drezzyx:
Can you practice what u just preached?

Toks2008:


I would have asked you to make the move but it will shock you that as soon as you do that, she will start the old fashioned act of playing hard to get.

Emotionss:
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And it also takes a very emotionally and mentally mature woman not to start acting hard-to-get and whatnot the moment the SAME guy she has been giving the green light approach her.

SGANIVA:
I will marry any girl that first approach me if she's good.some year s back in aba, one fine lady just woo me for a relationship,I just take her out, buy some good stuffs for her and politely tell her , how I would love to marry her but is very unfortunate that my people don't marry an outsider .she was actually older than me.I admire such girls very well

lyndaway:
It only takes a mature man to treat a woman right that walks up to him to express her feelings to him in this generation if you try it with a foolish guy I pity the girl

JONNYSPUTE:
Toks, Toks,the table shaker. In Nigeria,whom ever does the wooeing,does the spending. I think they know this. My thought thou,,I might be
wrong.

Geminita1:
Even in the animal kingdom: The male species know and have mastered their roles.

Nairaland is a site for people whose heads are stuck in a different world far away from reality.

vincentjk:



Is it really advisable to date older ladies pls?

Almost every girl coming my way are older than me, sometimes it depresses me why it happens this way

Toks2008:
Do you know that it is practically difficult for a lady to be with a man she has no desire for?...and whilst it is easy for men to manage a lady they don't really have feelings for, it will be very difficult for a lady to do same but unfortunately in most cases when a lady sees a guy she strongly desires, all she does is wait and hope the guy woos her...an unfortunate situation I must say.

A lady who has no feelings for a guy will find it hard to be under the same roof with such let alone allowing the guy to touch her in anyway thereby making the guy go through serious heartache and emotional pains...yet if the same lady sees a guy she really desires, she is compelled to just wait and hope or maybe show signs that may not be understood by the guy.

I had always maintained the notion that ladies should be with a man who loves them even if they don't have any desire for the man but this is simply because most ladies usually wait for the man to make the first move even when they are drooling for him and it makes no sense for a lady to be selective when all she does is wait to be selected even by a guy she so much desires.

So i begin to wonder why ladies had to go through the pains of just wishing a guy they desire walks up to them when they can simply walk up to the guy and tell him straight up?...in my opinion, this does not reduce the worth of the lady but it is how a lady comports herself in an affair that determines her worth. If a lady expresses her desire for a guy and he turns her down, the lady should just walk away with her head up high...it changes nothing about her self worth but real men will even respect her for that...but the shocker is that in most cases, men Don't turn down ladies who decisively woo them.

Ladies must understand that we live in the 21st century where gender equality is the order of the day and what is the essence of gender equality when ladies can't express their desire to a man just as a man would?
Enough of the silly hard to get act or showing subtle signs that you want a guy...IF YOU WANT HIM, WALK UP TO HIM AND TELL HIM.

It will shock many ladies to know that there are many responsible marriage ready guys out there who are just fed up with the wooing game and will practically fall for any lady who genuinely shows interest in them and this is the secret few ladies presumed to be "bad girls" are using to get sweet responsible guys.

As long as ladies allow and themselves to be curtailed by the tradition of men making the first move,they may have no choice but to learn how to cope with the ones that come there way.

My candid opinion.

What do you think?

Apus:
Very apt.

Most Nigerian women are hypocrites. They play the equality card only when it suites them. By d time they loose us all to their foreign counterpart na dt time their eyes go clear. The day I was wooed by an intelligent beautiful lady wey Baba God finish work for her body for foreign land, I just dey use Naija babes take form.

JONNYSPUTE:
Toks, Toks,the table shaker. In Nigeria,whom ever does the wooeing,does the spending. I think they know this. My thought thou,,I might be wrong.

Toks2008:


I have never been on a downgrade. Marriage is overhyped.

chigoizie7:
And some will come and tell you, what if he turn you down?


Must everyone you like also like you?

The same way a guy will approach a girl and she turns him down is the same way a guy can turn a lady down too.



