I have read so many times as people place blame on ladies who have reached 30 and above with no marriage .This shows we are so ignorant and heartless ..most go as far as claiming those ladies were sleeping about or doing shakara,proud or arrogant and refuse to submit .This is appalling

Let's face this whether we like it or not,marriage is not beginning of success .many divorce after marriage and die single,many marry and die childless, many have kids or turn out to be useless ,many die single .Every one has different destiny.

I have observed many good women still remain single at old age whilst some die single.does this ñeañ they won't make paradise?

Africans make marriage to be a class or achievement thing .you aren't a woman to be respected or complete till you marry and how many of those cobdeming make good partners ¿

Respect a lady status you are not God.many of you will spew trash that maybe I an single ,you know nothing of me .

Hanty this is what you wrote in plain English.
"Someone please marry me,DM me now"

Tell them ooooo...

Shibaraba:
Hanty this is what you wrote in plain English.
"Someone please marry me,DM me now"

What are u waiting for? DM her na

me I don already DM her. waiting for her reply

AwkaetitiBabe:
What are u waiting for? DM her na

you don't you want DM too?
better talk for yourself now o if you need DMing.

AwkaetitiBabe:
Tell them ooooo...

victim spotted

SmellySperm:

victim spotted

Victim? You part of what's wrong in this society. No just quote me anyhow again o

Brown14:

you don't you want DM too?
better talk for yourself now o if you need DMing.

I'm good... Thx

Really? If that's all your brain can think of, then it's very bad. Someone put up a post to stop the stigmatization of unmarried women above 30 and here you are thinking she automatically needs someone. You guys should fear God o

Shibaraba:
Hanty this is what you wrote in plain English.
"Someone please marry me,DM me now"

Marriage will come at the appointed time with the appropriate person. Don't force it, it's better to be single than being in an abusive marriage. As a woman, let your happiness be your major priority (and it should come from within you).

We know there are lots of irresponsible guys around. But is really hard to believe that a lady through out her 20's has not seen any gentleman that really adores her. Most of them are the architect of there own problem.

Very good thread. Everyone acting like being single and refusing to marry is a horrible terrible thing. Some people just want peace of mind

Their fellow women are their greatest enemies in dis aspect ,men are innocent dis time around ,believe me!

kense88:
We know there are lots of irresponsible guys around. But is really hard to believe that a lady through out her 20's has not seen any gentleman that really adores her. Most of them are the architect of there own problem.

Gbam.
You've said it all.
There are many reasons a guy will remain single into his late thirties.
For a lady, I can't fathom any reason unless its by choice.

I mean despite the "hellos from random strangers", "Calls from guys you didn't give your number", "DMs from social media".

And before, they start giving excuses of being with a particular partner for donkey years, I'd put it to them that they didn't quite set their goals and timelines.

Again I repeat, unless it's by choice. I find it unbelievable.

Cc: farano
rocktation

This is worthy of being on FP ..,

Raalsalghul:

Gbam.
You've said it all.
There are many reasons a guy will remain single into his late thirties.
For a lady, I can't fathom any reason unless its by choice.

I mean despite the "hellos from random strangers", "Calls from guys you didn't give your number", "DMs from social media".

And before, they start giving excuses of being with a particular partner for donkey years, I'd put it to them that they didn't quite set their goals and timelines.

Again I repeat, unless it's by choice. I find it unbelievable.

Certain situations can seems unbelievable until you experienced it personally. I know of a very respectful and beautiful aunty that was ready to " do all" just to get married I grew up with her I can tell much about her youthful days so, things happens sometimes that you don't just have any explanation to why it happened.

goooze:
Certain situations can seems unbelievable until you experienced it personally. I know of a very respectful and beautiful aunty that was ready to " do all" just to get married I grew up with her I can tell much about her youthful days so, things happens sometimes that you don't just have any explanation to why it happened.

i have someone like that too that i grew up with beautful, respectful and a very good sister but up till now no husband.. late 30

The major reason why most women are single in their late 30s is their search for perfection, perfection for the right place to meet, perfection for the right time to meet, perfection for the right personality, you should also try make these things right yourself, they don't have to come perfectly right because even to some people, you are also not the perfectly right person, you can't be 30 and not have had suitors, but you are not open to them, which makes them go, they all go, including the perfect ones that seem horrible, my being open means trying getting to know someone but most of them follow their first impressions which are mostly wrong, how about you watch and assess someone, how about giving him a chance, you don't have to get stuck, you can say your goodbye if you don't like what you see, it's better than staying afar trying to know someone using instinct, it's a mirage situation that's not achievable.

Tajbol4splend:
The major reason why most women are single in their late 30s is their search for perfection, perfection for the right place to meet, perfection for the right time to meet, perfection for the right personality, you should also try make these things right yourself, they don't have to come perfectly right because even to some people, you are also not the perfectly right person, you can't be 30 and not have had suitors, but you are not open to them, which makes them go, they all go, including the perfect ones that seem horrible, my being open means trying getting to know someone but most of them follow their first impressions which are mostly wrong, how about you watch and assess someone, how about giving him a chance, you don't have to get stuck, you can say your goodbye if you don't like what you see, it's better than staying afar trying to know someone using instinct, it's a mirage situation that's not achievable.

