cooldood:
Sometimes, the challenge is with the quality of females in our environment coupled with their willingness to be groom-able where necessary. For instance, am on a 7-figure income and have been on that since I was 32 last year. However, finding a reasonable Nigerian lady has been the issue. Note, I have related with foreign babes while I was outside the country and I could simply see that Nigerian gals are aggressive, not very patient/ calm and have entitlement mentality. Where these attributes came from, I don’t know. Yet, I keep searching cos I believe in companionship.

Nigerian ladies are saying this same thing about their men. Yet every week, people are getting married. Everyone is entering into business that caters for weddings/occasions; makeup, bridal stores, gift branding, rentals, baking...etc.

Let's also not forget the way una population dey increase in AP. Every Nigerian man/woman is good, the problem is always the other gender. You all should continue deceiving yourselves

cooldood:
Sometimes, the challenge is with the quality of females in our environment coupled with their willingness to be groom-able where necessary. For instance, am on a 7-figure income and have been on that since I was 32 last year. However, finding a reasonable Nigerian lady has been the issue. Note, I have related with foreign babes while I was outside the country and I could simply see that Nigerian gals are aggressive, not very patient/ calm and have entitlement mentality. Where these attributes came from, I don’t know. Yet, I keep searching cos I believe in companionship.

.. You will surely find one. The truth of the matter is that no one is perfect. We all have our flaws,so get one that is at least near your expectations and mould her. If we all keep saying that their are no good girls,how come people are still getting married? I think one of the problems we all are having is placing high hopes and expectation on humans.If we all can let love supersede imperfections, then we are good to go.

I'm 21,about to graduate this year God help me for there are so many challenges ahead

josh123:
I'm 21,about to graduate this year God help me for there are so many challenges ahead

Look on the bright side, you're leaving school early. You still got enough time bro. Don't fret!

josh123:
I'm 21,about to graduate this year God help me for there are so many challenges ahead

.. He will help you bro. Be diligent,focused and hardworking.

JONNYSPUTE:
.. You will surely find one. The truth of the matter is that no one is perfect. We all have our flaws,so get one that is at least near your expectations and mould her. If we all keep saying that their are no good girls,how come people are still getting married? I think one of the problems we all are having is placing high hopes and expectation on humans.If we all can let love supersede imperfections, then we are good to go.

I agree with you and I completely understand no one is perfect. In fact what I look out for is especially a heart that is humble and willing to be groomed. The challenge however is most of these gals are being molded by the social media posts and therefore unable to be teacheable. If you find a mature lady, then you’d have certain expectations but if she’s not meeting up, they are even more difficult to mold. Yet, I believe I’d find the one that will be humble.

pocohantas:


Nigerian ladies are saying this same thing about their men. Yet every week, people are getting married. Everyone is entering into business that caters for weddings/occasions; makeup, bridal stores, gift branding, rentals, baking...etc.

Let's also not forget the way una population dey increase in AP. Every Nigerian man/woman is good, the problem is always the other gender. You all should continue deceiving yourselves

People getting married weekly doesn’t mean one has to follow the crowd, cos as people are doing it weekly is the same way the courts are filled with divorce matters but people don’t celebrate divorce cases while some are simply patching things up and just tolerating their partner and hoping one day miracle will happen. For me, marriage is not to be tolerated but rather should be largely enjoyable (not all the time) but the secret is when people of humble hearts meet and understand their roles and endeavor to play their roles well, while sharing similar ideologies in most issues of life with few differences that could be overlooked and tolerated. My take though.

pocohantas:


Walahi, salary upgrade is a scam

rich babe like u

ednut1:
rich babe like u

Lol, just dey whine me na

cooldood:

People getting married weekly doesn’t mean one has to follow the crowd, cos as people are doing it weekly is the same way the courts are filled with divorce matters but people don’t celebrate divorce cases while some are simply patching things up and just tolerating their partner and hoping one day miracle will happen. For me, marriage is not to be tolerated but rather should be largely enjoyable (not all the time) but the secret is when people of humble hearts meet and understand their roles and endeavor to play their roles well, while sharing similar ideologies in most issues of life with few differences that could be overlooked and tolerated. My take though.

