eazzzy1:
If A happens, a woman will use B,C,D,E,F,G as an excuse to leave.

kweensheba:
Guys and gals, over to you.

nograv:
Who cares, men dont waste your time on ladies...

If you work hard and become successful. No matter your flaws watch them come to you..

MiddleDimension:


it is not man's mentality. it is important you don't tell this to your son because he will only suffer! we have seen it a lot. i asked you a question if it is a lady's mentality that she needs her appearance to keep her man, or that it is an intrinsic thing with men, their women's appearance? you still have not answered

and how are the scenarios different

Ladycewhy:
This is the mentality that has made all of you men think all you have to do is make money and you ignore other aspects of your character. Men think money brings resect from women,but the truth is if you are an asshole ,money will only make you be tolerated not Cherished.

Now there are two scenarios here, a man going broke after you met him and meeting a man while he is broke. This are two different scenario with two likely outcomes so do well to let me know which one you are making reference to.

MiddleDimension:


the same reason rich drug lords pull the sort of women a professor can never pull.
@ladycewhy

Ladycewhy:
you want to know how the scenarios are different? I am tempted to ask if you live in a cave or something. In the ladder of social strata there is a woman for every man. There are men who have gotten married this year who didn't have the funds to throw lavish societal wedding yet they had a woman who was willing to live that life with them. The problem most of you men have is you want to "do pass yourself". You are earning 50k as salary but you want to date a lady that only her organic cream is 15k. Now this is not to say men should not go for their spec but the truth is some ladies are higher mantainance than others same goes for guys too.Everyone in life has standards same way many men after coming into money feel their wife is not their spec.


Regarding your question,based on what i have seen, no amount of beauty or looking good can keep a man ,a man stays because he wants to.

And by the way i am tempted to ask what your own mother told you cos from what i am seeing it has not made the Nigerian society better either with the crop of men we have.

Xmen149:


it's not..but mentality money girls are pushing

if a man can make enough money To take care of himself he can date,. if he can make enough to feed and house 2 or more he can marry

Yankee boy working looks like he is a super man cos he lives a comfy life on credit card

Las Las it's not about money,character, emotional intelligence etc.cos like you said a rude rich guy will only be managed

here in Naija alot is expected of a male youth..it takes a lady that loves a guy truely to stay with a broke guy or with a guy when broke and plan with him.

lol..but I still dnt get some things oh...does a lady dating a rich guy automatically mean the guys richness will appear in her pocket. Carry her in sit front sit,give her few cash to shop she will still go home broke...it will make more sense if she see her man of the future in him and him same thing they both make plans and make money together creating a future of their dreams

Olawrites:


Not all ladies oo. Know the kind of ladies you roll with.

That's why is good to go for a lady that like you more than you do

Ladycewhy:
you want a woman of high maintenance you cant afford? There is beauty standards,admit it or not women are first rated by their beauty now if that is where your eye is,be ready to pay the price.

Humphrizy:
Hmmm...its very hard to please some women.

If you get money... She go talk say your physique no make sense.

If you nO get money..... You are on ur own

If you nO sabi do the do... My brother.. You are sitting on a bicycle

Humphrizy:
Hmmm...its very hard to please some women.

If you get money... She go talk say your physique no make sense.

If you nO get money..... You are on ur own

If you nO sabi do the do... My brother.. You are sitting on a bicycle

Hairdo666:

"Because you can never understand them..."?
No. Because no body with self respect wants to tolerate all that bullshit. You should edit that comment and sound less hateful and more educated.

MiddleDimension:


exactly my point, you are beginning to see the point i am making. so like it or not too, a man is first rated by what he has, not by anything he thinks of himself which is what you call self esteem, but by what he has materially. if he just goes on with what he has in his mind, and attempts to bring it into relationships or marriage, he will be met with rude shock and will be labelled deluded!

you agree that women are rated first for their looks, and you don't think men have an equivalent of of this unfair thing?

but like i said, if this is not denied, like you are trying to do, then the couple can be adviced when they get into a period the man loses his job, or the woman her looks. the result will be a better relationship between them.

bukkielee:
don't be decived jare. Women are gold diggers

Kantebets:
do you mind giving me a try to see how good am on bed

Olawrites:


I still stand not all. One of my babe is giving me her parent's money. .no shi shi giving to her till date

MiddleDimension:


what has been told to men is what you have been buy pushing here. that it is men's fault if they can't walk up to successful women thereby denying that women are hypergamous by nature and such a man could be treated with contempt when he attempts it；that they feel all the can offer is just money that's why there is problem in marriages once he loses his job. the truth remains that it is women's innate behaviour to be attracted to men of financial power. the flip side of it for men is to be attracted to women with looks. THIS IS THE POINT I AM MAKING, AND IT IS THE POINT YOU ARE DENYING!

your denying it, or the new trend of denying this, and putting the blames on men is the reason why such homes where the man loses his job begins to experience challenges. once it is admitted, this truth, then we become open to solutions which comes from sound advice from highly experienced people. but when you deny it, like you are doing, then there can be no solution. how do you advice a thing that is denied?

zicoraads:
It's almost always about the money.

Nnemuka:

And his senses intact

MiddleDimension:


exactly my point, you are beginning to see the point i am making. so like it or not too, a man is first rated by what he has, not by anything he thinks of himself which is what you call self esteem, but by what he has materially. if he just goes on with what he has in his mind, and attempts to bring it into relationships or marriage, he will be met with rude shock and will be labelled deluded!

you agree that women are rated first for their looks, and you don't think men have an equivalent of of this unfair thing?

but like i said, if this is not denied, like you are trying to do, then the couple can be adviced when they get into a period the man loses his job, or the woman her looks. the result will be a better relationship between them.

Mijolnir:
you cute. Can I get to know you?

Liposure:
Its definitely B and E.one, ladies crave attention so much.two, being romantic n caring is a plus from any lady's point of view

Ladycewhy:
This is the mentality that has made all of you men think all you have to do is make money and you ignore other aspects of your character. Men think money brings resect from women,but the truth is if you are an asshole ,money will only make you be tolerated not Cherished.

Now there are two scenarios here, a man going broke after you met him and meeting a man while he is broke. This are two different scenario with two likely outcomes so do well to let me know which one you are making reference to.