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Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by thorpido(m): 8:16am On Dec 20, 2019
ehiblessing:


Yeah i can't access it too
Is there a way I can reach you then?
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by Alooone: 8:40am On Dec 20, 2019
thorpido:
Is there a way I can reach you then?
I sent you an email sir
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by thorpido(m): 9:17am On Dec 20, 2019
Alooone:

I sent you an email sir
Ok
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by ehiblessing(f): 9:36am On Dec 20, 2019
thorpido:
Is there a way I can reach you then?

My number is on my signature
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by PerfectMatchNG: 10:14am On Dec 20, 2019
How do you verify these stories?
bdchange:

My guy entries has closed yesterday and we are yet to hear from you the next way forward. Hope it is not what am thinking? Still waiting.....
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by PerfectMatchNG: 10:16am On Dec 20, 2019
Please dm me your Facebook name
SteveOfu:
My dad refused me getting married to the love of my life then saying he is too old( 34yrs) and much exposed for my age .He was a personal assistant to Abia state Governor then. I was only 16 and felt I have arrived been fiancé to such person.He cherished me. Truthfully,he never touched me.

Few weeks after,,he traveled for business promising to convince my dad on his return. My father's refusal made me stubborn, I didn't want be around my home cos their over Christian life was making them see everything in another view,i cannot confide in my late mum without getting this look of you must be like a rev in this home. so i ran to my girlfriend's house. She was about 4yrs older than I was then but my body structure made us look like age mates. She convinced me to follow her to PH for her birthday party. Didn't know I was been arranged for her boyfriend's brother.
I was drunk ,first time anyways and he took advantage of me. By morning he was apologizing and professing love and wanting to date me... begged me to take him to my home I refused. I was confused,the love of my life is coming home the next week.how will I face him. I went home,my parents were angry with me but still didn't care to know how I feel, what I wanted but happy I came home alive.

Two weeks later I noticed I was pregnant,i opened up to my man and he said"mummy,do not ever ever tell anyone what happened,this child is mine and it's going to be reason your dad will let me marry you." We hide the pregnancy till it was 6 months,then he came again but my dad stubbornly turned him down again claiming my people don't give out a pregnant woman in marriage till I deliver.

After the delivery of my son whose birthday is today too ,my dad said he is free to marry me but without the boy. He made some underground plan to send us to his mum abroad if after talking to my dad with some relations and it didn't work out. He traveled to his village(Item) to get an uncle to help talk to my dad only for him to come back poisoned,he died two days after 6 months after,i got admission for a preliminary course in fedpoly campus. My parents took my child and I went back to school.avoided men like plague,finished my study then proceeded for my OND. After my OND finals, I went home for my aunty's burial,there I met my daughter's father. He tried everything for us to date and I refused then went ahead to tell him my story. He felt pity on me (so I thought Sha). He started visiting me in school more often, giving me listening ears and all that I lack from home.
I decided to give him a chance.

One month into the relationship, I took in, told him and he asked me to get an abortion because he is from my late aunty's compound,I ran to my cousin who is also his cousin and he called for a meeting. This guy who has been pestering me, traveling all the way from Abuja to Oko to see had the guts to tell everyone present that i am a good girl but he has a fiancé he wants to marry.
When asked the way forward, he said he will do what my people call "agbachaa afo ime"(no English na for it but a kinda way of he has nothing to do with the child and the amount for that was 20k then). I didn't know if I should start crying. I cursed him in tears.
My mum said her pain was she nursed this boy in question while babysitting her elder sister's children in that compound, his own mother pleaded with him to take me as his wife but he was adamant. My dad rejected the money,we left. He warned him never to smell our compound.

I had my daughter 29th January 2004 ,her dad had accident that day, shop burnt, container lost in the sea, the girl left him one month later for his friend then he ran back to me. Begged for marriage but no, not for me, all I did was lift the curse, out of joy he said he will never get married till I do and he kept the promise. My mum started pestering me to accept a suitor, to please her I did in 2013 and by 2016 the marriage ended.
So now,i am happily single.I don't ever want to get married.

