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Re: I Don't Know The Right Time To Tell My Husband About My Genotype by Vyolet(f): 10:23am On Nov 14, 2019 |
Tell him ASAP, let everything scatter, it will fall back in place, it will only take time. Whatever decision he makes will not change the fact that everything will be alright in the end. 1 Like |
Re: I Don't Know The Right Time To Tell My Husband About My Genotype by abelswife(f): 10:33am On Nov 14, 2019 |
Mariangeles: I don't want to get angry with you this morning. You say I talk about my family being sick siki without compassion, you're not a serious person at all. Do you have any SS person in your house? Do you know the amount of attention and care they require? Are you aware that most times they're weak and out of breath? I love my SIL almost as much as I love my siblings but I don't like the fact that she can't do most things regular people do because of her health. I'm done talking to you. Bye 5 Likes |
Re: I Don't Know The Right Time To Tell My Husband About My Genotype by LadySarah: 10:52am On Nov 14, 2019 |
This secret is deep.Mymum's neighbour has 3 sicklers out of 4 kids.One died and two are looking yellow with bloated stomachs.They are illiterates and poor,yet All Their earnings Go to the hospital. You are lucky both of You are compatible but he needs to know. |
Re: I Don't Know The Right Time To Tell My Husband About My Genotype by bayobabe(f): 10:56am On Nov 14, 2019 |
There are some things you don't keep from the ones you love especially your boyfriend or husband. I and my husband meet in school but we started our relationship during an ASUU strike. I told him I am asthmatic. Funny thing was that he smokes then and I never knew and he stopped it because he wanted the relationship to work. You know what, the day we resume and meet I had almost the worse crisis I have ever had in all the history of my asthma attacks. Imagine I didn't tell him and he had smoked where I was, just imagine me having such a bad crisis without him smoking. Maybe I would have been dead by now. Op, tell him ASAP. He is your Fiance, you should have studied him enough to know how to present your speech to him. I would wish you good luck. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Don't Know The Right Time To Tell My Husband About My Genotype by Alexgeneration(m): 10:57am On Nov 14, 2019 |
AwkaetitiBabe:I hope you'll keep this same energy and opinion if your husband withholds information like he is HIV positive and suffers from weak erection? 3 Likes
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Re: I Don't Know The Right Time To Tell My Husband About My Genotype by Mariangeles(f): 11:00am On Nov 14, 2019 |
abelswife:Was I talking to you ? Hey! You're free to get angry all you want. Your type are those who make people feel guilty and less for being sick . 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: I Don't Know The Right Time To Tell My Husband About My Genotype by Nobody: 11:04am On Nov 14, 2019 |
The right time to tell him is now. Not telling him now but on the wedding night would be highly deceptive of you. 4 Likes |
Re: I Don't Know The Right Time To Tell My Husband About My Genotype by Nobody: 11:12am On Nov 14, 2019 |
Alexgeneration:Mabinu. I was wrong. |
Re: I Don't Know The Right Time To Tell My Husband About My Genotype by Nobody: 11:38am On Nov 14, 2019 |
abelswife: You talk about your family without compassion. Assuming the person in quote is your sister will you talk about her like that. Thank you for all your advice, you don't have to show your personal resentment. My husband to be is AA and not AS, and I'm not rushing into marriage because you all don't know my age. SS patient are people like you too, they came by the mistake made by their parents. Also, some SS are even healthier than most AA without sickness or drugs or attention. I will pick your advice wisely. Thanks 2 Likes |
Re: I Don't Know The Right Time To Tell My Husband About My Genotype by queenitee(f): 11:58am On Nov 14, 2019 |
damilare214:Exactly. The mistakes of their parents are what we all are tying to avoid. Besides op, no one is judging you for being SS, in fact, I adore SS because it’s not easy and y’all are the real MVP. We all are talking for the sake of trust in your relationship so you won’t lose it and so your husband would know how he can help you. No one, not even any single one of us is judging you. It’s better you tell him than someone else telling him or him finding out in any other way. 2 Likes |
Re: I Don't Know The Right Time To Tell My Husband About My Genotype by bukatyne(f): 12:20pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
Breaststroke: Wonder not my dear. I only told her not to fess up after marriage cornering him. If she is serious, sorry and truly loves him, she will fess up today and leave the guy to make his choice BEFORE Saturday. Oops! Today is Thursday. 1 Like |
Re: I Don't Know The Right Time To Tell My Husband About My Genotype by bukatyne(f): 12:21pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
Alexgeneration: Hahahaha! |
