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Re: How Do I Get Over a Four Year Relationship. Please Help Me by Aaaaarghmed(m): 4:45pm On May 16
Wow...am passing thru d same tin too....4 years relatio ship and we were planning on going for introduction before year end.Hmmm,she broke up with me because of a minor quarell.Its not gonna be easy bro but just try to man up and improve yourself. My woman broke up with me last month on my birthday and blocked me on Whatsapp and calls,after apologising she refused to agree and I let her be.Anywhere u are ,u would come begging me one day I assure you, I promise u.

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Re: How Do I Get Over a Four Year Relationship. Please Help Me by Gospeltruth01: 4:54pm On May 16
united442:
Op i have a thousands of words with millions of advise to give you but really cant type themgrin

so i take God beg you while on my keens,if its going to take you the entire month to read this links and every single comment, please do, take you being an introvert as an advantage to read them "thoroughly" cause there are alot of wise comment/advise that will guild you..the answers you seek are all there..

i made a comment in this link, look for my moniker on d first page and please go through it.
https://www.nairaland.com/5186025/how-survive-seeing-ex-girlfriend-campus#78384200

this was my post when i lost my gf,similar to what transpire between you and you gf..there are alot of wise comment/advise that helped megrin
https://www.nairaland.com/5012212/emotionally-heart-broken...please-me


This will also guild you about other people,your next relationship,never to trust too much,learn to make yourself happy and always learn to walk alone in life.
https://www.nairaland.com/4189254/words-wisdom-experience-surely-need


o.p na so i fit help you ooogrin
does who have ear's,let dem heargrin
for you to know the road ahead,ask those coming back!

#drop_micgrin
Thank you so much.
I will go through them
Re: How Do I Get Over a Four Year Relationship. Please Help Me by Biglittlelois(f): 5:20pm On May 16
It took me 3 months to get over a 5 year relationship, I hope yours won't be much longer, you will be fine dude, it's part of life's experiences.

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Re: How Do I Get Over a Four Year Relationship. Please Help Me by Mariangeles: 5:23pm On May 16
Aaaaarghmed:
Wow...am passing thru d same tin too....4 years relatio ship and we were planning on going for introduction before year end.Hmmm,she broke up with me because of a minor quarell.Its not gonna be easy bro but just try to man up and improve yourself. My woman broke up with me last month on my birthday and blocked me on Whatsapp and calls,after apologising she refused to agree and I let her be.Anywhere u are ,u would come begging me one day I assure you, I promise u.
Sorry man.

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Re: How Do I Get Over a Four Year Relationship. Please Help Me by francisduru: 5:27pm On May 16
Move on OK. I got over 10 years relationship

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Re: How Do I Get Over a Four Year Relationship. Please Help Me by Bossjakande: 5:37pm On May 16
Biglittlelois:
It took me 3 months to get over a 5 year relationship, I hope yours won't be much longer, you will be fine dude, it's part of life's experiences.
gosh I think u deserve beta dear it not worth it why be in pains wen u can be happy. dont be depress dear did u need a friend to lean on. I care lot
Re: How Do I Get Over a Four Year Relationship. Please Help Me by Logobenz: 5:38pm On May 16
chinchonglee:
Borrow 500k wit ur father's landed property.

Go to quilox.

Buy 2 ace of spades and one henessy vsop..

Drink some nd pour some on d floor.

Wen dey bring ur bills, i swear d heartbreak will runnaway..

omg!!!
Never laughed so hard.you deserve an award grin grin grin

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Re: How Do I Get Over a Four Year Relationship. Please Help Me by united442(m): 5:40pm On May 16
Biglittlelois:
It took me 3 months to get over a 5 year relationship, I hope yours won't be much longer, you will be fine dude, it's part of life's experiences.

