Get what she has always wanted but couldn't get. Deliver it personally and watch the price on her face.

If she is sold out, you will know at once.

If not, then it's an act or service. Find it and you will have her relating from your palms.

From my mum's experience. It's likely a
lady may be a wife or wife to be, have done really badly before, so she will see all women coming close to her children as the same. Try finding out from ur lover if any lady has caused them pain or trouble before in the family.

ImaIma1:


Under normal circumstances, I won't try to blackmail or manipulate my son over his choice of a life partner. I will advise and give my opinion. The final decision will be left to him. That's how my mum did. No interference whatsoever.

Many a times a guy's ability to make good and sound decisions will determine the extent to which his mother or older/younger siblings can influence his decisions. When your people know you for making decisions that often turn out badly, your opinion of a woman holds no water *I don't want to go down the spiritual route for now*. What the mother thinks of her son is quite important too here.

I have read advice here and I must say that what you brought up is why am single .I have brought two ladies to my mother but she rejected them .later she introduced me to her friends daughter that one rejected me after I had made up my mind to make my mother happy by going against my way and that made me angry and I openly told her I won't get married again .I stayed away from women and today God said u can't run .he brought a girl from another tribe to me .this girl is everything I want in a woman I know my mother will object but my way now is that I will protect this girl till death and I will go on and make my move but I will diplomatic while moving forward I have made up my mind on her .will press on while talking to them so just be diplomatic and if your guy loves you he will protect you but never talk back or go on offensive against his mum but maintain diplomacy

I THINK IT SHOULD BE A MOTHER ROLE TO TEACH HIS SON ON THE LINE OF LADY THEY SHOULD BE DATING..
NOT PRESENTING A LADY AND THEY DONT LIKE HER!

AkeNathan:


Abi oo. Painting a woman black. She doesnt want to tell us what warrants such elderly woman to despise her.

Whenever a story is one-sided then the reporter is hiding something evil and shameful.

Shame on you original poster.

I wish there is unlike button. Why cursing her, op. If you don't have any stuff in your head to contribute, u read and walk away.

Several factors are in play here,
1. The said mother is picky about the girls/women in her son's life and don't like you as a good fit.
2. Maybe you aren't respectful enough, *just saying*
3. She has been told be her pastor that you are not good for her son.

Hot18:


So how will u know if a relationship will lead to marriage? Can u see the future?

so u are in an undefined relationship in this era? keep it up and see where it would lead u to.

Hot18:


Shame on u too. Did I paint her black? You can't read it properly?

see this one looking for advice and still has the guts to abuse,no wonder the old woman hates you.

Love your mother inlaw. Dont mind her bad behaviours towards you. Love knows no offence

micxwell:
Many a times a guy's ability to make good and sound decisions will determine the extent to which his mother or older/younger siblings can influence his decisions. When your people know you for making decisions that often turn out badly, your opinion of a woman holds no water *I don't want to go down the spiritual route for now*. What the mother thinks of her son is quite important too here.

As a man, if your mum and younger siblings have to make decisions for you, there is something definitely wrong somewhere. A mother can advise but should not impose.

See I have so many instances and cases around me obviously because most of my friends, cousins, siblings are married. Even my own case that my MIL was proving stubborn because of church denomination.

It seems my mum was a unicorn or just not the average interfering type. She would tell you that you can marry any tribe you want. She would advise you but not impose. She always said that when you choose your spouse yourself, you will work out your issues yourself but if she tries to influence your decision, you will bring every single issue that comes up to her. And that is not how to live.

My point is that a child should know when their mum's interference is unreasonable. Usually the female children figure it out and fight it but the males are too blinded by "mother's love" to figure it out.

It means you're not doing well and the best thing to do is leave the relationship ASAP cos it'll even escalate if you eventually marry him but before then, try change your bad attitudes and be good.

Some people will say mother's know best!

Actually they do only if it's not for their selfish reasons. It could be the tribe, family, or maybe the mum does not want the child away from her. Some mums can be over pampering and over protective.

It could also be she has a lady for the son to marry (in most cases the ladies turn back and become the mother in law worse night mare).

For people saying she must have done this and that for the woman to dislike her, abegi forget it, if the boy mother does not like you, she no like you be that.

Even when mother's put their sons girlfriend to test by watching her to see if she will do any domestic chores when visiting the boy is just too childish. Even if she does it doesn't mean she will do it in her husband house well or do it when next time she visit you after they are married. Infact that does not make her a good wife, only time will tell.

Mums please just let your kids be, give them your blessings and pray for them. No one is perfect,

[quote author=Hot18 post=811
Shame on u too. Did I paint her black? You can't read it properly? [/quote]. Hmmmmmm something is really wrong somewhere..rest my case

baba6ix:
theres some thing you are not telling us.tell us that thing and we will tell you what to do

Hahahaha...be nice a little bruh.

XhosaNostra:
Keep your distance, but be cordial when you do meet in person. Basically, kill them with kindness. If they're quarrelsome & crazy, best that you avoid them as much as you can. You don't need that kind of negativity in your life.

She can't do that ...it's her boyfriend's mother...her would be mother in-law

AkeNathan:


Abi oo. Painting a woman black. She doesnt want to tell us what warrants such elderly woman to despise her.

Whenever a story is one-sided then the reporter is hiding something evil and shameful.

Shame on you original poster.

You assumed and you act on assumptions. I shake my head.

Hot18:
Pls advise everyone.

When you are dating a guy and his mother hates you and asks him to end the relationship but he is still with you and insists on continuing with the relationship.

