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Re: "Why I Turned Down A Guy That Asked Me Out" - Twitter User by Daeylar(f): 10:26pm On Mar 20, 2019 |
nextstep: I'm a woman, I don't prefer persistent men. I'm taking "ask her out" in this instance to mean ask her on a date. There is a difference between no and "I don't want to go that place". "Or I can't make it this day", "or not yet" Or anything I can say that will show you that I would like to go out with you but the way you're asking won't get you that yet. No on the other hand is final. If I tell you no, I mean no. keep disturbing me after that and you become nothing more than an irritating pest. It leads me to start asking questions. If this guy doesn't respect me enough to walk away when I tell him that I am not interested. that means he doesn't respect me nor respect what I say. What kind of love or relationship can start from that? It also shows the markings of an abusive relationship in the making where the guy has no interest nor care for what I say and only goes after what he wants, even if I tell him that isn't what I want. What of relationship is that? Besides, There is no non verbal cues when I have used my mouth to say no. How can you still be looking for cues again when I have said no? 8 Likes |
Re: "Why I Turned Down A Guy That Asked Me Out" - Twitter User by Lovelife433(m): 10:30pm On Mar 20, 2019 |
now i understand when dey say not all women will get married. Keep forming i too hard to get, we have prayer point for there type. 6 Likes
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Re: "Why I Turned Down A Guy That Asked Me Out" - Twitter User by vikstandon(m): 10:34pm On Mar 20, 2019 |
MariaLavina: valuable things appear on grocery...because they are for use all year round...we can't do without them. Unreal things become too branded and isolated, that they get abandoned and rubbed with dust. 2 Likes |
Re: "Why I Turned Down A Guy That Asked Me Out" - Twitter User by Vcblinks(m): 10:48pm On Mar 20, 2019 |
Xaos:40 containers of beer 4 u,no time to waste time.even b4 i settled down.if i toast a lady and she refuses initially i move on and go my way.many ladies are in d market to catch.is small boys that stalk ladies ooh 5 Likes |
Re: "Why I Turned Down A Guy That Asked Me Out" - Twitter User by OgaBuhari: 11:42pm On Mar 20, 2019 |
MariaLavina:good things bawo? When u don't have anything to offer apart from your gonorrhea infested pussy. Will you shut up hoe. 5 Likes |
Re: "Why I Turned Down A Guy That Asked Me Out" - Twitter User by Ohraykon: 11:50pm On Mar 20, 2019 |
MariaLavina:mumu 1 Like |
Re: "Why I Turned Down A Guy That Asked Me Out" - Twitter User by Mart1994(m): 12:04am On Mar 21, 2019 |
MariaLavina:Are all ladies "good things"? 4 Likes |
Re: "Why I Turned Down A Guy That Asked Me Out" - Twitter User by Nobody: 12:07am On Mar 21, 2019 |
Canadianbreed01: I wonder. Na me go suffer pursue am, na me go dey spend money for her head. It doesn't make sense. 2 Likes |
Re: "Why I Turned Down A Guy That Asked Me Out" - Twitter User by Nobody: 12:12am On Mar 21, 2019 |
bugggg: A friend of mine toasted a girl for more than one year just because of sex. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "Why I Turned Down A Guy That Asked Me Out" - Twitter User by Lazyuth: 12:18am On Mar 21, 2019 |
MariaLavina: But what happens when you eventually chased a lady YOU WHOLEHEARTEDLY LOVE for approximately 3 years and She eventually left you, got married without even telling you Though I have forgiven her sha I make bold to say it that ONLY FEW LADIES ARE WORTH IT, I swear 6 Likes |
Re: "Why I Turned Down A Guy That Asked Me Out" - Twitter User by DonX001: 12:46am On Mar 21, 2019 |
TrumpDonald2:Gbam. My exact description. @the bolded part. 3 Likes |
Re: "Why I Turned Down A Guy That Asked Me Out" - Twitter User by Nobody: 12:51am On Mar 21, 2019 |
Daeylar: Well said. I am a gentleman and I believe that a no should be taken for a no. If a lady says no and has some other thing in mind, then, she got it all wrong. We humans have evolved higher than animals. Just as we won't force sex on women (like fowls), we should also not force them to accept our love. The raw biological instincts are being mellowed by our modern civilised minds that understand that people's feelings should be respected. 2 Likes |
Re: "Why I Turned Down A Guy That Asked Me Out" - Twitter User by DonX001: 12:56am On Mar 21, 2019 |
nextstep: I find it difficult to believe that a guy would still reason like this in this day and time. In fact, are you sure you're actually a guy? ...I'm suspecting you might be a woman masquerading as a guy on Nairaland. But if you're a guy sha...no offence intended. Its different strokes for different folks, so you're entitled to your opinion. I'm just really surprised, that's all. 6 Likes |
Re: "Why I Turned Down A Guy That Asked Me Out" - Twitter User by Nobody: 12:57am On Mar 21, 2019 |
Mart1994:Better put, "Are all hard-to-get ladies 'good things'?" 3 Likes |
Re: "Why I Turned Down A Guy That Asked Me Out" - Twitter User by Gentleziggy(m): 1:25am On Mar 21, 2019 |
She wanted him to try harder, u b network? 3 Likes |
Re: "Why I Turned Down A Guy That Asked Me Out" - Twitter User by Gentleziggy(m): 1:35am On Mar 21, 2019 |
Vcblinks:mmmmmm my chairman!!!. I cannot waste my time, resources, energy on any girl who feel u have to go through hell before she accepts your proposals 3 Likes |
Re: "Why I Turned Down A Guy That Asked Me Out" - Twitter User by Gentleziggy(m): 1:38am On Mar 21, 2019 |
Shawncavendish:chaaiiiii that guy get patience n perseverance ooo.but did he finally succeed? 1 Like |
