rosalieene:

Most times, parents are to blame. There is no young girl that purposely want to lock herself up unless the extreme introverts.
Back then, I had always been an indoor person and still is one because of home training.
I could be indoors for weeks except when I am going to church, market etc.
But now, I try to go out.
Now am home to spend time with family before going back...
Just last night, I had a big argument with my mum, she said I am lost! She doesn't know me anymore..... Says I go out and come back anytime and she can't trust me.
Hian! Like seriously? I cannot go out in peace again ni. When has going out to hangout spots and seeing friends become a crime? They just want me to be indoors from morning till night.
Its shameful as to how I would go out and be hurrying to leave so that darkness would not meet me but trust Lagos holdup, you would definitely get home when darkness sets in.
So my point is, if you check out, most Nigerian parents are part and parcel of this problem all because they want their daughters to be good girls.

Our story is similar, am always in door. I'm so used to that lifestyle that I was 21 when I decided to be in a relationship. I had a party on the 30th of last month in Lagos, I had to plead/threaten my parents before I could go to the party. You can imagine

Yonce:
There are no good girls. Only bad girls who haven't been caught.

What do u mean Aunty?

davillian:
The bad guys takes longer time to settle down and they prefer settling down with (innocent,decent,Godly ,pretty ,young) good girls.

The bad girls knows how to hunt and catch a man and the good (decent,innocent,calm)guys are easy prey for them.
The bad girls know the bad boys only use them for fun, so when they realise that the bad boys won't marry them.
They begin to hunt decent boys to marry.

I agree with this

nuelzz04:
So i partially agree with d op.. Some good girls don' marry... Some others have done best marriage... Some bad girls always have dis hearts broken by guys while others have gud marriages... So bro luck plays a huge part... Some pple choose to call it destiny but I say it's luck

Am telling you.

Omoluabi16:
It's much worse for the good guys.

Very worse

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Valerie47:
All the bad girls I know are getting married while the good ones are single. Irony of life.

My friend that got married on 4th of this month.

Lol, na confirm slay queen.
But look at us!!

lincsnuel:
Oga you dey confuse me!

So what you're implying is that I should encourage my sis to become a bad girl in order to get married quick? Nay!

Don't mind the senseless OP!!!!

Usher Nelson that year for mx

In all, 1. The economy plays a major role in a man's decision to marry. There are lots of guys who want to settle down especially with good girls & bad girls but it all depends on pocket size(and u know Nigerian ladies) 2. The ratio / percentage of women to men makes it almost impossible for all women to marry(weda good or bad) 3.The world is not fair 4. We fear our Nigerian sisters because there are many secretive and dangerously bad good girls 5. Exposure matters but I tell u, submissiveness/character is the most powerful tool a woman can have.

PROVERS 24:1
DON'T BE ENVIOUS OF EVIL PEOPLE, AND DON'T TRY TO MAKE FRIENDS WITH THEM.

SOME MARRIAGES ARE NOT THE WILL OF GOD. MANY LADIES TODAY USE CHARMS TO FORCE MEN INTO UNWANTED MARRIAGE. GOOD GIRLS SHOULD NOT ENVY THEM, BECAUSE THIS TYPE OF MARRIAGE DOES NOT LAST.

THEY USE CHARMS TO GET THE MEN THEY CAN GET, NOT ALL MEN, BECAUSE MEN PASS MEN. IF YOU KNOW YOU KNOW.

lincsnuel:
Oga you dey confuse me!

So what you're implying is that I should encourage my sis to become a bad girl in order to get married quick? Nay!

My brother the summary is that early marriage doesn't guarantee a happy and long lasting marriage.... simple. The tonic to successful marriage are tolerance, humility and love etc

chisco82:

@ The bolded, yes i agree with him to some extent
"I am one of the good guy that are single" you can testify to that.
I don't like pretenders please...

Lol, you are not single because girls do not like good guys. We both know why you are single.

I was talking to a colleague, she kept on ranting on how guys do not like good girls LIKE HER. But what I noticed is, she was with a "bad guy", how did she expect such a guy to treat her? Good people should be able to attract their kind.

Some so called "good people" are also basic, men and women tend to love a little of drama and challenge. Don't just sit like a pushover all in the name or being good. Be memorable...

