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Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by acrobatic: 5:40pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
I am experienced. So I will tell you. You did not give too much detail, so it will be difficult to advice you properly, but in general I will tell you the following first Your spouse must be worth it. she has to be someone with a good heart that deserves your sacrifice. yes it is a sacrifice you will be making to disobey your parent and stand for what is right You should be marry her not just for the sake of love, but for your conscience and what is right. If you get married, keep the both of your family members far from your family. they can visit but with restrictions Nobody can tell the future, if you marry her or someone else, nobody can tell the outcome. so do what is right for your conscience and live with it. most importantly ask God to help you. 9 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Nobody: 5:42pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Moneystopnonsen: You're a man.Im proud of you.Your wife is lucky!But I think your wife should at this point try win her over since she is now married to you.Yoyr mother's jealousy is understood....A mother also sees their son as husband as well. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Tallesty1(m): 5:44pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
babadee1:Enugu state bro 1 Like |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by kitaatita: 5:44pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
femison32:It's not an easy ride. Your be swimming against the tide. But at the end, it's you life |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Slynation(m): 5:56pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
A piece of advise, am definitely not married but i read a lot about marriages, moreover i have friends and cousins who are married.... it takes mature minds to get married and sometimes u have u go above all odds just to be with that one person u want to spend your life with, sometimes it may prove to be positive and most cases a negative approach with or without ur parents approver....You already said the girl's mother has a negative character your mom don't like,then the first thing to ask yourself is whether you can deal or contend with her as your mother-in-law, or whether your wife to be is the type been influenced or listen to her mother even in negativity, mind you most girls out there are desperate packaged slayqueens who camouflage their internal characteristics just to get married, main reason Slayqueens are getting married to MrNiceGuy every Saturday while the good ones are still single & vice verser.... How she react to other people shouldn't be overlooked, That was how my cousin married one lady like that because he was blinded by love & she is very pretty, now she hardly cooks, Too manipulative, becoming lazy,that even my uncle is complaining, My cousin bro has no choice than to adapt, because he never wanted a broken home, but this was a marriage approved by both parents, so sometimes parents are not always right, not because it's their duty to be right at all times but because the man(their son) simply failed to carryout some simple findings about their wife to be, it's the joy of every parent to see their son brings home a woman he wants to marry, so if for any reason they castigate any, then it should be taken seriously, instead of challenging them just to prove you are now a man, do some findings and convince them also, Most importantly pray about it 12 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by DrOBD(m): 5:57pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
cnonyechi: Ma I strongly disagree. What ever happens to you in life does not depends on parental blessings. Parents should train up their children to be good individuals. The biggest responsibility of any parent is to train their child to be responsible not to choose their life partners. I have seen lots of marriages that crashed with parental blessings, I have seen partners that dies with parental blessings, I have seen barrenness with parental blessings, I have seen retrogression with parental blessings, I have also seen all these negative things happen to those who did not get consent from their parents. It all depends on fate and the couple 24 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Nobody: 5:58pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
hammerFC: It's not an abomination.Irs just that their contribution and advise is needed but it's not mandatory to act on it.Myself I am highly intuitive,I won't enter a family where I'm not accepted by the man's parents no matter the pretenses.God forbid! Even Jesus Christ dusted his feet and left where he wasn't accepted. 2 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by luminouz(m): 6:00pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Moneystopnonsen:Lol... I KNOW UR DAD...VERY WELL IN FACT!!! |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by DrOBD(m): 6:00pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Tallesty1: How many do you know. I know more that ended well. |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by tsinepa: 6:01pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Jac007: Same here, here mum is saying no because of my church, so I have given her space, if she is truly mine, she would be mine no matter what. 2 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Willie2015: 6:03pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
ivolt: He got a mother with a good heart .... not a strong man......some dont actually make it.... Just exactly the same scenario here, my friend got married without parental consent... Anytime the wife gives birth, the child will die within 7 days... before naming.... Wifey gave birth..... 4 times..... all those kids aint alive.... My guy had accident some yrs after the marriage.... he was driving alone ..... no oncoming vehicle..... none at his back Drove and hit a big tree..... that was the end. It is advisable to seek parental consent..... Even if your parents are traditional herbalists ..... you must find a way to seek their consent. 2 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by tsinepa: 6:03pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Tallesty1: I wish my story can be like this |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Nobody: 6:06pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Tallesty1:thank you Parents should really stop abusing their power over their kids If your mom doesn't like her mom or her behavior, that is between she and your girl's mom, she shldnt make you guys suffer for it My friend got married without his parents consent too...went to court and told them about it later. His parents were provoked...said all sorts of unimaginable things. The guy reminded them that he had been pleading with them for two years but them no gree...even took their advise and dated other girls that didn't work so he had to do what he had to do. Today? Na the wife sef dem dey celebrate pass. His parents only reason was tribal matter. She is Ibo, he is yoruba If it is for a flimsy reason...God won't allow anything bad to happen 7 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by ibinaboonline: 6:07pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
