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Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by sojfarm: 5:54pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Ordinarily your hubby should be the one protecting you. That is his duty over you. Now that he is fixed with these sisters, you have to be very careful, at least for the sake of you children. You are not the target. The targets are your husband and your children. So you are the one seeing this responsibility, please take it prayerfully. 1. Do not let your husband see it that you are trying to be jealous with his sisters 2. Make him to understand, genuinely, that his family comes first 3. Do not intervere excessively in your husband family matters. He and the sisters will see as being rude. This is Africa, don't be deceived. 4. Pray for your husband. Pray for the light of God on him and your children. Rebuke the influence of darkness. Pray against collective captivity. I pray, your home will not scatter in Jesus name, Amen. Make sure you are very careful from whom you seek advice. There plenty home breakers around you. It is well 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Nobody: 5:54pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
use your main feminist. moniker to post |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Nobody: 5:54pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
debbydee: You sound like a deluded and wounded single woman. .may God quickly heal your wound. 1 Like |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by E2000: 5:55pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Honestly I do not know u and could assume u could have a nasty side too. U said your husband is the only one doing well. Its possible you are trying to have him all for yourself and trust me if that's the case your sister-in-law's will always protest and hate you because you are trying to take their beloved brother who they see as a pillar of support from their lives. So to get on their good side play your side and allow them play their own side as they have always done. Crossing over to their side or trying to stop them will always resolve in revolts. 1 Like |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by happney65: 5:55pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Divorce him..QED! |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by bukatyne(f): 5:56pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
luminouz: I am looking for the root cause. I know what the SILs are doing, I know what the husband is doing /not doing. My question is how and why? Honestly, this continued in-law/ extended family wahala is strange to me IF we do not stay together. I am in my home and somebody is making decisions, how? Is it decision of what to eat, where to Stay, school for the kids, etc. That someone not staying with me would have control over? And if I visit people, I have learnt to follow thier rules once it doesn't hurt me. We eat eba every day, yes ma. We sleep by 7pm, yes sir. We sleep by 2am, noted ma. If I am now in my home and someone tries to overreach, then we have a case. My home is my sanctuary and I will not tolerate anyone to disturb my peace. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by PqsMike: 5:56pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
[quote author=TonyeBarcanista post=85044192] Guy, don't be quick to take position because you are yet to get the fact. lol......failed politician he shouldn't be quick to take side but u wrote an epistle supporting the in-laws....so, where did u get ur own facts from..? 7 Likes |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by sonnie10: 5:58pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
There is a mixup in your narrative. First you said your husband’s relatives come to your house every week or two but you later also said that another one of them who was sick also came to stay for 6 months without any of your in-laws visiting. |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by CasNova: 6:00pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
You may need a veritable medium such as the pastor of your church to mediate. |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by luminouz(m): 6:01pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
bukatyne: The why is obvious and stated. They see her as an outsider to their unity. Secondly,the husband get dough and of course foot some bills before she got married to him. Lemme guess after the marriage,the husband stopped doing those duties and the sisters naturally think na OP's fault. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Nobody: 6:01pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Lexusgs430: I dont think that is good advice. A mummy's boy is programmed to be a Mummy's boy, you will lose if you ask him to take sides. if he picks you he will resent you for seperating him fromhis lovely sisters if he picks them you lose. Talking from experience I dont know if a Mummy's boy can ever reset his brain. The question for the OP is how much pain she is prepared to endure for the sake of her marriage, if the husband is worth the cross she has to bear because i can almost guarantee you 100% he will never change!!! If you value your marraige, you just have to learn to be a politician and play them at their game, dont respond to provocations,,,which is what they want and use subtle methods to let your husband see what his sisters are doing. Never tell him directly, let him come to his own conclusions himself. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Holyman3(m): 6:02pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth: Typical blockhead's response to questions she has no answers to 2 Likes |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Fountainofyouth(f): 6:04pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
jakandeola: Jakande you are joining a crackhead to insult me? Me? If you know who I am, you won't do that at all, and if you know the genesis of me and that guy, you wouldn't say all you're saying. 1 Like |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by ollymaye: 6:04pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
