AmazonTopaz:
I am writing this based on some of the comments I read on this forum by males as regards female issues.

The African society focuses on training females more than males. They teach girls how to be good wives and mothers and they forget to train our boys on how to be good husbands and fathers.


I believe the average Nigerian man (some) are insecure, have low self esteem and lack self confidence hence why they derive pleasure in insulting women. Sometimes I wonder who raised these boys that they believe their manhood is validated by a woman subjecting herself to him and allowing him be the alpha and omega of her life. That is why a lot of them are obsessed with the word "submission", "captain" and "head of the house title".

A man with confidence, high self esteem would not be obsessed in wanting to control a full grown woman in 2019 who basically has the same rights as he does.
It is insecurity, lack of self esteem and self confidence that makes a man feel intimidated by a sucessful and independent woman.It is due to lack of self esteem that they want to feel on top or over a woman.
They believe their gender or sex makes them lord over every woman. They are obsessed with authority, power and do not know how to be leaders.

They feel it is okay to slut shame sucessful women call ladies despicable names and you wonder if these men have sisters or mothers.

They feel it is okay to lord over a full grown adult and that such adult(women) cannot be a partner but a subordinate.

I believe some of these men raised in Nigeria have personal issues that they need to deal with on their own before bringing an unfortunate woman to share in such misery and clean up their mess.

I blame society's double standard that fails to hold men accountable as much as women are held accountable maybe then this self entitlement mentality, the view of women as commodities and superiority complex would be a thing of the past. Our men need exposure and enlightenment. I hope we raise better boys to become good men in the future and not just women alone.

AmazonTopaz:

Equal rights is for everybody and tavours everybody.
And yes women can approach men even you who wants to take it serious when a lady approaches you in ypur mentaloty you would shame her, call her cheap and desperate or do you not read comments like that on this forum? So toasting is a vital issue

AmazonTopaz:

To be honest no.
That is not my field or something I do on a regular.
Like the generator or light bulb.I do those because I have need for it.
Because I don't do it does not mean others ladies cannot do it if they want to.
I have alady friend mechanic.I also have a woman who also changes tyres.
If I put interest I can do it same with other ladies.
The problem is our society would laugh or discourage such women and call them tomboys.
It depends on the environment such woman grows in in order to go against such stereotypes that such works are male only.

AmazonTopaz:
I am writing this based on some of the comments I read on this forum by males as regards female issues.

The African society focuses on training females more than males. They teach girls how to be good wives and mothers and they forget to train our boys on how to be good husbands and fathers.


I believe the average Nigerian man (some) are insecure, have low self esteem and lack self confidence hence why they derive pleasure in insulting women. Sometimes I wonder who raised these boys that they believe their manhood is validated by a woman subjecting herself to him and allowing him be the alpha and omega of her life. That is why a lot of them are obsessed with the word "submission", "captain" and "head of the house title".

A man with confidence, high self esteem would not be obsessed in wanting to control a full grown woman in 2019 who basically has the same rights as he does.
It is insecurity, lack of self esteem and self confidence that makes a man feel intimidated by a sucessful and independent woman.It is due to lack of self esteem that they want to feel on top or over a woman.
They believe their gender or sex makes them lord over every woman. They are obsessed with authority, power and do not know how to be leaders.

They feel it is okay to slut shame sucessful women call ladies despicable names and you wonder if these men have sisters or mothers.

They feel it is okay to lord over a full grown adult and that such adult(women) cannot be a partner but a subordinate.

I believe some of these men raised in Nigeria have personal issues that they need to deal with on their own before bringing an unfortunate woman to share in such misery and clean up their mess.

I blame society's double standard that fails to hold men accountable as much as women are held accountable maybe then this self entitlement mentality, the view of women as commodities and superiority complex would be a thing of the past. Our men need exposure and enlightenment. I hope we raise better boys to become good men in the future and not just women alone.

breakerofchains:
Stop submitting to men!

Many of them are dull. They can't even control their own lives.

And you are an adult who can make decisions for herself.

Stop feeding their over bloated egos.

No body should tell me about what your Bible or Qoran says because I don't care.

AmazonTopaz:

I agree same goes for our men who not only lack self esteem are insecure and lack self confidence.
I have adressed it in my post.

fieryy:
I totally agree with you. A lot of Ni gerian men embrace a very toxic form of masculinity. The more misogynist a society is, the more you see this toxic masculinity ish.

The Nigerian society for example puts a lot of pressure on men. Their worth is usually defined by material things like their salary and not their character.
We all know how fickle material things are and truth is majority of men will always belong to either the middle or the lower class.

Since a lot of men also do not know how to communicate properly because it is interpreted as showing weakness, they tend to bundle up all their emotions.
The inability of not being able to handle your emotions and talk about how you feel means you having to eventually let it out in other ways.
This is usually done by hiding their vulnerability as well as insecurities behind anger.

A broke man, who knows society approves of men with big pockets is more likely to complain about gold diggers, even though he doesn't even really have the gold.

