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Re: Why Good Girls Remain Single - Nelson Asuen (Entitlement Mentality) by Gerrard59(m): 4:50pm On Jan 06, 2019
Jahwinaboy:
In all, 1. The economy plays a major role in a man's decision to marry. There are lots of guys who want to settle down especially with good girls & bad girls but it all depends on pocket size(and u know Nigerian ladies) 2. The ratio / percentage of women to men makes it almost impossible for all women to marry(weda good or bad) 3.The world is not fair 4. We fear our Nigerian sisters because there are many secretive and dangerously bad good girls 5. Exposure matters but I tell u, submissiveness/character is the most powerful tool a woman can have.

If you mean by the bold, that there are more women than men (whether in Nigeria or globally), then you are wrong. There are more males than females in Nigeria and globally. So technically, every female can get married.

https://data.worldbank.org/indicator/SP.POP.TOTL.FE.ZS

An article by BBC explaining why there are MORE boys born annually than girls.

https://www.bbc.com/news/health-46597323
Re: Why Good Girls Remain Single - Nelson Asuen (Entitlement Mentality) by Papertrail11(m): 4:53pm On Jan 06, 2019
cos they squeeze their face too much not nice and friendly like hour typical bad gyal
Re: Why Good Girls Remain Single - Nelson Asuen (Entitlement Mentality) by Iamgrey5(m): 4:54pm On Jan 06, 2019
pocohantas:


But you agreed with that olodo boy that claimed good boys are single.

Please, good boys and girls are not single.

The so called bad girls that are marrying are the ones that have perfected the act of pretense. You know you people like pretenders.
@ emboldened is just part of it not the main issue


Anyone can pretend and don't assume that those getting married to the so called pretenders are all fools.


The writer of this article highlighted the major obstacle facing the so called good girls in Nigeria.

Many often have an entitlement mentality, some even go spiritual about it.


Hence, many guys often get tired of an endless chase and often willingly settle for the so called pretenders.

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Re: Why Good Girls Remain Single - Nelson Asuen (Entitlement Mentality) by SassyVixen(f): 4:55pm On Jan 06, 2019
All this nye nye nyen about good girls not having knowledge and bad girls getting all the guys. See ehn there is no hard and fast rule about this relationship thing. I am going to be 34 in a few weeks and I have become a recluse mainly because I am extremely introverted. My social life is almost non existent and I pray to change this year. Sometimes its about positioning. There is no Tarzan or a prince on a horse that I expect to break down my door. I do not have to be a 'bad' girl to get a man, neither will I call myself a good girl because honestly I have been there and done that. And no,the day I meet someone interesting I refuse to pretend. What he sees is what he gets.


If I may ask what is 'good' and what is 'bad'? Both can be entirely subjective based on perceptions and experiences. Some good girls have been too heartbroken and they turn it up a notch. A man meeting them at that point automatically may assume she is 'bad'. My point is we should try not to put people in boxes all because of what we see from the outside.

Both good girls and bad girls get married every Saturday. In the end, it is all about our different destinies and paths in life. Not everyone will marry in their 20s and not everyone will marry in their 30s. Some will not marry at all. In the end stay true to you.

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Re: Why Good Girls Remain Single - Nelson Asuen (Entitlement Mentality) by Iamgrey5(m): 5:01pm On Jan 06, 2019
Paxie55:

Lol. You actually nailed it.
I have a friend that's suffering from entitlement mentality.
She might not be asking for much o, but then, she finds it very hard neglecting those minor issues in relationship.
She's a very good and churchy kinda girl, but then... undecided
Exactly!

I have an Aunt who kept her virginity till she was in her 40years only to be disvirgined by a complete nonentity out of desperation.

She was a complete good woman with a touch of religious righteousness. She nearly ran mad when she realized that the "brother" that disvirgined her is married man with kids.