This is how I became a single mum of 2 champions,though I will never let anyone I know go through it..
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by PerfectMatchNG: 10:16am On Dec 20, 2019
I sent you a dm
Hamachi:
Taking myself back to the reason I became a single mother.. Hmmmmm let's travel down there shall we .
Once Upon a time, I became a single mom at 25, my baby will be 7 yrs by February. I never choose this path but I had a failed marriage because of the inability to bear children and the marriage was just 2 years. He left and remarried someone else. When pastors, parents and friends intervened, he told everyone bluntly that he cannot stay with a barren woman. His Dad called me a man. His exact words. My son can't be married to a man. I had just diploma then and I remembered how he robed that on my face saying I am cursed in so many ways. I can't be pregnant and I can never ever be a graduate.

I picked those words and was determined to build myself up. I used my handwork which is catering. I cooked for occasions, bake and hawk snacks to earn a living. Afterwards, I was able to save and get admission. I continued with the hustling as I do take snacks to school to sell and then hawk weekends and go from church to church to get snacks and food contract.

Second year into school, I almost lost my admission as I couldn't save up to my school fees and few days to exams, I had no hope. That was when I met the father of my baby. He assisted and became a good friend. We weren't dating but on his birthday, he paid for cake, snacks and peppered meat. He also invited me for his birthday which I attended. After the party around 2am, I couldn't go home so he gave me his sitting room to sleep.
He was a free man and so was I. Honestly, I made the move for sex and he turned me down but with so much pressure from me, he gave in.
I became pregnant and he was there all through.
After 2yrs, I couldn't marry him when he popped the question and reason being that; I wasn't in love, I still haven't gotten over my ex and I was still in depression and above all, I never wanted to marry him out of pity so he left.
It's been years, he doesn't call or assist in any way but I thank God because today,
I am happy
I am out of depression
I'm no more living in the past
The people that called me barren today, I proved then wrong
And 5yrs today, I became a graduate.
Life hasn't been easy but I keep thanking God everyday.
If asked if I will want to go through that path again, my answer will be NO.
Reason is; I want to take good care of the one God gave me. I wish to give her everything I never had, at least, the basic things. The struggles I went through because I had no one to support me to go to school nor cater for my baby, I don't want her to go through that and I don't want to go through that myself.
All I wish for is; life should be better so that we both can be completely happy.
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by PerfectMatchNG: 10:16am On Dec 20, 2019
Kindly dm me
MumNatasha11:
Having a child out of wedlock was never my plan, in all I don't regret keeping my daughter. During my youth service, one of my course mate in school who was asking me out then and I never gave in to his advances, charted me up on Facebook, we started talking, as weeks passed, months passed I fell in love with him, thou he wasn't in the country then. Everything was moving on smoothly and happily until he finally came home December 2015. I had to travel to umuahia, Abia state to stay with him, after some days he proposed to me and I accepted the ring because i loved him so very much, We started making plans on meeting his mum because his dad was late, each time we fix a date to go and see his mum ,she comes up with one excuse or the pretending to be ill. After several attempt to introduce me to his mum, none was successful, she neither wanted to see me nor speak with me on phone, he then decided to carry on with the plan without his mum. After visiting my parents with his elder brother and friends for introduction, he later collected the marriage list, before then I started having symptoms of pregnancy, I told him about it, we thought that with the pregnancy she will have no reason to say no. When he choose the date for the traditional marriage, one night I was talking with my mum my supposed mother-in-law called me and said "you will only marry my son over my dead body" with the fear because I just lost my only sister that month, my mum told me that the marriage won't hold, she can't loose her only surviving child again. I told him about my mum's decision, he never acted like he was bothered about it, I felt he would have been influenced by his mum. After 3 months my parents learnt about my pregnancy, she never gave me a breathing space, I went through hell in that house because I was pregnant, I ran out of the house not knowing where exactly to go, with the little money I had with me I rented a room in port Harcourt, Rivers state. After delivery life became so hard that i had go around washing dishes and doing laundry for people with my daughter at my back, I saved money to rent a shop and start selling rubber slippers, when I couldn't renew my house rent I was sent packing out of the house, till date I have been sleeping inside my shop with my daughter, after several armed robbery attacks in the shop, thank God I wasn't raped, nor my daughter injured. I thank God I never gave in to the advice of some friends to abort the baby, she's my reason for living, I struggle and hustle in life is for her, I don't think I would give love a chance anytime soon. God bless all single mothers, the lord is our strength
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by PerfectMatchNG: 10:17am On Dec 20, 2019
Check your pm
ehiblessing:
Am writing this so that the unmarried onces would learn, simply never settle for someone less.

I got married June 2013 thinking i just made the best decision never knew i had just made one of my life mistake,i was young and opened having gone through a rough breakup i decided to get married to my ex husband.

