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Re: I Love Her But She Is An Undergraduate And Poor by SpyAC(m): 2:13pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
GT07115:Don't trade that part, if u love her, marry her and send her to school, the mistake u will ever regrets is to send her to Schl wt the intension to marry her thereafter. Dnt toe dt part, bcs am a witnx of such and even a victim |
Re: I Love Her But She Is An Undergraduate And Poor by Westsida: 2:13pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
Frustrated used old cargos everywhere! Them too plenty for here! They were all supporting regional Daniel! Grade one Hypocrisy! Like I earlier read, they’ll frustrate the OP to get more confused! As for me, I no sabi give relationship advice o! Good luck to you & your girl! 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Love Her But She Is An Undergraduate And Poor by PrinzCarter(m): 2:14pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
Ahmed0336:dis is deep ,wisdom one finish ur grandfather ... 1 Like |
Re: I Love Her But She Is An Undergraduate And Poor by meobizy(f): 2:15pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
My problem is the parent are financially handicapped to contribute a dime to her education and we are not married that means the whole stuff is on my headRight now the problem is her schooling but in future other issues will present themselves. You say the parents are quick to collect from you also but are not willing to let her stay long with you based on the nature of the relationship. My brother, I will advice you to leave the situation now before your eyes clear and only regret will fill your mind. To bring the situation here means you're already counting the risks vs benefits and recognizing you're at a loss. Love does not put food on the table nor money in your account. If you can catch someone with a more priviledged background I suggest you do it. A lot of young girls are quick to change their minds after a man educates them like in your situation. Her age does not give me hope such won't happen. 1 Like |
Re: I Love Her But She Is An Undergraduate And Poor by Yewandequeen(f): 2:16pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
If only the girl in question knows how many people are deliberating on her matter My take on this is that Op doesn't have to marry her yet just cos he wants security of sending her to school. Are there not people that offer such out of free will? Send her to school, first 2yrs will determine what her future will be. Hopefully she doesn't fall pregnant for another man. The first 2yrs will kindda expose her, gain some. Mental development and give you insight to what she might become when she is older. So send her to school and watch her for the next 2yrs if things are still lovely Btw you two by then, go ahead and marry her. Don't tie her down with marriage. She might agree to be cool with it all these this year just cos of her situation and next yr things change and u will see a different her entirely. Don't be in haste to marry her just to secure her, she might turn out to be ur worst nightmare. When you are poor you exhibit another person character but when ure rich your own character will surface. 1 Like |
Re: I Love Her But She Is An Undergraduate And Poor by chiboy1116: 2:16pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
HitSong:how many years your papa take senior your mama ? Just a question oh. 2 Likes |
Re: I Love Her But She Is An Undergraduate And Poor by Rubicon67(m): 2:17pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
menvocate: This appears to me as if this is a suggestion for a potential 'contract marriage' and I am not sure if it will hold water in court if there is any breach. For the fact that you are in love with someone today doesn't mean you will still be in love with them or them in love with you tomorrow. If he is loaning her the money for her education and there is a legal contract in place signed by both party in the presence of their individual legal representative and if possible, filed and notorized then that's reasonable and not even guaranteed. However, tying the contract to a matter of heart is not something I think could be legally binding. I am not a lawyer and that's my take. |
Re: I Love Her But She Is An Undergraduate And Poor by Deepfeel(m): 2:18pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
ngwababe:Haba so a lady of 23, 24, 25 is not ripe for marriage? |
Re: I Love Her But She Is An Undergraduate And Poor by ibkayee(f): 2:19pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
chiboy1116:An 18 year old dating a 30 year old is different to a 26 year old dating a 38 year old Key difference is mental development and experiences. I won’t call him a pervert per se, she’s technically an adult, but if you heard your 18 year old sister was dating a 30 year old man most people would do a double take 3 Likes |
Re: I Love Her But She Is An Undergraduate And Poor by PrinzCarter(m): 2:21pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
Mmm was a beautiful tin ,in riches n in wealth but in sickness n in crashing dey went straight to Ghana wen u invest nw she gets 2 "twenty something " she will b glowing nd u will b rolling last last na her age mate she go marry oo use ur tongue count ur teeth 1 Like |
