It better you met a mature female and influential lecturer in your school, am very sure you have them around...
If I am correct, in my school blackmail is always treated with high hands and will never be tolerated..
. Them might possibly invite him and talk to him.let him see reasons why he should not. You can't threaten him.

Secondly,this police, this will result in him signing that he will never realease such and if he does then he will be prosecuted.

CsRockefeller:
In all these, Lord please give me a sexually pure wife.

Dear Lord, I have never fondled with a girl, please, don't give me what has been used, over used and re used.

Dear Lord, from the deepest part of.my heart I plead.

i feel your fears too bro

If you truly did not consent the sex then it was a rape. Just look for a good law firm to report your case to, I strongly believe your boyfriend has a hand in this. They're both in serious problem only if you can get a good lawyer.

Get the fuc***g guy arrested immediately and he will confess what transpired.

May our prayers be answered

CsRockefeller:
In all these, Lord please give me a sexually pure wife.

Dear Lord, I have never fondled with a girl, please, don't give me what has been used, over used and re used.

Dear Lord, from the deepest part of.my heart I plead.

It serves you right. Next time you will fok with your brain intact. Rubbish. Olosho

Enemyofpeace:
It serves you right. Next time you will fok with your brain intact. Rubbish. Olosho

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This is in no way helpfull to anyone. We know stories like this disgust a lot of people. But its a matter of just "read and move on", its not by force to comment. And as it is your comment isn't even welcomed or appreciated here. I dont feel pity for her too but at the same time "we all make mistakes". You should be advising her and encouraging her to move on with her life or something. This is a lesson for her and everyone else. Thank you

jeffrey1596:
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This is in no way helpfull to anyone. We know stories like this disgust a lot of people. But its a matter of just "read and move on", its not by force to comment. And as it is your comment isn't even welcomed or appreciated here. I dont feel pity for her too but at the same time "we all make mistakes". You should be advising her and encouraging her to move on with her life or something. This is a lesson for her and everyone else. Thank you

It serves you right. Next time you will fok with your brain intact. Rubbish. Olosho
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If you were raped your boyfriend will know from telling from the clip.. how can you claim rape when probably your are the one Untop of him?

pamelaayomide:
Nairalanders I am actually typing this with fear of what to come.

I am an active member of this forum but change moniker by registering and creating a new one here to hide my identity.

Origin...

I met my boyfriend in school actually we were in the same department at funnab. We did things together. We were in love and had sex when we feel like it. We planned to get married after school.

Mistake...

I went to a birthday party of one of my close friends, I had three friends and we are like clique.
During the party I got drunk and the guy that took us to the party in his car took advantage of my drunken state and had sex with me and make it look like it is consensual. During the act I know what was happening but was too weak and blurred. I didn't know there was a video recording of the act. When I woke up the guy was no where to be found so I kept it to myself.

Blackmail...

When my guy found out that I cheated on him, he was furious. I denied it initially but when he showed me the sex clip I admitted it but defended myself on the ground that it was rape and not consensual. I summon courage and asked him how did he come up with the sex tape but that he would not answer to. He left that moment and I start feeling that he knows something about the tape and wants to blackmail.

Threat...

He showed up one day at my hostel and threaten to leak the tape online. I begged him profusely not to do that but he said my plea and tears are waste of time. That he will let everyone know the kind of loose lady I am for betraying and cheating on him. That I will regret the day I met him. That I doesn't deserve his love.

Currently...

He is yet to release the clip but may actually do that with what is happening to the Babcock ex student.

What should I do to stop him before he destroys me.

pamelaayomide:
I don't have the clip,it is with him.

So if u have the clip u would leak it?

Good morning contact me let know how to go about it OK,because if he eventually leaks that tape my dear u are gone,is better to stop him by all means

SmellingAnus:
the guy that fvcked you has already leaked the tape

Looked like they placed a bet on her,and the boyfriend wants to regain his lost funds from her...#Na Man wey pay brideprice na him sure pass o# One needs to be careful in this 21st century Relationship Pattern.

pamelaayomide:
Nairalanders I am actually typing this with fear of what to come.