guess simply because you are a lady,
having other options beside himgrin
you dnt even need to get hurt that much if you broke the relationship,
you dnt sacrifices too much in the relationship,
you are a Bleep-girlgrin..
am 70% sure you were still having someone else within that 3months of recoverygrin
jst guessing oogrin

its not going to easy for him being an introvert.
going into another relationship isn't going to be easy, the time,energy,finance, trust and other stuff he needs 2 channel in 2 build a new relationship.
Re: How Do I Get Over a Four Year Relationship. Please Help Me by united442(m): 5:42pm On May 16
Bossjakande:
gosh I think u deserve beta dear it not worth it why be in pains wen u can be happy. dont be depress dear did u need a friend to lean on. I care lot

NA DEM BE THIS OOOHgrin

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Re: How Do I Get Over a Four Year Relationship. Please Help Me by Logobenz: 5:43pm On May 16
ibkayee:

Take heart dear.

Did the issue you had genuinely warrant you not speaking to her for 2 weeks? What was the issue about?

Sounds like she[b][/b] was already checked out of the relationship and used that as an excuse [b][/b]or your ghosting her was unwarranted and during that time she did indeed learn to live without you.

That’s the thing about disappearing on people, they usually either obsess over you or realise they’re perfectly ok without you.

I don’t know the details of what happened between you so I can’t say much else at the moment. Knowing what you disappeared on her for will really help.

Also, have you ignored her for that long before? Has she done the same to you?



exactly.
My mom always say to her sons;
Nwanyi choba e bawa oso unu diya,o choba akuko meaning when a woman wants to run away from her husband's house,she start finding excuses wink

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Re: How Do I Get Over a Four Year Relationship. Please Help Me by NwanyiAwkaetiti(f): 5:46pm On May 16
Aaaaarghmed:
Wow...am passing thru d same tin too....4 years relatio ship and we were planning on going for introduction before year end.Hmmm,she broke up with me because of a minor quarell.Its not gonna be easy bro but just try to man up and improve yourself. My woman broke up with me last month on my birthday and blocked me on Whatsapp and calls,after apologising she refused to agree and I let her be.Anywhere u are ,u would come begging me one day I assure you, I promise u.
This is deep. I'm sure she has her reasons for breaking up with you. Just forgive and move on.

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Re: How Do I Get Over a Four Year Relationship. Please Help Me by Aaaaarghmed(m): 5:47pm On May 16
Mariangeles:
Sorry man.
thanks,am good
Re: How Do I Get Over a Four Year Relationship. Please Help Me by Biglittlelois(f): 5:59pm On May 16
united442:


guess simply because you are a lady,
having other options beside himgrin
you dnt even need to get hurt that much if you broke the relationship,
you dnt sacrifices too much in the relationship,
you are a Bleep-girlgrin..
am 70% sure you were still having someone else within that 3months of recoverygrin
jst guessing oogrin

its not going to easy for him being an introvert.
going into another relationship isn't going to be easy, the time,energy,finance, trust and other stuff he needs 2 channel in 2 build a new relationship.

Next time, when you want to guess about someone else's relationship, especially one you don't know from Adam, let the guessing end in your head, particularly in your brain, or you do your guess work without mentioning me, that way, all others will see the stupidity of your guess work.

Now 3 months is an ideal length of time to get over a heart break, when it's getting to 6 months to a year, it becomes an obsession, which brings in negative thoughts like wanting to seek revenge or harm the "heart breaker", which in itself is not healthy, hence my first comment, hints to him allowing himself to hurt for 3 months give or take,

I remember this your moniker very well, especially when you created a thread regarding your girl leaving you, go and check my comment there, now read my comment multiple times, memorise it till it becomes a memory verse, then use it in your next relationship, so that you won't be docile and a sissy on your next woman quest.

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Re: How Do I Get Over a Four Year Relationship. Please Help Me by flokii: 6:03pm On May 16
Eyah.. na this kind situation oyinbo dey talk say 'hit the rocks'

My sincere condolences
Re: How Do I Get Over a Four Year Relationship. Please Help Me by ericsmith: 6:50pm On May 16
ibkayee:

Ok so you were the only one going out of your way to be the bigger person after disagreements and you were just trying to see if she would be the one to step up for a change?

