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Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by jakandeola(m): 4:45pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
crackhaus:its enuf. see how I ignore d other one she want to run. mad. just stop d insult please shes a person I respect. she cant be right all d time |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by crackhaus: 4:46pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
jakandeola:Oh well... As for that other one, she will run mad on top my matter too. She started with being friendly with me some months back but I completely ignored her mentions because I sensed her intentions & honestly want nothing to do with the fvcker, yet the urchin refused to let me be then turned around to start raining insults on her people everytime on my mentions. Someone that love could give high-blood pressure, what will rejection give her if not complete madness... 6 Likes |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Nobody: 4:52pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
crackhaus:I may be joking but if we should dissect this, u will know that women- women fight in marriage is better than wife versus brothers in law. Actually, I will love to fight with my sister's in law and know where I stand than kiss and kill brothers in law. Women will only talk, fight, carry face etc but the brothers, father lawd. Don't ever have a near jealous brother in law. He will dissipate your husband. Men in other to spite their wives use brothers as next of kin( hope u are following my argument), once they kill him, property and money wahala. They will pursue u from your house and take over. If u will stay, u have to abide with their rules which might include sleeping with them. Sisters in law can't fight custody of your husbands property with you, they will only instigate their brothers to act. See, if our property is secured and my problem is only my sisters in law and I'm earning my own money, I will blank all of them. Wipe them away from my memory so anything they do won't bother me unless they came to my house to do that. Won't ask about them. And my husband deny me my conjugal right, I will give him time then report him to my people. Mtcheew. 5 Likes |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by jakandeola(m): 4:53pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
u mean fountain of stupidity crauckhouse |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by crackhaus: 4:57pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
sassysure:Lol, funny stuff. Your last paragraph about blanking all of them and not letting anything they do bother you that much, is exactly what this OP might need to do after all. 3 Likes |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by ImaIma1(f): 5:00pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Saintmary(f): 5:01pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Anifaza:Point one, your beliefs and that of your in laws are different Two, your in laws have been in control of your husband for decades, and as his wife, they expect you to fall in line. Three, your husband looks up to his sisters, they are his small mummies, he craves their approval. With the loss of their parents, your husband and his siblings are trying to deepen their closeness, you are seen as the outsider. My suggestions : You need a big dose of patience. You are your husband's wife, stop seeing your in laws as your competition, your husband has enough love for all his loved ones. Allow your in laws in your home if that's what your husband wants. Keep to yourself as much as you can, as long as they are not asking you to be their maid. Whatever your husband wants to give his family, don't say anything against it, just agree with him. In this case, you will be worried about your children's well being, if you feel like going out, tell hubby you wish to go out with kids, use your own money, take your hubby out sometimes too, tell him it's because you appreciate..... mention one big favor he has done for you. Lastly, these women are older than you, respect them, apologize to the one you have issues with, apologize to your husband, don't cause trouble where there is little, your husband is not beating you, do you know how lucky you are? Cheating is not the issue here, only nasty in laws, focus on improving your own lot in life, career or business. Look at your husband through the lens of how good he has been to you, then you will be able to make peace. 10 Likes |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by crackhaus: 5:01pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
jakandeola:Of course, the nutcase. Look down and you will see some of her alternates on the thread doing what they do best. 3 Likes |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by jakandeola(m): 5:05pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
crackhaus:see it as one of dose tings.internet life were anybody talk to u anyhow. but in real life wont try it. |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by nahzyla: 5:22pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Anifaza Sorry about all this, that's how one of my SIL was asking to stay permanently in our house after she left her husband's house due to irreconciliable differences. We live in a mini flat with one kid so her staying would mean my hubby would have to start sleeping in parlor while she stays with me and baby on the room infact the few days she stayed with us after leaving her hisband, that was how he slept on the uncomfortable couch just to show her respect she is much older than him. She knew my hubby would not be happy about her living with us permanently so she came to make the request from me instead of him. When she saw I wasn't going to agree to her staying, she instantly started becoming hostile, she left the house and started saying all sorts of offensive things about me to my husband on phone, telling him lies about how I called her a witch and refused to eat her food and how I insulted her the way nobody has ever insulted her in this life, infact the rubbish she said about me are tooo much. When she saw that he wasn't buying it because he knows I am the very quiet type that cannot even quarrel much less use such offensive words against her, she directed her lies to her other brother's family she started living with and only God knows what she told them because him and his wife that have been so friendly with me before are now so hostile and her other brother even ignores me when I greet him. Dont mind my long story, I am only telling you this to help you know that you are not alone, many SILs just make it a point to frustrate their brother's wife, I don't know what kind of pleasure they derive from doing that. That is why many women don't even like husband's relatives living with them. They basically expect you to slave away for them and kill all your needs and desires to please them. Good luck in your marriage, hope everything resolves itself soon. 7 Likes |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Nobody: 5:33pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
crackhaus: You called it funny abi? I mentioned that cos I know what that issue has been causing all over the country. As per the topic, don't blame the lady. Every woman want acceptance from her husband's family. Even when it's not working, u still see them trying harder hoping it will work. But at the initial stage, if it is not working, be yourself and ignore all of them 5 Likes |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by debbydee(f): 5:38pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Op. Hope you are working. Concentrate on your job and children. Marriage no be by force. Your husband is the problem not you. He ought to have drawn the line. As e no draw line you maintain your lane. Peace. 3 Likes |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by luminouz(m): 5:40pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