I am an active member of this forum but change moniker by registering and creating a new one here to hide my identity.

Origin...

I met my boyfriend in school actually we were in the same department at funnab. We did things together. We were in love and had sex when we feel like it. We planned to get married after school.

Mistake...

I went to a birthday party of one of my close friends, I had three friends and we are like clique.
During the party I got drunk and the guy that took us to the party in his car took advantage of my drunken state and had sex with me and make it look like it is consensual. During the act I know what was happening but was too weak and blurred. I didn't know there was a video recording of the act. When I woke up the guy was no where to be found so I kept it to myself.

Blackmail...

When my guy found out that I cheated on him, he was furious. I denied it initially but when he showed me the sex clip I admitted it but defended myself on the ground that it was rape and not consensual. I summon courage and asked him how did he come up with the sex tape but that he would not answer to. He left that moment and I start feeling that he knows something about the tape and wants to blackmail.

Threat...

He showed up one day at my hostel and threaten to leak the tape online. I begged him profusely not to do that but he said my plea and tears are waste of time. That he will let everyone know the kind of loose lady I am for betraying and cheating on him. That I will regret the day I met him. That I doesn't deserve his love.

Currently...

He is yet to release the clip but may actually do that with what is happening to the Babcock ex student.

What should I do to stop him before he destroys me.

Why stressing yourself.
Since you already know that your sex tape will soon trend on the Internet, just start telling people now so that you won't feel the depression when it comes.
Make sure you start from your parent.

safarigirl:
my friend, when a person is inebriated/under the influence/drunk, for the most part, they can't scream or struggle because alcohol renders normal human beings bereft of proper thought process, or use of their limbs. That is why, it is said that a person is UNDER THE INFLUENCE. It is assumed you are not in control and whatever you do, cannot be held against you the same way it would, if you were sober.

The things some of you say on Buhari's internet is a cause for concern. You just come here to parade shocking ignorance with your full chest, these comments are the sorts of things that can render you jobless in certain climes

Anyway, let me assume you made this statement under the incluence

Can we follow thesame above logic for the guy.

Whatever you do cannot be held against you under the influence.

If whatever the girl did, should not be held against her, because she is "under the influence".
It then means the guy could also be under the influence of alcohol too, so whatever he has done or did shouldn't be held against him like if he was sober right.

Again back to the matter,
This video is "semi leaked" already and really there is no solution except she can hope for luck.

She has 2 options for damage control

1) Get all the family member or people the guy respects so much, and use these people to beg him to curtail the spread of the video, because as it stands, it may be on device of not less than 5guys that are close to him.

2) Get the police/dss to do an unexpected arrest, but this is a big gamble, The police must be able to to see the video on his device after the sudden arrest, and there must be a written or audio or video evidence of the guy threatening to release the video.
(Most Machiavellian guys wouldn't even keep this video on their phone, they will probably keep it with a distant paddy or cousin and wait for doomsday)

If the police can't find the video on his phone or that of his close friends and there is no strong evidence of him threatening to release such material, then she should only braze up for the worst.

The guy can even turn the case on her head if the police can't find such video on him and claim she wants to malign his image.

The guy may take his time for full revenge, you know they say revenge is a meal best served cold.
Then he can now wait for time and time to pass, and maybe on the eve of her wedding, he will now retrieve it from whoever he kept it with and release.

I prefer she goes for option 1

That is why I insist alcohol is not for women. Let's believe your story of non consensual sex. Step one, get evidence of your boyfriend threatening you. Step two get a lawyer, who will threaten him with litigation if tape is leaked. Since you can't afford a lawyer, report to the police, who definitely will invite him for a discussion. Meanwhile, since you say it was a rape, why haven't you reported the case to the police? I know Nigerian police is scum, but they are your best option at the moment. Also, tell your parents about the situation. Lastly, don't involve any cultist, you will only worsen the situation and please stay off alcohol, especially in social settings. It never ends well.