What do u do pls. I need ur contributions.

Thank u

Sadly, you can't do much, your so-called boyfriend is the 1 and 0 here. you have to read the writings on the wall and the writing is the so-called boyfriend. Just prepare yourself to run.... just incase. Family problems in Africa could be demonic attimes

Your name:"hot18" reminds me of hot teenage 18 girls xvideos so it tells alot about ur pornographic life and no good mum wants a local IndecentStar for daughter inlaw. Try me though, we could do some hot videos

Find your way out quickly!

baba6ix:
theres some thing you are not telling us.tell us that thing and we will tell you what to do

abi ooo... See op every mother wants d best for their child/ren and most especially d males,mothers do d overall sampling for male child wen it comes to picking a woman for themselves, proper examination is been carried out, ur attitude, mode of dressing, how u deliver yr answer wen asked a question,y do want to b with their son regardless d situation etc..and mind u women can hardly hide their attitude no matter how composed they are, they end up falling off d cliff,women can smell deceit from afar.. How much more wen u r a woman like them..see if a mother accept u as their daughter in law.. Every other member of d family can lick balls for all I care.. U win.. Mothers are d power room.. Don't joke with them... So check ursef op..

ImaIma1:


You are quite right. It's just that some mothers interfere too much in their children's lives and try to make choices for them out of their own selfishness or limited knowledge or exposure.

A child should know how to balance the mum's advice and his personal choice. Afterall, he's a man and should be able to take decisions that affect his future

Every mother wants the best for her kids, especially when it comes to picking a life partner. Perhaps you should look at this issue from that angle.

dazzlingd:


Can u imagine, first family she wanted to marry into, 80% did not like her, second family managed her and still trying to cope with her and she did not know she need to check herself... Many are mad, few are roaming.

... It's obvious she married a chicken and she's a control freak , her husband listens to her 101% .....tufiaka
#spits

Is it possible for your brother to be on hospital admission for 6 weeks, and you dont go and visit him in the hospital? Are you hoping for his death? If you will go and see your brother, why can't you accord same courtesy to the wife if you believe she's now a part of your family? Any family that does that to their sibling's spouse should be avoided and kept at a distance. They can not be relied upon in tough times, and your living or death means nothing to them.
Go where you are celebrated. I give people same energy they bring my way.

Forget about the OP. Most African parents are Self Centred and specialist at frustrating their Children's Happiness thereby leading them into depression. They feel their happiness must come first before their kids. if she brings a girl she likes but her son doesn't like, you'll see her trying to force the Son to marry her

There is only one thing to do which is


















CHANGE!!!!!!!!!

macho44:
Every mother wants the best for her kids, especially when it comes to picking a life partner. Perhaps you should look at this issue from that angle.

Remember that she was once a young girl and would have frowned at her own MIL interfering.

A mother wants the best for her kids but she should know when to draw the line. Perhaps if she did a good job in bringing them up, she would leave them and trust them to make their decisions instead of still "babying" them even as grown men.

fredrickmyers:
abi ooo... See op every mother wants d best for their child/ren and most especially d males,mothers do d overall sampling for male child wen it comes to picking a woman for themselves, proper examination is been carried out, ur attitude, mode of dressing, how u deliver yr answer wen asked a question,y do want to b with their son regardless d situation etc..and mind u women can hardly hide their attitude no matter how composed they are, they end up falling off d cliff,women can smell deceit from afar.. How much more wen u r a woman like them..see if a mother accept u as their daughter in law.. Every other member of d family can lick balls for all I care.. U win.. Mothers are d power room.. Don't joke with them... So check ursef op..

Thankfully, this is not always the case especially for a man that has a mind of his own and doesn't play puppet in his mother's hands.

Mothers are not spirits or God that knows it all. They also make mistakes and a wise child should know when to put a foot down.

Why do you think mums don't have that much hold over their daughter's decision? Because they are women also and can see through their mother's plight. But the men tend to be gullible when it comes to mummy.

after going through our different contributions here one thing is certain....ie united family and a good family upbringing..
in a united, organized and prayerful family like mine[not boosting anyway} we always watch each others back irrespective of your position in the family .. Most importantly we don't joke around with our mothers contributions or rather advise... some time last year my elder brother got him self a girl to marry he brought her to our family house as usual.. later on after that first visit my mom called us together and said he is not gonna marry the girl that she is possessed, not knowing she has been following the girl up on social media even before she broke up with my broo, she even stressed that the girl never uploaded her sons pics on her updates, secondly she said her spiritual director warned that the girl is a destroyer......what we did as a family we have to invite the girl and the man of God.....And actually during the prayers the evil spirit manifested in her and at last she got her deliverance...Now she is with us as a sister in-law and she is the most loved.
so my candid advise to you is this...irrespective of how your hubby loves you, without the support of year mother in-law you're wasting your years there as one day the same man will come for your head #familyfirst
furthermore, work on your deficiency before and after a relationship or marriage as you can never trick a retired criminal, some of our mother's are highly intelligent, spiritual while some are diabolical, so have a right intentions
prayers remains the key to every successful married woman happy family.....
lastly your hubby / husband have a big role and quota to contribute in that issue...

Spectrum22:


She probably does not like the boy's mother but tries to gather sympathy by claim the woman hates her.

After marriage, this girl will definitely call her mother-in-law a witch. Na dia way.

The way you guys twist things ehn and add your own story is amazing

Mariangeles:

She can't do that ...it's her boyfriend's mother...her would be mother in-law

So what is the best solution in your opinion?