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Glamzwizard:
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We have extensively talked about the basics. With just the basics you are half way home.

So lets continue, shall we...

Personality

Having goodlooks, money or social status does not mean that you will never get heartbreak or some ladies wont ignore you or plah hard to get. This is where the nitty gitty is. Personality. After making a good first impression you need Personality
The more money/looks/success you have, the less attractive behavior you need. The less money/looks/success you have, the more attractive behavior you need.

Again, this kind of comes back to the concept of “game.” The idea of game is the idea that you can pick up any girl simply by your behavior, not by using social connections, wealth or good looks.
So if you’re short, or older, or not that good-looking, you can still theoretically attract any woman you want, it’s just going to take more attractive behavior.

Another way to think of this is that age, money and looks are universal demographics, and therefore lacking in any one of them is apt to cause extra friction everywhere.

But just because there’s friction, or just because there are less Receptive women is no excuse for not having success in the long run.
The vast majority of men who get hung up on looks and money get hung up on them because they’re using it as an excuse. It’s absolutely not a valid excuse. A guy who is good-looking or rich still has to work for his results, he just doesn’t have to work as hard as the next guy.


Being goodlooking and being rich is worth nothing if you don’t do something with it. You can be the richest guy in the world, but if you behave like a timid, negative and weak chump, then women will still be repelled.

And as we’ll discuss in the next chapter, anyone can be handsome and appear high-status if they put enough effort into it.So no excuses. And of course, status is ultimately determined by demographics.

A 23 year old bad boy who parties alot is going to have high status at a club and low status at a business-networking event .
A successful stock trader who wears expensive suits is going to have high status at his firm and little status at a festival or club.

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Lets continue shall we.

Your Mindsets are very important

Once you start building up a set of traits and changing your life to one of a ladies man you will also have the same success they have.

The mindset is the core of all. The reason is that the way that you believe yourself to be is reflected in a non-verbal way threw your body without you even noticing. So ifyou think you are shy or unattractive that's how you will show off.

Wonder How?

You would bury your hands inside your pocket, do stiff body movements due to all the tension you have accumulated, look down all the time, avoid direct eye contact with others, when you speak it's in a low tone of voice nearly unhearable etc... You will act boring, dress boring, use boring and predictable lines with women, talk about boring things, and as a result women are turned off.
Most guys also are nervous and fearful around women.

They’re scared of approaching, talking to, connecting to, and dealing with women. Scared of rejection, being laughed at, or just fearful in general. And guess what? Women can spot a nervous guy a mile away. He telegraphs fear in everything he does, and then women are forced to reject him. He talks too fast, uses nervous movements when he talks, and he looks scared.

Whatever happens on the outside is a reflection of what happens in the inside. If you see yourself as confident you will act confident, you won't to be scared of approaching, talking to or connecting with women.

When you are shy or have low self esteem. Others will easily get this message subconsciously, and very probably many will take advantage from you and treat you like sh*t.
So by improving the way you view yourself you will automatically better your life because others will see you differently. You will also start doing things which previously you wouldn't and little by little attract more girls into your life. You will go out and start having more fun, you stop noticing less tension in your body, you have stronger opinions, you feel like meeting more people and so on...

Eventually you will believe that you are the prize and not the other way around. In the end it will be much more than meeting women. It will be about changing your whole life.

Making Excuses...
“ -Oh women don't like me because I'm too fat!”
“ -Oh women don't like me because I'm not rich!”
“ -Oh women don't like me because I'm too nerdy!”
and it's a never ending list of bulls**t.

How in the world can you ever know what others actually think about you. Really stop and think for a moment... You can't it's impossible. This are just assumptions that you personally made about yourself or some one else made them for you. Although sure you can't expect if you are treating yourself like crap to have a high quality women. NO! But you can once you start improving yourself.