The first thing i noticed was that he tried seperating me from my family and friends, at first i didnt really mind. Less than 100 days after my marriage was when i received the first beating just because i filled the kettle so when it boils it pours on the ground. You see i took in immediately so i was always cold during the evenings but because my kettle was small i would want to fill it so i can use it. I had to report him to my aunty and the next day my aunty settled us. And from that day i became mind full of how i talk to him.

The next was when he was having a fight with his sister i tried seperating them i was hitting him to stop and he just turned around to start strangling me the mum and everybody was shouting for him to leave me but he refused till his mum fell on the floor that was when he removed his hand from my neck meanwhile i was still seven months pregnant and that was how it continued till i put to bed.

When my baby was 2months he beat me again and i had to leave the house for sometime he came begging and i accepted because i really wanted my marriage to work this was something i had put in my best,like there was nothing i just wanted than a peaceful home in all these my business was crumbling because he usually collects from my money from where i keep it i. all this i could not talk to anyone because all my family had left me to my faith he had insulted all and no one came to see me cos if they come he would insult them i was not allowed to go home to see my dad either.

2016 i got pregnant again hoping with another child he would become responsible but i was wrong it became worst, we didn't't talk all through my pregnancy he still beat me June 14 which was our marriage anniversary and i gave birth July 16th in all he gave me 4500 to buy baby things i struggled to make up for the rest so shame would not come,i still discharge myself i cant forget how he treated me when i was in labor or was it when i fainted at hone and i called him to come home and even when when he came he told me if that was why i called he home and left the house immediately only to come back 10pm.


Am not even going to talk about the cheating or the emotional abuse, if am eating insult i laugh too much self its insult. We dont talk, no sleeping on the same room, in short it was as if i was leaving alone and that's is why its easier for me now.Of a truth shame would not even allow me say the things i went through just because of that man, and finally october 23 2017 my birthday he beat me again and used my head to open our kitchen door and i told him one word i wont give you an opportunity to lay your hands on me again.

October 26th i finally parked out and since then the grace of God has never left me. It was not easy and its still not easy taking care of my kids, rent,schooling and the almighty feeding but am greatful to God that he his face has always shine on me he refused doing anything in his words i left with the children because i was capable. I even took him to welfare here yet nothing came out.

I have learnt to love and appreciate myself.
For my kids i wont trade them for anything but i wish i had stayed at home and count beans the day i met him.

P.s pardon my typo and errors
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by PerfectMatchNG: 10:17am On Dec 20, 2019
Kindly dm me your facebook name
DESAN:
I was 15 since in secondary school wen I met him, his parents never supported our relationship cos am Yoruba and his igbo. I got beaten up by my parent so many times cos each tym I visited him his parents will catch me away and come to my house to report. I got pregnant at17 wen I was about to write waec thank God I schooled in the north I was able to write my exams with pregnancy and his parents denied ever knowing me during the period. All these tym he didn't deny the pregnancy but wen asked if he will marry me his answer was always if God says yes. Three years later my parent decided to relocate to Lagos we both agreed to rent an apartment I gave him money but he spend it but kept showing me house without toliet facility knowing I won't accept. He finally left for school and I couldn't stay back in Jos cos he took all my life savings and I can't also stay in his family house cos his parent didn't accept me ND my child even after 3yrs . I had no choice but to travel to Lagos he then used my relocation as an excuse for breakup and he never paid his daughter's school fees . Am a graduate now and my dota is 21 a 300L computer science student at kwasu.
I tot I had learnt my lessons and I feels my mistakes shouldn't stop me from loving again but guys always gave excuses like , I like u would have love to marry u but becos u have a child I can't cos of my family so I feel shld gave love any chance with a elder divorcee hmmmm the greatest mistake of my life . After waiting for so long thinking my wait was going to be celebration hmmmm it's been sadness for the past three years. I got to a point of depression but for the love of my kids I can't kill mysef. This man made me stop my banking job, I got pregnant had anoda gal, my brothers weren't allow to visit me , cos to him I might invited my bf to d house in pretence my elder brother came once he walk him out, my sisters he wanted to sleep with . No visitors are allowed to visit me, he chooses d tv station I will watch and the days I will sleep. He buys everything home so I can't step out of d house, I can't go to church cos pastor will toast me . It's was crazy he will lock up the house wen going out and I got physical abuse as well. I left him last year. Life has been so so difficult asam yet to find a job and I have two lovely daughters to take care. It's not been easy but I pray next year will be a better one for us.
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by ehiblessing(f): 10:56am On Dec 20, 2019
PerfectMatchNG:
Check your pm