LordKO:
First to marry vs marry well. . . Go figure out. It's not the early morning bird that catches the day. Besides, there's nothing good about a girl with entitlement mentality in any guise, because greed (for anything) breeds entitlement mentality.

Good girls have got no reason to regret being good - whether they marry early or late. They should remain steadfast and strive to marry well. Being good (or goodness) isn't synonymous to myopia or foolishness as the article connoted.

Being a good girl remains the only condition to genuinely get a good man who has achieved self-realization.

So good girls like us get hope.

MissR69:


So good girls like us get hope.

Lol. 70 percent wife material loaded.

Happy Sunday.

y do some people think marriage is the greatest achievement ever......

chisco82:

Lol! No be small thing oo, but i hope u no dey refer to me as bad guy?

Haba?

No oooo!

Not only good girl re unmarried some bad ones too re still looking for love,but to me some ladies re always fun of themselves looking for what dia father dnt hv in man I hv read it here some time ago wen one gal is saying dat any man dat will marry her shuld hv 30 billions Naira in his account do u think her marriage will last and some ladies too dey dnt love d guy dat love dem looking for handsome guys

LordKO:


Lol. 70 percent wife material loaded.

Happy Sunday.

Hmm. Thank you.

lol its not all bad gitls who get into a happy marriage or get a man with ease and its not all good girls who remain single for ever. but then the reason why the so called bad girls tend to hook up quickly is because they mingle and socialise.but then there are some good girls who also socialise and mingle with ppl and in the process get a good partner to marry if they lucky.so what matters most is for u to mingle. if ur parents always lock u up inside s house or as an adult after work u lock urself inside the house and u dont mingle with anybody how u going to get a man to notice u.

If life is unfair




Bleach the hell outta it

You are just confusing yourself.
Everything you said are all assumption

Good girls nowadays are getting beta knackin now o

Blood of wizkid prevent MariaLavina from reading this post

Zeinymira:


Our story is similar, am always in door. I'm so used to that lifestyle that I was 21 when I decided to be in a relationship. I had a party on the 30th of last month in Lagos, I had to plead/threaten my parents before I could go to the party. You can imagine

awwww

Truth is when we reach that stage, we would all be overprotective of our children.

The only thing there is, never say because of your parents overprotectiveness, you would go astray.
Just keep been good and a little disobedient lol, I mean go out, highest they would only scream at you. But never bring shame and disgrace to them, that's what matters.

sauta:
Bad Girls getting Married every Saturday. Why?
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I woke up one morning disturbed at heart as I thought deeply on the subject “Why Good Girls Remain Single.” These are ladies that have spent their lives shunning the wayward lifestyle. They are the morally justified set of girls who have dedicated their lives to God and have decided to walk in His ways. These sets of girls are popularly called the “churchy” girls.

All through the week I kept reading posts on different social media platforms where writers kept encouraging ladies to wait for their men. And they kept teaching them what to do while they waited. “Mr Right is on his way.” They said. The question that kept running through my mind and I believe the same was the case in the minds of some of these ladies was “When is he going to come?” There are ladies that heard the “Mr Right is on the way” story when they were 27 years old, now they are 33 and he hasn’t arrived yet. So when is he going to finally arrive? When they’ve clocked 40? After so much thought on the matter, I decided to talk to a few people to get their opinions on what they thought were the reasons why ‘good’ girls remained single while ‘bad’ girls got married Saturday after Saturday. I gathered a few things which I would be sharing with you in the succeeding pages

An Entitlement Mentality

Some good girls think life or the world owes them something for being good. Just because they "kept" themselves, they sometimes think it is an automatic ticket to finding a good man.

In his book, Why Bad Things Happen to Good People, Mute Efe gave a perfect illustration which he called “The Classic Good-Girl-Bad-Girl.”

“Miss X is a bad girl. Bad as in the whole nine yards. While in school she was the typical “runs girl”. A new boyfriend every semester, clubbing every weekend, and using what she has to get her grades. In the process she had a few abortions. Miss Y on the other hand was a good girl. You can predict her movement – class, fellowship, market, and hostel. She had no time for boys. That was not what she came to school to do. She was a virgin. A year after graduation Miss X, the bad girl, got married. It’s been 10 years now. Miss Y, the good girl, is in her mid-thirties, not married and still a virgin. What happened? The most common response you get to the good-girl bad-girl case I just shared is, “life is not fair.”

