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Re: No Man Should Be Encouraged To Marry A Single Mother: A Response To Vyvyanvyvy by PrimadonnaO(f): 2:58pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
KingSatan: Nope. You were talking about her husband loving the boy unconditionally. That was what I responded to. |
Re: No Man Should Be Encouraged To Marry A Single Mother: A Response To Vyvyanvyvy by KingSatan: 2:59pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
PrimadonnaO: That was a mistake. My Apologies |
Re: No Man Should Be Encouraged To Marry A Single Mother: A Response To Vyvyanvyvy by Ehiscotch(m): 2:59pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
Right now. I don't think we have parents on nairaland. All they probably are still immature, really. Or is it too many movies or what? A child stole at 12 and somebody is asking what he stole, really and is even calling him a thief. See ehn, it's taking me a lot of willpower not to use derogatory words but for the life of me I can't stand the shallow reasoning. The man really has to reach a compromise. The child doesn't deserve to be abandoned. If the child fails to change after some sort of strict conditioning then you can say you tried. Failing to try at all means you failed all together. 24 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: No Man Should Be Encouraged To Marry A Single Mother: A Response To Vyvyanvyvy by PrimadonnaO(f): 3:00pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
KingSatan: Perhaps, she needs to clarify this. How did he take them as his own when he won't let his stepson live with him... knowing full well that the boy is in dire need of his mother. |
Re: No Man Should Be Encouraged To Marry A Single Mother: A Response To Vyvyanvyvy by JONNYSPUTE(m): 3:02pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
crackkhaus:....You ve said it all. 3 Likes |
Re: No Man Should Be Encouraged To Marry A Single Mother: A Response To Vyvyanvyvy by LilMissFavvy(f): 3:03pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
Why are you deliberating on the woman's financial status? I. Never said it is wrong for her to foot 70bills, that's her business. I had mentioned her financial stand, to remind you that she has the money, therefore the husband should accept the boy, since she can foot the child's bills. Yes, she said the child is now different, he now steals. What made the child cultivate this bad habit? She said he was starved.....etc. Why is the husband so inconsiderate? I wonder what he would have turned to if he wasn't a poor broke husband. The lady should be careful. KingSatan: 1 Like |
Re: No Man Should Be Encouraged To Marry A Single Mother: A Response To Vyvyanvyvy by SweetCunt97(f): 3:03pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
Yea I know of a relative who had kinda issue.. She had the boy when she was 16,then got married but had 5 girls no boy. The issue now is, the joy has turned into a criminal, joined bad gang, everyone has lost hope in him unfortunately. Having a child out of wedlock shouldn't be a condemnation though |
Re: No Man Should Be Encouraged To Marry A Single Mother: A Response To Vyvyanvyvy by KingSatan: 3:03pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
PrimadonnaO: I believe the man loves this boy. But he is scared. He is scared of the future of their other kids. |
Re: No Man Should Be Encouraged To Marry A Single Mother: A Response To Vyvyanvyvy by SweetCunt97(f): 3:06pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
Ehiscotch:or they send him to boarding school.. It's really a very simple something |
Re: No Man Should Be Encouraged To Marry A Single Mother: A Response To Vyvyanvyvy by SweetCunt97(f): 3:06pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
KingSatan:He doesn't know the boy so there's no love there. What about sending him to boarding school? |
Re: No Man Should Be Encouraged To Marry A Single Mother: A Response To Vyvyanvyvy by xendra: 3:07pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
Oche211:unmarried single mother and unmarried baby mamas na Married one you for collect before?? how dumb |
Re: No Man Should Be Encouraged To Marry A Single Mother: A Response To Vyvyanvyvy by KingSatan: 3:07pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
LilMissFavvy: My Dear, why not see it my way for ones? Because she makes more money should not be a yardstick for such a critical decision. Remember this is a very delicate issue? What if the boy comes into the house and corrupts the other children? Why call him a poor and broke man? He contributes %30 for crying out loud. This man didn't reject the boy from the onset. This man didn't reject the boy because he isn't the biological father? This man has a perfect relationship with the girl child. 3 Likes |
Re: No Man Should Be Encouraged To Marry A Single Mother: A Response To Vyvyanvyvy by KingSatan: 3:08pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
