Ariza:
Direct your question to your wife, if she isn't able to give you a satisfying answer and you aren't able to be of more value to her than being a money provider then you should know both of you are the reason you have this argument.

You can't come here to ask me what a woman offers, when all you lots ever demand from women is the pleasure their holes can give. You lots relegate your women to sex providers and come here to cry wolf. You don't share your problems with them, you don't allow them to make decisions, you don't involve them as your helpmate but you naturally want them to be super women.Biko? does that make sense? A woman will give you what you can take same way they have been getting what they can take from you. Increase your bar/standard and see the wonders your woman can do.

Grandlord:
Well, one thing I admire about us humans, is our variety. The world also needs people like you to pleasure us, the ambitious people. That's okay though. But without hardworking people we wouldn't reach the heights of our achievements as humans.

This explains clearly the difference in development that we have between the developed climes(populated by driven, ambitious and innovative people) and third world Africa(populated by people laying back and popping babies).

Geminita1:
Those developed countries were built by men like you. Women just got rights to work not long ago. I love men because they can create a lot of things to make life easy for women and children. Its okay to be a man, you don't have to share your responsibilities with us.
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Ariza:
Oh I get the shade sorry I missed that and yes I concur with you on that, equal right, equal responsibility Lol. However I do not believe in competition among spouse, neither do I believe in inferiority or superiority I believe in oneness/equity among spouse. And respect should flow from both ends.

That said, I see that you are a traditional man but I need to ask, with the current economic situation will you advice couples to stick with their traditional African Man or Woman 's roles in marriage?
Two, what's your honest opinion on women posses properties? Let's say your wife!

Designerdollars:
Big boobs, big ass, intact virginity, fine face,
good cooking/domestic skills and most importantly, she must be submissive!

Post edit:she should be slightly educated too. I find extremely educated female's unattractive, repulsive and intimidating
I don't want to be competing with woman wey i marry put for house

Ariza:
Women aren't encouraged because the society limits them to be a receiver/dumping site in Nigeria. In Nigeria, there is a boundary to how far women can go, how much they can own or do. Those who have been able to break free are labelled with all sort of names, their wealth questioned and their success stories are met with inhumane responses like "Na kitchen she go end"

Some Nigerian men if not most won't settle with an independent or rich women, to them she would be arrogant, unsubmissive and uncontrollable.And one is left to wonder why these men are power freaks and egoistic. Not that I blame these men though, remove money from their relationships, most have nothing to offer so how would such man be with a woman who has in abundance? Forget what you read here Sir , most comments are pure lies! A typical Nigerian guy want a woman who has nothing to offer than the hole between her legs.Anything other than that will be too much for him to handle.

Grandlord:
Don't you think this mentality would be detrimental to your kids and even your aged parents who depend on you? Or aren't you enlightened enough to know that you'd have people who will depend on you for care and that it is your responsibility to stand up for them.

What if your man dies? loses his job? gets ill? Those poor kids suffer?

Are you comfortable letting your man care for your aged seniors?

Are you saying the girl child is worthless as regards this aspects? Thankfully I have role models of who a strong woman should be. They're my queens, higher than princesses.

Ariza:
Take note of the word "typical" you probably do not fall in that category because you mixed breed (probably a case of typical man + untypical woman) Your genes are diluted so you may see things differently.

However I would like to bring your notice to the bolded and what they connote which is: A Nigerian Man will always find a successful women as a competition. A threat he needs to eliminate by achieving more.No matter how much he pretends to accept or love her for who she is , some part of him will want to rise above thereby pushing his boundaries like you have innocently admitted and stated.

I saw a thread today where a Man typed that he married a boss lady and went on to just that whoever is in his shoes should have at least 3 jobs.First thing that came to my mind was " shogun laye ni" ( Is life war?) Then I quoted him and advised him to increase it to 10 , so when he dies it would be inscribed on his grave: He died fighting! Honestly, I wonder what the competition is all about? Why go that far only to prove a point that you are the man or something? Pride has always been and will continue to be Men's greatest fall.

