GraGra247:


There are no matters where cane is the only solution. Read the below till the end.

"Quoted":

Depending on the offence
I used to ground my children in the room
No toys
No cartoon (they will almost faint on this, especially when Tom and Jerry is one)
No juice
Shouting
Pick pin
Kneeling
Verbal Apology etc

additionally:

-withdraw phone or iPad

-withhold favourites: games, exciting
visits to friends and places.

-Withold his favorite food or drink(but give him a different kind of good food/drink nonetheless)

-Ground him: restrict him to his room for some hours when he's itching to move around.

All these and more can be applied interchangeably and will bring the most difficult kids to their knees.

If these won't work, flogging won't work either.

beardedboy:

I don hear you sir/ma.
Experience, they say, is the best teacher. I pray you live long to witness the fruit of your decision.

GraGra247:


There are many kids that were flogged all their lives but yet turned out very wicked, hardened, rebellious, joined cult and criminal activities.

So its a fact that if my recommendations above won't work, flogging won't work either.

beardedboy:


Fallacious argument.

There are many sick people who were admitted to the best hospitals and treated by the best doctors in the world, yet they didn't survive.

There are many drivers who used their seatbelts and observed the speed limits, yet they ended up in crash.

There are many students who studied hard and read day and night yet they didn't get admission to any school.

eduman365:


Crime is common to every society. Compare Nigeria to other developing countries like India and South Africa where rape is the order of the day and you'll realize the country is not so bad.

I know you're probably a lesbian, cos that statement hit you differently. But only God can judge and I'm nobody to downgrade you.

HannahHitler:
Now you're talking, instead of acting like Nigeria is Perfect because our parents beat us at the slightest provocation and the west is thrash because they don't beat. Every society has its own problems.

PS even if you judged me or downgraded me, I wouldn't care. That one is on you.

socialmediaman:


A proverb you probably misunderstood? In those days, the rod was used for guiding sheep in the right direction, not flogging them. It literally means “if you do not guide the child, you spoil the child. Sometimes you need history lessons to understand the context of the Bible.

hush15:


Corruption can be a end result of bad training but not all bad upbring can lead to a corrupt personality.

Let's not forget that there is also the influence of learning environment, peer pressure, social influence, religious influence, political influence. The first school of every child is the parent and most parents in recent times are failing in their responsibilities, nonetheless, like the old saying goes, if you don't learn at home, you will learn from outside

GraGra247:

Read my comments and posts of yesterday. Have done that already.

Simplyleo:
Though I don't know a better alternative, I won't accept flogging of my child in school.

Education professionals should come up with a better alternative.

Amanda4life:



If your child come my class I go flog am so te urine go comot for him body

Or better still a good knock on his head will relieve .my anger

What do you � think?
I hope this is not too small

Simplyleo:

The good thing here is that you used "if".

Of course, there are so many "ifs" around the world.

tchidi066:
I don't believe in flogging... There is something called positive and negative reinforcement

twhy111:
I can't swear that I'm not going to flog my child in the future, but definitely not to the point of inflicting injuries on he/she.



But I'm quick to dash out slap ooo!
My siblings can relate

socialmediaman:


A proverb you probably misunderstood? In those days, the rod was used for guiding sheep in the right direction, not flogging them. It literally means “if you do not guide the child, you spoil the child. Sometimes you need history lessons to understand the context of the Bible.

enemyofprogress:
All i know be sey Jesus flog some people comot for temple to reset their brains

enemyofprogress:
All i know be sey Jesus flog some people comot for temple to reset their brains

alcuin:
People are saying "good communication". Good communication for children that don't have sense?

Jokerman:
My first son will chop cane... No matter what

GraGra247:


"Quoted":

Depending on the offence
I used to ground my children in the room
No toys
No cartoon (they will almost faint on this, especially when Tom and Jerry is one)
No juice
Shouting
Pick pin
Kneeling
Verbal Apology etc

additionally:

-withdraw phone or iPad

-withhold favourites: games, exciting
visits to friends and places.

-Withold his favorite food or drink(but give him a different kind of good food/drink nonetheless)

-Ground him: restrict him to his room for some hours when he's itching to move around.

All these and more can be applied interchangeably and will bring the most difficult kids to their knees.

If these won't work, flogging won't work either.

GraGra247:


Your argument doesn't follow cos I provided a better alternative.

Your argument will only stand if there was no disciplinary alternative.

m140:

Arindin

dammiedot:
Just telling a child these days to face the wall or go to the naughty corner hurts them really bad. My parents flogged me a lot and that didn't do much. Now I tell punish my child or deprive her of some activity she loves and that super really hurts her and I then have a discussion with her to understand why she was punished and we are good. Flogging has not helped anybody since a long time.

dammiedot:
Just telling a child these days to face the wall or go to the naughty corner hurts them really bad. My parents flogged me a lot and that didn't do much. Now I tell punish my child or deprive her of some activity she loves and that super really hurts her and I then have a discussion with her to understand why she was punished and we are good. Flogging has not helped anybody since a long time.

dammiedot:
Just telling a child these days to face the wall or go to the naughty corner hurts them really bad. My parents flogged me a lot and that didn't do much. Now I tell punish my child or deprive her of some activity she loves and that super really hurts her and I then have a discussion with her to understand why she was punished and we are good. Flogging has not helped anybody since a long time.