Re: "Why I Turned Down A Guy That Asked Me Out" - Twitter User by nextstep(m): 3:36am On Mar 21, 2019 |
DonX001: Guy fam... there's still a lot of guys like me out there who enjoy the game, and get bored with easy lays. |
Re: "Why I Turned Down A Guy That Asked Me Out" - Twitter User by nextstep(m): 4:05am On Mar 21, 2019 |
Daeylar: No offense, but the first rule of understanding women is not take what they "say" literally. How many times have you heard a woman say one thing, then do the opposite? I can never date X, and you see her with X. I can never do such, but guess what... BTW, second rule is "don't discount what she says, but pay more attention to how she's feeling". With that out of the way: Perhaps I should rephrase my sentence on persistence to be: Women want persistent men (as long as the woman is interested). She will put roadblocks to test his sincerity and will throw up shiit tests in order to weed out the weaker suitors. Again, if a guy reads your non-verbal cues and gets a negative, he should stop, or switch up his approach, or just put his game with you on pause for a week or two... I'm not advocating harassment or being a pest. A man with choices never becomes a pest, and there are way more women to date for a guy to become obsessive over just one. There's a lot of cues in the way you say "No"... even you alluded to it when you said: "There is a difference between no and "I don't want to go that place". "Or I can't make it this day", "or not yet" Or anything I can say that will show you that I would like to go out with you but the way you're asking won't get you that yet. As our OP said, she didn't really mean "no, go away or I will pepper spray", she said "no, try again in a different way", but her suitor only heard the "No", and didn't understand the remaining (unsaid) part of that phrase. A persistent (well-adjusted and socially aware) person would understand what the lady was saying, adjust accordingly, and try again. That's what I mean by persistent - not the clueless guy pushing you to your breaking point. I also want to briefly address the "man does not care for what I want in a relationship". You're right, those men do exist, they really are selfish jerks, and it's wise to avoid them from the get-go. At the same time, we can all tell the difference between a narcissist, and somebody who just needs a little more experience in understanding social cues. This stuff can get really deep, and I spent the better part of a decade learning, practicing, and teaching, and its fascinating how we all react the same... just like automatically smiling or nodding slightly when somebody says something we like; or furrowing our brows or crossing our arms when we encounter concepts we don't agree with. It's cool to watch body language during courtship/toasting. There's a ton of material on this natural subconscious phenomenon, and I'm just providing the tip of the iceberg, but feel free to google "shiit test" or "body language" if you're interested in the psychology of it: https://www.toddvdating.com/pass-shit-test/ https://www.menprovement.com/why-women-test-men/ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201110/reading-basic-body-language-dating-and-persuasion-success |
Re: "Why I Turned Down A Guy That Asked Me Out" - Twitter User by ecstasy357(m): 7:29am On Mar 21, 2019 |
kayjay69: You have done justice to the nail. Let all those who have eyes to read, let them read. |
Re: "Why I Turned Down A Guy That Asked Me Out" - Twitter User by Barristter07: 7:32am On Mar 21, 2019 |
MariaLavina:With these reasoning, your type can fall into the hands of Players, Silly Players who needed to get into your pants won't care if you say no, he has a mission . and will keep persisting so he could say later ' on top all the shakara , I do am ' . You Ladies need to be careful 4 Likes |
Re: "Why I Turned Down A Guy That Asked Me Out" - Twitter User by luvyaself95(m): 7:43am On Mar 21, 2019 |
Masterace:She will go Crazy... |
Re: "Why I Turned Down A Guy That Asked Me Out" - Twitter User by luvyaself95(m): 7:57am On Mar 21, 2019 |
nextstep:I hope you didn't marry Olosho 1 Like |
Re: "Why I Turned Down A Guy That Asked Me Out" - Twitter User by sirtonyanaele: 7:58am On Mar 21, 2019 |
musictori:next time u have learnt ur lesson |
Re: "Why I Turned Down A Guy That Asked Me Out" - Twitter User by luvyaself95(m): 8:02am On Mar 21, 2019 |
Daeylar:That what Real Guys Do, You say No No need trying again... 2 Likes |
Re: "Why I Turned Down A Guy That Asked Me Out" - Twitter User by luvyaself95(m): 8:06am On Mar 21, 2019 |
Shawncavendish:After all Na The Girl Lose... 2 Likes |
Re: "Why I Turned Down A Guy That Asked Me Out" - Twitter User by Raalsalghul: 8:11am On Mar 21, 2019 |
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Re: "Why I Turned Down A Guy That Asked Me Out" - Twitter User by Nobody: 8:31am On Mar 21, 2019 |
Gentleziggy: Yes. They became fuckmates but I don't know if the girl was aware that the guy was only interested in her puna. |
Re: "Why I Turned Down A Guy That Asked Me Out" - Twitter User by Nobody: 8:33am On Mar 21, 2019 |
luvyaself95:Very true. |
Re: "Why I Turned Down A Guy That Asked Me Out" - Twitter User by Anfieldboss: 10:34am On Mar 21, 2019 |
TrumpDonald2: This is me exactly. I value my respect alot 3 Likes |
Re: "Why I Turned Down A Guy That Asked Me Out" - Twitter User by nextstep(m): 3:49pm On Mar 21, 2019 |
luvyaself95: Since Nigeria is filled with olosho, the chances of marrying one is very high. 2 Likes |
Re: "Why I Turned Down A Guy That Asked Me Out" - Twitter User by luvyaself95(m): 4:20pm On Mar 21, 2019 |
nextstep:Na The Reason I Dey Ask Him Be That And Refuse To Answer... |
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