Marriage26:



It's against my faith bro. God had been arranging my life for me since, and this is one of God's institutions , I have to follow his rule..

naturefellow:


I hereby endorse the bolded lines in this post. Some fathers can be very antagonistic when they lack financial power or influence in the lives of their children, especially in affairs like wedding. I've experienced it before. It's a extreme hypocrisy. Such are ordinary churchgoers with no true love in their hearts!

Fathers are available for hire in Lagos. In as much as you respect your dad, don't allow him to have a field day in this matter. It's your life, he's lived his. Get on with it with or w/out his support. Best of luck in your next move!

deltateam:


I respect your faith but the issue is that many people rush into marriage without thinking of some scenarios first.

Remember its for better for worse. In a situation you marry and didn't have children (God forbid).

I hope you won't be disappointed. You may plan ahead for adoption.

Marriage26:



My papa no get emotion o... We were brought up with iron hands, bro, the matter pass Abacha regime. He's a dictator... Impregnating before wedding is against my faith but he's surface Christian, and by the way, while growing up, he beats us for not remembering church sermon.


I have met him severally, he never gave any reason, also in the history of the family, I am the first person that want to pay a lady bride price before pregnancy or living together or attempting wedding...

Marriage26:
Good day nairalander,

I am a popular jingo nairalander but got to hide under this moniker...


I have been dating my fiancee for the past 7 years, she had met my parents and I have met her's many times . We planned to get married earlier year. But it was the year my mother left this planet, I informed my family I wanted to get married but they declined, saying, it must be over years of mumsy's demise before I can marry.


We've fixed introduction days 3ice and it got cancelled by my father, what's his reason?


1. NYSC: I was posted to serve in the Northern part of the country 3 years ago, I went to camp, but I couldn't cope with the weather and couldn't leave my business as NYSC won't guarantee me job and I don't have other option. I absconded from the service and faced my business which I saved profits in 7 digits in same year, God made me comfortable.

2: He said I should rather impregnate the girl (backdoor talk)



I am close to my late 20s, he already banned all family members as many depend on him from attending my introduction.

He cancelled my introduction without fixing a new date.

My in-law trust me and ready to release the lady to me as I haven't had sex with her since 2012 that we've been dating...


And Also, God had supplied all I needed for my wedding from A-Z.



Do you think this is a cogent reason?. I want to ahead with my wedding plans...


Kindly advise....Thanks

Phonix16:

OP get her pregnant we igbo's do it alot n ur Dad will bless ur union

Marriage26:




Oh, so reasons many people were complaining?. I said "Earlier year".


Year that had passed . Not " early this year".

SageMK:
Your dad is being unreasonable.

However, no matter how irrelevant it may seem to you, you need his blessings. Don't take this shít for granted.

Talk to him once again or ask his friends to talk to him.

If he still wants you to get her pregnant before marriage then that means he is harbouring fears about fertility.

So show him your fertility results and make him at ease.

If he's still being unreasonable, go ahead.
You have my ancestors blessings.

Marriage26:


I have, they spoke to him and he banned them from attending.....

I haven't discussed my next steps with any family members yet.


He's the family breadwinner


If you are richer than my dad, he will never walk with you.

If he can't talk to you anyhow, he will never walk with you.


When we talk of parents blessings, what about my mum that is no more, or people without parents...

Marriage26:



It's against my faith bro. God had been arranging my life for me since, and this is one of God's institutions , I have to follow his rule..

Blingblings:
Am not sure your dad wants your progress.. Freestyle that man and do your thing. Your dad is a sadist, possibly diabolic. Its obvious he's not happy because you don't depend on him. He wants everyone to be under him. Something else dey involved.

Btw, how did your mum die, are you still sure him no use her for sacrifice??

OgogoroFreak:
What do you expect from your dad when you choose to marry a public toilet for a wife?

Your Dad simply wants you to impregnate the olosho first cos he suspect the bitch has no womb - the reason she didn't let you fvck since 2012 you met her.

Weytin old man dey see from where he sitdown, small boy no fit see am even if he climb mountain.

Florblu:
Marry your wife legally,don't get her pregnant.

Ignore your dad, he will still come around

Donald3d:

I got married recently, I am probably much younger than you are, I was practically in your shoes .
I wouldn't want to give to much details, because privacy is important, but I would say this :
No matter what happens, stand your ground, there is only so much resistance a father can give no matter how strict he is or thinks he is .
I didn't give her belle, I married her because she was a gem I couldn't afford to lose.The kind of girl you only see in fairy tales .
If your wife to be is that kind of girl, don't lose her because of your father's decision.You would regret it for the rest of your life. Just be sure she is worth the fight, if she is. STAND YOUR GROUND.You are a man .

Try and find diplomatic ways to resolve it, pray also a whole lot, you have no idea how much prayers can move mountains.Every man has a weak point, find your father's weak point and use it against him, play the fool if you have to and at the end of the day the end goal is getting your wife.