Like I said before no matter how you look you will always have women feeling attracted to you, for the simple pure fact that you are a man. This is part of nature, men naturally attract women and women naturally attract men.
So why overcomplicate something which happens naturally? I really want you to integrate this thought in your day to day life.

The Way to attraction

YOU CANNOT DO Little THINGS TO BECOME AN ALPHA MALE.

This might be the biggest shocker to some of you but here it goes.
The term “alpha male” is one of the most watered down overused terms in the self-improvement community.
You see countless sources on the Internet giving advice on “how to become an alpha male” and how you should become an alpha male because girls are attracted to alpha males.

The most common advice you see revolves around the idea that “becoming an alpha male is easy… all you have to do is not give a Bleep and do what you want to do.”

Here’s the truth:
You cannot decide one day to become an alpha male.
Status as a legitimate “alpha male” comes from years of conditioning as a guy of universal respect. It’s the result of years of being the top dog (or amongst the top dogs) in nearly every social situation you are involved in.

In other words, an alpha male is a proven winner in the business of people. All of those things that add value (looks, money, status, personality); an alpha male brings more of those things (not necessarily all of them) to the table than other guys. That’s why he is so highly valued and given more respect.

YOU DON’T GET GOOD WITH GIRLS BY TRYING TO GET GOOD WITH GIRLS…

You get good (better) with girls by getting better at yourself aka improving your brand’s value .
The more valuable you become, the more attractive you will be to women. The more attractive you are, the more CONFIDENT you will be. And the more confident you are, the more ENTITLED you will feel (as opposed to faking entitlement).

Most dating companies and pick-up coaches just don’t get this. Part of this is their fault (for perpetuating the PUA scam), part of is the result of them just not knowing any better.

Here’s the reality… I have never met anyone in my entire life who has legitimately gotten good with women (to the point of having whatever kind of dating life they want) by dedicating a significant amount of time to going out during the day/night to hit on chicks. Neither has anyone else in my circle.

Any time I have seen someone completely turn their dating life around, they all had one thing in common-
They significantly improved their personal brand and became better men.

This brings us to our next point.

BECOMING THE REAL DEAL IS A FAR BETTER GAME PLAN THAN FAKING IT TILL’ YOU MAKE IT.

Let’s be honest here… you can’t fake confidence and self-esteem. Positive affirmations can only take you so far.
You can tell yourself “I’m the shit” or better yet “I don’t give a Bleep. I’m an alpha male and I do what I want” all you want but… if it’s not you, then it’s not you.

If you repeatedly try to tell yourself you are something that you are not, you might be able to briefly fool others. You might even be able to briefly fool yourself. But in the end a lie is a lie. You can’t hide from the truth.

Positive affirmations only have meaning when they are true (or are at least on the way to becoming true).

Again, if you want an example, look no further than the traditional PUA community. PUA coaches and “experts” thrive on selling inexperienced guys hope that you don’t have to become the real deal, you can learn this magical thing called GAME to overcome society’s definitive value system (looks, money, status) and essentially fake it till you make it.

The truth is you can’t. Nothing will ever replace real value. This goes for a lot of things (especially business).
So make it easy on yourself. Don’t try to lie to the world and fake it till’ you make it. Do everything you can to become the real deal… you’ll thank yourself in the long run.

Next is the The 4 iron rules

Dpsychologist:
For those with beards. Keep it trimmed and clean ladies love it, you look mature even if you are very young.

If your beards don't come out well, or are coming out very small make sure you remove them its better for you to be without beards.

Boss I have exactly this kind of beard and face,but I have a problem,I talk too low...and it is really affecting the way I interact with women,in order to hide it,I normally stay quiet and alone many a time,and people always think I am the proud type,whearas deep inside me I am wishing I can defeat my inner demon.

Op, you are doing well.keep it coming following bumper to bumper

Mandela27:
Boss I have exactly this kind of beard and face,but I have a problem,I talk too low...and it is really affecting the way I interact with women,in order to hide it,I normally stay quiet and alone many a time,and people always think I am the proud type,whearas deep inside me I am wishing I can defeat my inner demon.

