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Re: When Your Boyfriend's Mother Hates You, What Do You Do? by seniorgozman(m): 10:24pm On Aug 12, 2019 |
I will advice you hate back, you don't have any business with your boyfriend's mother. It's left for your boyfriend to decide what he wants. Please don't make anyone feel so important in your life. 3 Likes |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Mother Hates You, What Do You Do? by boomssey(f): 10:41pm On Aug 12, 2019 |
baba6ix:no she's not hiding anything but things like this happens. 2 Likes |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Mother Hates You, What Do You Do? by ImaIma1(f): 10:41pm On Aug 12, 2019 |
PUSSYHOE: In his mum's eyes, he's still a child. And that might affect his decisions as a man if he continues to go with it. A man should find a balance especially when it comes to a life partner. A childhood friend of mine had to put his foot down. His mum was against his wife to be because she's a different tribe and he's her first son. Infact she had a friend's daughter she wanted to hook her son with. The mum was so adamant but he did something very drastic because he believed in his heart that the babe was the one. He told his mum that this was the girl he had chosen to spend the rest of his life with and he won't change his mind. He said his mum didn't have to attend the wedding. They would go ahead, send her pictures and come back for her blessings later. They got married o and she attended. They are still married. I won't even go into how she still tried to come in between them after they got married. What you should understand is that mothers are human beings and not spirits(me inclusive). They could act irrationally and try to have their way. 9 Likes |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Mother Hates You, What Do You Do? by PUSSYHOE(m): 11:08pm On Aug 12, 2019 |
ImaIma1:Under normal circumstances would you accept a bad thing for your son? if no case closed! 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Mother Hates You, What Do You Do? by spiceadole: 11:17pm On Aug 12, 2019 |
Hot18: Save yourself future problems and end that relationship ASAP. Sooner or later, the same guy insisting on continuing the relationship will dump you. He will definitely listen to his mother 10 Likes |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Mother Hates You, What Do You Do? by drmikeadams(m): 11:20pm On Aug 12, 2019 |
PUSSYHOE:. And the case was closed 3 Likes |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Mother Hates You, What Do You Do? by placeofallure(f): 11:50pm On Aug 12, 2019 |
It isn't all the time that you have to be bad before some people detest you. I'm not absolving you of all blames though. I once dated a man in which 80% of his family didn't like me, My offence? Their boy is too much into me. I cared less. I later discarded their boy not based on this issue anyway. I am married now and half of my husband's family are not into me, what I do is I keep my distance. We all used to be cordial, very cordial, but I got pregnant and had serious complications that kept me in the hospital for a month and half and they all claimed busy. They never visited the hospital, one even had the guts to ask me on phone what I did to the pregnancy. I couldn't forgive that. If I were their daughter, would they leave me to die? They're trying seriously now to make amends because they knew I never wronged them, but I just don't know how to forget that hurt. So instead, I keep them at a far distance. No family functions for me, neither do I visit, if they come, I welcome them and offer them food, shikena! Another asked to come live with us of recent, I just told my husband I don't want any trouble and that was it. I try to hide my head in my comfort zone for my own sanity. My husband has my ears 101% so it's easier for me to maintain status quo. So OP, can you cope with issues like the picture I painted above? You may go ahead and date him if you can. If not, just take a walk. 10 Likes |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Mother Hates You, What Do You Do? by ImaIma1(f): 12:00am On Aug 13, 2019 |
PUSSYHOE: Under normal circumstances, I won't try to blackmail or manipulate my son over his choice of a life partner. I will advise and give my opinion. The final decision will be left to him. That's how my mum did. No interference whatsoever. 4 Likes |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Mother Hates You, What Do You Do? by gaetano: 5:48am On Aug 13, 2019 |
Leave your boyfriend and snatch her husband 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Mother Hates You, What Do You Do? by newmoney133: 5:50am On Aug 13, 2019 |
Ask your boyfriend the reason.it might even be things that you take for granted like your dressing,. 1 Like |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Mother Hates You, What Do You Do? by Coolgent(m): 5:51am On Aug 13, 2019 |
There must be a reason why she hates you, u heard about Mother instinct when her Sons/Daughter are or will in in danger! Judging from your first posting on nairaland you may be Gold Digger . NB: Quit the relationship asap, Mother can go to any lenght to protect her Kids |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Mother Hates You, What Do You Do? by EnglishUsa: 5:59am On Aug 13, 2019 |
What rules is the mother going to play in the marriage,your friend should ask his mother the reason she wants her to quit. |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Mother Hates You, What Do You Do? by Egein(m): 6:02am On Aug 13, 2019 |
Have you considered slapping the woman? 1 Like |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Mother Hates You, What Do You Do? by Spectrum22: 6:03am On Aug 13, 2019 |
baba6ix: She probably does not like the boy's mother but tries to gather sympathy by claim the woman hates her. After marriage, this girl will definitely call her mother-in-law a witch. Na dia way. 3 Likes |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Mother Hates You, What Do You Do? by Nnamdinaija(m): 6:12am On Aug 13, 2019 |
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Re: When Your Boyfriend's Mother Hates You, What Do You Do? by Spectrum22: 6:13am On Aug 13, 2019 |
Hot18: Yes you painted her bad by trying to convince us that she hates you knowing fully well that we will never hear her side of the story. Sincerely, you need to work on yourself or leave the woman's child alone. 7 Likes |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Mother Hates You, What Do You Do? by sacramento1212: 6:14am On Aug 13, 2019 |