Re: I Don't Know The Right Time To Tell My Husband About My Genotype by bukatyne(f): 12:27pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth: I agree with you, very unfair. Two years down the line, when the deceived partner starts to seek solace in the kids, drinks, other women/men, drugs etc or torturing the liar, we look at them as evil. Then they open threads with 'my husband hates me', 'my wife is evil', 'my spouse does not make love to me', 'all my in-laws are against me', 'my hudband/wife does not respect me' etc. They never say what they did wrong or corrolate their spouses actions as a reaction to their deceit. 6 Likes |
Re: I Don't Know The Right Time To Tell My Husband About My Genotype by Fountainofyouth(f): 12:29pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
Donald95: How would it work when the marriage will be built on lies? When she start having crises and he is running about looking for solutions, what other lie would she have to concort? What is bad is bad pls, when someone you love so much lie her way into marrying you and you find out, you'll know how it feels. 3 Likes |
Re: I Don't Know The Right Time To Tell My Husband About My Genotype by yeyeosoronga: 12:30pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
A marriage built on lies will still fall like a pack of cards. Just a matter of time. What a deceitful lady you are. 1 Like |
Re: I Don't Know The Right Time To Tell My Husband About My Genotype by nervorum: 12:41pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
damilare214: Truth be told, what you have done is wicked and ungodly, if the wedding is this weekend. You deliberately want to build a family on a faulty foundation. Your genotype is not the issue. If you can hide this from your supposedly loved husband-to-be up till now, it therefore means you are quietly capable of so many other things. Those who built on solid foundation have trials how much less one built on sand. God is not on your side, if you don't open up before formally pronounced married. Don't forget to provide update when your labour begins to bear fruit. |
Re: I Don't Know The Right Time To Tell My Husband About My Genotype by Fountainofyouth(f): 1:02pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
damilare214: This is not a comparison between AA and SS or who is more healthy, it is about trust issues and the huge lie you want to keep from him, tell him today before walking down the isle on Saturday, who knows, he might not react since the wedding is so close, just tell him, if you don't and you tell him later or he finds out, he may make you suffer and frustrate you out of the marriage, is that what you want? Do you want to give him a very good reason to divorce you and then tell people what a deceitful woman you are? Think about it miss, marriage is not a do or die affair, and he is not the only perfect man out there if you're scared of losing him, tell him the truth. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Don't Know The Right Time To Tell My Husband About My Genotype by abelswife(f): 1:10pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
damilare214: When you finish calculating the resentment in what I said, make sure you tell your husband to be your real genotype. You will see worse than this when he finds out after you both have been married. If your colleague did not go and forge medical results and report to the church pastor of how her in-laws to be are trying to stop her marriage I will not be here having this conversation with you. Don't think your emotional blackmail will get to me okay? 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Don't Know The Right Time To Tell My Husband About My Genotype by abelswife(f): 1:11pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth: Thank you |
Re: I Don't Know The Right Time To Tell My Husband About My Genotype by yeyeosoronga: 1:21pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
I truly feel for people with medical or mental disabilities. But lying to make someone love you is not the right thing to do. I know it's quite challenging, and the stigma society places on you is not fair. But love can still find you. I know a female who is SS and married to a Dr who's also from a very rich background. He didnt marry her becasue of money, he was much richer than her. He knew her genotype. He is so much in love with her , and ready to look after her. They have children together, and all seems well. So you can also find love despite your medical/physical challenges. We've seen here on NL, men and women marrying physically challenged spouses, so it does happen 2 Likes |
Re: I Don't Know The Right Time To Tell My Husband About My Genotype by Dbeautyy(m): 2:05pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