Don't know how all this pm work, cant even access my mail
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by Allsingles: 11:50am On Dec 20, 2019
Single Mums are SUPERWOMEN.
For a woman to play the role of both parents and bear the responsibility of raising a child or
children, don't joke with such a woman, because even if you die in future she can take care of ..
https://allsinglesandmarried..com/2019/11/the-untold-life-of-single-mothers.html

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Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by lavylilly: 12:23pm On Dec 20, 2019
Take your time getting to know people. Rushing or skipping processes is an easy way to miss red flags, make misinformed decisions, or put people on a pedestal they have no business being on.

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Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by Bighead9: 3:22pm On Dec 20, 2019
ehiblessing:


Don't know how all this pm work, cant even access my mail


Open another email, then drop the address here and quote the Op. So you don't miss the chance to get the cash reward.
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by ehiblessing(f): 5:49pm On Dec 20, 2019
thorpido:
Something is wrong with your email.

You can reach me. On blessingehi02@gmail.com
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by ehiblessing(f): 5:50pm On Dec 20, 2019
Bighead9:



Open another email, then drop the address here and quote the Op. So you don't miss the chance to get the cash reward.

Thanks
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by CsRockefeller(m): 1:23am On Dec 22, 2019
MumNatasha11:
to answer ur question, it was my mil that refused seeing or talking to me, my mum started maltreating me when she learnt I was pregnant because of her post in church, her maltreatment made me run away. I can't go back to my parents because I have made all effort to do that but we weren't welcomed, and for the father of my daughter, he didn't deny the pregnancy, but never asked after me nor the baby ever again. If u think am lying, my shop is at 83 Rumuola/rumuokuta , opposite first bank. Lastly I registered today because a friend that knows what we are going through s ent me the link to try my luck

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Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by Nobody: 5:12am On Dec 22, 2019
Pojomojo:
I'm crying already but can't hold it back, out of 100 single mothers 30 were used some were raped and the few others were young and naive and didn't plan for it, although there are women who intentionally have child/children out of their own reasons, I'm not a single mother but I feel your pains. I have been around single mothers, my sister inclusive, I remembered the way she cried that the guy shattered her dreams and made her reject reasonable suitors that were coming around that year. Thank God for today and for everything. Although the scar is deep and cant be erased but for allowing it happen, there is a divine purpose and this I believe. God will continue to strengthen all Single Parent

I really don't mind marring one of these your single mother friends at the moment. Particularly those once that were victimized. Once their mind is healed they can make some of the best wives in the world.

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Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by Nobody: 6:12am On Dec 22, 2019
PerfectMatchNG:
....
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Hi,

I checked your profile and did not find a WhatsApp number so went on to Facebook and joined your group instead. I believe i may still need your help directly though.

I'm, a guy, 39 and very bothered about my inability to find a woman of my choice for a wife. I'm not a retired playboy or anything, in fact I'm the religious kind and hope to be a pastor one day, it's just that financial issues and family problems delayed me in life. It has not been easy.

Another reason for this delay is my choice in women. I have a thing for curvy, big sized women and this kind get take young. Reading through this thread, though, it suddenly occurred to me that some of these nice ladies are actually used and dumped, ending up single mothers. Very insightful was the story of the first woman to comment on this thread, the one who at 16 was matured enough in 'body structure', as she put it, to attract a 34 year-old but sadly ended up a single mom of 2. (@SteveOfu I duff my hat in salute to your courage)

@PerfectMatchNG In all honesty, sir, I don't mind marrying a single mom.

Would be very grateful if you could chat with me on whatsapps.... 0703-1833-557

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Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by Alooone: 1:18pm On Dec 22, 2019
[quote author=PerfectMatchNG [/quote]
Sir have the selection process finished
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by bdchange(m): 6:06am On Dec 23, 2019
PerfectMatchNG:
How do you verify these stories?
The truth is there is no best method to use in selecting the worthy winner because most can't be verified. Except you want to hire a private investigator to investigate their claims physically which will means going overboard in your spendings. Just choose with your instinct but take note to disregard those that created their accounts after your post.