Inteltower:



Mr I too know I hear u. plus am a guy olodo

check other places please because we can't help you hear'

healthserve:



Maybe others will help

I've vowed to be unhelpful even in the face of death of a Nairalander. Sorry, its all about the game, not you. Don't take it personal.

Alaye keep shurt who your unhelpful and helpful, help

pamelaayomide:
Nairalanders I am actually typing this with fear of what to come.

I am an active member of this forum but change moniker by registering and creating a new one here to hide my identity.

Origin...

I met my boyfriend in school actually we were in the same department at funnab. We did things together. We were in love and had sex when we feel like it. We planned to get married after school.

Mistake...

I went to a birthday party of one of my close friends, I had three friends and we are like clique.
During the party I got drunk and the guy that took us to the party in his car took advantage of my drunken state and had sex with me and make it look like it is consensual. During the act I know what was happening but was too weak and blurred. I didn't know there was a video recording of the act. When I woke up the guy was no where to be found so I kept it to myself.

Blackmail...

When my guy found out that I cheated on him, he was furious. I denied it initially but when he showed me the sex clip I admitted it but defended myself on the ground that it was rape and not consensual. I summon courage and asked him how did he come up with the sex tape but that he would not answer to. He left that moment and I start feeling that he knows something about the tape and wants to blackmail.

Threat...

He showed up one day at my hostel and threaten to leak the tape online. I begged him profusely not to do that but he said my plea and tears are waste of time. That he will let everyone know the kind of loose lady I am for betraying and cheating on him. That I will regret the day I met him. That I doesn't deserve his love.

Currently...

He is yet to release the clip but may actually do that with what is happening to the Babcock ex student.

What should I do to stop him before he destroys me.

First of all get that guy that had sex with you arrested,its a rape for crying out loud and they are about to black mail you be fast before the out smart you

Waiting for the tape to leak....

Report him to the police first and make him sign an undertaking. He will be the one guiding the clip from leaking. Iggy azelia did that and it worked for her

sweetonugbu:
Leak it before him, he will be confused

Ah ah,are u normal

eguarojeona:
1.You are a liar, you knowingly cheated.
2.He is scum for threatening you with revenge porn.He is scum.You are scum too.
3.Just break up and move on.
4.Report him to the appropriate authorities.

If she was drunk then her judgment was impaired, do you want to say that you don't do stupid things when drunk that you will never do when sober?
Guys sleep with ’ugly’ girls and get them pregnant from one drunk night.

women get raped.

Even if it was consensual in her drunk state, she didn't consent to a video being made of her and that sex is enough grounds to make it not consensual.

If you have brothers or relative let them know so they can call him to order, you try that with my sisters i mess you up big time

pamelaayomide:
Nairalanders I am actually typing this with fear of what to come.

I am an active member of this forum but change moniker by registering and creating a new one here to hide my identity.

Origin...

I met my boyfriend in school actually we were in the same department at funnab. We did things together. We were in love and had sex when we feel like it. We planned to get married after school.

Mistake...

I went to a birthday party of one of my close friends, I had three friends and we are like clique.
During the party I got drunk and the guy that took us to the party in his car took advantage of my drunken state and had sex with me and make it look like it is consensual. During the act I know what was happening but was too weak and blurred. I didn't know there was a video recording of the act. When I woke up the guy was no where to be found so I kept it to myself.

Blackmail...

When my guy found out that I cheated on him, he was furious. I denied it initially but when he showed me the sex clip I admitted it but defended myself on the ground that it was rape and not consensual. I summon courage and asked him how did he come up with the sex tape but that he would not answer to. He left that moment and I start feeling that he knows something about the tape and wants to blackmail.

Threat...

He showed up one day at my hostel and threaten to leak the tape online. I begged him profusely not to do that but he said my plea and tears are waste of time. That he will let everyone know the kind of loose lady I am for betraying and cheating on him. That I will regret the day I met him. That I doesn't deserve his love.