Re: I Love Her But She Is An Undergraduate And Poor by saucelake231(m): 2:21pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
baba your village ppl are really serious about your matter..... how can you send a Nigeria girl of the age too school and you expect her too come back after five years for you..... (my brother at your own risk) when she start living campus life you know how meany sweet mouthed or rich guys she will be expose too out their..... with this are level of maturity...am sorry bro she can't overcome the challenges...... if you want too help her just do it from your heart.... not because you will end up marring her cuse that won is a risk game....... 1 Like |
Re: I Love Her But She Is An Undergraduate And Poor by Chiefochiefo(m): 2:24pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
Bro, remember you're dealing with a woman here. They're like venomous snake trapped in a cage. Save it, you will be the first to bite. Just go and find yourself a wife she's not your wife. A word is enough for the wise. 1 Like |
Re: I Love Her But She Is An Undergraduate And Poor by AreaFada2: 2:24pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
If you really love her let her finish her education before you marry her. As she's poor she might not be letting you know the truth: if she truly loves you or not. Not to scupper her chances of education through your help. At 18 she will meet "hot" guys from 18 to 25 at university. And she might lose control and cheat on you. Finish her studies then follow another guy. Then you will come here and lament her ungrateful women are. At 18 she has probably not dated properly before. The age gap between you and her is far BIGGER than between someone who is 39 and the girl is 28 even though both are chronologically same. People change a lot between 18 and 25. She has not lived her life at all. Many women later feel they were caged too early. Lots cheat when they get older and begin to work. She will then be meeting the types of guys she'd have liked to marry if she had a choice by that time. Temptation can be very big. Although many regard 18 to 25 as olosho age for women, it it not so for all. Think carefully. You can assist her but not in expectation of marriage or appreciation. 2 Likes |
Re: I Love Her But She Is An Undergraduate And Poor by abula112(m): 2:26pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
menvocate:Good advice, cus u may regret sending her to sch and she later says he is not in her level 1 Like |
Re: I Love Her But She Is An Undergraduate And Poor by pek(m): 2:29pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
Love is NOT the only thing in marriage! Don't carry a responsibility that is not yours. There is this song I use to enjoy in the 80s. A man sent a lady to school. When she graduated, she refused to marry the man instead asked that she refund all that the man had spent on her. You may send her to school, when she is through, she will cut all ties with you since there is nothing binding both of you. Enough said. 1 Like |
Re: I Love Her But She Is An Undergraduate And Poor by Biglittlelois(f): 2:30pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
Mcslize: But you are obviously judging ladies by their figure when you say you cant marry someone older so stop contradicting yourself, hope you know there are ladies that look way younger than their age soo much that you won't believe it so quit being myopic, not all ladies would like to settle down with men who look like their father in appearances too. 4 Likes |
Re: I Love Her But She Is An Undergraduate And Poor by King44(m): 2:31pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
HitSong:sharrraaaaap you are not making any sense the girl is already an adult no child abuse in this case or pervert issue even some of our mothers here as them when did they marry you would be surprised 18 is not bad for a girl if she is mature and educationally accomplished But in this case I think this brother is about to put himself into future wahala with the parent of the girl that is even if the girl loves him and not because of his money but if she doesn't double wahala. the parents are not okay with you marrying her man wake up before you make investment wey wey no go pay you cos of love, once she is done with education if she doesn't leave you her parents will convince her to and moreover you are incurring liabilities, man just marry a lady who has something going on for her and educationally accomplished she would help you sustain you family no problem you too you already know the answer to your write up which is future problem wake up there are other ladies out there who are accomplished 3 Likes |
Re: I Love Her But She Is An Undergraduate And Poor by luminouz(m): 2:31pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
Re: I Love Her But She Is An Undergraduate And Poor by Nobody: 2:31pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
If you want to pay her way through school, do it out of the goodness of your heart but don't tie her down with conditions as a result 1 Like |