What do you mean by you talk too low?

Dpsychologist:

What do you mean by you talk too low?

Like when I speak,I'm almost not audible..kind of lack of confidence.

Mandela27:
Like when I speak,I'm almost not audible..kind of lack of confidence.

That requires a little training.

1. Exercise tends to increase your testosterone and thickens your muscle there by making your vocal cords thicker leading to deeper voice.
2. Shout: The fastest way to handle your inaudibility is to shout. Use this time to practice shouting that way you are training your brain to adjust.
3. Present in front of people: Your lack of confidence may be due to agoraphobia or fear of standing in front of people. Try as much as possible to socialize and try to stand in front of people and talk. You will be forced to speak louder.

As for your Confidence. Bro you need to understand you are a man, and fear of the unknown shouldn't be what you are afraid of.
I believe no human is born a nonentity but with a propensity for prosperity. There is one thing you are good at. It could be that you are good at playing football, a very intelligent person, you are a good singer, dancer, or anything. Use that as your confidence booster.

Please do not be afraid of talking to women. You are a man, be assertive, speak louder and look them in the eye.

You need to realise that in life you have to be assertive. In the world we live in if you remain quiet you will be seen as a sissy or a weak man. People will use that to take advantage of you, women will rubbish you because they know they can get away with it.

As a man you need to send your boundaries by speaking up, we are all humans there is nothing to be afraid of.

Hope this helps

Quick Dose

The key is to
1) recognize your personal interests and strengths
and
2) build upon those personal interests and strengths to quickly attract women in your preferred demographic.

The 4 iron laws loading

Law 1: Master people before you master women

The typical guy who studies pick-up on Internet forums is not good with people. In many cases, a lot of them have severe anxiety issues. They are very much SOCIALLY UNCOORDINATED.

In addition, they also fall into the new-school mindset of instant gratification and the “I want it now” game plan. This problem never occurs to them or they just don’t want to acknowledge it.

They just want to get good with girls as fast as possible, without establishing that necessary foundation of being good with people in general. I’ll tell you this and hopefully it will save you a lot of time and get rid of any confusion you may have.

You cannot become good with women without first becoming good with people in general, that’s means having the ability to have normal conversations with both guys and girls. It also means having a cool personality that people want to be in the company of.

There is no such thing as skimming on this important foundation of being generally good with people… being a people person. If you don’t have a lot of money or aren’t famous, then you cannot ignore the importance of establishing this foundation. If you want to get good with women, you have to become a people person.

A people person is someone who can easily relate to people and establish a solid connection with ease. That word “connection” is very important… it’s what chicks talk about all the time. They go on a date, they either “feel a connection” or they don’t. Well, how do you get good at establishing a solid man to woman connection? You first have to become naturally good at establishing a solid person to person connection.

The general level of social coordination (people skills) amongst young men today is very watered down compared to young men in the 1970s and 1980s.

The Internet, television, social media, video games, online pornography… all of these have had an overall negative effect on guys’ ability to relate with other people.

Today, it has gotten to the point where you can never leave the house and still have all the entertainment you could ever need. Back in the day it wasn’t like that, you had to get out of the house and spend time with people if you wanted to have fun.

It’s very important especially for you newer guys to realize this. It is impossible to truly become good with women without having that foundation of being good with all people in general. It just does not work like that.

How to get good with people
Well, the one thing I can assure you is that it will be a process. You won’t become good with people over night or over the course of a weekend.

The ideal situation is what I experienced. I was raised and encouraged to always be around people and be friendly/outgoing toward them. That’s what you have to do. You have to learn to become friendly and outgoing toward people.

You have to put the evolutionary pressure on yourself and condition yourself to recognize the good in people and learn to truly love being in the company of other people. Do everything you can to get out of the house and spend as little time in front of a computer/on the Internet as you can.

