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Please How Do I Convince My Sister To Break Unhealthy Ties ? by sexysage(m): 9:36pm On Oct 30, 2019
Good evening everyone..
Guys I'd need the elders to look into this matter for me.
There's a guy who lives around me who has been keen on dating my younger sister for like three years plus but my mom and I have been against the relationship cos we felt she's just twenty and priorities are needed to be set straight so as to build her into an independent woman rather than being a leeching hoe and asides the guy's background is not an encouraging one such that I'd wish my enemy.
So some weeks back my mom called to tell me she's been seeing my sister communicating via chats and phone calls with the guy she's been warning her about , but she didn't confront her about it.
So I took the matter up and spoke to her. She opened up telling me she likes the guy's personality not his looks or money but she's not given him a yes. I really do not want my sister around a person like this guy at a time like this but I've spoken to her and she wouldn't just do away with him. I want her to face her career first as she just got admission to study nursing this year.

Guys how on earth am I expected to handle this matter ?
PS: I've ever been in a relationship and I don't see the need to be in one at the moment due to the hurdles of the medical career ahead of me and how I've planned my life.
Re: Please How Do I Convince My Sister To Break Unhealthy Ties ? by pharrell8(m): 9:42pm On Oct 30, 2019
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Re: Please How Do I Convince My Sister To Break Unhealthy Ties ? by Nobody: 10:05pm On Oct 30, 2019
Certain things are beyond one's control. My mantra is, I could only tell you the little I know about life since I equally have a naive little sister that looks up to me, but I can never force you to do or change a cause. The best teacher life has given us is 'Mistake'. Let your sister make her mistakes and learn from them and if it turns out good for her, it'll be her luck.

Note: I am not in any way saying 'don't advise'. What I'm saying is, when you're done talking, seat and watch.

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Re: Please How Do I Convince My Sister To Break Unhealthy Ties ? by Nobody: 10:12pm On Oct 30, 2019
It's her life and her choices. If you and your mother aren't careful then you will push her into his arms. Say your piece and leave it with her.

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Re: Please How Do I Convince My Sister To Break Unhealthy Ties ? by DrSam4(m): 10:24pm On Oct 30, 2019
Where is her Father?
Re: Please How Do I Convince My Sister To Break Unhealthy Ties ? by sexysage(m): 10:33pm On Oct 30, 2019
DrSam4:
Where is her Father?

My dad is no more. Lost him six years back and it's been God's help coupled with mom's hustle.
Re: Please How Do I Convince My Sister To Break Unhealthy Ties ? by Nobody: 10:35pm On Oct 30, 2019
sexysage:
Good evening everyone..
Guys I'd need the elders to look into this matter for me.
There's a guy who lives around me who has been keen on dating my younger sister for like three year plus but my mom and I have been against the relationship cos we felt she's just twenty and priorities are needed to be set straight so as to build her into an independent woman rather than being a leeching hoe and asides the guy's background is not an encouraging one such that I'd wish my enemy.
So some weeks back my mom called to tell me she's been seeing my sister communicating via chats and phone calls with the guy she's been warning her about , but she didn't confront her about it.
So I took the matter up and spoke to her. She opened up telling me she likes the guy's personality not his looks or money but she's not given him a yes. I really do not want my sister around a person like this guy at a time like this but I've spoken to her and she wouldn't just do away with him. I want her to face her career first as she just got admission to study nursing this year.

Guys how on earth am I expected to handle this matter ?
PS: I've ever been in a relationship and I don't see the need to be in one at the moment due to the hurdles of the medical career ahead of me and how I've planned my life.
Two people you cant advice:
1. A woman in love
2. A man with money

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Re: Please How Do I Convince My Sister To Break Unhealthy Ties ? by DrSam4(m): 10:47pm On Oct 30, 2019
sexysage:


My dad is no more. Lost him six years back and it's been God's help coupled with mom's hustle.

OK
Any elder bro?
Re: Please How Do I Convince My Sister To Break Unhealthy Ties ? by Starz825(m): 10:57pm On Oct 30, 2019
GrabHisBalls:
Certain things are beyond one's control. My mantra is, I could only tell you the little I know about life since I equally have a naive little sister that looks up to me, but I can never force you to do or change a cause. The best teacher life has given us is 'Mistake'. Let your sister make her mistakes and learn from them and if it turns out good for her, it'll be her luck.

Note: I am not in any way saying 'don't advise'. What I'm saying is, when you're done talking, seat and watch.
Mistake.....but do u realize there are some costly mistake....
A girl who just gained admission should take time to study for grades...u think say nursing na play play....
As much as I don't stand against relationships...but I still feel she should keep him as a friend for now..and pay more attention to her studies...

