Dr_Cork:

Can someboby pls beg iice icce baby (MOD) to pls give me a break. The chick's been aon my case for the past 2 yrs.

iice. Can u pls give mio a break? Pls. I will buy u a beer, 4real

tosyne007:

on your case for 2 years? u dont mean it!!! prolly u've been making promises and not fulfiling them. op u meant it this time around that u will buy her a beer,

@iice, will u pls temper justice with mercy and give the poor guy a break?

Bro iice is one of teh MOD's but I call her: iice iice baby (Vanilla ice), but still, she on my case everyday.

Pls help me beg her & I will buy u a beer!

Dr_Cork:

Bro iice is one of teh MOD's but I call her: iice iice baby (Vanilla ice), but still, she on my case everyday.

Pls help me beg her & I will buy u a beer!

tosyne007:

i know who she is.

u wont have to buy me a beer cos i dont take alcohol. all u need do is to fulfill wateva promise u made to her cos i saw some of her posts and i think she takes promises seriously. aiight?

@iice, want to blv u are reading all these, once again i plead on his behalf, give him a break.

Bro she wouldnt listen. she keeps attacking me every 3 minutes. I didnt even do anythin. Other MODs dont behave like that.

iiicee, chill out for GODS sake!!, ok, what do u want in return to get off me back?

Shy-One:

@ OP

I am soo ashamed to admit this - but I blew my fiancee off when he first contacted me on the internet because he was living in Africa. I didn't even know the Nigeria part or Nigeria's reputation. It was that I am not unattractive so I didn't have the need to meet someone online and do anything with them at all. Also, I wasn't interested in dating anyone period. Then after I shared with my family that this Nigerian man is emailing me - they scared really bad and told me all kinds of things about Nigerians and scammers and all of this scary stuff. My husband had died and my family was overly protective of me and didn't want me to fall in the wrong hands because I was crying all the time and I just wasn't myself mentally or physically. Also, the long distance thing makes it "sooo much more work" and I had no energy because of the deep depressions that were hitting me constantly - it was hard enough just to stay awake for 4 hours or 2 hours a day because the depression robs you of the will to live.

But I will tell you what - He NEVER GAVE UP, NEVER. He continued to email me until I started to respond and THANK GOD he didn't give up on me. He filled my inbox with emails - we started to chat then online - he taught me how to chat online because I didn't know. Then he started mailing packages to my home from Nigeria - to my front door. We talked so much that it was as if he was in the living room with me - we talked as soon as I woke up and again right before I went to sleep.

My advice to you is to NOT GIVE UP if this person is still on your mind. Reach out. Or move on. In my situation and in my case/his case - we are still going strong and it is almost one year. I have begged his forgiveness for being "racist and buying into categorizing him" - I ignore the naysayers now and actually my family CANNOT WAIT to meet him and are looking forward to our marriage as they have never seen me so happy in a very long time. He has spoken several times with my family on the phone. He has sent videos and pictures and gifts and money and in return I have done the same with him to Nigeria.

I love him sooo deeply.

Mrs, Eve:

I agree all Nigerian men aren't crooked (hush Jaybee) and they are not that special however many women opt for FOREIGN men with papers already but then again if you meet a Foreign who doesn't have papers ENTER WITH CAUTION,

We ALL have judgements about people in general and don't be no fool IN ANY SITUATION.

Mrs, Eve:

Mediatrix,

You fell in love WITH YOU WHO WANTED so why can't she fall in love with who she wants? Just because someone have a preference does not mean they are racist nor sexist. That just like saying you a racist because you won't marry your own kind or a gay man a sexist because he like men. WTF,

The girl have the right to LIKE WHOEVER SHE WANTS, and if she doesn't want a Nigerian man, SHE DOESN'T HAVE TO.

Poster get over yourself, NIGERIAN MEN aren't the only men IN THE WORLD, damn!

If she feels am not good enough for her cos of my nationality then she is not good enough for me either. . .why waste your time. . guy go arrange other babes. . .

You fell in love WITH YOU WHO WANTED so why can't she fall in love with who she wants?  Just because someone have a preference does not mean they are racist nor sexist.

@ OP

I am soo ashamed to admit this - but I blew my fiancee off when he first contacted me on the internet because he was living in Africa. I didn't even know the Nigeria part or Nigeria's reputation. It was that I am not unattractive so I didn't have the need to meet someone online and do anything with them at all. Also, I wasn't interested in dating anyone period. Then after I shared with my family that this Nigerian man is emailing me - my family scared me really bad and told me all kinds of things about Nigerians and scammers and all of this scary stuff that they had read online and saw on tv. My husband had died and my family was overly protective of me and didn't want me to fall in the wrong hands because I was crying all the time and I just wasn't myself mentally or physically. Also, the long distance thing makes it "sooo much more work" and I had no energy because of the deep depressions that were hitting me constantly - it was hard enough just to stay awake for 4 hours or 2 hours a day because the depression robs you of the will to live.