NiCurious:


Have you thought in schools, or taught in schools? Are you indeed a teacher?
For heaven's sake, rape and manslaughter are criminal issues, not for a teacher to deal with by caning!
As for unseriousness…send the student out of class, with assignments still due, without her benefitting from the lectures...either she will fail because she is unserious, or beg to return to class because she is ready to become serious. Either way, the disruption in class will stop, and when she takes the decision to return...it will not be by force, but by the beginning of wisdom.

NiCurious:


...Give them unpleasant jobs that they normally take for granted that someone else will do. The temporary inconvenience of a flogging is nothing, compared to the prolonged discomfort of being "in trouble". The flogging can be endured, forgotten. Being in disgrace, not so much.

hopismo2000:

I have thought in schools for more than 7 years...

chukzyfcbb:
At the start of my Nysc year, I said I was never going to flog any student. I wanted to try this concept of discipline from another angle.

My oh My! Because they knew at first I never would use the cane, they took my class for granted talking at will, then I switched up and unleashed the dragon
...I flogged anyone who would cross the line, however at the same time I spent most of my NYSC Alloweee buying gifts for those who would do well in my Test and exams.
Ironically that made me liked despite the flogging, so I will say strike a balance!A PERFECT SCENARIO YOU WLD GET IN A NIGERIAN SETTING. NO MATTER HOW GOOD AND LOGICAL THE REASON, FOR NOW, CANNING CAN'T BE RULED OUT FOR NAIJA

safarigirl:
I've learnt that there is really no hard and fast rule with children

I recommend finding the perfect disciplinary method depending on the child. Some kids are receptive to scolding and some others require flogging. Find the disciplinary method perfect for the child, notice what works best for each child, just because they are all kids does not mean the same thing will work across board

So, yeah, depending on the kid, caning could work with some, others just a few words and for a select few, a combination of both. It's like people who prefer injection to pills and vice versa

Nwaonyishi69:
All these are aimed at modifying or shaping the child to be a good child. There is a need for variation of the approaches adopted. So, in some extreme cases, flogging or even using physical beating may be suitable. As is held from the old, if you spare the Cane you will spoil the child. Everything possible should be done to make out the best form of humans from your wards.

destinychildolu:


And they are the Same children that grow to make new discoveries and innovations. With our so called discipline, our children grow up to become fantastically corrupt.

eduman365:

Parental discipline is not the reason for underdevelopment. Politics is the reason, there is a leadership problem in the country, so don't mix things up. If you want to support bad behaviour, say something else...

Beautyaddy:


That's a Big Lie!

Corruption and Lawlessness has a lot to do with how a child was raised.

Beautyaddy:

So the many adults today(which I am sure are most of the people we have governing Nigeria) don't have sense... so can fogging them now make them have sense

HannahHitler:
homosexuality sha entered the conversation from no where!!!! Lmao. So you want to beat a gay child till he turns straight ABI? Just negodu. Upon the beating in Nigeria, just see how your country is filled with criminals and lawlessness.

Beautyaddy:

I am sure most of those corrupts and lawless adults governing the affairs of Nigeria were flogged when they were kids too but as we can see it ended up making them hardened to corrections to do what is right under the law.

Vacora:
Flogging upandan, una get light sef? No be una leaders dey ‘fantastically corrupt’ upon all the flogging dem receive in the days of old?

Trutherme:
I would have amounted to nothing without the flogging I got from my mum and grandmother
The fear of waking me up at 2 am in the morning and giving me a dose of it was the beginning of wisdom for me.

Ironically, I grew up to love and admire both of them for making me who I am today.

ClassicMG:
Don't ever beat a child no matter what, I nearly lost my self esteem due to my parent floging

RuddyFusion:
I don't I communicate and build relationship with my little one and it works better than flogging

dammiedot:
Just telling a child these days to face the wall or go to the naughty corner hurts them really bad. My parents flogged me a lot and that didn't do much. Now I tell punish my child or deprive her of some activity she loves and that super really hurts her and I then have a discussion with her to understand why she was punished and we are good. Flogging has not helped anybody since a long time.

Beedude:

And u think homosexuality and lack of respect is our major task to tackle? Or are we better morally and academically than the whites?. I believe all the Cultist, kidnappers, ritualist, agbero, olosho, militant, herds men, and boko haram in Nigeria were not canned when growing up? I'm an Educationist and haven't use a cane on anyone for more than 5yrs now. It is better to train a child with love than turning them to baboons with our archaic means of correction. No child is born an animal, they just need adequate protection, monitoring and be enlightened as they grow.

Beautyaddy:


....that you are.