Madam, join forces with him but dont stop him. Your husband cannot be like every other husband. Most importantly dont just cross your leg in front of a world using the baby as an excuse. If necessary back the baby and let your hands be free and help. Dont stop him but let it be a collabo.
Some guys will say women cannot be pleased.
Your husband will be fit and you will turn very very fat. I'm sure you dont want that.
Keep that shape he saw when he asked u with correct house work

Please which school runs this covid 19 hols period? Bursta Rymes

Beautykate:
I am writing to ask if you can help me to persuade my husband to do less around the house. I am worried that he is going to make himself ill from exhaustion. Also, and it is hard for me to say this to him without being hurtful, I married him for his fun personality not his work ethic and I fear I am losing him to domestic drudgery. I want an equal partner, not a slave.

We have a toddler and a baby, born few months ago. During the pregnancy, I was quite tired and run down and my darling, supportive husband started to do more and more around the house and with our son (and despite a full-time, responsible job, he has always done more than his fair share of housework). I am now breastfeeding the baby, which is tough because he barely stops feeding and won't really nap anywhere except in my arms.

So this leaves my husband doing the shopping, tidying, washing and cooking. He gets up at 6am every morning to get our toddler ready for nursery, with a packed lunch, and he drops him off before he can get himself off to work. Meanwhile, I just sit around feeding the baby!

I feel permanently guilty and as if the only way I will get my husband to do less is if I do more. The thing is that I can walk away from mess and he can't.

I hugely appreciate him helping, but, beyond the basics, would rather see him sleeping or even cuddling me on the sofa rather than trying to be on top of everything. I love my husband – he is truly the sweetest, most loving, most wonderful lover and father, but I find myself resenting the fact that I barely see his fun side these days because he is so tired that he is essentially ill – and I can't help thinking it is at least partly self-inflicted

funshint:
The husband simply can't tolerate living like a pig. He has sensed you're lazy and dirty that's why he's taking it upon himself to do all the chores. Correct husband!

you nailed it i swear and now concience is disturbing her.

Pls OP never try to get a house maid,..your husband will transfer his love for you to her once he sees she is hard working....

First thing first, you need to drop all excuses of breast feeding etc as reasons why you can't do the domestic works of a woman....

If you were trained to always stay in a clean environment, you will see how you will create time for such and make the work less for your husband....

Pls work on your self, if truly you want your husband work less, create work roaster for both of you, let him carry the baby when you are working....
Make the work a mutual one because when the tide begins to build, you can't swim out of the wave.....
Your husband is not a troubled type but if he sees a lady that is grounded, hmmm he will surely love her

Acidosis:


Your hubby takes your baby to daycare in the midst of Covid-19? What a stup!d fake story.

May be the couple are not resident in Nigeria.

You are asking us to...help you persuade your husband....and you didn’t drop his phone number or contact info.

I know that, there are some single ladies here who are capable of persuading him to stop and you will start seeing results within days. In fact some married ladies here are patiently waiting for the opportunity to trade-up and this might just be it.

If you are serious about us helping to persuade him, please drop him contacts and you wouldn’t be disappointed in your quest.

Adasun:
Lols,what do women really want?

fixed

Beautykate:


That's the problem, he will not allow me to do anything, and it really pains me seeing him stressed out.

He has a full time job while your only job is breastfeeding your newborn. What else do you do in the house when he's at his job? Watching Telemundo and ZeeWorld? Yet you complain he doesn't let you do anything when you essentially leave the jobs for him. Abegi!

To study women
I need wisdom
They are never satisfied
If dey ve extra ordinary care
They complain
If dey lack care
They also complain

God gave dem hair
They cut it off and use wig
Gave dem eye lid and all
They cut it off and use artificial and draw dem
God gave dem breast and ass
They go to doc to get it bigger

God gave her now over caring and lovable husband
They is also complaining and term it slavery
U r lucky to have dat man
He is rare


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Man wey dey cheat... Na him way to tell you sorry/feel guilty be that.....

Madam in other word u are LAZY.