olumyde:My brother, no matter how many people's experience put together for you to examine, it will not give you an accurate prediction of your future. No two lives are the same and everyone's case is unique. Just use your heart. Finally, I hope you're a born again Christian, it's so much better if you are. 9 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Nobody: 6:08pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
olumyde:Olumide,perhaps i wud av given u d best advise, if u cud break dis down *her mother's behaviour*. Many tins cud b involved,parents sometimes sees wot we cant see in d next 20 yrs ryt now. However, dat doesnt mean they cud be ryt at all time. Try n see if the reason for ur mum's disapproval is deep (u dont need to lie to ursef), den u can reason wit ur mum. If its minor, go ahead n marry her, but make sure she (ur babe) deserves ur sacrifice. |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Nobody: 6:08pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
ibinaboonline:very true |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by tabithababy(f): 6:08pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Na wa Whatever happened to honouring your parents |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Nobody: 6:08pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Willie2015: Are you sure the problems aren't from the husband family?I know of a case where the husband mother vowed to destroy the marriage she didn't consent to....and she succeeded.Dont judge the" goodness" of a woman by her calmness.They can be very deadly. 2 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Nature8(m): 6:09pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Tallesty1: Moral: Sometimes you do the wrong thing for the right thing... 1 Like |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by djon78(m): 6:09pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Had to leave someone my heart beat for because of serious family opposition. Was the most painful thing I ever had to go through. I don't even care about this love thing anymore. Because with all the love still people are divorcing left and right Life goes on 5 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by drmikeadams(m): 6:10pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
jaszplus12:. People don't change....no think am 1 Like |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Daeylar(f): 6:10pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Moneystopnonsen: This is how you know a man that understands that he is a man. Thank you for standing up for your wife at every step of the way. May she continue to make you proud to be her husband I dislike it when people try to live another life through someone else while living theirs. 13 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by abbey621(m): 6:11pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
You are a man, ACT LIKE ONE! If you can't convince your parents the reason why the love of your life will not act like her mother then you have FAILED! Your parents have your best interest at heart, whether you believe it or not but marriage is a life changing decision, you do not only marry your spouse but the entire family as well. The worst thing you can do is bring someone into your life only for her to be detested by your family or for you to be detested by her family, it never ends well. All it takes is one screw up and all the bottled up negative energy becomes unleashed, use your brain man! |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by AFONAMARO: 6:13pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
olumyde: Got married without mom's consent. She declined becaue of wifey's tribe. But today wifey is her best daughter in law 8 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by macho44(m): 6:16pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Richkid97:I share your objectives. Bro 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by hammerFC: 6:17pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
LynnnCHI: My sister, the bible says honour your father and mother so your days will be long. Many people will not even consider marraige without parental pressure for grand children. U can sex who u like, but who u marry is family matter.(your parents are the head) |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by uuzba(m): 6:19pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
hammerFC:So if your family is a racist family, you too will continue to be a racist? You (Man) are the head of your own house. You and your wife are the ones to set the standard you follow in your new home. 8 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Nobody: 6:19pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
LynnnCHI:Why will a mum see her son as a husband? If her husband is dead, she should look for divorcee or single elderly man to rob body with instead of wrapping all her world around her son. Women like that are control freaks, nothing more. Have seen many of them. They don't end up well. They can go to any length to control their son. With the usual sob stories, I'm your mum and I know what's best for u. Be independent minded. Mothers and pastors acting as they know too much. Even you that want to marry, living with somebody as spouse is different from dating. Make your own choice and bear the consequence. That is maturity. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by tsinepa: 6:20pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
dangervu: Or church... Parent not approving marriage cox of church... Still sounds funny to me |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Memories12411: 6:20pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
If you want to marry and nobody opposes, please, leave that marriage. If you see everybody clapping and cheering, just know that you are heading towards destruction. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by hammerFC: 6:22pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
uuzba: Good thing u mention that. I met one Esan girl, this girl was all over me, then she asked me, are u Esan. I told her, i am Nigerian, she said are u Esan? Now, clearly, she is looking to bring an Esan guy back to please her family. She select black over white, nigeria over ghana and then in Nigeria, she is looking for Esan in particular becos she is Esan. Wat is wrong with that? Must she carry a non Esan person to her Esan family? |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Yankee101: 6:22pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
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