Hmm, so sad you eventually reminded me of something. I lost a friend to that thing 16 years ago. Final year student, then I was still looking for admission, i was almost thru with my dinner when the news came. I think you will know what happened to the rest of the food. Secondly, I lost someone to that thing during my part three on campus, he was also actively doing his final year project, in fact he once took me to his project site. Even though I had a prompting in my spirit on each of the situation . They a both gone, but my Spirit man consoled me with the message the later sent to me on his sick bed. "Tell Oga not to worry, I have seen the Lord". If you like tell, if you like keep it to yourself. It is not about now, but the future, And remember you medical history will help when you start breeding, hmm may be you will lie to the doctor as well. Or maybe you will reveal the truth telling him/her to conceal it from you spouse. Time will tell |
Re: I Don't Know The Right Time To Tell My Husband About My Genotype by akinlope: 2:06pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
Pls for the sake of your future in the marriage you're about to venture into tell him. It's better he knows what he is going into if he truly loves you and want to be with you genotype will not be an inderence, beside if wanna hide it from him wheen u start bearing children this same genotype will manifest in at least one of your children and it will no longer be possible to hide. And trust me u know how men react toward this kinda thing.... |
Re: I Don't Know The Right Time To Tell My Husband About My Genotype by Nobody: 2:20pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
When you give birth and the child's comes out SS what do you do?When you fall ill and need blood,what do you do?You are deceptive and no one should take you seriously.I would run from you to be honest. 2 Likes |
Re: I Don't Know The Right Time To Tell My Husband About My Genotype by Allsingles: 2:30pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
I'm getting married this weekend and my husband to be doesn't know about my genotype. I'm SS but lied to him that I'm AS, he is AA. Before you fully accept to marry your partner, is very crucial that you found out the following from him or her. 1) Genotype and Blood Group. Have you taking it into seriousness to ask your partner about his or her Genotype and Blood Group? You may think that is too early to know this in the first month in the relationship, what if eventually pregnancy get involved in the relationship and it happens that you and your significant other is both AS? Nobody prays for such scandal and that's why is very crucial to deal with it on time because for AS to marry AS, their children will not be happy with them. 2) Is crucial that you know the HIV/AIDS status of your partner right from when the Relationship is getting serious before you make love with him or her. This virus doesn't announce itself to anyone that comes close to the carrier either does it appear in face, but through the medical test, you will know your way with him or her. 3) STI/STD. Don't say had i know because you didn't care in the beginning. Just like HIV/ADS doesn't make announcement and doesn't appear to the public from the face of the carrier, likewise STIs/STDs does not. Most of the STI/STD can prevent a woman from having children, some people after taking some drugs will think that they have thoroughly dealt with the infection where as the infection is just hidden in their system and then refused to allow the person to be productive. Does your woman have rashes in her Womanhood and.....https://allsinglesandmarried..com/2019/10/the-7-secrets-your-partner-may-have.html |
Re: I Don't Know The Right Time To Tell My Husband About My Genotype by Nobody: 2:51pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
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Re: I Don't Know The Right Time To Tell My Husband About My Genotype by Nobody: 3:02pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
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Re: I Don't Know The Right Time To Tell My Husband About My Genotype by Airtimex(m): 3:03pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
abelswife: This thing pain you shaa... Women believe without marriage, there is no life to live. Most can do anything to answer Mrs 1 Like |
Re: I Don't Know The Right Time To Tell My Husband About My Genotype by HIGHESTPOPORI(m): 3:33pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
queenitee:You too get sense |
Re: I Don't Know The Right Time To Tell My Husband About My Genotype by Khalidase83(m): 3:57pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
I wud advise u repeat ur Hb- genotype test . If it comes out SS, nothing to worry Abt after all he is AA and best for you. But I will insist u tell him before the wedding. If he finds out after the wedding, only God can tell what he wud do. If he truely loves u, he won't see it as a prob. He'd probably blame it on the person who did the Hb- genotype test al binitio. 2 Likes |
Re: I Don't Know The Right Time To Tell My Husband About My Genotype by livebyday(m): 3:59pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth: Esta Kindly respond to your msgs |
Re: I Don't Know The Right Time To Tell My Husband About My Genotype by crackhaus: 4:22pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
AwkaetitiBabe: You know why I like you? You no dey form |
Re: I Don't Know The Right Time To Tell My Husband About My Genotype by Fountainofyouth(f): 6:44pm On Nov 14, 2019 |
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