But I will tell you what - He NEVER GAVE UP, NEVER. He continued to email me until I started to respond and THANK GOD he didn't give up on me. He filled my inbox with emails - we started to chat then online - he taught me how to chat online because I didn't know. Then he started mailing packages to my home from Nigeria - to my front door. We talked so much that it was as if he was in the living room with me - we talked as soon as I woke up, on and off throughout the day, everyday and again right before I went to sleep.

My advice to you is to NOT GIVE UP if this person is still on your mind. Reach out. Or move on. In my situation and in my case/his case - we are still going strong and it is almost one year. I have begged his forgiveness for being "racist and buying into categorizing him" - I ignore the naysayers now and actually my family CANNOT WAIT to meet him and are looking forward to our marriage as they have never seen me so happy in a very long time. He has spoken several times with my family on the phone. He has sent videos and pictures and gifts and money and in return I have done the same with him to Nigeria.

I love him sooo deeply.

they just refuse to accept the fact that a foreign woman may not want to date them.

tpia1:

^so imagine what full nigerians have to go through and this op is throwing a tantrum over minor stuff.

if one girl snubs him, are there no other girls where he is?

Ochi_Agha:

I hear women run from Nigerian men, when they hear is a guy is Nigerian. My Nigerian cousin thought he would be able to date this Cameroonian woman, but when she found out he was Nigerian, the girl just stopped talking to him. My time in Ghana has shown me that it is hard to be a Nigerian outside of Nigeria. All I was hearing, was that "your people are wicked o," or you should be happy you are only half. It is amazing about the hostility. Even Black Americans and Caribbeans have a negative view of Nigerians. We get no love from anyone. lol

Shy-One:

@ OP

I am soo ashamed to admit this - but I blew my fiancee off when he first contacted me on the internet because he was living in Africa.  I didn't even know the Nigeria part or Nigeria's reputation.  It was that I am not unattractive so I didn't have the need to meet someone online and do anything with them at all.  Also, I wasn't interested in dating anyone period.  Then after I shared with my family that this Nigerian man is emailing me - my family scared me really bad and told me all kinds of things about Nigerians and scammers and all of this scary stuff that they had read online and saw on tv.  My husband had died and my family was overly protective of me and didn't want me to fall in the wrong hands because I was crying all the time and I just wasn't myself mentally or physically.  Also, the long distance thing makes it "sooo much more work"  and I had no energy because of the deep depressions that were hitting me constantly - it was hard enough just to stay awake for 4 hours or 2 hours a day because the depression robs you of the will to live.

But I will tell you what - He NEVER GAVE UP, NEVER.  He continued to email me until I started to respond and THANK GOD he didn't give up on me.  He filled my inbox with emails - we started to chat then online - he taught me how to chat online because I didn't know.  Then he started mailing packages to my home from Nigeria - to my front door.  We talked so much that it was as if he was in the living room with me - we talked as soon as I woke up, on and off throughout the day, everyday  and again right before I went to sleep.

My advice to you is to NOT GIVE UP if this person is still on your mind.  Reach out.  Or move on.  In my situation and in my case/his case - we are still going strong and it is almost one year.  I have begged his forgiveness for being "racist and buying into categorizing him" - I ignore the naysayers now and actually my family CANNOT WAIT to meet him and are looking forward to our marriage as they have never seen me so happy in a very long time.  He has spoken several times with my family on the phone.  He has sent videos and pictures and gifts and money and in return I have done the same with him to Nigeria.

I love him sooo deeply.

NY_WM:

Shy-One, I am very intrigued by your story and your fiance's determination. May I ask what drew him to you? 

Shy-One:

My thought process - the way I process information - my response - how I think and who I am as a person drew him to me.  He let himself be known to me.  He observed me for a while online - how I engage with people, subjects and how I think and respond.  That is what drew him to me.  To him - I stood out from a group.

It's funny, my mom told me tonight that EVEN BY AMERICAN STANDARDS I am very, very different from many Americans and act quite different from my gender as well - from women around me.  I think differently, I act differently - many times in America what I choose would be viewed as quite "odd."

Shy-One. ermm Sweeery, can I marrry you so we can cokapulate?