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Re: Scared Of Remaining Single by ImaIma1(f): 5:14pm On Jan 29, 2020 |
crackkhaus: Chief Inspector Investigator crackkhaus |
Re: Scared Of Remaining Single by Mizwisdom(f): 5:40pm On Jan 29, 2020 |
Scared for what? those in marriages, how many can boast of constant happiness? man never frustrate your life before to be honest, being single is more fun and you have peace unless you allow yourself entertain this kind of fear. Get busy, focus on your kid, train her, love her, provide for her needs and she will reciprocate when you get old. There's nothing to be scared of. 8 Likes |
Re: Scared Of Remaining Single by bukatyne(f): 5:52pm On Jan 29, 2020 |
Lionqueen: You are a single mom and 30. You are worried that you would end up single (a very valid concern because you desire companionship). I guess it is futile to ask about your baby daddy. To get a responsible man for companionship: Have you forgiven yourself? Have you forgiven your baby daddy so you are not carrying the bitterness around you. Do you see all men as evil or your ex is every man? Does all discussions revolve around your ex? Do every man have to prove himself that he is not your ex? Do you radiate availability without desperacy or your aura make men scared to approach you? Do every man have to compete with your daughter? Do you manage to bring every discussion back to your daughter? Are you an interesting person? Can someone converse with you? Are you open to learning and other ideas? Do you because you are a mother treat everyone like your child? Do/Did you take care of yourself? Are you carrying yourself like a 50yr old mother or a 30yr old lady with a child? Do you take note of your appearance? Answer these questions truthfully and make adjustments were needed. Goodluck. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Scared Of Remaining Single by TonyeBarcanista(m): 6:52pm On Jan 29, 2020 |
Lionqueen:What exactly do you want? |
Re: Scared Of Remaining Single by Nobody: 7:45pm On Jan 29, 2020 |
Lionqueen:Don't be scared!! Just wait for your time!!! Happiness is the most important thing in Life!!! Enjoy your single status now!!! |
Re: Scared Of Remaining Single by Nobody: 7:48pm On Jan 29, 2020 |
toplinetrtrend:Someone that may stab you in your sleep abi?? Right partner is the key!!! OP must not be desperate!!! |
Re: Scared Of Remaining Single by Nobody: 7:50pm On Jan 29, 2020 |
CsRockefeller:OP must not he desperate!!! Evil partner plenty for Naija... Deceitful to the core |
Re: Scared Of Remaining Single by Nobody: 7:51pm On Jan 29, 2020 |
johnkey:Stop promoting Hookers on Family section of Nairaland |
Re: Scared Of Remaining Single by Nobody: 7:52pm On Jan 29, 2020 |
makydebbie:Nice dp.... If you are the one on your right please check your DM |
Re: Scared Of Remaining Single by Nobody: 7:54pm On Jan 29, 2020 |
toplinetrtrend:Solitude is different from Loneliness!!! |
Re: Scared Of Remaining Single by Nobody: 8:01pm On Jan 29, 2020 |
ImaIma1:OP is a single mum tho!! she's got a kid!!! Marriage is an icing on the cake for her 1 Like |
Re: Scared Of Remaining Single by Nobody: 8:03pm On Jan 29, 2020 |
bukatyne:I love Bukatyne's questioneer |
Re: Scared Of Remaining Single by Nobody: 8:06pm On Jan 29, 2020 |
Lionqueen:I'm just trying to imagine the traffic in ur pm's right now tho.. dem no dey see late comer for marriage.. better enjoy ur self till HE comes |
Re: Scared Of Remaining Single by bukatyne(f): 8:17pm On Jan 29, 2020 |
Re: Scared Of Remaining Single by LilMissFavvy(f): 8:30pm On Jan 29, 2020 |
Marriage is not compulsory, especially since finding a good man can be stressful. Children are the main joy a woman should look out for. At 30 you are still young, socialize more and be patient, you will meet the right man. As for very mature ladies out there, I'd advice that if your biological clock is ticking and you are in a relationship, yet you aren't convinced that your partner is the right one, if he is willing to marry you, go ahead, marry and have your kids, if he stresses you in the marriage, of cuz you'd know what to do. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Scared Of Remaining Single by Nobody: 8:52pm On Jan 29, 2020 |
bukatyne: |
Re: Scared Of Remaining Single by crackkhaus: 12:57am On Jan 30, 2020 |
ImaIma1:Yelz? |
Re: Scared Of Remaining Single by crackkhaus: 12:59am On Jan 30, 2020 |
bukatyne:Lol, and some people like that don't understand why I like you That person knows herself Extraordinarily introspective questions. |
Re: Scared Of Remaining Single by Godons1: 3:39am On Jan 30, 2020 |
Lionqueen: Check your mail. |
Re: Scared Of Remaining Single by CsRockefeller(m): 10:31am On Jan 30, 2020 |
olabrinks: God bless you Ma'am. |
Re: Scared Of Remaining Single by bukatyne(f): 12:19pm On Jan 30, 2020 |
crackkhaus: Very funny. Thank you. 1 Like |
Re: Scared Of Remaining Single by We4all: 7:50pm On Jan 30, 2020 |
CsRockefeller: It's not easy to be alone, but there are people who are not afraid to stay alone, and are better off alone. It's just a generalization, and I'm not referring to the OP. |
Re: Scared Of Remaining Single by We4all: 8:08pm On Jan 30, 2020 |
olabrinks: There are people with your kind of mentality; who only need a life partner to feel happier. I'm not saying it's a bad thing, but not everyone was wired that way. Loneliness is relative. There are married people who still feel lonely, while there are single people who don't feel lonely despite their marital status. In my opinion, if you need someone to make you feel complete, then you may have a problem. 1 Like |
Re: Scared Of Remaining Single by We4all: 8:10pm On Jan 30, 2020 |
toplinetrtrend: Happiness is a choice. There are more unhappy married people than singles. 2 Likes |
Re: Scared Of Remaining Single by toplinetrtrend: 8:23pm On Jan 30, 2020 |
