anyaekekehinde:


Can we follow thesame above logic for the guy.

Whatever you do cannot be held against you under the influence.

If whatever the girl did, should not be held against her, because she is "under the influence".
It then means the guy could also be under the influence of alcohol too, so whatever he has done or did shouldn't be held against him like if he was sober right.

Again back to the matter,
This video is "semi leaked" already and really there is no solution except she can hope for luck.

She has 2 options for damage control

1) Get all the family member or people the guy respects so much, and use these people to beg him to curtail the spread of the video, because as it stands, it may be on device of not less than 5guys that are close to him.

2) Get the police/dss to do an unexpected arrest, but this is a big gamble, The police must be able to to see the video on his device after the sudden arrest, and there must be a written or audio or video evidence of the guy threatening to release the video.
(Most Machiavellian guys wouldn't even keep this video on their phone, they will probably keep it with a distant paddy or cousin and wait for doomsday)

If the police can't find the video on his phone or that of his close friends and there is no strong evidence of him threatening to release such material, then she should only braze up for the worst.

The guy can even turn the case on her head if the police can't find such video on him and claim she wants to malign his image.

The guy may take his time for full revenge, you know they say revenge is a meal best served cold.
Then he can now wait for time and time to pass, and maybe on the eve of her wedding, he will now retrieve it from whoever he kept it with and release.

I prefer she goes for option 1

1.it is not established that the boy is under the influence

2. He cannot even claim drunkenness, because he placed a recording device in the room with the INTENTION of recording a SEXUAL ACT.

3. He did this, without duly informing the girl that there was a recording device in the room. His intent was malicious, so, he cannot plea drunkenness.

Furthermore, the recorded video that was in his possession, has ended up with her boyfriend; distribution of pornographic material, conspiracy to blackmail.

God should help that boy, because the charges against him are so many and no pleas of drunkenness will help him.

He had actus reus and mens rea.

safarigirl:


1.it is not established that the boy is under the influence

2. He cannot even claim drunkenness, because he placed a recording device in the room with the INTENTION of recording a SEXUAL ACT.

3. He did this, without duly informing the girl that there was a recording device in the room. His intent was malicious, so, he cannot plea drunkenness.

Furthermore, the recorded video that was in his possession, has ended up with her boyfriend; distribution of pornographic material, conspiracy to blackmail.

God should help that boy, because the charges against him are so many and no pleas of drunkenness will help him.

He had actus reus and mens rea.

And you were in the room to establish the girl gave no consent?
How could a girl that claim to have blurry vision recognize a camera set in the room?

Her statement stinks.

Link to the Babcock own first pls

So you cheated on your boyfriend and you makin up stories, you are such an idiot who do you think you are fooling but yourself you went to a part had drinks with guys you don't know when you know you can not handle alcohol and you know fully well the guys at the party will take advantage of you and now you saying he made the sex tape look consensual how can he make it look consensual if it ia not consensual . no matter how drunk you were he couldn't have made the sex tape consensual don't be stupid you are talking to people here not your friends at school and this is the most stupid tread i have ever seen. i wish i knew that guy make i help am leak ma you people know how to cheat and apologize if you don't like the guy you should have broken up instead of cheating and if what you are saying is true that means the guy raped you and you have the evidence go and report him to the police and he will be arrested for rape. okay sorry, i forgot the guy made it look consensual so even if ploice saw they will think it is not rape you be mumu who you think say you dey fool yeye

pamelaayomide:
Nairalanders I am actually typing this with fear of what to come.you are in a relationship and you went to a party without your boyfriend what do you think it is going to happen go and find a better storyline you are bad at even nollywood no go buy your story

I am an active member of this forum but change moniker by registering and creating a new one here to hide my identity.

Origin...

I met my boyfriend in school actually we were in the same department at funnab. We did things together. We were in love and had sex when we feel like it. We planned to get married after school.

Mistake...

I went to a birthday party of one of my close friends, I had three friends and we are like clique.
During the party I got drunk and the guy that took us to the party in his car took advantage of my drunken state and had sex with me and make it look like it is consensual. During the act I know what was happening but was too weak and blurred. I didn't know there was a video recording of the act. When I woke up the guy was no where to be found so I kept it to myself.

Blackmail...