My point is very simple; there are good people all around. When people keep on whining on how they are so good, but can't find another good person of the opposite sex, they begin to look like the problem.

I am 26 years old, for the last two years I have consistently earned a medium five figure monthly income from my creative work, but I dare not start dreaming of raising a family now. I shall be married in ten years time when I am in my mid thirties.

pocohantas:


My point is very simple; there are good people all around. When people keep on whining on how they are so good, but can't find another good person of opposite sex, they begin to look like the problem.

Have you considered the fact that he might not have crossed paths with the good ones? To get a good partner requires sifting the chaff from the barley. It involves a lot of hoops. Besides his phrasing was done in such a way that indicates he is still open to the possibility of meeting a compatible person.

Your comments are a little too aggressive and symptomatic of his initial complaint.

NUJABEZ:



Have you considered the fact that he might not have crossed paths with the good ones? To get a good partner requires sifting the chaff from the barley. It involves a lot of hoops. Besides his phrasing was done in such a way that indicates he is still open to the possibility of meeting a compatible perso.

Your comments are a little too aggressive and symptomatic of his initial complaint.

Then something is very wrong somewhere. How can a very good man/woman not cross path with good persons? Who exactly makes up his/her circle?

The highlighted isn't in contest, the closing paragraph is strictly your business/opinion.

pocohantas:


My point is very simple; there are good people all around. When people keep on whining on how they are so good, but can't find another good person of opposite sex, they begin to look like the problem.

This is one of the issues I have with some gals- when they already concluded n interpreted a harmless statement over and beyond its meaning- I am not disappointed. How you quickly concluded that by stating my opinion means one is so good, is beyond rational comprehension. This is why I say most of these gals are aggressive, complicated and problematic. Inability to take simple statements the way they are is a problem. Such people are either paranoid on one side or overconclusive in discussions. They serve two roles at the same time- they’re the jury and the defendant at the same time in matters.

cooldood:

This is one of the issues I have with some gals- when they already concluded n interpreted a harmless statement over and beyond its meaning- I am not disappointed. How you quickly concluded that by stating my opinion means one is so good, is beyond rational comprehension. This is why I say most of these gals are aggressive, complicated and problematic. Inability to take simple statements the way they are is a problem. Such people are either paranoid on one side or overconclusive in discussions. They serve two roles at the same time- they’re the jury and the defendant at the same time in matters.

That post applies to you and every other human in your subset .

pocohantas:


Then something is very wrong somewhere. How can a very good man/woman not cross path with good persons? Who exactly makes up his/her circle?

The highlighted isn't in contest, the closing paragraph is strictly your business/opinion.

You're aggressive. Passively so.

Do you know the particulars of his desire?

Do you know what sort of schedule he keeps?

Do you know his story?

It is easy to make assumptions, but sometimes allow your self a little room for error.

The man clearly stated he's on the look out. Should he then settle when he hasn't found. It is not a problem if a man has exacting standards. Best anyone can do is wish him luck in his search and not talk down on them like they were some ten year old.

NUJABEZ:


You're aggressive. Passively so.

Do you know the particulars of his desire?

Do you know what sort of schedule he keeps?

Do you know his story?

It is easy to make assumptions, but sometimes allow your self a little room for error.

The man clearly stated he's on the look out. Should he then settle when he hasn't found. It is not a problem if a man has exacting standards. Best anyone can do is wish him luck in his search and not talk down on them like they were some ten year old.

