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~Xerxes~:
@ 4Him,

You got alot to learn, hombre.

we die the day we stop learning.

~Xerxes~:
Women are complex animal. . . . . . You'll never know with em.

how do you understand them when you keep them at arms length except to date them?

~Xerxes~:
How can u keep a female friend and have a girlfriend? Is that feasible.

very possible. The key is to learn how to manage your priorities. Your gf comes first, everyone else is just a friend and shld remain that. You keep male friends when you have a gf not so?

~Xerxes~:
Tell your female friend u are with your girlfriend and she oozes attitude within nanosecs. . . . .It's their mentality to be jealous. . . .You cannot do ZILCH about it, which is why its not even advisable to have female casual friends.

which is why 2 things are important - that the guy involved is mature enough to understand the difference between a gf and a friend and that the gf is mature enough to understand that trusting a man is a lot more than fretting over who he is with every second.

~Xerxes~:
I am able to look at a woman beyond her boobs? What are boobs? I have seen enough boobs in ma life to get jolted by a pair of chesticles.

good.

~Xerxes~:
All i am saying is women are so complex they even avoid themselves. . . . .Women would rather keep men as friends than a fellow woman.
Lust, Hate, Envy and Jealousy(the 4 devils) are all the characteristics of a woman so whats the point?
Time will tell as u develop n experience what i have experienced. . . .but for now, keep playing your PS3.

haha i've had more female friends than you've ever met and its been a most rewarding experience. I learn a great deal from them, when you begin to see them outside their gender but for their personality then u'll begin to understand. For now i'll say u're still being led primarily by your hormones.

JAMB score 220 6yrs ago. Best of luck folks.

~Xerxes~:
There's no feasible friendship between a man and a woman.

this is laughably untrue. Do you even know what friendship means?
Are you unable to look at a woman without seeing her boobs?

~Xerxes~:
And this is why u get heartbroken 24 times in a year.
There's no feasible friendship between a man and a woman.
The error people like u make is to muddle a friend with an acquaintance. . . . . .Nigerians cannot tell the difference and it's sad.
Someone u see/talk to once in a while is NOT your friend. . . . .

you're confusing yourself. Friendship has nothing to do with being heartbroken. Females can be just like males too, friends no strings attached. They come and they go . . . everyone learns one or two things from the other, no hard feelings.

Xerxes you have plenty of growing up to do. Women are not for dating only.

~Xerxes~:
Forget about what men can give in this kind of union. . . . .
What are the chics willing to give??

experience it first, u'd be surprised how much they have to give u. Intangible little things that you take for granted until they are no longer there.

~Xerxes~:
What i am saying is stop USING men to achieve your selfish goals.
If u really need protection, hire a bodyguard or DATE a man!!!!
Stop getting close to men because u need their protection while u give nuthing back. . .
That aint SYMBIOTIC. . . . .It's PARASITIC.

Its not parasitic, its perfectly normal.

earthrealm:
@4him talk 4 your self, beauty def lies in the eyes of the beholder,

there is a world of diff between FINE, OK, JUST OK, CUTE,,,,PRETTY, etc

the poster is just ok,

^{wll a little bit ok}

If you read my post VERY CAREFULLY you'd note that no where did i indicate i was speaking for none other but myself.
if you think she's just ok why dont you put your picture up and lets see if u're even any better than she looks.
Its always easy to shout from a position of anonymity.

give this girl credit, she's bold enough to put her face where her mouth is. Cant say the same for many ridiculing her eh.
The funny thing is she's actually fine.

Esss what if you both were married and she had to go away for 2 yrs? Your marriage would collapse?
Whether LDR's work or not is dependent on those involved, if you want it to work it will if not there's no point punishing urself.
If you both love urself then distance shld not be more than a mild irritant.

debosky:
it can be tough but it does work - but only with MAXIMUM effort. It also helps if you have spent significant time with the person in the same place for a period of time before long distance starts, or that you try to meet up as frequently as possible - once a year at the very minimum.

correct.

sometimes it does sometimes it doesnt that's why both parties who do so must go with eyes wide open to potential dangers lurking. Going almost 1 yr without seeing the girl u're supposed to be dating is not too cool . . . at least make a conscious effort to see her more often and spend quality time with her.

I dont blame the chic, once she found someone who could give her the physical touch she craved you became history. There was nothing she could remember you by besides emails and phone calls. e no easy sometimes but it works if both are determined and love each other enough.

looks like Busta's tried it and been burnt once eh.