loshybab:

With all these grammar you wrote up there,it still doesn't change the fact that little piece of mucosal tissue deserves to be kept for the right man and broken at the right time. It remains your pride and dignity,albeit,not the only one. It's even better you have other dignifying things,but pls,don't downplay the God-given one.

No one is stopping women from having sex,it's been ordained. All I'm saying is DONT do so [/s]under some premarital conditions[s] WITHOUT PUTTING ON YOUR LATEX CONDOM. That simple misuse of power is why many of you cried,still crying and will cry foul when the consequences stare at you in the face.

obakovich:

From a mans point of view he won't. Even if he means him killing for his little girl he will. She showed her husband how she will go to the world and beyond to save her son even risk her marriage. [/b]The husband will prove same here to protect his daughter[b] and she admitted it here that her son steals he will also come for the unborn child later too

CeterisXVII:


[s][/s]Look here, you made the RIGHT decision for yourself and your kids. Don't let anybody tell you otherwise.

What if something bad had happened to your son? Will you be able to live with yourself? Does your husband' expect you to throw away your son, into the street or into the market?

Please pull yourself together. Go and report your husband to his family members, his parents or his friends. Tell them the whole story, that you want your daughter back and they should beg him or talk to him.

If he refuses, just wait. When he gets tired in a few weeks or a month, he will bring her back. It is not easy to take care of a toddler. The wahala is plenty.

Make sure you go to his office everyday, to wail in front of the place. Let everyone know what is going on. The shame will be too much on him. If he doesn't listen, then take it that your marriage is over.

Wait for 6 months. Then look for the social welfare office in your area or city, and report him to them that he took your child forcefully away from you.

If you can afford a good lawyer, please go to the Office of Public Defender in Lagos. It is an arm of the court. They will invite him and judge the case. And decide to hand over your child back to you. A minor must always stay with the mother, except if she is deemed to be unfit to look after the child.

Good riddance to his bad rubbish[s][/s].

Winneygirl:


I followed this thread from the beginning.
They had not reached a compromise. She told the man that her son was more important than him. She said he was acting childish.
Then she goes and brings the child to the house, a house they share, without his approval.
No one is asking that she abandons her child. Together, they could have decided where to put the child.
But she confronted the matter like a bull, going head first, and now she is wailing naked at night, trying to place inconsequential curses on him that would not hold water.

OkpaNsukkaisBae:




Common sense fall on you

crackkhaus:

At all available costs...

Also take note:
It's these same women on the thread who preach that no one can come between them and their children that will also turn around to cry blood when their mother-in-law goes the extra length to make sure they don't come between her and the son she birthed in tears, blood, and agony.

oyoolima:


[s][/s]Nobody benefits from separating a child from mother or father.
You end up with a child that is severely traumatized with consequences in relationships in future.
What is fair is an adult discussion,sitting down and splitting custody so the child does not lose out.

Love is not everything..sometimes people inspite of being in love have to make decisions for the greater good and I believe that is why she is crying for her daughter not the man himself.

Many parents whether male or female would make this same decision .

I'm sure he can settle himself somewhere but will he expect another woman to care for and accommodate his daughter from a broken relationship,or will he dump the daughter and start afresh?

Sadly,he has also put himself in the same situation that he is leaving.


Sometimes it is better to be truthful to oneself.

A lot of men/women would love the child of another,another group will not..

It is not a crime to refuse to be with a single mother or father,it is not a crime to be a single mother or father either.It is horrible when they are villified for it,and then end up casting aspersions on innocent children, automatically making children from single parent homes to have low self esteem by default.

We as a society are creating monsters.

We should understand ourselves enough to know when our capacity to give love is limited. It is alright and very acceptable,not many of us can be that magnanimous.

It becomes unfortunate when people tell lies,get into relationships ,then go back on their word and start maltreating the child as evidenced by his behaviour to the 11 year old.

Water should always find it's level and people should not get into relationships that they will be unable to.cope with. Any child, whether your biological one or adopted will take up a lot of attention in their formative years.

If a person cannot manage this,it's best to avoid women or men who already have children.

Parenting is a thankless job that only people who actually have children can understand and that is why comments here strike me as immature .

I actually avoid back and forth discussions so will end it here .

I wish them all the best[s][/s].

OkpaNsukkaisBae:
Common sense fall on you

Oyindidi:
[/s]He displayed his stupidity[s] SHE DISPLAYED HER STUPIDITY

Oyindidi:
He displayed his stupidity

Winneygirl:


I followed this thread from the beginning.
They had not reached a compromise. She told the man that her son was more important than him. She said he was acting childish.
Then she goes and brings the child to the house, a house they share, without his approval.
No one is asking that she abandons her child. Together, they could have decided where to put the child.
But she confronted the matter like a bull, going head first, and now she is wailing naked at night, trying to place inconsequential curses on him that would not hold water.

dominique:




The guys here are gloating because the man ran away with a toddler he most likely can't handle alone. What annoys them here is 1. She's financially independent
2. She can do without him. Most of them are insecure, being needed by a woman is one of the ways their egos can be massaged. That's why the husband took the girl, to have the woman at his mercy, but it's only a matter of time before she gets her daughter back and his game will be over.

These men angry because more and more women are seeing that their happiness is not tied to marriage, that they don't have to bend till they snap into two to please a man, that they are financially independent enough to live without a man. This same men were saying their wives are not their blood relative and will pick their relatives over their wives are suddenly upset that a woman chose her son over her husband. Bunch of jokers.

veykey:
Your talk is just annoying me. Are you sure you're not the husband? The kid he took is theirs. The woman surely made mistakes on her part especially by believing the words of a man but that boy so far as I'm concerned shouldn't be the cause of the issue at hand. The husband is just a selfish and myopic somebody. He hasn't realized that most of the time people who you help are those that take care of you in future. He should take care of that child as if he is the father as he promised and correct the child with love. You're talking about someone changing his or her mind and that is acceptable but not at the expense of a child. The man is actually behaving like a big baby at this point.

