Iamgrey5:
Blood of wizkid prevent MariaLa vina from reading this post

JONNYSPUTE:
Let me start by saying that all that glitters is not gold.@ Op,you tried but the issue here is neither being good nor bad.All that matters is exposure. Most ladies we termed good girls are not actually what they seems to be so also most of the ones we call bad girls are not actually what they seems.It is only when you get very close to a girl that you can actually deduce if she is good or bad.Men are the determinant factor as far as marriage is concerned.Whenever a man is ready for marriage,there are things he looks out in a girl.E.g. Understanding,exposure,intelligence, diligence and above all compatibility.like you said above,some of these ladies that we termed good girls are really not,in terms of character and behavioural aspects while some of the ones we termed bad have good characters/behaviours.As a lady,you can't lock yourself indoors all the time forming busy and all that without a social life and you expect a man to see you and marry you.You can't be looking haggard all the time and expect a man to marry you.Any lady can get married if she mixes up with other people socially and off course,know how to carry herself at all times.

Iamgrey5:
The problem with Nigerian" good girls" is the one dimensional way of thinking they often have.

Just like the op pointed out, most good girls have the entitlement mentality.

They often have an idea of perfection and desired qualities they want in the opposite sex and they feel they deserve these perfect guys just because they are "good girls"


The bad ones don't think that way, they see half a chance and grab unto it with both hands


It doesn't matter how good or bad you are in life, you can't win a lottery if you don't take chances.

doyinbaby:
Good girls need to socialise...... when you socialise it is easy to meet different men and choose the one you want.... for working class women make sure your job is that you get to meet different people..if a banking job puts you in an office 8 am to 6pm and no opportunity to meet people ... you May be single for long..... I resigned from a job because it put restriction on social life and I have no regret.....some jobs can cause marital delay

chisco82:
I'm still searching for those good girls that are single ooo.....where are they? If you know of anyone let me know.

ArticleBeast:

I pity you for thinking that because someone is in church they are good. Bad girls are in church too o...One gave me Mouth Gig last week I nearly will my inheritance to her. Na she lead worship the next day

olujastro:

I don't understand the bolded. Does the job stop you from taking public buses, going to the movies, malls or public places during the weekends, etc. where you can meet people?

Lastpharoah33:
Not trying to sound weird but hey, am pretty confused about this write up...

djon78:



And these kind of places look ideal to find a mate? Anyway to each his own.

MariaLavina:
I don read am.


Biko how do I become bad girl? As say na only bad girls dey marry and marriage is the only purpose of existence.

Jeezuzpick:


OK.

However, we in Church also know who the "Sistas" are.

Don't get it twisted.

olujastro:

I said meet people, not find a mate.
Do you set out to find a mate to marry? Well, I and most people don't.
You meet someone out there, you get to know her, and if you like her enough, next level things.
There's even social media now to meet people.

SassyVixen:
No, I stay on the mainland. I am just a lover of beautiful pictures

crownman:
The bad girls get married everyday and are having a divorce everyday, but the good girls get married once in a while and they are celebrating marriage anniversary every year, that's the difference between Tonto dikeh and mercy Johnson ...How to keep a man requires wisdom from above and not the other way round

Raalsalghul:
You are one of the ladies I respect on this forum and I know you are just being sarcastic. Don't let anyone change who you are.

Yonce:
There are no good girls. Only bad girls who haven't been caught.

tzoracle:


I beg to disagree

Yonce:


You know any good girls?

Apination:
Stupid logic, everyone wants to claim writer, even after scribbling down rubbish. So the knowledge and answer to how relationship works is in books and without those books a good girl is most likely to know nothing about relationships

Being wayward is now the preparatory stage for marriage and getting a spouse since the reason for a good girl not not getting married early is cos she wasn't wayward and thus is not prepared relationship wise. Since being wayward is now the yardstick for relationships and since the good girl has refused to be wayward so therefore she has no relationship experience

Please who's the IDIOT who came up with this nonsense

tzoracle:


Yes I do

Maxcollins042:

The only thing not logical here is not reading up or comprehending what the book is about before criticizing it.

Yonce:


I'm happy for you.
I hope they never reveal their bad sides/habits to you. . . .that's the surest way to remain "good"

MariaLavina:
And what's the problem with the emboldened? After all they are good too. Why should they expect less

Good girls have entitlement issues? then what's good about them?. Someone should please help me with the description of a good lady because I'm confused here.