Currently...

He is yet to release the clip but may actually do that with what is happening to the Babcock ex student.

What should I do to stop him before he destroys me.

I'd like to talk with you on how to get a peaceful solution to this... I've handled such useless guys before

pamelaayomide:
Nairalanders I am actually typing this with fear of what to come.

I am an active member of this forum but change moniker by registering and creating a new one here to hide my identity.

Origin...

I met my boyfriend in school actually we were in the same department at funnab. We did things together. We were in love and had sex when we feel like it. We planned to get married after school.

Mistake...

I went to a birthday party of one of my close friends, I had three friends and we are like clique.
During the party I got drunk and the guy that took us to the party in his car took advantage of my drunken state and had sex with me and make it look like it is consensual. During the act I know what was happening but was too weak and blurred. I didn't know there was a video recording of the act. When I woke up the guy was no where to be found so I kept it to myself.

Blackmail...

When my guy found out that I cheated on him, he was furious. I denied it initially but when he showed me the sex clip I admitted it but defended myself on the ground that it was rape and not consensual. I summon courage and asked him how did he come up with the sex tape but that he would not answer to. He left that moment and I start feeling that he knows something about the tape and wants to blackmail.

Threat...

He showed up one day at my hostel and threaten to leak the tape online. I begged him profusely not to do that but he said my plea and tears are waste of time. That he will let everyone know the kind of loose lady I am for betraying and cheating on him. That I will regret the day I met him. That I doesn't deserve his love.

Currently...

He is yet to release the clip but may actually do that with what is happening to the Babcock ex student.

What should I do to stop him before he destroys me.

Protect yourself. Report to the Police. Technically you're toast already.....don't let him burn you up the more

NaijaDonCast:
the best way is to trace and threaten the rapist guy of charges in connection with felony, breach of privacy and conspiracy, by so your fiancee will see he will also go in for it, because how come he got the tape if they don't mutually know each other

Be careful about the kind of advice you give here, the law is like a double edged sword, it cuts both ways, she may end up paying for damages for false accusation on rape, the Op said she was drunk, she knew what's was going on, and it was blurry and weak and bla bla bla,
then out of the blue she mentioned rape, if the guy gets a competent lawyer she will beg for out of court settlement.

[quote author=pamelaayomide post=84298374]Nairalanders I am actually typing this with fear of what to come.

I am an active member of this forum but change moniker by registering and creating a new one here to hide my identity.

Origin...

I met my boyfriend in school actually we were in the same department at funnab. We did things together. We were in love and had sex when we feel like it. We planned to get married after school.

Mistake...

I went to a birthday party of one of my close friends, I had three friends and we are like clique.
During the party I got drunk and the guy that took us to the party in his car took advantage of my drunken state and had sex with me and make it look like it is consensual. During the act I know what was happening but was too weak and blurred. I didn't know there was a video recording of the act. When I woke up the guy was no where to be found so I kept it to myself.

Blackmail...

When my guy found out that I cheated on him, he was furious. I denied it initially but when he showed me the sex clip I admitted it but defended myself on the ground that it was rape and not consensual. I summon courage and asked him how did he come up with the sex tape but that he would not answer to. He left that moment and I start feeling that he knows something about the tape and wants to blackmail.

Threat...

He showed up one day at my hostel and threaten to leak the tape online. I begged him profusely not to do that but he said my plea and tears are waste of time. That he will let everyone know the kind of loose lady I am for betraying and cheating on him. That I will regret the day I met him. That I doesn't deserve his love.

Currently...

He is yet to release the clip but may actually do that with what is happening to the Babcock ex student.

What should I do to stop him before he destroys me.


YOUR BEST OPTION IS TO REPORT THE MATTER ASAP TO THE NEAREST POLICE STATION IN UR SCHOOL....UR CHILDISH BOYFRIEND WILL BE INVITED AND QUESTIONING TO PRODUCE THE MASTER TAPE. DO IT FAST TO SAVE UR ACADEMIC CAREER....

