Honestly, facebook needs to do something urgently to checkmate minors being members

Ishilove:
Beat the pedophile, not the ignorant teenager.

You just have to talk to her again and spice the lecture with some hot slaps because you counselled her TODAY about sex and it's ramifications, yet she still wants to go ahead to waka useless waka. No, this is a very dangerous step she wants to take. Some factory resetting slaps are in order for disregarding all your advice less than 24hours after giving it.

After the slaps, draw her close and counsel her again because that is the best you can do. You can only show these children the right way; whether they choose to take it is entirely up to them.

real woman

Don't beat her, seat her down and advice her. Let her know the advantages and disadvantages of what she wants to embark on. Siting her examples of the good, the bad and the ugly side of life.








Good Luck

tedimola:
That will be the wrongest move. She has started doing what adults do, so treat her like one. Flogging will make her be more discrete later. You will never see jack again, and she will do times 100 of what you can ever imagine. Be wise. She needs counselling.

Not really
Shee still has fear

14 years?

Kai she is too small for this. Or is she lacking anything?
Should I say lack of good mentoring.

Early exposure to Facebook.

Can this one read, concentrate and pass exam on her own without help?

This is a very daft comment ! How can you call a child a lost cause ? Don’t know why people come online to just be vomiting rubbish .

iPrevail:


She's a lost cause. Beating her will make her hate you and become twice rebellious.

smat101:

I just finished talking to her like an hour ago, and she is still wanting to give in to sex...
I think if I beat her it will help her remember what I told her.

Are you sure she has not be having sex one way or the other ? If after talking, she is still insisting. Then her addict button has been activated. Beat her makes no difference either.

So be patient and talk with her. She is definitely aggressively Hot right now

Ishilove:

Okay nice one. You can use your goons but make sure you teach him a lesson so that when next he see small girls he will flee for his life and destiny.

These children dey gree say dem be small girls??
Dem open eye pass u sef.

GeniusWannabe:

OP, please take this advice.

How many guys do u plan arresting?
Handle ur sister at home with either beating or counselling, whichever her brain gree accept.

Ishilove:

She should go ahead and resent him. That resentment will turn to gratitude in the future. Growing up my mum was tough on I and my sis and we disliked her so much. Years later, she is now our best friend and 'ride or die' chick, and we realise all she was doing back then was for our own good.

Brain resetting slaps is the way to go. Las las she go dey alright.

There's no rule book to parenting - I and my siblings had similar experience growing up, guess what? It worked only on me. She saw it and adjusted her disciplinary approach. I had a way with my siblings and she was observant enough to see it, so, she made me her assistant(quite a burdensome task). Till date, if issues comes up I get a call from her to help set things straight.

In summary, I think the Op is in a better position to decide the best method to handle the situation. Like you said, she and hopefully him too go dey alright las Las.

My people say "Dog wey dey loss no dey hear him owner call".Like a lot has said, beating her won't do Jack and talking to her is 50/50 cos there is every possibility she will not "hear" you. I have one case in my hand right now,the guy is 37yrs and she is just 16yrs n already active. I feel you pain o the helplessness is what breaks my heart the most cos she has been talked to in all manner of ways at a point I told me wife to let her learn the hard way. I have 2 girls already and I travail daily at the place of prayer to raise them to be decent with the fear of the Lord cos if the "spirit of the age" enters them it will only take something stronger within them to give restrain. The world is just upside down.

smat101:

Nah this Saturday the scattering for happen o...
She is still a virgin, she told him

Never slap anybody on the face, that's the location of the vital senses. No replacement.

The government should enact stricter penalties for paedophiles and back it up with action.

EmpressT:
I concur @funmisticqueen

Sterope:
smat101

The best thing you can do for her is to educate her on safe sex. If she is not willing to listen to reason, she can at least be safe while at it.

That's the best advice I have read so far.

Whether anyone like it or not, Op your lil sister is going through what doctors call hormonal change. And these hormonal change will make her feel Hot. It's only natural with her urge for wanting sex. Talk to her about condoms and HIV aids.
That's the best u can do.

Because she will. Definitely have sex someday. But she must know how to protect herself sexually and the effect of teen pregnancy.

Simple.

omo 14 years nitori olorun,some guys are ridiculous sha.

smat101:

iPrevail, she is a very hardworking, respectful and intelligent girl...
Beating her can NEVER make her rebellious instead it will make her very scared and embarrassed.

You've concluded you want to beat her, so go ahead....

So, you believe beating her will make her scared and embarrassed as you've put it? Smh.

My opinion, consistently talk to her, let her see why she need to face her studies, list prominently women around the world with success and achievements, let her know the guy just want to destroy her life.

Access her through those she make friends with, the types of people she mingle with will determine the suitable ways you can go and how tedious it will to achieve a positive impact on her.