Hot18: The first question should be, why does she hate you? That's what you should first establish from your boyfriend. You are suppose to have a cordial relationship with your boyfriend's mother because you are leaving your territory to join with another family. It's when you know the reason for hating you that you can then decide either to stay put or simply take a walk at this initial stage. Like someone posted, except it's on kwaja levels alone then no wahala but if it's something leading to marriage, you have to thread carefully. But again, you wouldn't know a relationship that will or not lead to marriage. So don't allow love blind your eyes at this stage. Mother inlaw wahala isn't a small matter to overlook. It becomes more disastrous if she's diabolic or otherwise. Look very well before you leap. Good luck 1 Like |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Mother Hates You, What Do You Do? by Nobody: 6:15am On Aug 13, 2019 |
ImaIma1:I understand this scenario very well. As long as u have ur husband's total support and u didnt do anything wrong, carry go Guilt will swallow them. The guys body language will make her decision for her. That's what u get when fathers don't love their wives. They will transfer all the pent up love to their male kids and become possessive if they see any woman around him. Even if u are mother Theresa in character, that will still not be enough for them. And the boys follow on the footsteps of their dads. Vicious circle 7 Likes |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Mother Hates You, What Do You Do? by femi4: 6:17am On Aug 13, 2019 |
Hot18:Leave the relationship but before you leave, try and find out why you're not accepted. Probably its something you can work on in your next relationship |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Mother Hates You, What Do You Do? by ifeanyiopra44: 6:17am On Aug 13, 2019 |
AkeNathan:You too much bro, one olosho for you 2 Likes |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Mother Hates You, What Do You Do? by Alawaxbimbex(f): 6:21am On Aug 13, 2019 |
Who cares... where's the boyfriend, where's the mother? |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Mother Hates You, What Do You Do? by Nobody: 6:21am On Aug 13, 2019 |
My brother's wife was roundly hated by all of us, not for any sin she committed, just that we felt our brother could do better; my Mum was the ringleader, she mobilized all of us to roundly despise the girl, but she failed to reckon with the girl's resolve. Slowly, surely, with humility, patience, love, kindness and flattery she won every one of us over to her side...today if my brother dare do anything to her, I personally will be the first to punch him in the face and my Mum will definitely skin him alive. 9 Likes |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Mother Hates You, What Do You Do? by materialproject: 6:22am On Aug 13, 2019 |
If my mum hate you then there is no need to continue At the end you will cry Cos I cant make her cry 2 Likes |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Mother Hates You, What Do You Do? by fergie001: 6:23am On Aug 13, 2019 |
Been into this kind of situation..... Once dated a lady and my mum from the day she heard her name, without seeing her, disliked her. Her reason been that, the girl takes my time and attention. Secondly, the girl is a village lowly. No education,etc etc. It was tug-of-war, I had to secretly push the babe to Univ, and saw her through school, somewhere along the line my mum got wind of it..and the battle began. I moved out of the house, it became worse. I tried all but my mum was adamant. I cut her off my family meetings etc,the animosity only grew. To cut a long story short, after over 6 years, it didn't work out. She couldn't cope and left,this time to get married without anyone of us(including me) knowing. African mothers have no reason to dislike you. They might just see you and tell their sons that you are too short or too fat or that your face is too aggressive. Dem no dey find reason,seriously. I will tell you from the heart. Is the guy seriously in love with you just as much as you are? Where is your rship headed? Marriage or let's see?..... I will advise,if you guys connect and its something you want to take to the next level, brave up. And let him get you married asap; dating for long will increase the animosity and with time,he will become indecisive...... move as far away as possible from his family home. Nonetheless, always do your part as that homely but smart girl. 5 Likes |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Mother Hates You, What Do You Do? by Nobody: 6:27am On Aug 13, 2019 |
PUSSYHOE:bringing girls you are dating to your parents is old fashion. she is allowed to visit and maybe greet them but not to the extent of having a lengthy conversation with them. I always tell my mum when I am ready for marriage, their opinion is not important in any girl I choose to marry. they should just give their blessings and allow me live with her. they are meant to train me to make the right choice not choose for me 7 Likes |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Mother Hates You, What Do You Do? by jeroncomputers(m): 6:29am On Aug 13, 2019 |
Just register it in your mind, that there will always be a member of the family that will not like you, the earlier you realise this the better for you 5 Likes |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Mother Hates You, What Do You Do? by Ikem11(m): 6:29am On Aug 13, 2019 |
All your post is about man. Relationship... Are you desperate? Maybe his mother is seeing the desperation in you that made her dislike you... Don't be too fast my child.. Mothers watch closely when their son is introducing a girl to them... 2 Likes |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Mother Hates You, What Do You Do? by Elzakzaky: 6:30am On Aug 13, 2019 |
Hot18:One of the things you will have to consider is whether or nut your man is the type that his parents can order around. Goodluck in your decision |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Mother Hates You, What Do You Do? by katoto: 6:32am On Aug 13, 2019 |
Mothers want the best for their children.She will not hate you for no reason.There is something you are not telling us.As far as the son stood his ground that he still loves u,she will eventually amend her way.But check ur attitudes n put yourself in her shoes.If u truly love the son, it will be glaring to the mum. 1 Like |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Mother Hates You, What Do You Do? by meobizy(f): 6:40am On Aug 13, 2019 |
What should you do? This is easy work na: continue your search till you find a boyfriend’s mother who likes you. Life is not meant to kill you with worries. |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Mother Hates You, What Do You Do? by crackhouse(m): 6:42am On Aug 13, 2019 |
Then go and bath u have body odour. |
Re: When Your Boyfriend's Mother Hates You, What Do You Do? by madridguy(m): 6:44am On Aug 13, 2019 |
The bold part is 100% true. donbachi: |
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