I will heap all the blame on your head and then advise you what to do if you are really sorry for sexual escapade which you enjoyed so much that you have to keep it within yourself instead of letting the cat out of the bag when no one was involved. See now!

First, you took the wrong steps in relationship by opening your legs for a man not yet married to you in the name of boyfriend. Remember, boyfriend/girlfriend relationship has no legal backing, and again, it is ungodly and anti-Christian.

2. You took into drinking because you think without getting high on substance, you won't be seen as a big girl. See where it has landed you now.

3. You knew that a stranger was hammering you, but you claimed to be weak and blurred, and later blamed it on rape. My dear, accept it. You were never raped, you you did it with your conscience and you enjoyed, hence you could have the temerity to have kept it to yourself. Look, what you failed to realized was that your so called boyfriend sets you up, and you fell cheaply thinking that you were smart. That was too foolhardy of you.

The bashing is enough for now.


MY ADVICE TO YOU

Launch the first bullet in order to destroy the arsenal he's holding on to (the video clip).
How do you achieve this? Go online and exposed the sex incidence and narrate everything that happened sincerely that night. Damn the fact that people may mock, abuse or call you names such as being a fool, accept it, and never you take it to heart or get offended thereat.
In doing this, you will truly be proving a point that you are not stupid as the foolish boy thinks you are. In fact, this action will certainly earn you the respect you will never get in your entire life because it takes wisdom to move ahead of one's known and confirmed enemy.
You may feel shy and ashamed, but I can guarantee you that your God given life partner will discover you through this process that looks awkward. Okay.

Finally, you need to surrender your life to Jesus Christ now, and be a true disciple indeed. Avoid anything sexual intercourse until the night after your dowry must have been paid by your lawful husband, and serve God in true holiness and righteousness so that you will be accepted by God. This way, you will experience divine peace and all your fears destroyed at the cross of calvary.

I shall be waiting for the outcome.

Shalom!

pamelaayomide:
Nairalanders I am actually typing this with fear of what to come.

I am an active member of this forum but change moniker by registering and creating a new one here to hide my identity.

Origin...

I met my boyfriend in school actually we were in the same department at funnab. We did things together. We were in love and had sex when we feel like it. We planned to get married after school.

Mistake...

I went to a birthday party of one of my close friends, I had three friends and we are like clique.
During the party I got drunk and the guy that took us to the party in his car took advantage of my drunken state and had sex with me and make it look like it is consensual. During the act I know what was happening but was too weak and blurred. I didn't know there was a video recording of the act. When I woke up the guy was no where to be found so I kept it to myself.

Blackmail...

When my guy found out that I cheated on him, he was furious. I denied it initially but when he showed me the sex clip I admitted it but defended myself on the ground that it was rape and not consensual. I summon courage and asked him how did he come up with the sex tape but that he would not answer to. He left that moment and I start feeling that he knows something about the tape and wants to blackmail.

Threat...

He showed up one day at my hostel and threaten to leak the tape online. I begged him profusely not to do that but he said my plea and tears are waste of time. That he will let everyone know the kind of loose lady I am for betraying and cheating on him. That I will regret the day I met him. That I doesn't deserve his love.

Currently...

He is yet to release the clip but may actually do that with what is happening to the Babcock ex student.

What should I do to stop him before he destroys me.

Look for same guy who bleeped you the first time, make sure it's you who gets him DRUNK this time, pull his pants and allow him RAM you from behind this time, then like "Mia Khalifa From BABCOCK", swallow every drop of his GBILA and make sure everything is on tape. Then threaten your fellow IndecentStar that you are gonna release the TAPE, na that time TRUTH go come out. Simply put, your so-called Boyfriend set u up, so just follow my instructions and see the whole truth revealed before your very own EYES.

He is very normal. You are the one that looks abnormal

Divineayo:

Ah ah,are u normal