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Re: Why Good Girls Remain Single - Nelson Asuen (Entitlement Mentality) by doyinbaby(f): 5:04pm On Jan 06, 2019
Good girls need to socialise...... when you socialise it is easy to meet different men and choose the one you want.... for working class women make sure your job is that you get to meet different people..if a banking job puts you in an office 8 am to 6pm and no opportunity to meet people ... you May be single for long..... I resigned from a job because it put restriction on social life and I have no regret.....some jobs can cause marital delay

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Re: Why Good Girls Remain Single - Nelson Asuen (Entitlement Mentality) by saintneo(m): 5:11pm On Jan 06, 2019
sauta:
Bad Girls getting Married every Saturday. Why?
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I woke up one morning disturbed at heart as I thought deeply on the subject “Why Good Girls Remain Single.” These are ladies that have spent their lives shunning the wayward lifestyle. They are the morally justified set of girls who have dedicated their lives to God and have decided to walk in His ways. These sets of girls are popularly called the “churchy” girls.

All through the week I kept reading posts on different social media platforms where writers kept encouraging ladies to wait for their men. And they kept teaching them what to do while they waited. “Mr Right is on his way.” They said. The question that kept running through my mind and I believe the same was the case in the minds of some of these ladies was “When is he going to come?” There are ladies that heard the “Mr Right is on the way” story when they were 27 years old, now they are 33 and he hasn’t arrived yet. So when is he going to finally arrive? When they’ve clocked 40? After so much thought on the matter, I decided to talk to a few people to get their opinions on what they thought were the reasons why ‘good’ girls remained single while ‘bad’ girls got married Saturday after Saturday. I gathered a few things which I would be sharing with you in the succeeding pages

An Entitlement Mentality

Some good girls think life or the world owes them something for being good. Just because they "kept" themselves, they sometimes think it is an automatic ticket to finding a good man.

In his book, Why Bad Things Happen to Good People, Mute Efe gave a perfect illustration which he called “The Classic Good-Girl-Bad-Girl.”

“Miss X is a bad girl. Bad as in the whole nine yards. While in school she was the typical “runs girl”. A new boyfriend every semester, clubbing every weekend, and using what she has to get her grades. In the process she had a few abortions. Miss Y on the other hand was a good girl. You can predict her movement – class, fellowship, market, and hostel. She had no time for boys. That was not what she came to school to do. She was a virgin. A year after graduation Miss X, the bad girl, got married. It’s been 10 years now. Miss Y, the good girl, is in her mid-thirties, not married and still a virgin. What happened? The most common response you get to the good-girl bad-girl case I just shared is, “life is not fair.”

Now let’s go to the theatre and place both ladies under the knife. While Miss X was the bad girl, in the process she got to know men and what men want. She understood what respect means to a man. She understood that men are attracted to beautiful things and how men love sex. From the number of guys that dumped her and married other ladies she got to understand what a man is looking for when he is looking for a wife. She got books on relationship to 'up her game' so she could get into the minds of guys. So immediately after graduating she decided to get serious and the next guy she dated proposed to her. Miss Y never knew all that. She believed prayer was the key. She fasted and went for vigils. She made positive confessions daily. She was speaking her husband into being. And there is nothing wrong with all these. But she dressed like she was in the 70’s. she never read a single book on relationship. And knew nothing about what men want.

Question: In the light of the above do you think life was unfair to the good girl in her still being single ten years after school even though she is a virgin? I don’t think so. Husband is not a reward for virginity.”

Mute Efe was not in any way encouraging a wayward life. Neither was he against virginity. His point is simple. “That you are a good girl or a good guy does not absolve you from the consequences of not knowing how relationships work.”

For every area of life, there are principles that govern it. Life will not excuse you for violating any of them because you are a good girl or a good guy. The sun shines on both the righteous and the unrighteous. The rain also falls on both the good and the bad. The same principle applies to everyone – good or bad. It is good to be good but being good is not the only condition to get a man.

