TFLAME:


This is Nigeria And that kind of action is not strange !!

It’s not new . Yeah rude , she could have just told the girl to join her in the kitchen .right ? But that’s rude too ? This is Nigeria , mother in-laws do that to test manners . Behavior , etc .. even if she pass all the test , it doesn’t mean she’ll be a good wife .. but the sweeping stunt is one of the old tricks in the mother in-laws book . So I don’t see why you are acting like it’s strange . But it’s normal to collect the broom from a grown woman , mother in-law or not . At least you offer to help . She won’t die if she had asked to assist the woman . It’s not big deal

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Why sweep when u have a visitor?

djon78:



My girl i was planning to marry slept over in my parents house, she was served food, when she finished, she didn't remove plate, in the morning woke up did nothing.

My parents never ever agreed for me to marry her, they said she wasn't raised well.
And I warned her to behave herself, but she said she no send.

You may say that the elders are overbearing, but they are right. We have so many women today who say they no send, but if you look deeper you will see serious character deficiency.

habsydiamond:
the mum wants to know if the girl get A1 for home training but unfortunately, na F9 she get which means she will retake the course next semester

joyberry:
Test ko test ni,so if the girl collects the broom,she is a wife material? Based on what her ability to sweep,is that the basics for marriage, All these so called tests sef,i never heard of multi-millionaires doing such, its always the struggling ones.Who even sweeps when guests are around sef?its rude and shows the guests he or she aint wanted, if the girl is a regular at the house ,fine thats different but a first-time visitor haba sef?
All these guys on this thread, if u go to your gf house and the father starts to wash his car in ur presence will u join him to wash the car?I don't get the act of degrading or putting some tru certain tests cos he or she wants to marry your child. That why many people pretend tru out courtship to put up with their potential in-laws unnecessary tests, and unleash their true colours in marriage .

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Lol. Not a conclusive test of character if u ask me

guru03:

The good thing was that we parted ways out such attitude and today its history.

sweetrace:
The lady in question has great self esteem. What test is that? so, she should impress the guys mother that she can sweep or will do anything to be accepted by them? I’ve seen and heard of ladies that sweep, clean, wash and cook and the guy did not marry them. I’ve seen those that hate housework of any kind and got married. Real men generally know what they want in a woman. The ones that don’t know what they want end up marrying eye service ladies sometimes. After the wedding, the service ends and the guy starts to lament that the lady has changed.

Duggedised12:
I dont know about other people,but sweeping when a guest is around is an unspoken word of "you are not welcomed here". That was very rude of the old lady, however, I won't be comfortable watching the old lady sweep.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Lol. Not a conclusive test of character if u ask me

Bossjakande:
I dont want to insult u cos I care a lot are u baby DAT dey pamper. think before u talk u av mom u av broda did u wish ur bro girl treat ur mom like dis? wat if after marriage ur mom visit and d useless wife didnt cook for her.dont forget u will be a mom too one day.maybe u wish ur son wife to treat u like dis.life aint about today alone. think about 2morrow. u dissapoint me dear.

Sterope:
Yes, it is the reason some In-laws abuse their daughter in law and some women choose to be abused in the name of marriage. I don't know about you but sweeping while your guest is sitted is very rude in my culture. Common sense dictates that it is rude, it is an indirect way of telling someone to leave your house.

If there is one thing our African culture excels at, it is at treating people who we deem below us in a very rude and condescending manner. The receiver is expected to take it because of their gender, age, financial status and position. The mother clearly thought she has monopoly over rudeness. Being an elder doesn't mean she should not have respected herself. You don't test someone else's child by sweeping over them. Now I see why some families end up with monsters in law.

Limitless72:


It could be ruled to an extent a conclusive one.
Besides why is everyone's thoughts and conclusion converge at "WIFE MATERIAL" Test

Ugosample:
Nigerians are very easy to deceive

What sort of fvckery is all these dumb tests?


Why are these FVCKING tests in place in the first place?

And with deceptive girls knowing the playbook
They can deceive their way into the family and "Dabaru" the whole thing


But it's not my business tho

Make una continue this foolery

Limitless72:


Dear you have a point though. But what if the mother's intention were quintessential, what if they were innocent.. You see in one way or the other we should try to understand virtually everything is relative and conventional..

Bossjakande:
and u call urself a Yoruba girl am not sure u are

Unionised:


So you will feel cheated if you swept their house and still get dumped?

Serious....

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Why sweep when u have a visitor?

SageMK:


Well before you start smashing your keyboard about her lacking morals or courtesy, when was the last time you gave up your seat for an elderly person or help that blind man cross the street or carry a pregnant woman's load?

To begin with, it only shows lack of courtesy and respect to start sweeping when you've got a guest in your house.

So she did the right thing. After all, she was there as a guest, and not for a domestic help interview or anything.

Bossjakande:
u go schl. read and see is a test instead of jumping up Abd down. learn from it

joyberry:
Test ko test ni,so if the girl collects the broom,she is a wife material? Based on what her ability to sweep,is that the basics for marriage, All these so called tests sef,i never heard of multi-millionaires doing such, its always the struggling ones.Who even sweeps when guests are around sef?its rude and shows the guests he or she aint wanted, if the girl is a regular at the house ,fine thats different but a first-time visitor haba sef?
All these guys on this thread, if u go to your gf house and the father starts to wash his car in ur presence will u join him to wash the car?I don't get the act of degrading or putting some tru certain tests cos he or she wants to marry your child. That why many people pretend tru out courtship to put up with their potential in-laws unnecessary tests, and unleash their true colours in marriage .

AstroG:
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See them,MIDNIGHT NEWSPAPER SPOTTED

Limitless72:



See as your mouth is running like tap..
I'm sure you have tradition or culture where you come from. Even if it's not a test, courtesy demands your collect the broom from the old woman and do it. it doesn't reduce you in any way but look at you claiming you're wise. Even I wouldn't go to my GF or fiancee's house, see her mother sweep where I can and not want to help her sweep it, or see the mom carry something and not help her carry it. It speaks alot on home training, respect and humility.

Certain little and foolish things are used to test the wise.. You think a mother- in- law would Want a wife that doesn't respect her... Even if nah fake, fake it. I'm not saying you should/must clean the whole house, wash the dishes or do the laundry..

Anyways talk is cheap.. nah people like you go even collect the broom sweep the whole compound..

ND the lady in question doesn't have any great self esteem but has very terrible self esteem and lacks character..

Limitless72:


Dear you have a point though. But what if the mother's intention were quintessential, what if they were innocent.. You see in one way or the other we should try to understand virtually everything is relative and conventional..

Preshy561:
Haa!! You are a very funny man.
She even lifted her legs and you are complaining? I will wait for her to lift my legs for me and then, when she's done sweeping the portion, she should bring it down too.

I'm meant to be pampered and petted as I'm gonna be the one to choose if I'm marrying their son or not, and also gonna be the one that's gonna choose if the family is hardworking and compatible enough for my liking.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Ama help them till their last breath ni.