Law 2: A strong masculine man is (and always will be) the GOLDEN STANDARD

This is 100 % true and you need to realize this. By nature, women are programmed to be feminine and submissive. Men are programmed to be masculine and dominant. End of story.

The problem is that the quality of the average dude has gone down significantly over the past 50 years. The truly strong masculine man, in general, is a dying breed. Men are becoming more feminine.

Let me give you an example of an average 30 year old in the past versus the present.

30 Year-Old Dude Today : It is a very real possibility that he still relies on his parents for help. *** There are some legitimate exceptions where he might feel obligated to remain at home to take care of a family member.

There’s a very real chance he still lives at home. He tells himself that he’s just living at home to save money but he knows deep down that he prefers the comforts of home because there is a certain security in knowing that mommy and daddy are around. He’s got no backbone and even less work ethic. He has little to no knowledge on how to use tools. He can’t cook. He does not know to dress well .

He doesn’t take care of himself, has soft facial features, and has a soft, almost girly voice. He doesn’t have extensive knowledge on the basic stuff a real man should know. He browses Internet forums and thinks that he gains knowledge from this but in reality he is a master of nothing. What he knows is video games, Internet porn, television/movies, and Facebook. He is still very much a kid. He might work a job and be able to support himself but he’s not experiencing the world for himself. He is soft. He has yet to truly leave the nest and survive on his own. He is not strong. He is not masculine.

My point in that little comparison is that masculinity and strength are dying qualities in men today. This is problematic from a dating perspective because these are the 2 most important qualities for a man:

MASCULINITY & STRENGTH
These are the 2 most important features to keep in mind. Women are most attracted to strength and masculinity. What do women want? Well, from a materialistic standpoint, that’s easy… they want more of everything. But as far as traits in a man, they want a man who is strong and masculine.

You can study every PUA forum, theory on game, and pickup tactic out there… it won’t make a difference.
If STRENGTH AND MASCULINITY do not stand out in your vibe, then you are at a disadvantage.

My way of doing things is simple. The only way to do things is the right way. That means doing things 100 %. Strength and masculinity are the 2 most attractive qualities in a man. So, if you are trying to get better results with women, wouldn’t you want to maximize them? Plain old common sense.

You want to give yourself the best chance to win at this game? The way you do this is by constantly improving yourself and moving toward strength and masculinity. That’s what women respond to. For the average, non-celebrity guy, the stronger and more masculine you are, the more attractive you are to women. That’s the golden standard.

How to Become Stronger/More Masculine
This is also a matter of placing self-imposed evolutionary pressure upon yourself. This is dictated by the activities you participate in and your habits. Here are some that come to mind from my own experience… a “Do” list and an “Avoid” list.

Do: Lift weights , take cold showers, listen to heavy metal/rock/rap, get manual labor experience, learn how to use tools, learn , take full responsibility for every aspect of your life, eat steak/eggs and other manly foods, dress like a man, have other cool friends that you can relate to, get out of the house, regard women as just another part of life, keep it simple, identify problems and solve them.

Avoid: Isolation from people, a sedentary lifestyle, Internet pornography, girlie techno/pop music, unnecessary video games, hours watching television, loser friends, eating kid foods such as cereal and macaroni, staying under mommy and daddy’s wing past the appropriate age, dressing feminine, wasting time on social media, making women your #1 priority, seeing problems and then trying to rely upon theory/extreme logic to solve them.

Law 3: Getting Girls is a BUSINESS

It’s that simple. Getting girls is a business. The question is what do you bring to the table? Seriously, what do you bring to the table that will make a hot chick give you the time of day? A beautiful girl has A LOT OF OPTIONS. Why should you be #1?
It’s important to be aware of this question because this will force you to be honest with yourself. Recognize your strengths. Highlight those. Recognize your weaknesses. Work on those.
You should always strive to be the best person you can be.
In all aspects of life, give 100% and do your best. That’s what will help you out a lot in your path to happiness. And that is what will help you reach your full potential in your dating life.
I won’t get too much into detail here but just hear me out. If you have the experience and/or pay attention to how people interact you will realize that women care about these things:

1. Looks

2. Personality

3. Financial Situation

4. Status (or perceived status)

These aren’t in any particular order. But those are the Big 4 in my experience.