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Re: Please How Do I Convince My Sister To Break Unhealthy Ties ? by sexysage(m): 12:48am On Oct 31, 2019
DrSam4:


OK
Any elder bro?

No.. I'm the first child
Re: Please How Do I Convince My Sister To Break Unhealthy Ties ? by Cousin9999: 7:19am On Oct 31, 2019
First, don't force your opinion on her. However, sit down and speak honestly with her and be objective. Don't lecture or judge her. Don't insult anyone.

Make sure you clearly explain your position and why you're concerned enough to say something.

After that, just leave her alone because you can't steer an adult away from bad choices if that's what they want. And even after bad experiences, you'll find that some people keep walking into the same problem. There's a reason why some make those decisions over and over, but we don't have the power to change them, and it's not our place anyway.
Re: Please How Do I Convince My Sister To Break Unhealthy Ties ? by Ginaz(f): 7:22am On Oct 31, 2019
You have to sit her down and talk to her about relationship in general. The good and bad side of it . I don’t think you will be able to persuade her to leave that guy since her mind is gradually getting into it.
Re: Please How Do I Convince My Sister To Break Unhealthy Ties ? by Offpoint: 7:42am On Oct 31, 2019
Let her be, advice is useless on a girl in love.
Do the part you can and leave the rest.

Make the guy your friend and advice both of them against premarital sex and protection.
Re: Please How Do I Convince My Sister To Break Unhealthy Ties ? by fineboynl(m): 8:01am On Oct 31, 2019
no one advice a girl or a boy in love. the only thing that cab be force is to take a to a far away place where both can never see except by calling.

my former church the pastor daughter had a crushed on me. and I am a very god guy I don't want to hurt my pastor because she was still a virgin. the girl crush on me was madly even where I was avoiding her it making her go mad. it was obvious the pastor and pastor wife was aware and I don't want to stop the church because I was close to the Pastor. I never give her my number and the pastor wife stop bringing her to church. that was how she stop seeing me so it will fade from her memory with time.

its natural phenomenon that young people passes through for others it was fun If the look back while for others it destroys or consumed them.
Re: Please How Do I Convince My Sister To Break Unhealthy Ties ? by Mstick: 10:04am On Oct 31, 2019
Your sister is a fish brain with oloshoism from the root. I just hope the guy doesn't add more problems to his life by smashing her polluted pusssy.
Re: Please How Do I Convince My Sister To Break Unhealthy Ties ? by nlPoster: 10:16am On Oct 31, 2019
fineboynl:
no one advice a girl or a boy in love. the only thing that cab be force is to take a to a far away place where both can never see except by calling.

my former church the pastor daughter had a crushed on me. and I am a very god guy I don't want to hurt my pastor because she was still a virgin. the girl crush on me was madly even where I was avoiding her it making her go mad. it was obvious the pastor and pastor wife was aware and I don't want to stop the church because I was close to the Pastor. I never give her my number and the pastor wife stop bringing her to church. that was how she stop seeing me so it will fade from her memory with time.

.

Sounds like a fake story, just saying.
Re: Please How Do I Convince My Sister To Break Unhealthy Ties ? by fineboynl(m): 10:18am On Oct 31, 2019
nairalandposter:


Sounds like a fake story, just saying.

what fake about it?
Re: Please How Do I Convince My Sister To Break Unhealthy Ties ? by nlPoster: 10:27am On Oct 31, 2019
Re: Please How Do I Convince My Sister To Break Unhealthy Ties ? by fineboynl(m): 10:35am On Oct 31, 2019
Re: Please How Do I Convince My Sister To Break Unhealthy Ties ? by nlPoster: 10:40am On Oct 31, 2019
fineboynl:


And what does that got to the with these topics. Because I mentioned church. Oh you think I'm Bad guys. There are good bad guys you know

Somebody going to church and who says he is close to the pastor, should not be this comfortable and vulgar about casual sex.
Re: Please How Do I Convince My Sister To Break Unhealthy Ties ? by fineboynl(m): 10:55am On Oct 31, 2019
nairalandposter:


Somebody going to church and who says he is close to the pastor, should not be this comfortable and vulgar about casual sex.
choser in the sense that he know me and my family. I am not working with him but we know closely and anything will effect the relationship with my family.
Re: Please How Do I Convince My Sister To Break Unhealthy Ties ? by nlPoster: 1:52pm On Oct 31, 2019
fineboynl:
choser in the sense that he know me and my family. I am not working with him but we know closely and anything will effect the relationship with my family.

Do you see a serious contradiction between church and your lifestyle?
Re: Please How Do I Convince My Sister To Break Unhealthy Ties ? by fineboynl(m): 1:59pm On Oct 31, 2019
nairalandposter:


Do you see a serious contradiction between church and your lifestyle?
oga church has nothing to do with lifestyle

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