When my guy found out that I cheated on him, he was furious. I denied it initially but when he showed me the sex clip I admitted it but defended myself on the ground that it was rape and not consensual. I summon courage and asked him how did he come up with the sex tape but that he would not answer to. He left that moment and I start feeling that he knows something about the tape and wants to blackmail.

Threat...

He showed up one day at my hostel and threaten to leak the tape online. I begged him profusely not to do that but he said my plea and tears are waste of time. That he will let everyone know the kind of loose lady I am for betraying and cheating on him. That I will regret the day I met him. That I doesn't deserve his love.

Currently...

He is yet to release the clip but may actually do that with what is happening to the Babcock ex student.

What should I do to stop him before he destroys me.

Report to the police and make him know you have done so...


It 50-50 though
Fight fire with fire

midnighter:


You're just saying what you would do if you were in that situation. You can't tell what others would do.

I agree that her story doesn't really add up but at the same time it's not fair to conclude that she must be lying because she didn't report, because some people would be afraid of sounding stupid.

From the way she's sounding, her "friends" or "clique" aren't the type she can confide in. Or where are they?

Na big girl things na. She didn't want to dull herself in front of them or make them laugh her that she be mumu or olodo for complaining about the free sex or a baby who can't handle herself after drinking alcohol.

She just brushed herself off and removed it from her mind so that she could meet up with the flexing lifestyle. Peer pressure is real.

hmmm really big girl indeed. thank God she has learnt a great lesson from her way.

I wish her peace because that's what she really need presently

pamelaayomide:
Nairalanders I am actually typing this with fear of what to come.

I am an active member of this forum but change moniker by registering and creating a new one here to hide my identity.

Origin...

I met my boyfriend in school actually we were in the same department at funnab. We did things together. We were in love and had sex when we feel like it. We planned to get married after school.

Mistake...

I went to a birthday party of one of my close friends, I had three friends and we are like clique.
During the party I got drunk and the guy that took us to the party in his car took advantage of my drunken state and had sex with me and make it look like it is consensual. During the act I know what was happening but was too weak and blurred. I didn't know there was a video recording of the act. When I woke up the guy was no where to be found so I kept it to myself.

Blackmail...

When my guy found out that I cheated on him, he was furious. I denied it initially but when he showed me the sex clip I admitted it but defended myself on the ground that it was rape and not consensual. I summon courage and asked him how did he come up with the sex tape but that he would not answer to. He left that moment and I start feeling that he knows something about the tape and wants to blackmail.

Threat...

He showed up one day at my hostel and threaten to leak the tape online. I begged him profusely not to do that but he said my plea and tears are waste of time. That he will let everyone know the kind of loose lady I am for betraying and cheating on him. That I will regret the day I met him. That I doesn't deserve his love.

Currently...

He is yet to release the clip but may actually do that with what is happening to the Babcock ex student.

What should I do to stop him before he destroys me.

kill him. I mean are u his wife and on what ground is he doing that. What will give him the moral or legal right to do such. Tell him and warn him vehemently that if he ever in this life tries such that you would look for his entire family members and wipe them off the surface of the earth. Hope this is not hate speech o

safarigirl:


1.it is not established that the boy is under the influence

2. He cannot even claim drunkenness, because he placed a recording device in the room with the INTENTION of recording a SEXUAL ACT.

3. He did this, without duly informing the girl that there was a recording device in the room. His intent was malicious, so, he cannot plea drunkenness.

Furthermore, the recorded video that was in his possession, has ended up with her boyfriend; distribution of pornographic material, conspiracy to blackmail.

God should help that boy, because the charges against him are so many and no pleas of drunkenness will help him.

He had actus reus and mens rea.

I like how you broke this down men. Removing every reasonable and unreasonable doubts.

pryme:


And you were in the room to establish the girl gave no consent?
How could a girl that claim to have blurry vision recognize a camera set in the room?

Her statement stinks.

where did she state that she recognized a camera in the room?

She only inferred that since there was a compromising video of her from that room, there must have been a camera. She clearly said "I didn't know there was a camera....."

What is wrong with some of you? Did you not learn English comprehension in school?

pamelaayomide:
Can you talk to your girlfriend this way.
No one is above mistake, get it.

if she go out there out of carelessness to contact AID and then give it to the boyfriend you will call that a mistake abi?

chukel:
and get your own share after

No young man. Stop reasoning like this.