An excerpt from NELSON ASUEN book Why Good Girls Remain Single. To be continued
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Source: http://www.afroparrot.com/2019/01/why-good-girls-remain-single-nelson.html

Bullshit

Good girls please remain good o, don't be pretenders. Study men, understand what it means to be married. Pray to God to lead you.

Bad girls, life is hard but it can be better with God leading.

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Re: Why Good Girls Remain Single - Nelson Asuen (Entitlement Mentality) by Paxie55: 5:14pm On Jan 06, 2019
Iamgrey5:
Exactly!

I have an Aunt who kept her virginity till she was in her 40years only to be disvirgined by a complete nonentity out of desperation.

She was a complete good woman with a touch of religious righteousness. She nearly ran mad when she realized that the "brother" that disvirgined her is married man with kids.


It's pitiable.
cry
Re: Why Good Girls Remain Single - Nelson Asuen (Entitlement Mentality) by braine(m): 5:14pm On Jan 06, 2019
Some of us like a mixture of both.

I wouldn't mind a Card B twerking and giving good head while being a choir mistress at the same time.

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Re: Why Good Girls Remain Single - Nelson Asuen (Entitlement Mentality) by Offisteven: 5:17pm On Jan 06, 2019
Bad girls uses pregnancy to tie the man down and they pretend to be set for marriage... That's why.
Re: Why Good Girls Remain Single - Nelson Asuen (Entitlement Mentality) by braine(m): 5:18pm On Jan 06, 2019
Iamgrey5:
Exactly!

I have an Aunt who kept her virginity till she was in her 40years only to be disvirgined by a complete nonentity out of desperation.

She was a complete good woman with a touch of religious righteousness. She nearly ran mad when she realized that the "brother" that disvirgined her is married man with kids.




This is why I wonder what the big deal is about keeping virginity for so long.

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Re: Why Good Girls Remain Single - Nelson Asuen (Entitlement Mentality) by Jahwinaboy(m): 5:19pm On Jan 06, 2019
Gerrard59:


If you mean by the bold, that there are more women than men (whether in Nigeria or globally), then you are wrong. There are more males than females in Nigeria and globally. So technically, every female can get married.

https://data.worldbank.org/indicator/SP.POP.TOTL.FE.ZS

An article by BBC explaining why there are MORE boys born annually than girls.

https://www.bbc.com/news/health-46597323
Although the world ratio of 100 men is to 103 & the BBC news u cited is based on scotland and wales, check this. http://www.google.com/url?q=https://data.worldbank.org/indicator/SP.DYN.LE00.FE.IN&sa=U&ved=2ahUKEwig97LcxNnfAhWNPFAKHYu_BC0QFjAFegQICRAB&usg=AOvVaw2RPRgIm887hKGkFWOp9Rb2 Worldwide, the average life expectancy at birth was 71.5 years (68 years and 4 months for males and 72 years and 8 months for females) over the period 2010–2015 according to United Nations World Population Prospects 2015 Revision, [3] or 69 years (67 years for males and 71.1 years for females) for 2016 according to The World Factbook .[4] According to the 2015
World Health Organization (WHO) data, women on average live longer than men in all major regions and in all individual countries except for Mali and Eswatini (Swaziland) . That means women live longer than women and with ratio of 100 males to 103 females then, who is slightly more? Plus African data is not being adequately collated.
Re: Why Good Girls Remain Single - Nelson Asuen (Entitlement Mentality) by bigiyaro(m): 5:20pm On Jan 06, 2019
which morafvcker is creating the impression that wayward and useless gehs are getting married while the supposedly good gehs are being left behind? if someone married an ex prostitute or a woman without a womb that is his cup of tea. good nice clean social godly gehs are getting married every day. that other thread about a get who committed suicide is a typical example, maybe she was a 'bad' geh n when it was time to get married, the senseable guy left n married a 'good' geh. op pls you can go to a brothel n marry an olosho.
Re: Why Good Girls Remain Single - Nelson Asuen (Entitlement Mentality) by braine(m): 5:24pm On Jan 06, 2019
SassyVixen:
All this nye nye nyen about good girls not having knowledge and bad girls getting all the guys. See ehn there is no hard and fast rule about this relationship thing. I am going to be 34 in a few weeks and I have become a recluse mainly because I am extremely introverted. My social life is almost non existent and I pray to change this year. Sometimes its about positioning. There is no Tarzan or a prince on a horse that I expect to break down my door. I do not have to be a 'bad' girl to get a man, neither will I call myself a good girl because honestly I have been there and done that. And no,the day I meet someone interesting I refuse to pretend. What he sees is what he gets.