bukatyne: The answer is already in her writeup naaaa!!! |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Lugianostar(m): 5:41pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
You have a problem if so!!! Concentrate on your marriage ans stop looking for headache |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Greatness28: 5:41pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Report Her To Appropriate Authority . Take her to Baba Alawo to keep her mouth shout |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Nobody: 5:44pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth: I few days ago i was warning one feminist on the dangers of marrying a Mummy's boy aka a weak man that cannot stand up to the manipulations of his mother and sisters 3 Likes |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Holyman3(m): 5:46pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
You want him for you alone because he is doing well. I know your kinds. 1 Like |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Mrsserene: 5:46pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
You've begged, given gifts and they still dont want peace? Even married ones o...Ok sister, what's remaining now is prayer. Pray to God that what ever evil they want for you should go back to them. Shey they dont want you to have peace, then pray that they don't find peace in their homes also. Rubbish. 4 Likes |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by HacheNoire: 5:46pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Use her for money rituals! Or Pay men to silence her for life. |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Nobody: 5:47pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
isthatso: They actually don't see it It's built into the faculty that only some sound teaching of deliverance can take away This is very common among yoruba men |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Myhusband(m): 5:47pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
report them to God and let God settle their case. it's obvious those people might have go diabolical on your husband or your husband is immature as it was stated above, whichever one it falls, prepare for the worse and hey don't let them frustrate you for you to do something silly do they have head of the family(an old man they respect in the family) have you address this in his/their presence, do that while you report them to God. you've the right to be enjoying your dick and your husband money but you can't also deprive them from getting help from their brother to think like a typical African, save for the rainy day. very important 2 Likes |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Nobody: 5:47pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Anifaza: Since you said your hubby is the only one doing well in that family. Nah where the trouble come be that. Maybe your hubby has been give them a lot of money and gifts before you marry him and after una marriage, the gifts are not coming as it ought to. And if you and your hubby are financially strong before and after you met your husband it couldn't as been this battles you are facing now but maybe you also are like a gold-digger person. Anyway, you have tried but you need to work harder....The hard true is that since you're still tie to their brother, the family is expecting some responsibility from you which you have failed to do. So, let elderly in this family call husband and his sister so as to know how best to solve your teething issue |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Roon9(m): 5:49pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
TonyeBarcanista: Sentimentality! 4 Likes |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by katchagboro(m): 5:50pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Poison them all |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Movicq(m): 5:51pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Use dem for rituals and better ur marriage
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Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by harmonyAris(f): 5:51pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Only God knows when this incessant fight between wives and their in law will end in Nigeria. Its now a menace. The average Nigerian wife is having this very problem. Wetin dey always cause am sef. Taking sides wont solve the problem we need to go to the root cause. Husband rarely have issues with their inlaw |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Lexusgs430: 5:52pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Anifaza: You Married a mother's boy.... After the demise of his mother, his sisters filled that void and he owes them an allegiance....... Solution : Give him an ultimatum...... It's either he is with you or them.... If he picks them, go for a trial separation........ Watch and observe, his brain might reset....... 3 Likes |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by STENON(f): 5:53pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Anifaza: 1. You should also be visiting them every weekend instead of them to be coming to your house always. 2. Not everyone that knock on your door, you should open door for. Let them come once or twice and pretend as if you are away from home, they will turn back and go to their house. 3. You and your children should go and spend xmas and new year holiday with them so as to know how easy it is for someone to be taking care of their responsibilities. 4. Take good care of your husband and children and progress with your career/work and have fun. You won't even have time for all this gossiping talk . 5. Pray that God should guide you and also be wise. Do not report their actions to your husband or anyone. 5 Likes |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by pocohantas(f): 5:53pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Your pseudo-submission has come to bite you in the ass. You have to deal with it. Ignore them and focus on your kids (typical advice we give a Nigerian wife). Nothing practical... Years later when your children are grown, hopefully you don't abandon your husband in the family house and invade theirs to constitute nuisance. This is how it starts. Wait o, you married the pillar of the home? Ah! Sorry is your name o. That is the easiest way to be hated by your inlaws na. Come be big baby join. Just endure ehn, he will soon old- no be Naija horseband again. 8 Likes |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Holyman3(m): 5:54pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
TonyeBarcanista: For the first time, I agree with your views. The rascal has always wanted the husband to separate and hate his sisters, who trained him, since they are older. The husband is doing well, that's where her problem lies. She wants the husband not to give anything to the sisters. I was married to this type of idiot and divorced her after 5 years. The idiot will curse my sisters and mother and curse me for even giving my sister money. But when I give the same money to her siblings, its cool. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by darlenese(f): 5:54pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
you Married a child . ladies before u marry a first child or only male child please look into the family wella. most times its always thug of war 6 Likes |
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