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Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by Goddyj(m): 10:16am On Feb 24, 2020 |
But seriously, I can't go into any relationship with a single mother, even if she offers me millions as bribe . Those people wahala dey too much, always bitter 4 Likes |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by Omar09(m): 10:17am On Feb 24, 2020 |
Michellekabod2: She will do it more subtly than how she's doing now. |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by mailemy(m): 10:18am On Feb 24, 2020 |
My only question to OP is if you were to have your own child and the child turns out to be stubborn. What would you do? You are talking about a 4year boy...hmm. |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by VillageElder(m): 10:19am On Feb 24, 2020 |
You fit teach me ? I go like learn when i come around then we go reason this matter abeg WilliamsTheGrea: |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by akaahs(m): 10:22am On Feb 24, 2020 |
WilliamsTheGrea:you see..... guy for ur own sanity free that girl. ur happiness matter most 1 Like |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by cassidypat(m): 10:22am On Feb 24, 2020 |
Man lemme tell there are only two thing here 1st you were not aware that she is a single mom and dated her for 7month before she let you into her secret..she was either untrustworthy or undeserving of your kind of love 2nd You can't find peace anywhere bro even the world we living in is not a peaceful one ..so you can simply make peace by telling her to leave or learning how to be a good father ...one thing is constant her you cannot make her choose between you or her son....you would be d looser.. P.s she has already made her decision the rest is your wahala 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by Came4amod: 10:23am On Feb 24, 2020 |
Omar09: If u find it hard to differentiate men and women when writing I don't sorry |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by XhosaNostra(f): 10:23am On Feb 24, 2020 |
Kingrexyl: No.
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Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by XhosaNostra(f): 10:24am On Feb 24, 2020 |
Skepticus: What quest, dumbass? |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by WHITELIGHTER: 10:26am On Feb 24, 2020 |
ubunja: Bitter truth 7 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by Omar09(m): 10:32am On Feb 24, 2020 |
Came4amod: That is not the issue here |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by Nobody: 10:34am On Feb 24, 2020 |
ojuolu:me, I personally hate noise, if I have a son today and he's shouting all over the place, I can scold him to go outside and play but if the child is not mine, the parents will think I'm being resentful and wicked to the child because he is not mine that's why I always scold him. Lastly, he has no business taking care of a child that was formed with the sperm of another man. 3 Likes |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by udemzyudex(m): 10:36am On Feb 24, 2020 |
The kid is only 4 years for God sake, that's how some male child are,they will change as they grow up. The only problem here is the fact that you don't want to raise another man's child and not because he is stubborn. Most male child are very stubborn at that age,if you know you can't cope,I'll advise you sit your woman down and talk to her,let her know your mind ,tell her to take the child back to her mum. Her mum with many years experience of taking care of children is complaining about her grandson being stubborn, what kind of grandma is that? Except she doesn't want her daughter to get married because most guys even though they accept to marry a single mum won't want take care of the child or take full responsibilities. Sit down and talk to your woman,what will be will be. 1 Like |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by KingUg(m): 10:39am On Feb 24, 2020 |
The truth hear is you would never come to love the boy since you see him as another man's child I would advice you to talk to the mum about the child's welfare that you don't want to take responsibility of the child & later in life the biological dad comes claiming the child if she doesn't agree to it from all indications she won't then I suggest you move on with your life bro & for all those claiming you shouldn't throw away gold to later settle down with stones, bro don't listen to all that you may even end up meeting someone way better than her just keep an optimistic mind there are still good ladies out there without kids. My 2 cent 1 Like |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by TwinnyStore(f): 10:41am On Feb 24, 2020 |
Please let her go. Money lenders For salary earners only |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by maasoap(m): 10:41am On Feb 24, 2020 |
Abfinest007: You think it is easy? If he's not psychologically ready for it, that means he's not ready. No one can force what you don't want on you. It wasn't in their agreement initially, now that the boy is in his house, it is up to him to decide what he wants. At least, the father of the boy alive and around, he's living too. Why should his burden become that of another man who is not willing? You're not being fair to him. WilliamsTheGrea I can relate to this. If a kid is not properly and decently raised, it could become a problem for the new parents/guardians. My neighbour's kid is like that, restless, always wandering around the house, couldn't sit for 5 seconds. It was so irritating to the extent that we don't like having him in our house to look after anytime his parents weren't around. A child that you can't tell to sit down! 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by farem: 10:42am On Feb 24, 2020 |
"...Now she has gone to bring the child to our home, a two bedroom apartment, I'm a kind of guy who loves peaceful environment with no single drop of noise, now ever since the child came in about a week now, I have not had peace, we have quarreled several times because of the child, I'm not really comfortable with the child because I can't love another man's child as my own" [color=#990000][/color] From the foregoing especially the bolded, you don't like the lady and we are not sure if you ever want to or are fertile enough to father a child |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by gabicon: 10:44am On Feb 24, 2020 |