Thanks

ofuonyebi:
Honestly, facebook needs to do something urgently to checkmate minors being members

The prob there is that Facebook minimum age to join is 12yrs

These generation of women, girls is something else, show we go marry wife like this, guys are going back home, ladies are going out all nightclub.

Ishilove:
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More oil on your head. Which kain useless rebellion is that? Na so fvck dey hungry am?

The beating should not be too much but make sure you slap some sense into her. Oniranu omo.

As for that despoiler of innocence, make sure you treat his fvck up. Keep chatting with him pretending to be your sis, set a fvck date with him then show up at the venue with some Oshodi thugs who will rearrange his dentition and shift his jaw. Oloriburuku omo ale

Impressive.

smat101:

I just finished talking to her like an hour ago, and she is still wanting to give in to sex...
I think if I beat her it will help her remember what I told her.

So sorry dear. The issue is exactly what we are talking about, of today's society.
Our present society is so much polluted with avenues and info that tends to promote and lead to such lifestyle.
Think of our music lyrical contents and videos, adverts on TV, movies, popular morally empty shows like BB Naija, the internet and so much more.
You can try to be as dedicated as you possibly can, have more presence and oversight in her life and day to day activities, and hope for the best.

smat101:

I hope you're not misunderstanding me...I'm trying to Say after I spoke to her about sex, she used my phone to chat and she was kind of willing to give in but afraid of the consequences.

What Can Of Advice Do You Give To Her About Sex? If What You Told Her Was About Sex Education, She Won't Had Gone Chating With That Animal. She Will Have The Fear Of Contacting "STD" Or unwanted Pregnanty.
Teach Her More On Sex Education, Let Her Know The mpplication Or Repercusion Of Having Sex At That Age.

As That Guy Say , Just Pretend As You're Your Sister On Her Facebook Chat. Let You And The Man Plan To Meet Up. Carry Along With Army Or Police Men With You On The Day You'll Meet That Animal And Handed Him Over To The Police Or Army Immediately.
Try To Teach Your Sister What Sex Is...And What Sex Could Cause To Her.

Ye must be born again.

smat101:
I Am Planing To Seriously Beat My Kid Sister 2moro Morning

What I was scared of is finally happening...
I've a lot to say but let me try to be brief...

It's been 4years+ since I last went home to see my mum and siblings. I really love my kid sister so much even more than my mum.

There is a lot to say but to cut the long story short, when I came back she had already developed breast but she is just 14 years.
Just today I talked to her about sex, boyfriends, pornography relationship, sex, everything in that area.

Recently she was using my phone for Facebook, then I asked her consent to read some of her messages which she agreed. As I was reading through she dragged the phone from my hand when I wanted to click a particular chat. I became inquisitive but respected her privacy. I then asked her to log out when she is done...

Just this night I wanted to login to my Facebook then I clicked the Facebook icon her account was still logged in... What I saw broke my heart, she was planning to send nudes to a guy and the guy was planning to have sex with her this weekend, she kept on telling him that she was afraid, but he kept on telling her he will use condom, that she should not be afraid...

My problem is that she is a minor and this guy is 27...

So this is what I plan to do, Flog her thoroughly very early tomorrow, then later talk to her again...
Then that bastard beat him up in the evening with two other guys...

I really love this girl and Want the best for her pls parents preferably how should I handle this matter .

Please don't beat her, I have a 16 year old sister too our last born
I got her 3k itel phone last year, so I can be calling her just incase my mummy's phone is not available, since then she has been on Facebook posting many pictures in school uniform and make ups
I am not an emotional person, I deal only with facts.... I went home and had my junior brother record our conversation(We are 3) I sat her down and talk about sex and life to her, I told her she is old enough to decide anything she want a d made it clear she will be the only one responsible for her actions
Everyone in the family is hustling for better tomorrow and nobody taught us shit, I told her I will keep the record for future purpose

Play along. Keep chatting with the bad guy until you crush him. He is a fool for trying to molest a minor

Talk to your sister and talk to the guy. Get the guy's number and call him and arrange to see him. Don't you ever arrange for him to be beaten as it won't end well and your innocent sister would, at the end, pity him and release her body to him when you are gone. I'm male, 36, if a lady approached me decently and tell me to pls keep eyes off her kid sis, being a minor, I will never disturb her again. Even if she's very beautiful, I will wait till she turns 18 or 20. Tell your mother too, but warn her never to start beating her cause of that because it will push her all out!

The truth is her friends have been telling her how sweet sex is and that's fascinating to her that she can not wait to experience it but she's afraid! That she's still afraid means she never even start to dey spoil. because last time I was in Ado Ekiti, the little girl I paid to rape me for a night made me lose control timelessly before dawn. She's good versatile and very neat. Her tin is sugar gate n I enjoyed myself. Thank you for being a good big sis.