If thr is elders in your husby’s family I will suggest you go to them and asked em to beg SILs on your behalf, infact tell the elders you’ve wronged them and you want them to make peace within you guys... remember the adage that says oko(husband) buruku shey fe sugbon ana buruku ko shey ni |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by damoobaba: 6:06pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
MEGA4BILLION: You got married to a BIG BABY and that's the actual problem. The people you're complaining about is not the problem but the man who can't protect you. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Mutemenot(m): 6:06pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
I suggest you just forget all about them. Just close your ears and eyes to them, show them all their characters are non of your business. If possible give them all the food your husband bought for the kids, when he ask tell him you have them to his sisters. Just help the sister crucify your husband, by doing this he will realize his mistakes and then find ways to amend .never you complain or show bitterness to any of their action ok.. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by explosiveskull(m): 6:06pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Anifaza:If what you wrote is true, then the fault is not yours but your hubby's upbringing, there is nothing to advise you on cos already you are doing fine in tolerating the obnoxious behavior of those fellas. I am not yet married but my dad is the only male child in the midst of 3 females so I know how it feels, somehow, my aunties wanted to try that shit but I am a very big problem for anyone I decide to be a case for, so somehow I defended my mum from them and they all stayed clear of my family cos I can be very terrible defending my mother even if you are related by blood. Find a way to train your kids to love you flawlessly cos as it stands, the only thing you have in that family are your kids. To avoid all these stories in marriages I've always told my male folks to always make a stand when marrying that your wife is your second in command and your all in all ie of course if you know the kind of woman you'll be marrying and trust her very well, when friends and extended family members see loopholes in your marriage they'll come in to fill it up. Good luck to you. 4 Likes |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Lexusgs430: 6:07pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
isthatso: So because of his unrepentant, yoke unbroken, childish, umbilical cord source connection, individualistic tendencies and excesses ....... His wife should keep suffering sexually, emotionally, and been psychologically abused? 3 Likes |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by excessmon(m): 6:07pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Did you come out of school with first class in analysis U sided with them without thinking that they actually need to go and marry and face their in-laws too? Abeg if someone is seriously married they no go remember saybone brother dey somewhere o They are just lazy people looking for who to pass their frustration to TonyeBarcanista: 8 Likes |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by FreeSoworeNow: 6:08pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
[s] HacheNoire:[/s] shatap Ogun dey useless |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Nobody: 6:08pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Lexusgs430: see my modified post. Antagonism never solves any problem. you dont respond to an Antagonist with antagonism. if she responds with your tone, shes already on a path to a break down in her marraige. This thing requires sense. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Fountainofyouth(f): 6:09pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
crackhaus: My love, stop crying, you know we are in love right, you can't just do without me I know, don't feel so bad about it, it's a good thing really Oya reply me with your usual cancellations and meme, it's what you do best 2 Likes |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by bukatyne(f): 6:09pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
luminouz: I have actually edited the post. The problem is the husband. He presented her as an outsider so his family will treat her like that. And except they are up in her face, she should move on and teach her kids to make better choices. |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by idonhammer: 6:11pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Please stop begging them and give it to them fire for fire Your husband is too weak to be a husband. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by PecLauren: 6:11pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
TonyeBarcanista:Just know that you have to advice someone from two angles... The left and the right. Don't outrightly make it seem she is the reason for the family chaos. There are always two sides of a coin, we just don't know the side that's playing out in her family in the real life. 7 Likes |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Nobody: 6:12pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Lexusgs430: this is why i say dont marry Mummys boys and warn against the dangers of men raised by single mothers. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by romenna: 6:12pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
I hate family interference and i dnt interfer in my siblings affairs. Once married, cut pipo some slack pls 4 Likes |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by DenreleDave(m): 6:12pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth: See her everywhere.. Mtn 1 Like |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by bonnyhope: 6:12pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
donbachi: Don't let the devil to use you Be nice to everyone regardless of the treatment they give you. Your kind of person is not required here 1 Like |
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