Davash222:

Not really.. He responded to the woman's foolishness.
You can't shatter a man's ego and expect him not to react, I told you this earlier before now.
The good news is, there's still room for amendments, if the silly woman can listen to advice of wise men here.

Oyindidi:
where are the wise men?

MrBrownJay1:


your mistake on this issue is to dismiss what this man has already done (aka take care of ONE child that aint his) just because he is not willing any longer to take care of other people's kid. i can fully understand him, especially if after a few years he realized that he should only focus on HIS biological child and no more spending his hard earn money on the children of some "possibly ungrateful self centered" woman. its obvious this man had enough of this woman's nonsense, and was NOT willing to have that problem child in his home, to the point where he decided that it was better/wiser to leave this woman and her drama instead of having that problem child around his family.

what a man says to a single mother before marriage, will ALWAYS change the minute he has children of his own with that woman...his biological children's wellbeing will OFTEN be above that of other people's kids. we are ALL selfish when it comes to the wellbeing of our own biological children.
who are we kidding?!

obakovich:

From a mans point of view he won't. Even if he means him killing for his little girl he will. She showed her husband how she will go to the world and beyond to save her son even risk her marriage. The husband will prove same here to protect his daughter and she admitted it here that her son steals he will also come for the unborn child later too

veykey:
As per she's a baby carrying machine that after nine months and going through the pains of giving birth, he'll then come and carry the child. Kai!!! It's better for a woman to have a miscarriage than that happening. Do you know the agony? No you don't because you're a man and you think everything is by muscle and force.

veykey:
As per she's a baby carrying machine that after nine months and going through the pains of giving birth, he'll then come and carry the child. Kai!!! It's better for a woman to have a miscarriage than that happening. Do you know the agony? No you don't because you're a man and you think everything is by muscle and force.

veykey:
It's a pity then. My prayer is for the boy to succeed despite all odds.

veykey:
As per she's a baby carrying machine that after nine months and going through the pains of giving birth, he'll then come and carry the child. Kai!!! It's better for a woman to have a miscarriage than that happening. Do you know the agony? No you don't because you're a man and you think everything is by muscle and force.

Afromentalist:

I now understand those who say single moms should be avoided at all costs. The husband will never have priority over the child from the other relationship.

I though it was a joke, but we can now see it live and direct. Thank you Ishilove

crackkhaus:

At all available costs...

Also take note:
It's these same women on the thread who preach that no one can come between them and their children that will also turn around to cry blood when their mother-in-law goes the extra length to make sure they don't come between her and the son she birthed in tears, blood, and agony.

Chai crackkhaus, you just had to break this table.

Guess they were right when they said women are not logical beings.

searchng4love:

Long time

dominique:


Can you listen to yourself? Together they can decide where to put the child as if he's an inanimate object. So while they're deciding where to "put the boy", Where do you suggest he stay since his current host says he's no longer welcome? Your house? My house? Under the bridge? Oh! I forgot, the feelings and welfare of a 12-year-old are not important in this case, only the feelings of an unstable man that we should care about here.

The guys here are gloating because the man ran away with a toddler he most likely can't handle alone. What annoys them here is 1. She's financially independent 2. She can do without him. Most of them are insecure, being needed by a woman is one of the ways their egos can be massaged. That's why the husband took the girl, to have the woman at his mercy, but it's only a matter of time before she gets her daughter back and his game will be over.

These men angry because more and more women are seeing that their happiness is not tied to marriage, that they don't have to bend till they snap into two to please a man, that they are financially independent enough to live without a man. This same men were saying their wives are not their blood relative and will pick their relatives over their wives are suddenly upset that a woman chose her son over her husband. Bunch of jokers.

obakovich:

Not like that vicky. She had all the opportunity to make this work,now bruised ego is at work. She came online and told the world she foots the bills and he will prove her wrong by going all out to hurt her

Emaprince:
Mehn, but this woman's life is destroyed Like this sha...

As in..... Two marriages broken

Two husbands ran away from you

4 kids no father near.


Wow.... Seems she actually have a hot temper going by how she handled the issue...and with the way she heeded to the advice these bitter women on NL was giving her. These women will eat AMD swallow every bullshit from their own husbands to keep their marriage, but will come here to advice another to break hers.

Women are their own worst enemies.

Now look at where it landed you. 4 kids no father. The worst is their fathers ran away from you.

What does that tell about you now.

Emaprince:
Mehn, but this woman's life is destroyed Like this sha...

As in..... Two marriages broken

Two husbands ran away from you

4 kids no father near.


Wow.... Seems she actually have a hot temper going by how she handled the issue...and with the way she heeded to the advice these bitter women on NL was giving her. These women will eat AMD swallow every bullshit from their own husbands to keep their marriage, but will come here to advice another to break hers.

Women are their own worst enemies.

Now look at where it landed you. 4 kids no father. The worst is their fathers ran away from you.

What does that tell about you now.

dominique:


These men angry because more and more women are seeing that their happiness is not tied to marriage, that they don't have to bend till they snap into two to please a man, that they are financially independent enough to live without a man. This same men were saying their wives are not their blood relative and will pick their relatives over their wives are suddenly upset that a woman chose her son over her husband. Bunch of jokers.

LOL.
BUT YOU'RE A SWEET (HAPPILY) MARRIED WOMAN. HAHAHA