SweetCunt97: This is such a sad story. I pray he is salvaged |
Re: No Man Should Be Encouraged To Marry A Single Mother: A Response To Vyvyanvyvy by KingSatan: 3:09pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
SweetCunt97: They both lived together and had a good relationship. The woman confirmed it here I had 2 children. When I got married, my husband had none and accepted them like his own children. |
Re: No Man Should Be Encouraged To Marry A Single Mother: A Response To Vyvyanvyvy by SweetCunt97(f): 3:11pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
KingSatan:Hmmmmm, the man changed the agreement. But from what d woman is saying, the man is not even doing his doing as the man. 1 Like |
Re: No Man Should Be Encouraged To Marry A Single Mother: A Response To Vyvyanvyvy by Ehiscotch(m): 3:11pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
I think what the OP is advising is that a " pilfering" child should be cast out because his "pilfering" could rub off on the other properly trained children. What Logic. PS: except the child is yours biologically. 3 Likes |
Re: No Man Should Be Encouraged To Marry A Single Mother: A Response To Vyvyanvyvy by eyinjuege: 3:12pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
You people should have the fear of God in you all. We are talking about a 12 year old boy who has been separated from his parents and is about to be rendered homeless. You say you dont want to know what he stole, whether its food or money for food if he's being starved where he is, but he is a thief that shouldn't be allowed to live in his step father's home. It shouldn't be his step dad's problem abi, yet you people will continue to sleep in church and mosque claiming to be believers. Disgusting. How can you be so callous towards a 12 year old child? Why should this even be a debate? I wish social services in Nigeria will take their jobs seriously. We all have a responsibility to protect Nigerian children whether they are strangers, your step children or whatever. Such a shame. His father failed him, his mother failed him, his step father failed him and most people on NL also failed him. 22 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: No Man Should Be Encouraged To Marry A Single Mother: A Response To Vyvyanvyvy by SweetCunt97(f): 3:12pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
KingSatan:I seriously doubt. He's in too deep. Someone that had the audacity to steal 1000$ from an aunt that came visiting from d us |
Re: No Man Should Be Encouraged To Marry A Single Mother: A Response To Vyvyanvyvy by KingSatan: 3:13pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
SweetCunt97: He is trying. He contributes %30. We should not condemn him for his financial status. It could be the woman. What if he is the one trying to bring in his love child who steals? Will the woman allow that? |
Re: No Man Should Be Encouraged To Marry A Single Mother: A Response To Vyvyanvyvy by eyinjuege: 3:16pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
Ehiscotch: Honestly, most Nigerians have wickedness entrenched in our hearts. There is no way we can explain this, other than wickedness. You see why the country cannot move forward, when we cannot stand for justice and say no to what is unfair? You see why our leaders never give us justice, when they were chosen from amongst us, who don't believe in doing the right thing? 6 Likes |
Re: No Man Should Be Encouraged To Marry A Single Mother: A Response To Vyvyanvyvy by KingSatan: 3:16pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
Ehiscotch: Speak for yourself. If he is allowed to come into the house without a second thought and he rapes his sister or steals from the house, what will you say? What if this boy refuses to change? What if he is the one trying to bring in his love child who steals? Will the woman allow that? Do you think bringing it to Nairaland was the best step to take? A man is saying "I am Scared", the woman is running to the internet and you are running your mouth on my mentions. |
Re: No Man Should Be Encouraged To Marry A Single Mother: A Response To Vyvyanvyvy by SweetCunt97(f): 3:17pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
KingSatan:Well, it's better for the man to contribute more. Yea I doubt she'd agree but there's a way around all these e.g Boarding school |
Re: No Man Should Be Encouraged To Marry A Single Mother: A Response To Vyvyanvyvy by Ehiscotch(m): 3:17pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
Woman marries a man with two kids from a former union. Woman refuses to accept older child because of his bad influence. Man provides for the home — at least 70%. Reaction. "The man should pursue that wicked woman away. she is coming between him and his children." "The boy was not stealing until the woman came. I don't believe the woman, she is wicked". " The woman has come to destroy the peace in the home" " Stepmothers are the worst — always setting preferences and causing division in homes". 14 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: No Man Should Be Encouraged To Marry A Single Mother: A Response To Vyvyanvyvy by SweetCunt97(f): 3:18pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