You could do whatever you want with your dating life. Conversely, if you are severely lacking in all 4 of those areas then for the most part, you are going to have a very difficult time getting the girls you want (or any girls for that matter).

Your looks —your grooming, body posture, body shape how you dress— are an important factor on the mating market, and so is your access to financial resources or popularity.
They all greatly affect how much success with women you have. Or have you ever heard of a famous Hollywood actor such as brad pitt having problems with ladies. Infact after Angelina jolie broke up with brad pitt, he started getting laid with a lot of ladies.

However, even if you were the richest man in the world, you could still not get any woman you desired. It essentially remains a numbers’ game, even for womanizers such as Tiger Woods or Michael Jordan .



Quick Dose:
Once you improve your looks, you are half way home. A
Quick Dose

Your outlook should be so good enough she will want to know about your inlook.

In many cases, many guys make the mistake of spending very little time addressing those 4 areas listed above. As a result, when they approach chicks, they’re really not bringing anything to the table.

They don’t look good. They don’t wear cool clothes, dressing like an uncle and your just 23years. As a result, they have a lack of perceived status. And they pretty much just spam approach chicks copying what they saw on YouTube. As a result, they give off a creepy vibe and girls perceive them as weird. So when it’s all said in done, they bring nothing to the table and are just another weird scrub. And this is proven by their lack of results with women.If you are this type of dude, then my advice to you would be to take a step back and truly asses where you are in those 4 key areas that I mentioned. If you are not satisfied with your dating life then I’m sure it’s because you simply are not maximizing your potential in one of those areas.

Example: If you are a 5’4” guy with little muscle mass who doesn’t dress well and goes out by himself spam approaching chicks doing the creepy stuff you saw some PUA doing on YouTube…. Girls will not respond well to this. Most girls will think you are weird and will want nothing to do with you because you bring nothing to the table. If you go out enough, there might be some extreme outlier that responds positively… but again, that’s an outlier.

You don’t want to base your game plan off of the hope of running into the outlier case. That’s another trap that pick-up students fall into. They see some guy or hear a story of some guy who’s got nothing going for him in life and is always tagging hot chicks. Yea that’s him… that’s not you. He found out what works for him. Instead of trying to skim and aspiring to be that one outlier case, you would be much better off just maximizing all of the stuff that attracts women… bring as much to the table as possible.


How to Improve Your Brand
If you look at getting girls as a business, then the way you improve you dating life is by improving your business and the brand that you offer. But that goes for life in general. That’s why self-improvement is so important. You should always be working on yourself for you. Improving every aspect of life for your own happiness. An extra incentive would be the fact that you are making yourself more attractive to women.

Improve your looks by going to the gym, eating right, and getting good sleep. Improve your personality by surrounding yourself with friends and family. Just always do your best to be in the company of other people and avoid isolation/confinement in your house.

Work on your career and get your money right. Status (or perceived status) comes naturally by working on those first 3 things. No girl really knows what your status is in society. But if you build yourself up to eventually being jacked, handsome, well-dressed, and someone who people like to be around… You will be perceived as someone who is strong and masculine, which is highly valued amongst women.

4. Its about how you make her feel

There’s a lot of advice on attracting women out there. And what most of it misses is that attraction, seduction, intimacy, sex, whatever you want to call it — is an emotional process, not a physical or social one. You can say the “wrong” things and still attract a woman.

You can say all of the “right” things and repel her. What matters is the intention, the motivation, the authenticity. To improve your dating life, you must improve your emotional life — how you feel about yourself and others, how you express yourself to others, etc.