If the drama gets too much she might leave you, trust me, women don't like too much drama no matter how much they love you, especially in this case when she has been with you this long.

If your father is still "doing strong head", please go to your in-laws collect the list and pay her dowry . You already said they trust you. She is marrying you and not your father, from what you said, its not like he doesn't like the girl, he just wants to be stubborn. But I know he would come around, find his weak point and use it against him and win him over, that's what I did.

Don't suffer a life time of regret losing the love of your life because you couldn't stand up to your father.This is one of of your first tests of being a true man.Please pass it
Marriage26

UPDATE : Since you are Christian consider this bible passage. I reminded myself of it almost everyday :
The king's heart is in the hand of the Lord, as the rivers of water: he turneth it whithersoever he will. Prov 21 VS 1
Make sure you and bae pray and fast fervently together. No battle is insurmountable as long as the person no be God, there is a solution.

Lopeztranto:
In anything you do, remember you need your father's blessings.. Your still young..so keep doubling your money and explain to ur bae. Besides I feel your dad is right..give it 2yrs at least..

Just talking my talk ooo

donfeluche:
if truely you are a Christian read this verse( Act 5:29) since your dad has no other reasonable reason's to give you, please go ahead with your wedding the only person that can stop or you will fear is God Almighty, and as far as you are doing exactly what he ask you to do in the Holy scripture, please go ahead with your plans. impregnating a girl b4 marriage makes your child a bastard. believe it or not, if you get married and your wife can not get pregnant there are other modern means to get her pregnant. Be strong, be courageous and above all put your trust in God not in mortals, that have tendencies to disappoint at any given time

Marriage26:
Good day nairalander,

I am a popular jingo nairalander but got to hide under this moniker...


I have been dating my fiancee for the past 7 years, she had met my parents and I have met her's many times . We planned to get married earlier year. But it was the year my mother left this planet, I informed my family I wanted to get married but they declined, saying, it must be over years of mumsy's demise before I can marry.


We've fixed introduction days 3ice and it got cancelled by my father, what's his reason?


1. NYSC: I was posted to serve in the Northern part of the country 3 years ago, I went to camp, but I couldn't cope with the weather and couldn't leave my business as NYSC won't guarantee me job and I don't have other option. I absconded from the service and faced my business which I saved profits in 7 digits in same year, God made me comfortable.

2: He said I should rather impregnate the girl (backdoor talk)



I am close to my late 20s, he already banned all family members as many depend on him from attending my introduction.

He cancelled my introduction without fixing a new date.

My in-law trust me and ready to release the lady to me as I haven't had sex with her since 2012 that we've been dating...


And Also, God had supplied all I needed for my wedding from A-Z.



Do you think this is a cogent reason?. I want to ahead with my wedding plans...


Kindly advise....Thanks

donfeluche:
if truely you are a Christian read this verse( Act 5:29) since your dad has no other reasonable reason's to give you, please go ahead with your wedding the only person that can stop or you will fear is God Almighty, and as far as you are doing exactly what he ask you to do in the Holy scripture, please go ahead with your plans. impregnating a girl b4 marriage makes your child a bastard. believe it or not, if you get married and your wife can not get pregnant there are other modern means to get her pregnant. Be strong, be courageous and above all put your trust in God not in mortals, that have tendencies to disappoint at any given time

Donald3d:

I got married recently, I am probably much younger than you are, I was practically in your shoes .
I wouldn't want to give to much details, because privacy is important, but I would say this :
No matter what happens, stand your ground, there is only so much resistance a father can give no matter how strict he is or thinks he is .
I didn't give her belle, I married her because she was a gem I couldn't afford to lose.The kind of girl you only see in fairy tales .
If your wife to be is that kind of girl, don't lose her because of your father's decision.You would regret it for the rest of your life. Just be sure she is worth the fight, if she is. STAND YOUR GROUND.You are a man .

Try and find diplomatic ways to resolve it, pray also a whole lot, you have no idea how much prayers can move mountains.Every man has a weak point, find your father's weak point and use it against him, play the fool if you have to and at the end of the day the end goal is getting your wife.

If the drama gets too much she might leave you, trust me, women don't like too much drama no matter how much they love you, especially in this case when she has been with you this long.

If your father is still "doing strong head", please go to your in-laws collect the list and pay her dowry . You already said they trust you. She is marrying you and not your father, from what you said, its not like he doesn't like the girl, he just wants to be stubborn. But I know he would come around, find his weak point and use it against him and win him over, that's what I did.

Don't suffer a life time of regret losing the love of your life because you couldn't stand up to your father.This is one of of your first tests of being a true man.Please pass it
Marriage26

UPDATE : Since you are Christian consider this bible passage. I reminded myself of it almost everyday :
The king's heart is in the hand of the Lord, as the rivers of water: he turneth it whithersoever he will. Prov 21 VS 1
Make sure you and bae pray and fast fervently together. No battle is insurmountable as long as the person no be God, there is a solution.