If that’s the case, maybe your break up is low key a good thing? Breakups are tough but going by what you’ve said, who wants to be in a relationship where they’re constantly taking the blame for everything, just for the sake of ‘peace’? That sounds exhausting.
Getting over her probably won’t be a quick thing unfortunately, but it may help if you surround yourself with friends and do things to occupy yourself so it’s not all you’re thinking about. It’s not easy but it tends to get better with time.


with someone like you around maybe i can rest, see as you bake sense put for ground, anymore words from you i swear i might av a boner ..
Re: How Do I Get Over a Four Year Relationship. Please Help Me by united442(m): 7:17pm On May 16
hahahahahagrin

was only jokinggggrin

i do see ur comments,but never seen you make a very lengthy comment like thisgrin
culdn't even defend any of the above list i gavegrin
guess i must have hit you so hardgringrin..lolxx


Biglittlelois:


Now 3 months is an ideal length of time to get over a heart break, when it's getting to 6 months to a year, it becomes an obsession, which brings in negative thoughts like wanting to seek revenge or harm the "heart breaker", which in itself is not healthy, hence my first comment, hints to him allowing himself to hurt for 3 months give or take,

you sound very dumb and pathetic with this..

VERY VERY WRONG!!!

not everyone is like you..

even obsession and wanting to seek revenge is also part of the feelings,also part of the recovery process..85% of people are likely going to experience that feelings especially if the sacrifices way too much in the relationship.

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Re: How Do I Get Over a Four Year Relationship. Please Help Me by Biglittlelois(f): 8:05pm On May 16
united442:
hahahahahagrin

was only jokinggggrin

i do see ur comments,but never seen you make a very lengthy comment like thisgrin
culdn't even defend any of the above list i gavegrin
guess i must have hit you so hardgringrin..lolxx




you sound very dumb and pathetic with this..

VERY VERY WRONG!!!

not everyone is like you..

even obsession and wanting to seek revenge is also part of the feelings,also part of the recovery process..85% of people are likely going to experience that feelings especially if the sacrifices way too much in the relationship.

Like I said, go back to my comment on your thread, memorise, ponder and sleep on it, that way you wont sound so dumb and behave like a sissy when getting over a relationship.

This is my last response to you.
Re: How Do I Get Over a Four Year Relationship. Please Help Me by Airtimex(m): 8:09pm On May 16
united442:


a very short comment with millions of meanings and only the experienced and wise one will understand especially you first 2 paragraphgrin

you sound very wise,nice and very thoughtful of you..

hat off for you man..


You are good bro...tnx kiss
Re: How Do I Get Over a Four Year Relationship. Please Help Me by united442(m): 8:34pm On May 16
Biglittlelois:


Like I said, go back to my comment on your thread, memorise, ponder and sleep on it, that way you wont sound so dumb and behave like a sissy when getting over a relationship.

This is my last response to you.

lolxxx....hahaha..got u pant downgringrin

Biglittlelois grin..am one of your fan ohgrin

we dnt have to beef nahgrin

beside,u take shitty things 2 personal and too seriousgrin

anyway,thanks for your comment wen i was emotionally downgrin but i dnt have 2 memorise it okaygrin

am stronger nowgrin 'NO' thanks to yousad

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Re: How Do I Get Over a Four Year Relationship. Please Help Me by ThothHermes: 8:36pm On May 16
You be mumu. You no even shame to write this kind thing.

Tueh!!!