eyinjuege:Do we have social services in Nigeria |
Re: No Man Should Be Encouraged To Marry A Single Mother: A Response To Vyvyanvyvy by KingSatan: 3:19pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
SweetCunt97: I WILL GIVE YOU A MEDAL! The man should be encouraged to do more. %30 is not enough. Boarding school is also another option to explore. Secondly, the woman should engage her husband in a heart to heart. She can say something like, "I will personally monitor him and work on him till he changes". Please give him a chance. This man loves the boy but he is scared. IF you have raised kids you will understand. One negative influence and the child is gone |
Re: No Man Should Be Encouraged To Marry A Single Mother: A Response To Vyvyanvyvy by eyinjuege: 3:22pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
KingSatan: Women have been living with step children since time immemorial, and we all stand to condemn them when they maltreat their wards. Infact, many of you would advice the woman to accept wholeheartedly a child born when her husband cheats (which isn't t even the case here, as the boy in question was even born before the husband ever met his wife) I'm sure you support the Saints GEJ or PMB, who you won't label as thieves ( depending on your affiliation), yet you have labelled a 12 year old boy a thief. Same way you would probably label a 13 year old girl child sleeping with her father's mate as a prostitute, regardless if she was raped or coerced into it. You people should have the fear of God o. Can you say you never took money out of your mother's purse to buy sweet or any nonsense snacks when you were around that age? 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: No Man Should Be Encouraged To Marry A Single Mother: A Response To Vyvyanvyvy by Ehiscotch(m): 3:23pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
KingSatan: Sorry if you took it the wrong way but that is primarily what you are driving at, especially when you keep on hinging your argument on the fact that the boy has been rejected and is a thief. I don't know why you are choosing to focus on the negative character of a young boy who has been abandoned by his father and now he is being tossed around and unwanted. I have seen something similar which is why I want to overlook his negative character. Besides, for you to conceive the thought that the boy can be capable of rape man, I rest my case. There is no remission for you on this, lai lai. 4 Likes |
Re: No Man Should Be Encouraged To Marry A Single Mother: A Response To Vyvyanvyvy by Oche211(m): 3:31pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
xendra:Lolz.... Relax old lady, I am not responsible for your frustrations... Channel it somewhere else. Ladies like you walk around with so much bitterness, anger and resentments. Quick word of advice, no man wants an old serpent in his house. Be guided. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: No Man Should Be Encouraged To Marry A Single Mother: A Response To Vyvyanvyvy by KingSatan: 3:33pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
eyinjuege: I am not your agemate Mr. My Thought level is quite different from yours and that is "perception". For your information, i am not condemning the boy in totality or saying the boy should be cast away just as his mum's immediate relatives have done. This man loved and loves this boy wholeheartedly. He is only Afraid since the boy have cultivated bad habits. There are better ways to handle this situation. The woman hasn't done enough and she ran to Nairaland. Next thing she revealed his financial status. Do you think it is proper? See this woman for who she is. The other Child born out of her previous marriage is still living with the man and has a perfect relationship with him. Think about that. 1 Like |
Re: No Man Should Be Encouraged To Marry A Single Mother: A Response To Vyvyanvyvy by SweetCunt97(f): 3:48pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
KingSatan:Lol. I've not raised any kids but looking forward to doing so soon. |
Re: No Man Should Be Encouraged To Marry A Single Mother: A Response To Vyvyanvyvy by KingSatan: 3:50pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
SweetCunt97: May Your Heart Desires Be Granted. Raising children is another journey entirely. Even when you think they are all grown, you still can't get your eyes off them. |
Re: No Man Should Be Encouraged To Marry A Single Mother: A Response To Vyvyanvyvy by Omar09(m): 3:51pm On Mar 13, 2020 |
KingSatan: There... I made it perfect. Good points tho. Where the hell is CAPSLOCKED? IS HE BANNED AGAIN? |
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