But I really know why some girls are scared too. I know that some do have enough liver to ask a guy out. But most times, when they meet the unserious ones, the ones who are still fucklicants. Those type of guys will never say no, even when they do not genuinely like the girl, but because they knew that such scenario comes with a free pusssy to bang, they just accept it, and be treating the girl anyhow. Which is not good.



Girls, let me tell you something, if you like a guy, get close to him, become friends with him first, know the type of guy he is, know if he is truly the type of guy you want apart from the physical appearance and all that, know his level of reasoning, then you can ask him out.


Me, chigozie , I do not believe in love at first sight, I can not be loving you when I have not gotten to know you better. You could be beautiful on the outside with enough curves and all that, but what about your personality? I no go chop your beauty nah. At this stage in my life, I value peace of mind very well, so I cannot use my hand and buy trouble for myself all in the name of beauty and nice curves.


If I approach you and start telling that I love you immediately without getting to know who you are, just know that I am only interested in fuccccking you, that’s all.


So, girls, in as much as the op is right, I also understand your fears too. But you all need to stop that playing hard to get.

angelEmade:
lol if u love a man...walk up tohim and tellhim...no big deal

Geminita1:
Even in the animal kingdom: The male species know and have mastered their roles.

Nairaland is a site for people whose heads are stuck in a different world far away from reality.

angelEmade:
lol if u love a man...walk up tohim and tellhim...no big deal

vincentjk:



Is it really advisable to date older ladies pls?

Almost every girl coming my way are older than me, sometimes it depresses me why it happens this way

Emotionss:
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Some women after giving the green light will start playing hard-to-get and whatnot the moment the guy approach her forgetting that some guys are too busy for that nonsense.

degamemaster:
Hahahahahahha I don read comments tire and na only laugh i just dey laugh out. Nairaland is a funny place walahi.
Anyways shaa, I've had my pretty share of girl's wahala both in home and abroad. As I write now, I've been wooing one particular girl for almost six months now, all she does is to treat me as if I don't exist and she's so busy with her work. She doesn't even write me even to say Hi, if I write her it will take her like two days before she reads and respond (sometimes she doesn't reply) to my message. I'm getting tired already but I like this babe and would marry her if she says yes. I hinted her about my intention from the very first day we went on our first date and she was happy and she told me how she would like to settle down and have just two kids. But the habit of not talking with me as often as we should is disturbing me. Though she told me about her boyfriend/ex which they have just broken up after 7yrs in a relationship. Could that be the reason she's being sceptical about me or she's not just into me? Can somebody help me out and advise me?

wany:


A guy over 40yrs still been childish in speech,no wonder your marriage crashed.men your age are busy with meaningful stuffs cause at this age over 40 retirement is near,but here you are gallivanting with your suppose children mates .idleness is really sickening.

luvyaself95:


She is not the first and last girl that will stare at me and i think is something has to do with you girls yeye shakara ( hard to get ).

you know when a guy is staring at you is clearly that he is into you, but about you girls is other round and beside I don't think i did something wrong because the way girl do stare at me is like she is into me like 70% sure. and she has once tried to woo me never not knowing i was just fooling myself and am definitely sure she is regretting her action that day because after we do bump into each other more than before but i don't send her in a nutshell whenever she see me now she always look sad but who cares.

luvyaself95:


I did that oh i Approach her as i was about to talk to her she just walk out on me i was so surprised and she made me swear that moment i will never toast Any girl that give me green light or whatever so after that day we do see each other like 2 to 3 times in the week but i always do as if i don't know her and have never talk to her before.

she still stare at me like before on the Monday or Tuesday as i was fetching water i notice someone was looking at my side then I turn to look turn out to be her, this morning i was talking with a pharmacist outside her shop while we were joking and laughing saw a face gazing at me like about 3 shops before the pharmacist shop i continue staring at the person until the person turn out to be her again immediately i talk in my mind is this girl mad or something can she stop staring at me.
abi bank dey give her money for it ni.

naija girls are Problems.

Jewessgratitude:




Maybe you remind her of her ex. Also be sure she's not a monitoring spirit assigned to you����