It’s not about learning lines or routines or dressing up a certain way such as peacocking. It’s about unmasking the unique and attractive man within yourself and joyfully expressing it to the women of the world.
That may sound vague, but it has very real repercussions on your interactions with women.

People choose who they’re going to be with based on how they feel around that person. For us men, it’s often quite simple. A beautiful woman makes us feel aroused, so we pursue sex with her. If we feel cared for, respected and admired by her, we pursue a relationship with her.

But women experience sexuality differently than we do, so it can be a bit more complicated and hard for us to decipher what makes them feel attracted to us. But the principle remains the same.

Women go with men who make them feel a certain way. There are a number of ways to elicit emotion in a woman, and the way in which you go about eliciting that emotion will determine the quality and quantity (or lack thereof) of the relationships you have with women.

What’s I’m saying is this: you’ll find a lot of varying advice out there on how to attract women — some will say to tease them, some will say to be selfish, be crude around them, some will say to buy them gifts, others will say to be cold and calculating — whichever of these avenues you choose to pursue with women, that is the corresponding relationship you’ll create.

Dpsychologist respect to you bro I really enjoyed your lecture. You really enlightened me. Especially the part you talked about looks(how to dress ) personality, financial situation, and status. Thanks bro

dotunibrahim7:
Dpsychologist respect to you bro I really enjoyed your lecture. You really enlightened me. Especially the part you talked about looks(how to dress ) personality, financial situation, and status. Thanks bro

You are welcome

Dpsychologist:
The badguy does not respond. The lady posted on her status that guys are such pigs and only want one thing and there are no good guys left and that at least she is following her heart.
The Gentleman decided to go see the “Lady” since she has been ignoring him and he thought a surprise would be nice upon arrival, he had noise so he looked through the window and saw the bad guy having sex with her (the Gent had a date with her last week and she was telling him she does not want to move to fast).
He was so shocked with what he saw, here he is with a gift for her and she is having sex with another dude, all he could do was walk away drive home thinking to himself what the f*ck went wrong all I did is treat her like a lady.
When he reached home, feeling frustrated and having no appetite or strength to masturbate he went online and asked google how to make girl fall for you, he saw many advice and was not satisfied brcause he knew he has done them. Accidentally he came upon a website in which a guy promise he will have a better dating life and be able to bang clicks left right and centre , the guy looks convincing so he read and read, took a good look at himself and realise he had to change and changed himself from a gentleman to a ladiesman


The end

Life is 1000% bleeped.

When your grow up to conciuosness you will realise that every thing you have been told by your parents/teachers/society and religion about life is false.

Life works in reverse.

Life is crazy

Life works upside down.

Their is a thin line between been good and been foolish.

I tire.

OP nice one.

Dpsychologist:
Keys to seduction 1: if you break the rules of seduction the rules will inturn break you
Everything in life has rules and principles and we are bound to follow them whether we are aware of them or not.

Principles are universal laws that govern the earth and life on earth. We are all subject to them. Principles have no respect for age, gender, nationality, colour, class, morality, religion, etc.

In one short sentence we can say, "Principles don't care." And since principles govern life we can therefore deduce that life does not care.
Life does not care whether you are a man or a woman.
Life does not care whether you are good or bad.
Life does not care whether you are Nigerian or American.
Life does not care whether you are black or white.
Life does not care whether you are rich or poor.


Life does not care whether you are Christian or Muslim.
Life does not care. Period.

Deep wisdom

LikeAking:


Life is 1000% bleeped.

When your grow up to conciuosness you will realise that every thing you have been told by your parents/teachers/society and religion about life is false.

Life works in reverse.

Life is crazy

Life works upside down.

Their is a thin line between been good and been foolish.

I tire.

OP nice one.

Yea bro. This is the essence of the Redpill. It is an encomium of truths. However, the truth is very bitter and difficult to swallow but it emancipates.