Women are wise, they keep a low life and eat the goodies of the land while men are loud beating chest all about and digging up these goodies. Pity!

Designerdollars:
being picky about the kind of woman I want is misogyny abi . Smh

isyourboy:
Pussy, just pussy.

One was telling me this morning she's entitled to 10% of my salary. I asked her why, she told me bluntly she has got pussy.

Lonelypacifist6:
The bolded is very WRONG my ex wife is successful by Nigerian standard and i see no problems or any need to match her Infact I still do all my traditional duties at home which means Footing ALL bills, Infact after divorce I still have her An uncompleted building as parting gift Y'all just wanna be lazy and don't want responsibilities and still wants Equal rights How's that gonna happen?

gforce5:
This is why I say that Nairaland men are the most confused set of people on the face of the planet. You complain about pretty girls being dumb and having nothing to offer except sex now I'm seeing a quote rejecting the notion of having a highly educated woman as a wife. What do you lots want? You complain about poor girls being financial parasites while rich girls are arrogant and disrespectful. So I ask again...what do you lots want?

emmaodet:


I asked you the question and you told me to direct it to my wife?
If you didn't typed what you wrote up there i won't have asked the question in the first place. That is by the way.
Don't place the blame solely on the men please. A man does not need to push a woman before she knows what to do abi what is the need of been an adult then and educated when you can think and take critical decisions?
Do we need to shout and say that the average nigerian man is struggling before a wise nigerian lady knows she needs to buckle up? Something that is visible to the blind and audience to the deaf?
It's well

emmaodet:


I asked you the question and you told me to direct it to my wife?
If you didn't typed what you wrote up there i won't have asked the question in the first place. That is by the way.
Don't place the blame solely on the men please. A man does not need to push a woman before she knows what to do abi what is the need of been an adult then and educated when you can think and take critical decisions?
Do we need to shout and say that the average nigerian man is struggling before a wise nigerian lady knows she needs to buckle up? Something that is visible to the blind and audience to the deaf?
It's well

phemy36:


You get time oo brotherly. I don't reply foolish comments. I only read it to help me take decision on some issues. There comment helps me alot

emmaodet:


My broda sometimes we need to reply them.
I like having positive debates with people so that we can both learn from each other

yenereal:
You are funny though. So just virginity is needed according to you?

Ariza:
Dude if you want to have this conversation, clamp down the accusations and offensive words. If women in your life are lazy bunch who leech on men good, but don't use them as a yardstick to judge others.You do not know me neither do I know you, show some respect or use the door.

phemy36:

I understand you bro. Majority of them don't think rationally like that. Men think rationally while female thinks emotionally. So spot the different. She will rather insult you than to ask you salient and intelligent question and their type no dey take insult

CAPSLOCKED:


WELL, AFTER THE WEDDING NIGHT, AWAY GOES THE HYMEN. AWAY GOES THE CAR, HOUSE, AND PROPERTIES.

THEN THEY CAN BE EQUAL IN NOTHINGNESS AND MISERY. I LIKE YOUR IDEA OF FAILURE.

Lonelypacifist6:
Sorry, I was agitated by your generalisation, and I wasn't accusing you.

Designerdollars:
Only financially handicapped men want all what you stated up there from a woman.
I for one would never marry a lady who is career driven.I'm financially free(at least by world standards) and I want a woman to build a home with. Not some 'clever' feminist who will be busy building another man's business.

gforce5:
Fine. You are not interested in a career driven woman but do not complain if all she does is spend your money, ask you to foot all her bills, cannot engage you in a conversation (after all, you don't want a "highly educated" woman), watches telemundo/zee world and does not contribute anything financially to the house. We don't want to hear that your wife is a lazy parasite who sits at home all day watching T.V. Don't complain that all she does is to take and take from you.