If I may ask what is 'good' and what is 'bad'? Both can be entirely subjective based on perceptions and experiences. Some good girls have been too heartbroken and they turn it up a notch. A man meeting them at that point automatically may assume she is 'bad'. My point is we should try not to put people in boxes all because of what we see from the outside.

Both good girls and bad girls get married every Saturday. In the end, it is all about our different destinies and paths in life. Not everyone will marry in their 20s and not everyone will marry in their 30s. Some will not marry at all. In the end stay true to you.


I don't think there's a defined rule on how to identify bad girls, but one would just 'know' based on some things such as her past (if she's open enough), the way she carries herself, during sex (personal experience), etc. I might be wrong tho
Re: Why Good Girls Remain Single - Nelson Asuen (Entitlement Mentality) by Jahwinaboy(m): 5:25pm On Jan 06, 2019
Yonce:



There's no such thing as a good girl. The good girls who know are good only cause you haven't caught them doing bad things.
Good girls are selectively bad.
Na wa. Good girls in Nigeria might be risky then
Re: Why Good Girls Remain Single - Nelson Asuen (Entitlement Mentality) by ImaIma1(f): 5:26pm On Jan 06, 2019
It is not about being a good or bad girl. It is about having information, mixing up with people rather than staying alone and remaining naive.

What the supposed bad girls have over the alleged good girl is knowing how to treat a man and relate to men.

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Re: Why Good Girls Remain Single - Nelson Asuen (Entitlement Mentality) by Nobody: 5:29pm On Jan 06, 2019
I don't agree with the op, there are countless bad girls who lost their life in their wayward expeditions of "corporate and casual olosho". There are also thousands of good girls that are getting marry every Saturdays.

Ladies please learn that you don't waste your years searching for Mr. Right while you wear the garb of feminism and gat no regard for anybody. I won't marry a woman that lack respect, I won't allow my enemy marry a girl that can't cook. My mum still cook for my father even at 60. Okonjo and Kemi cook for their husbands, you won't believe this until you get close to them. These are all carrier women.

There is an old saying "a woman who lacks character shouldn't cry she isn't blessed with a crown" Many of these ladies have lost their character through the teaching of Linda Ikeji and chimamanda. Linda is now a baby mama, chimamanda is happily married. Get Sense.

Please know that Chimamanda does her husband biddings in her home, otherwise she would have been thrown out.

Many girls feels being good girls entitles them to marrying Mr. Right, fallacy. Get good training, relate with men with respect, know what a man wants in a woman and make yourself a woman every man (with good head) wants to marry.

Many bad girls also think they can play God, they follow destructive path hoping to change their ways and secure a Mr. right, the probability of success is 1/10,000.

The truth is that no good girl stay on the market for so long, they are easily spotted by all kinds of men, good and bad. The prayer for them is not to fall for the gold diggers and pretentious wolves in sheep's clothing.

Even if you get PhD, have respect, carry yourself well and know that EVERY MAN (including your small cousin) HAS EGO, big or small. The earlier you realize this the better.

My one Kobo advise for the serious ones.

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Re: Why Good Girls Remain Single - Nelson Asuen (Entitlement Mentality) by Ubdavis(m): 5:36pm On Jan 06, 2019
For the fact that u did not use the word "some good girls", is a pointer to the fact that u built ur write up on a bad foundation.
Re: Why Good Girls Remain Single - Nelson Asuen (Entitlement Mentality) by Ubdavis(m): 5:37pm On Jan 06, 2019
For the fact that u did not use the word "some good girls", is a pointer to the fact that u built ur write up on a bad foundation
Re: Why Good Girls Remain Single - Nelson Asuen (Entitlement Mentality) by excessmon(m): 5:37pm On Jan 06, 2019
Why won't you be confused since op isn't writing about breasts and other things that stimulates ur interest....