Is that all?

cooldood:

This is one of the issues I have with some gals- when they already concluded n interpreted a harmless statement over and beyond its meaning- I am not disappointed. How you quickly concluded that by stating my opinion means one is so good, is beyond rational comprehension. This is why I say most of these gals are aggressive, complicated and problematic. Inability to take simple statements the way they are is a problem. Such people are either paranoid on one side or overconclusive in discussions. They serve two roles at the same time- they’re the jury and the defendant at the same time in matters.

Excellent points sir.

What she has displayed is nothing short of aggression. By jumping to conclusions so speedily, she showed an inflexible mind utterly unable to wrap their head around ideals that do not match their worldview.

pocohantas:


Is that all?

Forgot to say you're such an ass hole.

NUJABEZ:


Forgot to say you're such an ass hole.

Yea, coming from team responsible men that can't find responsible women...

pocohantas:


Yea, coming from team responsible men that can't find responsible women...

You have me mistaken for someone else. FYI, I am a street boy, and I no send you.

josh123:
I'm 21,about to graduate this year God help me for there are so many challenges ahead

what course did you study?

NUJABEZ:


You have me mistaken for someone else. FYI, I am a street boy, and I no send you.

You quoted me first, struggled to convince me and flipped first. That itself is a contradiction to the highlighted, but I will let you alpha in peace

As long as they have ‘respectable’ potential *shrug*

32 is still pretty young in the grand scheme of life

pocohantas:

Is that all?

the next Linda Ikeji

NUJABEZ:


Excellent points sir.

What she has displayed is nothing short of aggression. By jumping to conclusions so speedily, she showed an inflexible mind utterly unable to wrap their head around ideals that do not match their worldview.

You know. Cos if she’s not a complicated individual, she’d have been able to see where I wrote in my piece that i continue to be on the look out cos I believe I’d find the one that am looking for. Which means I strongly believe a good lady is still out there for me with humility as a feature. But such gals like this are usually aggressive and will find it difficult to see the positives in an opinion. People that have given up do not continue to try to find. She left that part of I continue to find, but focused on the other side. Majority of 9ja gals are like that, yet there are very very few decent and humble ones and I’d find one shortly.

Regiinald:
the next Linda Ikeji

Oh, I am scared. I am gonna die without colonizing one preek... I am crying

pocohantas:


Oh, I am scared. I am gonna die without colonizing one preek... I am crying

Kikikiki

Y'all should forget that stupid troll of a bitch Pocohantas.. Arguing with IT shortens your IQ

pocohantas:


You quoted me first, struggled to convince me and flipped first. That itself is a contradiction to the highlighted, but I will let you alpha in peace

First off, your mind is like calcified plaque on rotten teeth. It is inflexible and cannot readily be changed.

Secondly, I am not debating you. I am not an alpha anything, but if you can read, go back and read what the man wrote. Pay special attention to how he hedged his positions.

Cooldood allowed room for error. You, Pocohantas, you speak in absolutes, and I find it distasteful because truly wise people know that nothing is ever black and white.

I am not responsible. I am not an alpha whatever. I am just a person who knows that nothing, especially looking from the surface, is ever what we think it is.

My only grouse with you is the fact that it took you all of ten seconds to pass judgment on a person who expressed their innermost thoughts so respectfully. That's bad.

NUJABEZ:


First off, your mind is like calcified plaque on rotten teeth. It is inflexible and cannot readily be changed.

Secondly, I am not debating you. I am not an alpha anything, but if you can read, go back and read what the man wrote. Pay special attention to how he hedged his positions.

Cooldood allowed room for error. You, Pocohantas, you speak in absolutes, and I find it distasteful because truly wise people know that nothing is ever black and white.

I am not responsible. I am not an alpha whatever. I am just a person who knows that nothing, especially looking from the surface, is ever what we think it is.

My only grouse with you is the fact that it took you all of ten seconds to pass judgment on a person who expressed their innermost thoughts so respectfully. That's bad.

Yawns...

pocohantas:


Yawns...

Time waster.