Funkybabee:

hmmm really big girl indeed. thank God she has learnt a great lesson from her way.

I wish her peace because that's what she really need presently

Me too. I hope it doesn't get too far and damage her reputation permanently

Pamela if u like hear... Barb his cockk like the babcock. Ask anybody who like u they will tell u if u re in bangkok u bang cokck.

Method one: visit him and seduce him so u can straddle the cock and record ur own

Method two: if method one fail try enlisting the help of a friend or ashewo the two of u either use ur feminine wile to lure him to party or beat him to party and record him

Presentation: make sure he dont last or if he last more than 10 minute make sure u bring the video to me so I can edit it to make him look like 2 minute man...there is nothing that bruise our ego more than this

Conclusion: tell ur guy to go to blazes. Let him see his watery performance. Tell him his performance video will hit cinema nationwide the minute he release urs.
Thanks and we are here to serve u better...

Johnnyhoo:


No young man. Stop reasoning like this.

sorry sir

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HacheNoire:


Truth is a bitter pill.

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safarigirl:


1.it is not established that the boy is under the influence

2. He cannot even claim drunkenness, because he placed a recording device in the room with the INTENTION of recording a SEXUAL ACT.

3. He did this, without duly informing the girl that there was a recording device in the room. His intent was malicious, so, he cannot plea drunkenness.

Furthermore, the recorded video that was in his possession, has ended up with her boyfriend; distribution of pornographic material, conspiracy to blackmail.

God should help that boy, because the charges against him are so many and no pleas of drunkenness will help him.

He had actus reus and mens rea.

Let me react to each point 1 after the other

1.it is not established that the boy is under the influence
Response: It's not also established that the boy is not under the influence.


2. He cannot even claim drunkenness, because he placed a recording device in the room with the INTENTION of recording a SEXUAL ACT.
Response: We are not so sure from this comprehension that he placed the recording device there himself, any other person who saw both of them in drunken state could have recorded it


3. He did this, without duly informing the girl that there was a recording device in the room. His intent was malicious, so, he cannot plea drunkenness.
Response: You pinned this point on the varacity of the claim that the guy deliberately put the camera there, both of them might be in a drunken state and any other person could have recorded the clip.
This time, it's her word against the guy's word


Furthermore, the recorded video that was in his possession, has ended up with her boyfriend; distribution of pornographic material, conspiracy to blackmail.
Response: She can only establish this point, if the police can establish the fact that the boy has the video, or if she can provide taped evidence where the guy claims he has the video.

If not, sorry is her case ooo, if the guy is smart enough not to keep that video on his device, how will she even proof that the guy has the video
Again, it's her word against the guy's word.

safarigirl:
where did she state that she recognized a camera in the room?

She only inferred that since there was a compromising video of her from that room, there must have been a camera. She clearly said "I didn't know there was a camera....."

What is wrong with some of you? Did you not learn English comprehension in school?

ok ma, so you were present in the room to know all this? what if the guy came out to say the lady in question consented? what then? you are just blabbing about charges. So in the video clip the guy possessed voodoo powers to bend her will to make it look consensual? it people like you that pushed a lady to accuse Neymer of rape only for them to find out how stupid there are, someone said she used rape to defend herself, with all your education you are utterly useless where common sense is needed.

Pls this issue should be buried,I am been disturbed by unnecessary emails and is affecting my privacy.
Pls don't DM me.
I already have a lawyer on this case.
And will update you all on any further development.
Just tag me.
And lastly no one should go to a party and get drunk.
It is very risky, you can get killed.
Some men heart are deep.

Pamelaayomide funnabite,300 level.