This is a new year youngie...not every posts comment desire likes...
Brian Tracy said change ur thinking change ur life....

My piece though
Lastpharoah33:
Not trying to sound weird but hey, am pretty confused about this write up...
Re: Why Good Girls Remain Single - Nelson Asuen (Entitlement Mentality) by crownman: 5:43pm On Jan 06, 2019
coolThe bad girls get married everyday and are having a divorce everyday, but the good girls get married once in a while and they are celebrating marriage anniversary every year, that's the difference between Tonto dikeh and mercy Johnson grin...How to keep a man requires wisdom from above and not the other way round

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Re: Why Good Girls Remain Single - Nelson Asuen (Entitlement Mentality) by Gerrard59(m): 5:44pm On Jan 06, 2019
Jahwinaboy:
Although the world ratio of 100 men is to 103 & the BBC news u cited is based on scotland and Wales


Mistake #1: You are distorting scientific facts explaining why more boys are procreate than females without presenting an equally opposing study stating otherwise. Also, as a scientific study, it explains a phenomenon in the distribution of genders during procreation. It says something and could applied to other regions. Google 'representative sampling'.

That means women live longer than women and with ratio of 100 males to 103 females then, who is slightly more?

Mistake #2: You're equating women's longevity to being more than men. That's not true for even though globally women live longer than men, it doesn't mean there are more women than men. The article below by the Washington Post says it.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/worldviews/wp/2015/08/19/see-where-women-outnumber-men-around-the-world-and-why/?noredirect=on&utm_term=.63e19b3a0c0f

Plus African data is not being adequately collated.

Which is why we've organisations like World Bank, Bill and Melinda Foundation, UN etc. Should we disregard their studies because of your statement?

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Re: Why Good Girls Remain Single - Nelson Asuen (Entitlement Mentality) by ArticleBeast: 5:47pm On Jan 06, 2019
Jeezuzpick:
Whoever told you this big fat lie that "good girls" remain single?

If you believe this, then you are fit to be sold into slavery.

Go to churches and see how "sistas" are getting married in droves.

Muslim brothas too are seriously hunting those faithful hijabis.
I pity you for thinking that because someone is in church they are good. Bad girls are in church too o...One gave me Mouth Gig last week I nearly will my inheritance to her. Na she lead worship the next day

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Re: Why Good Girls Remain Single - Nelson Asuen (Entitlement Mentality) by excessmon(m): 5:49pm On Jan 06, 2019
Ma'am try to understand the op....
babatee100:
I don't agree with the op, there are countless bad girls who lost their life in their wayward expeditions of "corporate and casual olosho". There are also thousands of good girls that are getting marry every Saturdays.

Ladies please learn that you don't waste your years searching for Mr. Right while you wear the garb of feminism and gat no regard for anybody. I won't marry a woman that lack respect, I won't allow my enemy marry a girl that can't cook. My mum still cook for my father even at 60. Okonjo and Kemi cook for their husbands, you won't believe this until you get close to them. These are all carrier women.

There is an old saying "a woman who lacks character shouldn't cry she isn't blessed with a crown" Many of these ladies have lost their character through the teaching of Linda Ikeji and chimamanda. Linda is now a baby mama, chimamanda is happily married. Get Sense.

Please know that Chimamanda does her husband biddings in her home, otherwise she would have been thrown out.

Many girls feels being good girls entitles them to marrying Mr. Right, fallacy. Get good training, relate with men with respect, know what a man wants in a woman and make yourself a woman every man (with good head) wants to marry.

Many bad girls also think they can play God, they follow destructive path hoping to change their ways and secure a Mr. right, the probability of success is 1/10,000.