WilliamsTheGrea: You need to understand that your fiancée comes as a package deal, she has a son. You are acting like the boy is not in the picture. If you are going to be happily married to the mother you have to love and accept the son, that is the package any deviations from that will spell doom to the relationship. So the question you need to ask yourself is are you willing to become a father to this boy? If your answer is no I suggest you break up with this lady and allow her move on with her life. 1 Like |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by Phraences: 10:44am On Feb 24, 2020 |
I will advise you quit this relationship before the devil enters you and you appear on social media because you dropped the child inside a well. At 26, you can find another girlfriend. It is good you know yourself and recognise you don't want to raise another man's child. Your girlfriend is taking advantage of you because a woman who has her own finances would have moved out of your house and cared for the boy herself. But instead she is forming good girl that doesn't flirt while saddling you with financial responsibilities of the boy. Her true color comes out when you beat the boy. She is just with you because of money. I bet you if she sees a rich man who is willing to love her son, she will drop you like a memory and i won't blame her. And on your part if what you feel for her is true love, you will love her son as well. But your Nigerian/African mentality will not let you be great. What am i trying to say? Both of you are not meant for each other. QUIT THE RELATIONSHIP!!!! 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by BRATISLAVA: 10:45am On Feb 24, 2020 |
kels2010:He says wen he grow, d child will go2 find his fatha. Den he is d fool 2 hv carried d boy baggage. He shd leave anotha man farm 4d man 2 cultivate |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by hussybae: 10:45am On Feb 24, 2020 |
The OP is not saying the truth, the main reason is that the lady gives more attention to the boy than him ,this led to jealous in the part of OP causing hate, the love is already divided. The lady's mum is not helping as well, how can she return the boy when the daughter hasn't settled yet? while the OP is not smart enough to have accepted the child at first, My kindly advise, if u can manage the lady with her baggage (s) tell her to return the boy to her mum and if she refuses let her go. 2 Likes |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by TempleHouse: 10:48am On Feb 24, 2020 |
Don't be "Mumu" William! Asked your woman to keep the boy with your mother in law so you can leave a peaceful life. Do you think the boy will not kill your baby if you have one The troublesome boy will lead you to the early grave and your wife will go back to his sons father thereafter for help. 3 Likes |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by BRATISLAVA: 10:48am On Feb 24, 2020 |
WilliamsTheGrea:U shd live her, bcuz she won't throw d child 4 u. N u will cultivate d farm of anoda man, cuz d boy will go n luk 4 his father. U wud hv wasted resources wen u cn hv ur own son. It's not as easy as u luv d motha. Bcuz d boy isn't urs. N he knows it very well. 2 Likes |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by Miccoli: 10:49am On Feb 24, 2020 |
You said your relationship is one year old and u claimed she told you about the child 7months ago!! Pls, how come only you also said u'v paid the child's school fee 3times now?? A term is 3months with one month break in between; if you've paid his fee for 3times now, means u'v been aware of the child from the early onset of your relationship. There's something this OP is trying to hide about the child. Well, my candid advise would be! Pls, the child is living under your roof now. pls!!! Show the young child some level of love and learn to tolerate the child cos most children are always stubborn in their early child hood, so don't expect him to act like an adult cos the child is trying to explore his world.. Oga!! Ah beg goh buy the boy cake and take him out jare and also do not let this your attitude hurt your girlfriend cos I'm perceiving it's happening already. |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by Uniquekriss(m): 10:49am On Feb 24, 2020 |
if u love the lady and the feeling is mutual, since d boy's father is no where to be found, keep taking care of the child buh ask her to take him to either her relations or anywhere else so long as u promise to cater for him, since u also take care of the lady u should also take care of the child cos he belongs to her buh do not jeopardise your peace and comfort by habouring the child when u arent okay with d idea,(its normal for u to hate what u dont like) my candid opinion is that u shouldnt start up any business for her until u have succeeded in looking for an alternative home for d boy and until u have married her cos she might just change her mind after u have established her with the excuse that she cant do without her son or that she cant love u when u hate her son, i have been in similar shoe before, i broke up with d lady cos she didnt tell me about her 7year old boy until after 1year and 7months even after we were planning marriage 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by BRATISLAVA: 10:51am On Feb 24, 2020 |
LOGOBELT:is a man. He changes gender to comment as a woman. 1 Like |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by ebukabanky(m): 10:52am On Feb 24, 2020 |
Likewise me......this coming from a female shows d depth of how d woman minds works LOGOBELT: |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by decub: 10:54am On Feb 24, 2020 |
Evercurious:Hmm! I'm speechlessly speechless. |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by Tatae900: 10:56am On Feb 24, 2020 |
Most of you saying that he should look the other way and love the child as his own are just the biggest hypocrite's... When someone seeks for advise or opinion...the least you can do is put your self in that persons shoe before giving your advise... 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by UnknownQueen(f): 11:00am On Feb 24, 2020 |
WilliamsTheGrea: No mind am... Its always easy to say but to actualize it iro nla. 2 Likes |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by mDavenzy: 11:04am On Feb 24, 2020 |
Just make yourself close to the boy and if you're finding it difficult to do that you can try taking the child to a boarding school else you're not ready to take the lady for who she is. |
Re: In A Relationship With A Single Mom; Please Advise by BRATISLAVA: 11:06am On Feb 24, 2020 |
Arthur21: Lol. His followers eg. martinez39, are all damaged men who are hurting and have so much hatred and aggression for women. Some are gay. They just use women to have children so that people will think they're players. Nobody takes them serious. Except the gay tosser society. Most are so weak and pained. They don't even do it from a place of security. 1 Like |
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