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Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by BetterPoison: 7:35am On Dec 23, 2019
PerfectMatchNG:
How do you verify these stories?
Hi please I Can work as a private investigator. Kindly revert if you are willing to patronize my professionalism
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by babyfaceafrica: 7:44am On Dec 23, 2019
These stories can't be verified, a good writer will win this money hands down.... Just follow your mind

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Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by Hamachi(f): 10:16am On Dec 23, 2019
what this rubbish?
Allsingles:
Single Mums are SUPERWOMEN.
For a woman to play the role of both parents and bear the responsibility of raising a child or
children, don't joke with such a woman, because even if you die in future she can take care of ..
https://allsinglesandmarried..com/2019/11/the-untold-life-of-single-mothers.html
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by PerfectMatchNG: 10:40am On Dec 23, 2019
Noted.
bdchange:

The truth is there is no best method to use in selecting the worthy winner because most can't be verified. Except you want to hire a private investigator to investigate their claims physically which will means going overboard in your spendings. Just choose with your instinct but take note to disregard those that created their accounts after your post.

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Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by DESAN(f): 1:26pm On Dec 23, 2019
@perfectmatchNG please reply my mail
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by 21void: 2:52pm On Dec 23, 2019
no no single father challenge?
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by Nobody: 10:13pm On Dec 23, 2019
@PerfectMatchNG

Just logged on to NL and saw your email alert. I can't access the email linked to this account which is why i did not PM you directly in the first place. Kindly email me directly at ... omegastar293@ Gmail dot come.

Thank you sir!
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by bdchange(m): 7:49am On Dec 24, 2019
Hamachi:
Taking myself back to the reason I became a single mother.. Hmmmmm let's travel down there shall we .
Once Upon a time, I became a single mom at 25, my baby will be 7 yrs by February. I never choose this path but I had a failed marriage because of the inability to bear children and the marriage was just 2 years. He left and remarried someone else. When pastors, parents and friends intervened, he told everyone bluntly that he cannot stay with a barren woman. His Dad called me a man. His exact words. My son can't be married to a man. I had just diploma then and I remembered how he robed that on my face saying I am cursed in so many ways. I can't be pregnant and I can never ever be a graduate.

I picked those words and was determined to build myself up. I used my handwork which is catering. I cooked for occasions, bake and hawk snacks to earn a living. Afterwards, I was able to save and get admission. I continued with the hustling as I do take snacks to school to sell and then hawk weekends and go from church to church to get snacks and food contract.

Second year into school, I almost lost my admission as I couldn't save up to my school fees and few days to exams, I had no hope. That was when I met the father of my baby. He assisted and became a good friend. We weren't dating but on his birthday, he paid for cake, snacks and peppered meat. He also invited me for his birthday which I attended. After the party around 2am, I couldn't go home so he gave me his sitting room to sleep.
He was a free man and so was I. Honestly, I made the move for sex and he turned me down but with so much pressure from me, he gave in.
I became pregnant and he was there all through.
After 2yrs, I couldn't marry him when he popped the question and reason being that; I wasn't in love, I still haven't gotten over my ex and I was still in depression and above all, I never wanted to marry him out of pity so he left.
It's been years, he doesn't call or assist in any way but I thank God because today,
I am happy
I am out of depression
I'm no more living in the past
The people that called me barren today, I proved then wrong
And 5yrs today, I became a graduate.
Life hasn't been easy but I keep thanking God everyday.
If asked if I will want to go through that path again, my answer will be NO.
Reason is; I want to take good care of the one God gave me. I wish to give her everything I never had, at least, the basic things. The struggles I went through because I had no one to support me to go to school nor cater for my baby, I don't want her to go through that and I don't want to go through that myself.
All I wish for is; life should be better so that we both can be completely happy.
I just read ur comments now and I feel u created ur situation now by urself. U got pregnant for a guy and he stay through to you and proposed aftwards and yet u didn't accept him because u are still into ur ex even after two years cry . now I understand why they say everyone is responsible for his failure or success story in life. With what you did to him, u still want him to have anything to do with you? Hmmmm let me just keep mute..

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Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by Nobody: 9:43am On Dec 24, 2019
can I still post mine ?

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Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by Eze2000(m): 10:41am On Dec 24, 2019
gracefulygrace:
can I still post mine ?

I would very much like to read yours. May thunder fire whoever played with your joy in life.


And the Op never said the competition was closed nor did he announced any winner. In fact, if you look a few comments Above you will see him discussing how to verify the stories posted.

Post your story pls
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by Hamachi(f): 12:48pm On Dec 24, 2019
Yes
gracefulygrace:
can I still post mine ?

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