Re: I Love Her But She Is An Undergraduate And Poor by luminouz(m): 2:31pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
breakerofchains: Lmaoooo See as u dey huff n puff...calm down na |
Re: I Love Her But She Is An Undergraduate And Poor by Nobody: 2:32pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
GT07115: You know what if truly she is wife material ,marry her and enrol her in vocational schools let her learn baking,or sewing etc you can set up little business for her concentrate on your family . Later on she can enrol in school we now have open university ,other universities also deal in distance learning Concerning the business makes sure you tie it to your self as per the shop and watch her spending ....Dpmt be too fast in investing on women ..iam one and can tel you er pretend for Africa her self and family might c u as a way out and so will do anything to make you feel she is the perfect one till she gets bearing |
Re: I Love Her But She Is An Undergraduate And Poor by mapet: 2:33pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
funmisticqueen: Ok. Slow down madam, I think you've mixed some things up 1. The primary issue is that the guy want's to settle down, not that he wants to educate the girl. Life is complicated at times and present this kind of chicken-egg situation. 2. Pragmatically speaking, it is the responsibility of the girl's parents to send her to school and not the guy's. If he does it, then he's either magnanimous or "investing"; I guess that is why some people with deep introspection sees it as a gamble, if they are not married. 3. I am curious about what you mean by "she won't have enough experiences to upgrade her life" ... Like she would be uneducated? She would not experience school life? or lemme think otherwise, like she would not be "sampled" by other boyfriends? She will not be free to attend parties? I can't think of what she will miss, if she will be educated. She will compete with all her peers on equal footing, she may probably loose a year or so when she goes to put to bed (and may not, if she's strong). Check this! She could probably end up being more "upgraded" than all her peers in 10-20yrs time. 4. On #3 above let me give you few classic examples. a. Kanu Nwankwo married Amarachi when she was 18. Amarachi is an Architect today (studied in England) b. Omotola Jalade-Ekehinde was wedded at 18. In fact was in Yaba Tech when my junior brother was there years back. Omotola think dropped 2x....we all know how "upgraded" Omotola is today c. Ijeru Aghahowa was in my wife's class back in University (Year 2/3 Law) when she got married. I think today she probably runs one of the biggest supermarket in Ikoyi - ("upgraded" +) d. Tara Fela-Durotoye was in class with them. She also got married in school.... - "Upgraded" +++ I don't think any of these women live in there husband's shadow.....they are holding their own grounds and doing well. 2 Likes |
Re: I Love Her But She Is An Undergraduate And Poor by luminouz(m): 2:33pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
theButterfly:Goodness of heart kee u dia... Just see how immature u sound... 1 Like |
Re: I Love Her But She Is An Undergraduate And Poor by mapet: 2:38pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
elantraceey: Aunty, There is no difference if it is NOT within the ambit of the law. 1 Like |
Re: I Love Her But She Is An Undergraduate And Poor by mapet: 2:39pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
ladiesreject:elantraceey: :Who told you they don't consent to it? I am with you on this |
Re: I Love Her But She Is An Undergraduate And Poor by Biglittlelois(f): 2:39pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
Op strikes me as someone who wants a wife he can subdue, control and submit to him without question so who better than a teenager naive of life, but he forgets that life, same as human evolves with time, things are changing fast and we all change with the tide, that girl does not know A in anything marriage and it cannot be taught, marriage is something she has to know, realise, accept on her own but then, Op is adamant and has made up his mind so good luck. 4 Likes |
Re: I Love Her But She Is An Undergraduate And Poor by mapet: 2:40pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
elantraceey: ... and you "conveniently" missed the experience of your 15yr-old igbo friends? 3 Likes |
Re: I Love Her But She Is An Undergraduate And Poor by mrpaedo(m): 2:41pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
Xaos:It ain't hard to tell.Older ladies always hate it when men have the choice to go for younger women while leaving them single with their raggedy,used up bodies.I see through all their manipulative comments 4 Likes |
Re: I Love Her But She Is An Undergraduate And Poor by chiboy1116: 2:43pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
ibkayee:yea , lol, i wouldn't take that from my 18 year old daughter at all , but seems like her parents are okay with it , it's not wrong legally though . 1 Like |
Re: I Love Her But She Is An Undergraduate And Poor by ACE1010: 2:44pm On Jun 07, 2019 |
HitSong: Haba my brother this yabbing too much na!!!!!
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