We4all: That's because they didn't find the right partner 1 Like |
Re: Scared Of Remaining Single by We4all: 8:36pm On Jan 30, 2020 |
DaddySoftapple: Hmmm seriously, I've never seen an unmarried single lady in my family, even my younger sister will get married this year or next year and I'm still enjoying my singlehood. Lol This is because the girls in your family were groomed to see marriage as an achievement. I'm certain that if you take time out to find out what is really happening in their lives, you will realise that most of them are unhappy. I wonder how a lady stay between 23 to 30 without finding a man to marry. The same way some people with good grades stay unemployed for years. Our eyes are not blind, we know those Ladies that are good for sex only and those we pray to get married to. So how come the good women are having problems with their spouses? The category you belong as a lady depends on how you have lived your life so far, it's nobody's fault. All the promiscuous ladies in my department at the University are married with kids. The only decent lady in my class, is still unmarried. He told me when he met her, he quickly start thinking of marriage because she was a Gem and would not want to lose her, and indeed she changed his life for good and today they are Happy with a baby boy. You have no idea how much ladies pretend just to hook a man. My friend, most married ladies played out a script, and their husbands fell foolishly for it. Give him a few more years, and the story will change. What I'm trying to say in essence is that, character has nothing to do with late marriage. So please stop making the OP feel like she created a big problem for herself. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Scared Of Remaining Single by olabrinks(f): 11:53pm On Jan 30, 2020 |
We4all:the reality is that we all need human beings to feel complete. Whether it’s your friends, your cousins, your mum. We are not wired to be on our own 24/7 and be completely isolated from the world. A lot of people come online to fill in that social isolation in their lives because of this. So yes I need people to feel complete, including my husband. I refuse to accept isolation as the norm like this generation wants to push forward. I will proudly accept that, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. If you have the right people around you, it’s unlikely you’ll feel lonely. Unless you’re dealing with personal issues that you need to deal with. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Scared Of Remaining Single by Nobody: 12:40am On Jan 31, 2020 |
ImaIma1:Any Nigerian man in Nigeria that actually marries a 50 year old woman is either poor or an opportunist. 30 men don dey shout before na 50. Do you know how women degrade with age? I've dated women in their 30s,though most of them are kind and loving but that lustre or wow factor is almost non existent. Age does not favour women,they literally rot with age and only poor men tolerate that rubbish Spits! 1 Like |
Re: Scared Of Remaining Single by ImaIma1(f): 7:06am On Jan 31, 2020 |
nwanneni: See it doesn't matter if you don't believe it or if your mind cannot conceive it. That is your personal problem to deal with. Your preference is yours. It doesn't mirror every man's preference. You need to go out, get exposure, see things that are happening, read book, news, people's experiences, etc. You cannot sit down in your "yard" and think everything is black and white. You talk about women rotting. How do they rot? Check yourself. It's most likely your rot robbing off on them. You seem to think it's only women who age. Men grow old and a lot of them become dumber with age and begin to say things that don't make sense. 6 Likes |
Re: Scared Of Remaining Single by Nobody: 7:30am On Jan 31, 2020 |
ImaIma1:It is not belief but fact! A woman has to be really pretty for her to still have lustre in her 30s. You talk about exposure?So because I and other sane men see older women for what they really are means we aren't exposed?Do you know how unpleasant looking most women in their 30s are if their clothes are taken off and also without their dulux paint(make up)? Marriage is for complete happiness.Yes I agree older women are better to interact with and most are more sensible than their younger counterparts,but looks are also important. If you enjoyed the woman when she was in her 20s,that's different,not marrying her when the rot-phase has initiated. That is something only poor men or opportunists should do,not a burden hardworking men with some achieved goals should bear. Imagine waking up to a rot-phase woman every morning by your side till you die,something you never enjoyed for a day all in the name of exposure. That's pure cheating and foolishness. By the way,just what my "yard" looks like this cool morning.... I'm sure you,an exposed woman is somewhere right now in bubbling lagos traffic struggling to be on time in your 200k/month job.Don't even reply me,save that energy for manoeuvring with your Kia Rio/picanto in the traffic ahead of you So much for an exposed woman. The way some of you,rot-phase women make assumptions baffle me. 1 Like
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Re: Scared Of Remaining Single by ImaIma1(f): 7:48am On Jan 31, 2020 |
nwanneni: All you have spilled is based on your exposure and mentality. You cannot do more than your brain. 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Scared Of Remaining Single by Nobody: 8:05am On Jan 31, 2020 |
ImaIma1:Lol,same way you can't represent what you aren't. I know you are speaking good for women in their rot phase,a category you clearly belong in. No worries,it is what it is. You and the rest of the women in their 30s lack lustre,period. 1 Like |
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