kissed the girl before doing that.

erimakosamuel:


You don mean it

Y ask her out

Na constant bleeping you blow away like day.

Chai.....if na me....the next semester,we would start couple life.

I did it,and it was worth it.

I follow light....Bleep n pass

Don't forget..... OKAFORS LAW..... once debe ****** ****

Spidermon:

I think she wanted your D.

Alepa:
This exact thing happened to me in OAU some years ago.

resurgent4oodua:
I was in a bar tonight and a girl was staring at me and eventually confessed to liking me ( which was strange) but I didn't even make an attempt to take her number. My friend (who's married) took her number and will eventually bang her. But I am not worried because I have had enough pvssy to last me a lifetime and I am desensitized to women. All I want is to face the law and make money so I can marry a good girl to make me healthy babies.

I am wrong in my approach and worldview?

I feel Nigerian girls just want to marry a financially secure man.

MiaB:




The lie
Wives typically use indirect forms of communication. They give hints, they speak abstractly, and then they expect their husbands to know what they mean. Without ever intending to lie, they don’t express the full truth. At times, they communicate so indirectly that their husbands can’t come close to perceiving the real message.
When faced with indirect communication, husbands often feel like a one-legged man in a football kicking contest. They just don’t have what it takes. They much prefer dealing with facts, logic, and problem solving.
They notice that something is wrong. That realization may come from receiving the silent treatment, getting some indirect messages, or just picking up the mood of their wife. They’d like to resolve the problem, so they ask about it, and get messages so indirect that they can’t interpret their meaning.
When people get what they see as an incomplete message, they try to fill in the blanks. Husbands, with their strong problem-resolution skills, will often explore various possible meanings. But if the indirect message doesn’t have enough clues to give them an accurate picture, they can’t succeed.
Living the truth
Neither indirect nor direct communication is intrinsically right or wrong. Rather, each serves a particular purpose. Foundationally, though, wives make a mistake when they choose indirect messages that give a misleading impression, or that fail to accurately convey the intended meaning. Let’s explore several factors that can help you live in the truth and communicate more directly.
Create a safe zone . Husband, creating a communication “safe zone” is your job. Yes, you get frustrated and upset at indirect conversation. But some of your irritation results from your own response when your wife tries to communicate with you.
You can create a safe zone in several ways:
Choose honesty over defending yourself.
Don’t respond with an attack on your wife.
Don’t even think about verbal or physical abuse.
Draw out your wife with active listening.
Let your wife know that you truly want to hear what she has to say, and when she sees that you’ve established a safe zone, you should see an increase in the clarity of your communication with one another.

nuggarito:
Yes bro, not once but multiple times. And I came to a conclusion that there's a demon in girls that makes them act the way they do. And that's why I avoid any form of light, be it green light, white light, indigo light biko keep your lights while I make money. Money changes the light.

BinDean:


& how is that even possible if you don't have any respect for women? from your point of view; women are worthless & deserve nothing & only good at making babies nothing more

How do you get to have an 'opposite sex'as a life partner that will give you a beautiful family of your own if you have such sickening perceptions about the 'opposite sex' in general?

I sincerely feel sorry for you though...

Prettyenit18:
There is nothing wrong with marrying a financially stable guy.

monex:


@bolded it is his values. He values money over many other things. Dont get frustrated by someone else's seeming vanity. Let him be and stick to your own values.

walexy06:
Just last month, I thought she was all out for me, even as she whispered you are my bf here (my head ring say dos days self girls no dey bring ds kind leg bfo i cut am), not to sound too ungrateful with her gesture, I talked about it codedly to know her real intention. Lo and behold she said (Nooooo, u r just too nice nd i dont intend anything more). sharply i replied "good" just to make sure we re on the same page". then i closed the chapter for dat ever green light...Lets make money mbok....Want to act like Eddie Murphy in "Boomerang" (in Eddie's voice I hit it once, I lose interest)

BinDean:


& how is that even possible if you don't have any respect for women? from your point of view; women are worthless & deserve nothing & only good at making babies nothing more

How do you get to have an 'opposite sex'as a life partner that will give you a beautiful family of your own if you have such sickening perceptions about the 'opposite sex' in general?
Don't ask me what I'm doing on this thread

I sincerely feel sorry for you though...
Don't ask what I'm doing on this thread, just stumbled upon it n I must say it's a relief to find that there are still a few men out there who don't talk women down in a world where most of the "men" see women as commodities or even less than, may be trash. I actually had the same impression of him when I read his comment, just had to SMH.

Coldfeets:


Who cares what he said or didn't say?

The fact is that I so much hate it when people go on and on and on about this making money of a thing as if making money is all there is to this life.

Worse still, when you look at them closely, you can't even see any atom of the so called money they have supposedly been making since.

kollinzgee:

why did you ask her out !! you shot yourself on the leg develop you emotional strength .you should have kissed the girl before doing that.

resurgent4oodua:



Why brother? Why?