It's a man whose worth and respect is tied to his pocket that will feel insecure when he meets an independent lady. He'd rather go for a woman who depends on him financially, so he can complain with his pals about how women are useless and bring nothing to the table.

He's more likely to never date a woman who has more money that him. His excuse? "They can't handle succes".

bukatyne:


My answer is always constant.

Women, choose the right men and train up your sons to be same.


I have seen a lot of women complain about their husbands and train their sons to be replica of their husbands.

It seems the qualities most of them seek in husbands they do not want replicated in their sons.

PhenomenalMorgan:

Whats your definition of "Feminism" This is where the issue starts from!!

Stillthebest:


I assume you should the meaning of feminism if you could take your time to write

AmazonTopaz:

It has been used on thos forum sonce last year.
Molosho is the male version of olosho.
Sameway shovel is to hoe(the name they call some ladies) I call them shovel.

AmazonTopaz:

@bold, I am not them and my mom is not a submissive type and my parents are still together. My dad is not a control freak.
I never claimed to be a christian neither did I bring religion in my post.
How many times have you told your fellow men to love their wives to the extent of dying for their wives you are only comfortable telling women.Maybe if men took apostle paul's instruction they would be better husbands.
The definition of submission cannot be literally applied in today's world because during the time apostle paul instructed women to be submissive slavery was permissible women had little or no rights so it was okay to easily submit but today women have rights are educated, have choices etc so it would definitely be hard to submit in the literal sense.

AmazonTopaz:
A tomatoes does not dictate it's price neither is it a living thing.
Very silly of you to make such comparison. So men sleep with tomatoes.
This shows your IQ is low.

donbachi:
i have seen where you got it from.

ornicus:


please understand that the totality of men are more than some broke sex starved small boys with internet access

AmazonTopaz:

It is irrational to liken a parent to a child and vice versa.
A parent and a child are two different entities are you insinuating that my father had no part to play in my upbringing?

Westtimeline:
That your dad is a weakling does not mean other guys are.

My mum is submissive and my dad can die for her. May their lovely souls rest in peace. If you don't want to be submissive, stay on your lane. Look for your weakling husband somewhere.

Westtimeline:
Yes, cos he is weak.

Mk93:

you won't hear any man crying because you call him names. we have thicker skin. you should already now we are superior in everything

AmazonTopaz:

Please bring your statistics.
That is a stereotype I have seen men lead women to disaster besides is capacity the only thing required to be a leader? Is physical strength the only thing required in a leader?
What do you define as natural in time past it was natural to kill twins, slavery was seen as natural and God ordained.

Northeastern:


[s]This one na mumu post o. Look at what the wanna be op has on his profile.

Of all the problems you have in Nigeria, so this is the only one you can focus on. Mumu, some things are beyond your African mentality. How can you be using self esteem when you are in Nigeria, a country where everything defies logic and common sense. Look at what the mumu has on his profile below.

Mumu, when you are done, go and read about the wage disparity in the NBA and WNBA, between male and female tennis players, and all other professional sports.

When you are Nigeria, you should not be talking about self-esteem when your leaders are robbing you black and blue and there is no end in sight. Think about how to hold the government accountable in providing primary health care to reduce child and maternal mortality rates. The one Bill gates sunk close to $2bn without result. Nigeria is the fourth worst place to give birth on earth, 1 mother in every 100 dies during childbirth, go write about how to curb that. 1 in every 10 children die at birth, even war-torn Sudan has a better child mortality rate.

Those are what you should focus on, and while at it, think about the imminent population implosion, you people will be 400 million in 2050[/s].

donbachi:
feminism is a woman that cannot stand and pee,challenging a man that can...can u spell girl with ur pee?

fieryy:
I totally agree with you. A lot of Nigerian men embrace a very toxic form of masculinity. The more misogynist a society is, the more you see this toxic masculinity ish.

The Nigerian society for example puts a lot of pressure on men. Their worth is usually defined by material things like their salary and not their character.
We all know how fickle material things are and truth is majority of men will always belong to either the middle or the lower class.

Since a lot of men also do not know how to communicate properly because it is interpreted as showing weakness, they tend to bundle up all their emotions.
The inability of not being able to handle your emotions and talk about how you feel means you having to eventually let it out in other ways.
This is usually done by hiding their vulnerability as well as insecurities behind anger.

A broke man, who knows society approves of men with big pockets is more likely to complain about gold diggers, even though he doesn't even really have the gold.

It's a man whose worth and respect is tied to his pocket that will feel insecure when he meets an independent lady. He'd rather go for a woman who depends on him financially, so he can complain with his pals about how women are useless and bring nothing to the table.

He's more likely to never date a woman who has more money that him. His excuse? "They can't handle succes".
true talk.

alizma:

A woman without low self esteem will not wait for a man to pay her bride price in 2019. She will walk straight to her family and tell them she has found herself a man and ask them to accompany her to the mans family where she ask for the man's hand in marriage

Mk93:

whatever you are saying to please the ladies, always remember that nature made men superior

funmisticqueen:
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