Ask your parents and hear what they'll say.
Re: How Do I Get Over a Four Year Relationship. Please Help Me by SmellingAnus(m): 8:41pm On May 16
united442:
Op i have a thousands of words with millions of advise to give you but really cant type themgrin

so i take God beg you while on my keens,if its going to take you the entire month to read this links and every single comment, please do, take you being an introvert as an advantage to read them "thoroughly" cause there are alot of wise comment/advise that will guild you..the answers you seek are all there..

i made a comment in this link, look for my moniker on d first page and please go through it.
https://www.nairaland.com/5186025/how-survive-seeing-ex-girlfriend-campus#78384200

this was my post when i lost my gf,similar to what transpire between you and you gf..there are alot of wise comment/advise that helped megrin
https://www.nairaland.com/5012212/emotionally-heart-broken...please-me


This will also guild you about other people,your next relationship,never to trust too much,learn to make yourself happy and always learn to walk alone in life.
https://www.nairaland.com/4189254/words-wisdom-experience-surely-need


o.p na so i fit help you ooogrin
does who have ear's,let dem heargrin
for you to know the road ahead,ask those coming back!

#drop_micgrin
Wow... I am happy to know that my diary about " WORDS OF WISDOM MADE A POSITIVE IMPACT ON YOU..." THEY SAY THE SECRET OF GREAT MEN ARE IN THEIR STORIES...

IT IS IGNORANCE THAT WILL MAKE SOMEONE NOT TO KNOW THAT THE ROAD HE IS CURRENTLY PASSING THROUGH, SOMEONE ELSE HAS PASSED THROUGH THAT SAME ROAD...

Gospeltruth01 just go through that thread and be wise... When you come out from this current heartbreak , let those words of wisdom sink in you...
Re: How Do I Get Over a Four Year Relationship. Please Help Me by Bulletproof: 8:45pm On May 16
Gospeltruth01:
We’re absolutely in the same position..She isn’t hurting at all, she’s become very cold hearted to me. Seems she’s been waiting for this to happen and I just know deep down it won’t get better and even talking to her now about it she doesn’t even make mention of it getting better at all.. I happen to be an introvert only child with very little friends so basically I’m bottling everything inside me and that’s what’s killing me the most because she’s been the one who has been my best friend who I talk to about everything for the past four years now. I think you’re even a step ahead of me because you know you deserve more, unfortunately I know I deserve more but it’s vague in my eyes right now because in the past 6months I’ve been treated like poo and called poo so bad that it gets to me that I began thinking less of myself. And that’s one reason why I ended it too, couldn’t continue with someone who thinks and calls me a dimwit and a disappointment at the slightest provocation...

And one tiny little bit of me now is still hoping she realizes and fix things. Never in my life have I accepted to be a weakling but with her I’m weak and pains me more because I don’t know how I came this far

Guy the way you dey talk like this sooo.

Nor go drink sniper o.


Life pass babe matter o...
Re: How Do I Get Over a Four Year Relationship. Please Help Me by united442(m): 9:05pm On May 16
SmellingAnus:
Wow... I am happy to know that my diary about " WORDS OF WISDOM MADE A POSITIVE IMPACT ON YOU..." THEY SAY THE SECRET OF GREAT MEN ARE IN THEIR STORIES...

IT IS IGNORANCE THAT WILL MAKE SOMEONE NOT TO KNOW THAT THE ROAD HE IS CURRENTLY PASSING THROUGH, SOMEONE ELSE HAS PASSED THROUGH THAT SAME ROAD...

Gospeltruth01 just go through that thread and be wise... When you come out from this current heartbreak , let those words of wisdom sink in you...


dude at a time, your post of WORDS OF WISDOM became my national anthemgrin

everything in that post is bleeping real and true..

hat off for you man.
Re: How Do I Get Over a Four Year Relationship. Please Help Me by SmellingAnus(m): 9:13pm On May 16
united442:


dude at a time, your post of WORDS OF WISDOM became my national anthemgrin

everything in that post is bleeping real and true..

hat off for you man.
haahahhaah good to know bro... Happy for you... Keep it up...
Re: How Do I Get Over a Four Year Relationship. Please Help Me by themaestro08: 9:32pm On May 16
Niyoda:
I was going to create a thread on how to move on from a 4 year long relationship this morning but decided to just keep my hurt to myself.
Everything in your post seem like what happened between my boyfriend and i.
The only difference is i know he's not hurting. He has a very cold heart.