The truth is that no good girl stay on the market for so long, they are easily spotted by all kinds of men, good and bad. The prayer for them is not to fall for the gold diggers and pretentious wolves in sheep's clothing.

Even if you get PhD, have respect, carry yourself well and know that EVERY MAN (including your small cousin) HAS EGO, big or small. The earlier you realize this the better.

My one Kobo advise for the serious ones.



Re: Why Good Girls Remain Single - Nelson Asuen (Entitlement Mentality) by SassyVixen(f): 5:58pm On Jan 06, 2019
braine:



I don't think there's a defined rule on how to identify bad girls, but one would just 'know' based on some things such as her past (if she's open enough), the way she carries herself, during sex (personal experience), etc. I might be wrong tho
So lets assume she has had some experience and is in touch with her sensuality, carries herself with an air of confidence does that make her a bad girl?
Re: Why Good Girls Remain Single - Nelson Asuen (Entitlement Mentality) by Dinho20(m): 6:01pm On Jan 06, 2019
crownman:
coolThe bad girls get married everyday and are having a divorce everyday, but the good girls get married once in a while and they are celebrating marriage anniversary every year, that's the difference between Tonto dikeh and mercy Johnson grin...How to keep a man requires wisdom from above and not the other way round
YOU NAILED IT

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Re: Why Good Girls Remain Single - Nelson Asuen (Entitlement Mentality) by SassyVixen(f): 6:02pm On Jan 06, 2019
braine:
Some of us like a mixture of both.

I wouldn't mind a Card B twerking and giving good head while being a choir mistress at the same time.
cheesy I like you already
Re: Why Good Girls Remain Single - Nelson Asuen (Entitlement Mentality) by Nobody: 6:18pm On Jan 06, 2019
Paxie55:

My friend that got married on 4th of this month.

Lol, na confirm slay queen.
But look at us!! undecided cry angry
cheesycheesy one girl almost all the lecturers sampled then in school got married this Jan.
Re: Why Good Girls Remain Single - Nelson Asuen (Entitlement Mentality) by Paxie55: 6:19pm On Jan 06, 2019
Valerie47:
cheesycheesy
cheesy and the guy hold better bar oo
Re: Why Good Girls Remain Single - Nelson Asuen (Entitlement Mentality) by FromZeroToHero(m): 6:22pm On Jan 06, 2019
interesting but...
Re: Why Good Girls Remain Single - Nelson Asuen (Entitlement Mentality) by pulsa(m): 6:25pm On Jan 06, 2019
SassyVixen:
All this nye nye nyen about good girls not having knowledge and bad girls getting all the guys. See ehn there is no hard and fast rule about this relationship thing. I am going to be 34 in a few weeks and I have become a recluse mainly because I am extremely introverted. My social life is almost non existent and I pray to change this year. Sometimes its about positioning. There is no Tarzan or a prince on a horse that I expect to break down my door. I do not have to be a 'bad' girl to get a man, neither will I call myself a good girl because honestly I have been there and done that. And no,the day I meet someone interesting I refuse to pretend. What he sees is what he gets.


If I may ask what is 'good' and what is 'bad'? Both can be entirely subjective based on perceptions and experiences. Some good girls have been too heartbroken and they turn it up a notch. A man meeting them at that point automatically may assume she is 'bad'. My point is we should try not to put people in boxes all because of what we see from the outside.

Both good girls and bad girls get married every Saturday. In the end, it is all about our different destinies and paths in life. Not everyone will marry in their 20s and not everyone will marry in their 30s. Some will not marry at all. In the end stay true to you.

Do you stay on the island, asking because of your profile picture.
Re: Why Good Girls Remain Single - Nelson Asuen (Entitlement Mentality) by SassyVixen(f): 6:28pm On Jan 06, 2019
pulsa:


Do you stay on the island, asking because of your profile picture.
No, I stay on the mainland. I am just a lover of beautiful pictures smiley

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