Let's assume I'm the one in your shoes right now, what I'd likely do is very simple. I'll by ALL MEANS SHARPLY find his Parents' Contact No and Address. I'll go pay them a Visit and tell them categorically that IF THEIR SON SHOULD TRY THE RUBBISH HE IS MAKING PLANS ON AS REGARD THE Bleep TAPE, THEN THEY (His parents) SHOULD BE READY TO HAVE HIM BURIED MAX OF THE NEXT 2 DAYS BY VISITING A POTENT HERBALIST TO HELP U TERMINATE HIM

Trust me, at this juncture, my Yoruba will say NA MADNESS WE DEY TAKE CURE MADNESS

olawaleseun:
Let's assume I'm the one in your shoes right now, what I'd likely do is very simple. I'll by ALL MEANS SHARPLY find his Parents' Contact No and Address. I'll go pay them a Visit and tell them categorically that IF THEIR SON SHOULD TRY THE RUBBISH HE IS MAKING PLANS ON AS REGARD THE Bleep TAPE, THEN THEY (His parents) SHOULD BE READY TO HAVE HIM BURIED MAX OF THE NEXT 2 DAYS BY VISITING A POTENT HERBALIST TO HELP U TERMINATE HIM

Trust me, at this juncture, my Yoruba will say NA MADNESS WE DEY TAKE CURE MADNESS

Be very serious about it with a Straight Face and make them see that U ain't Joking bit even a Bit, Just acting like someone who has given up on All hope as regards saving the Issh on ground

But OP, I get a question ooo, Among the 3 of U, Were U the only one that was raped? Where the remaining babes dry when the Action dey happen??

healthserve:



Maybe others will help

I've vowed to be unhelpful even in the face of death of a Nairalander. Sorry, its all about the game, not you. Don't take it personal.

She is still sane and about to slip into depression, and you are here making useless noise to her ears..
Isn't it better you remained silent?

olawaleseun:

Be very serious about it with a Straight Face and make them see that U ain't Joking bit even a Bit, Just acting like someone who has given up on All hope as regards saving the Issh on ground

But OP, I get a question ooo, Among the 3 of U, Were U the only one that was raped? Where the remaining babes dry when the Action dey happen??

Let's forget about this issue pls.

sweetonugbu:
Leak it before him, he will be confused

Jesus! lol

24kmagic:
Insha Allah, he'll release that video and your story will be all over nairaland, thereby replacing that of the Babcock b!tch.

Thank God you mentioned the name of your sch.

Useless b!tch.

All of Una hoes, one by one your sex tape will be all over the blogosphere.

Stupid, useless, prostitutes.

Dem don swear for you! Obviously, your girlfriend cheated on you, because you are a dunce, which is why you are now cursing out other girls.

Go and jump into the nearest lagoon if you have nothing constructive to say.

CsRockefeller:
In all these, Lord please give me a sexually pure wife.

Dear Lord, I have never fondled with a girl, please, don't give me what has been used, over used and re used.

Dear Lord, from the deepest part of.my heart I plead.

Are you a sexually pure man? Have you too been used and reused by other girls? Talk true.....

SleekyP:
What kind of nonesense is this? You want to use a Cultist to harrass him? And if he got killed in the process what will you tell his parents? You chatead and get caught so face your shit...

And to the guys supporting her....this is just a one sided story haba!!!

One sided? Does it make sense to record a sex video and use it to blackmail somebody? Is the guy mad?? !

As a man, if she cheated on you, why not just dump her and go your way? Are you both married, or did you pay her bride price?

What kind of useless, sadistic pathetic men, are being bred these days?

If I were the girl, I swear I would have arrested him under Cybercrime Act 2015, and pay police extra to torture him well in a cell. Nansense!!

pryme:
And you were in the room to establish the girl gave no consent?
How could a girl that claim to have blurry vision recognize a camera set in the room?

Her statement stinks.

She did not recognise any camera. The boyfriend told her later that he had evidence of the act, and a video. He was the one who let her know the whole thing was recorded when he threatened to leak the video.

CeterisXVII:

Are you a sexually pure man? Have you too been used and reused by other girls? Talk true.....

Yes I am. No I haven't. The truth.

LoveThemChubby:

Don't play the scum card here madam. You went to a party without your bf expecting to dance and grind with who? Of all the three the guy didn't rape any but you why? You termed it rape but didn't report(understandable) and even when your bf confronted you with it you denied at first. Then later 'defended' yourself that it was rape. If tables had turned, would you have believed him that it was rape? He wasn't a scum until you did what you did so stop using that incident to call him names.
From what you said, the guy is a gentleman that's why he even asked you first so you can clear your name. From what you said, you certainly didn't feel any remorse while saying it and am sure that's what got him angry.

The boyfriend has no right to threaten her with leaking a sex video. Who da hell is he? He is not her husband or her relative. He should just have dumped her and gone his way...