Now let’s go to the theatre and place both ladies under the knife. While Miss X was the bad girl, in the process she got to know men and what men want. She understood what respect means to a man. She understood that men are attracted to beautiful things and how men love sex. From the number of guys that dumped her and married other ladies she got to understand what a man is looking for when he is looking for a wife. She got books on relationship to 'up her game' so she could get into the minds of guys. So immediately after graduating she decided to get serious and the next guy she dated proposed to her. Miss Y never knew all that. She believed prayer was the key. She fasted and went for vigils. She made positive confessions daily. She was speaking her husband into being. And there is nothing wrong with all these. But she dressed like she was in the 70’s. she never read a single book on relationship. And knew nothing about what men want.

Question: In the light of the above do you think life was unfair to the good girl in her still being single ten years after school even though she is a virgin? I don’t think so. Husband is not a reward for virginity.”

Mute Efe was not in any way encouraging a wayward life. Neither was he against virginity. His point is simple. “That you are a good girl or a good guy does not absolve you from the consequences of not knowing how relationships work.”

For every area of life, there are principles that govern it. Life will not excuse you for violating any of them because you are a good girl or a good guy. The sun shines on both the righteous and the unrighteous. The rain also falls on both the good and the bad. The same principle applies to everyone – good or bad. It is good to be good but being good is not the only condition to get a man.

An excerpt from NELSON ASUEN book Why Good Girls Remain Single. To be continued


Source: http://www.afroparrot.com/2019/01/why-good-girls-remain-single-nelson.html

Awesome write up... Basically its true.

Paxie55:

My friend that got married on 4th of this month.

Lol, na confirm slay queen.
But look at us!!

The problem with Nigerian" good girls" is the one dimensional way of thinking they often have.

Just like the op pointed out, most good girls have the entitlement mentality.

They often have an idea of perfection and desired qualities they want in the opposite sex and they feel they deserve these perfect guys just because they are "good girls"

The bad ones don't think that way, they see half a chance and grab unto it with both hands


It doesn't matter how good or bad you are in life, you can't win a lottery if you don't take chances.

rosalieene:

Most times, parents are to blame. There is no young girl that purposely want to lock herself up unless the extreme introverts.
Back then, I had always been an indoor person and still is one because of home training.
I could be indoors for weeks except when I am going to church, market etc.
But now, I try to go out.
Now am home to spend time with family before going back...
Just last night, I had a big argument with my mum, she said I am lost! She doesn't know me anymore..... Says I go out and come back anytime and she can't trust me.
Hian! Like seriously? I cannot go out in peace again ni. When has going out to hangout spots and seeing friends become a crime? They just want me to be indoors from morning till night.
Its shameful as to how I would go out and be hurrying to leave so that darkness would not meet me but trust Lagos holdup, you would definitely get home when darkness sets in.
So my point is, if you check out, most Nigerian parents are part and parcel of this problem all because they want their daughters to be good girls.
Anyway, its all good. If you can't train your children well, who will?

.. You are right.Most of our parents still believe we are kids and need their protection always. Well,you can't blame them for that. We all have to put two and two together to achieve our heart desires.Good luck and happy new year.

lincsnuel:
Oga you dey confuse me!

So what you're implying is that I should encourage my sis to become a bad girl in order to get married quick? Nay!

What d op is saying is simple, b conscious of d relationship environment

Iamgrey5:
The problem with Nigerian" good girls" is the one dimensional way of thinking they often have.

Just like the op pointed out, most good girls have the entitlement mentality.

They often have an idea of perfection and desired qualities they want in the opposite sex and they feel they deserve this perfect guys just because they are "good girls"

The bad ones don't think that way, they see half a chance and grab unto it with both hands


it doesn't matter how good or bad your are in life, you can't win a lottery if you don't take chances.

Lol. You actually nailed it.
I have a friend that's suffering from entitlement mentality.
She might not be asking for much o, but then, she finds it very hard neglecting those minor issues in relationship.
She's a very good and churchy kinda girl, but then...

Jahwinaboy:
What do u mean Aunty?

There's no such thing as a good girl. The good girls you know are good only cause you haven't caught them doing bad things.
Good girls are selectively bad.

Reelmii:
y do some people think marriage is the greatest achievement ever......

That is ehn, the thing tire me. No space to breathe.