I'm hurting badly and don't even have anyone to talk to as he's the only one i tell stuffs. I'm always thinking about him but the only consolation for me is i know i deserve more.
am passing through a bumpy road just because of a lady.
Re: How Do I Get Over a Four Year Relationship. Please Help Me by themaestro08: 9:35pm On May 16
Gospeltruth01:
We’re absolutely in the same position..She isn’t hurting at all, she’s become very cold hearted to me. Seems she’s been waiting for this to happen and I just know deep down it won’t get better and even talking to her now about it she doesn’t even make mention of it getting better at all.. I happen to be an introvert only child with very little friends so basically I’m bottling everything inside me and that’s what’s killing me the most because she’s been the one who has been my best friend who I talk to about everything for the past four years now. I think you’re even a step ahead of me because you know you deserve more, unfortunately I know I deserve more but it’s vague in my eyes right now because in the past 6months I’ve been treated like poo and called poo so bad that it gets to me that I began thinking less of myself. And that’s one reason why I ended it too, couldn’t continue with someone who thinks and calls me a dimwit and a disappointment at the slightest provocation...

And one tiny little bit of me now is still hoping she realizes and fix things. Never in my life have I accepted to be a weakling but with her I’m weak and pains me more because I don’t know how I came this far
man am passing through this mess right now, its terrible, we shall pass this phase.

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Re: How Do I Get Over a Four Year Relationship. Please Help Me by themaestro08: 9:37pm On May 16
evil1:
dont worry bro with tym u will get over it.
u re simply attached to her cos u hv stayed too long in a particular zone.
my situation is somehow similar to that of op, need your advice.
Re: How Do I Get Over a Four Year Relationship. Please Help Me by ultimate77(m): 9:38pm On May 16
Niyoda:
I was going to create a thread on how to move on from a 4 year long relationship this morning but decided to just keep my hurt to myself.
Everything in your post seem like what happened between my boyfriend and i.
The only difference is i know he's not hurting. He has a very cold heart.

I'm hurting badly and don't even have anyone to talk to as he's the only one i tell stuffs. I'm always thinking about him but the only consolation for me is i know i deserve more.

You can talk to me.. Be my babe, just let me help you heal.

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Re: How Do I Get Over a Four Year Relationship. Please Help Me by Originalsly: 9:50pm On May 16
Seems like you are somehow hoping that you can be together again. Don't look at it as a lost...but as a gain. It is a learning experience... not one to mourn. Look back... what signs did you miss?... were you even paying attention?... nothing in life is guaranteed so always save that little for disappointment such as this. It's called heartbreak.... very common.... but the thing is how you deal with it. What if you got married... then she pretty much dumped you?...see this also as a blessing in disguise. There are others out there wayyyy better.... socialize... make new friends.... eventually you will make that connection.

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Re: How Do I Get Over a Four Year Relationship. Please Help Me by chinchonglee: 11:17pm On May 16
Logobenz:
omg!!!
Never laughed so hard.you deserve an award grin grin grin
Lol...but na fact ooo
Re: How Do I Get Over a Four Year Relationship. Please Help Me by Hisduchess(f): 12:17am On May 17
heartbreaks makes you emotionally very strong.still remembered how I joblessly cried then,to sleep at night nah wahala I go dey cry,funny enough I went completely silent after that and moved on with my life,setting better goals for myself while guarding my heart preciously.so poster just cry,as in cry wella but make it snappy and move on with ur life whilst being more careful about this love matters.
Re: How Do I Get Over a Four Year Relationship. Please Help Me by YoungBlackRico(m): 4:10am On May 17
Don't even know what to say to you, it's definitely not going to be easy. Because, even if you do manage to get rid of anything and everything that can remind you of her, you sure as hell can never get rid of the memories shared. That, will always haunt you!

Whatever you do though, 'never set her as a standard for your future relationship'. Maybe that way you can at least move on with the believe that there's someone better out there. Best of lucks bro!

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