Not always true!

missimelda01:
Marriage will come at the appointed time with the appropriate person. Don't force it, it's better to be single than being in an abusive marriage. As a woman, let your happiness be your major priority (and it should come from within you).

what assurance do you have that getting married later won't still land the woman in an abusive marriage

Tajbol4splend:
The major reason why most women are single in their late 30s is their search for perfection, perfection for the right place to meet, perfection for the right time to meet, perfection for the right personality, you should also try make these things right yourself, they don't have to come perfectly right because even to some people, you are also not the perfectly right person, you can't be 30 and not have had suitors, but you are not open to them, which makes them go, they all go, including the perfect ones that seem horrible, my being open means trying getting to know someone but most of them follow their first impressions which are mostly wrong, how about you watch and assess someone, how about giving him a chance, you don't have to get stuck, you can say your goodbye if you don't like what you see, it's better than staying afar trying to know someone using instinct, it's a mirage situation that's not achievable.

well written

AwkaetitiBabe:
What are u waiting for? DM her na

The problem is without marriage, boredom and lack of sexual satisfaction, makes a lady always look for different partners, or use intimacy gadgets...

This is why the rich focus on arranged marriages because it helps them focus.

Never let your female child finish school without getting married on the first day.

Marry your female child well.

Modern society/Facebook tells people to make their own choices, to disregard the wisdom of elders and the more experienced.

Arranged marriage is the greatest refutation of this. It brings the wisdom of two sets of elders to bear upon a decision that sets the course for two people's lives. People from both families reflect on the choice based on collective experiences, philosophies and mutual advantages of the union.

That's why I said 'appropriate person'.. the right man won't abuse a woman

murphyibiam15:

what assurance do you have that getting married later won't still land the woman in an abusive marriage

goooze:
Not always true!

True for 90 per cent cases.

goooze:
Certain situations can seems unbelievable until you experienced it personally. I know of a very respectful and beautiful aunty that was ready to " do all" just to get married I grew up with her I can tell much about her youthful days so, things happens sometimes that you don't just have any explanation to why it happened.

Look closer....so you think you know all about her.?

Mustsucceed:
I have read so many times as people place blame on ladies who have reached 30 and above with no marriage .This shows we are so ignorant and heartless ..most go as far as claiming those ladies were sleeping about or doing shakara,proud or arrogant and refuse to submit .This is appalling

Let's face this whether we like it or not,marriage is not beginning of success .many divorce after marriage and die single,many marry and die childless, many have kids or turn out to be useless ,many die single .Every one has different destiny.

I have observed many good women still remain single at old age whilst some die single.does this ñeañ they won't make paradise?

Africans make marriage to be a class or achievement thing .you aren't a woman to be respected or complete till you marry and how many of those cobdeming make good partners ¿

Respect a lady status you are not God.many of you will spew trash that maybe I an single ,you know nothing of me .

I feel your pain....God will give u ur own husband.
It's never late ...

missimelda01:
That's why I said 'appropriate person'.. the right man won't abuse a woman

nice

You better go and marry because the Nigerian society won't respect or regard you as a single lady or single mother. A word is enough for the wise. Stop justifying nonsense! This is Africa, and not the western countries. A lady without
a husband, or a single mother is usually regarded as a cheap LovePeddler in Nigeria; No one respects you. The richest woman in Africa is a Nigerian, and still in her husband's house, late Dora Akunyili was with her husband,most successful women in Nigeria are all in their husband's houses. Nigerian ladies of nowadays, be patient and exhibit good character so as to enjoy your marriage; stop portraying to men that you are after money, he would impregnate and dump you, since its his money you are after. Be patient, and sacrifice for your marriage; don't say because your husband slaps you when you run your mouths like tap, then you pack your leave. Single motherhood is total nonsense, and most of the ladies never get good husbands who would love your kids as his. Most single mothers in Nigeria are usually perceived as prostitutes following married men up and down for family support. Enough of single mothers in Nigeria!!! Its a total stigma.

Tunagee:
You better go and marry because the Nigerian society won't respect or regard you as a single lady or single mother. A word is enough for the wise. Stop justifying nonsense! This is Africa, and not the western countries. A lady without
a husband, or a single mother is usually regarded as a cheap LovePeddler in Nigeria; No one respects you. The richest woman in Africa is a Nigerian, and still in her husband's house, late Dora Akunyili was with her husband,most successful women in Nigeria are all in their husband's houses. Nigerian ladies of nowadays, be patient and exhibit good character so as to enjoy your marriage; stop portraying to men that you are after money, he would impregnate and dump you, since its his money you are after. Be patient, and sacrifice for your marriage; don't say because your husband slaps you when you run your mouths like tap, then you pack your leave. Single motherhood is total nonsense, [s]and most of the ladies never get good husbands who would love your kids as his[/s]. Most single mothers in Nigeria are usually perceived as prostitutes following married men up and down for family support. Enough of single mothers in Nigeria!!! Its a total stigma.

U were making sense somehow till u go to dat area...

Men dont fancy dat rubbish.


Plus lemme correct u...stop dat we re AFRICANS sh*t.. Africans dnt av sense. We shuld reason like dose western countries.