Beautykate:
I am writing to ask if you can help me to persuade my husband to do less around the house. I am worried that he is going to make himself ill from exhaustion. Also, and it is hard for me to say this to him without being hurtful, I married him for his fun personality not his work ethic and I fear I am losing him to domestic drudgery. I want an equal partner, not a slave.

We have a toddler and a baby, born few months ago. During the pregnancy, I was quite tired and run down and my darling, supportive husband started to do more and more around the house and with our son (and despite a full-time, responsible job, he has always done more than his fair share of housework). I am now breastfeeding the baby, which is tough because he barely stops feeding and won't really nap anywhere except in my arms.

So this leaves my husband doing the shopping, tidying, washing and cooking. He gets up at 6am every morning to get our toddler ready for nursery, with a packed lunch, and he drops him off before he can get himself off to work. Meanwhile, I just sit around feeding the baby!

I feel permanently guilty and as if the only way I will get my husband to do less is if I do more. The thing is that I can walk away from mess and he can't.

I hugely appreciate him helping, but, beyond the basics, would rather see him sleeping or even cuddling me on the sofa rather than trying to be on top of everything. I love my husband – he is truly the sweetest, most loving, most wonderful lover and father, but I find myself resenting the fact that I barely see his fun side these days because he is so tired that he is essentially ill – and I can't help thinking it is at least partly self-inflicted

Thank God for Him ALWAYS, but don't ABUSE HIM OR ABUSE IT. My Wife abused it and became ever Lazy till Yesterday,abi Today. That is how True Family Love should be and to Yeach Our Make Children that, it is d Way to Go. Not to have A Slave Wife Mentality. Pls .

Beautykate:
I am writing to ask if you can help me to persuade my husband to do less around the house. I am worried that he is going to make himself ill from exhaustion. Also, and it is hard for me to say this to him without being hurtful, I married him for his fun personality not his work ethic and I fear I am losing him to domestic drudgery. I want an equal partner, not a slave.

We have a toddler and a baby, born few months ago. During the pregnancy, I was quite tired and run down and my darling, supportive husband started to do more and more around the house and with our son (and despite a full-time, responsible job, he has always done more than his fair share of housework). I am now breastfeeding the baby, which is tough because he barely stops feeding and won't really nap anywhere except in my arms.

So this leaves my husband doing the shopping, tidying, washing and cooking. He gets up at 6am every morning to get our toddler ready for nursery, with a packed lunch, and he drops him off before he can get himself off to work. Meanwhile, I just sit around feeding the baby!

I feel permanently guilty and as if the only way I will get my husband to do less is if I do more. The thing is that I can walk away from mess and he can't.

I hugely appreciate him helping, but, beyond the basics, would rather see him sleeping or even cuddling me on the sofa rather than trying to be on top of everything. I love my husband – he is truly the sweetest, most loving, most wonderful lover and father, but I find myself resenting the fact that I barely see his fun side these days because he is so tired that he is essentially ill – and I can't help thinking it is at least partly self-inflicted

So what exactly do you want us to do?

OK send us your address so we can come to your house to talk to him.

Op is a very lazy woman and the husband the opposite but don't expect him to continue like that till eternity. Your husband is not enjoying all this drama or may be you thought you have caught a mugu but it will backfire in no distance time.
He knw what he's doing but he's trying to show you how to manage ur home but if you continue in ur lazy way, he will tell you what you will never like. Better wake up from your lazy bed and do what a responsible woman should be doing at home.

Adasun:
Lols,what do humans really want?

WOMEN PRECISELY

darknez:


You sound like someone I know. If you are the person I have in mind then the work will not kill your husband. He is like that. Right from when I first knew him. I told him then that he will have a problem when he gets married. His "too clean" ways will put unnecessary pressure on his future wife.

I would advise that you take it easy. You are breastfeeding and that in itself is a full time job. You don't need to bother much right now. When your child is old enough and you are strong enough then do only the chores you can. Do not try to go beyond your capabilities in a bid to get him to do less chores. You will lose! He has been like that for years before you came into the picture.

Look for alternative ways to get him to forget about work. You can start with ensuring you reduce the way you litter the place. I assure you that the way he does his chores will not kill him. He may die faster if he stops. Now this is me being a little extreme but I think he has a condition which may not let him stop doing that much chores even if he wanted to.

The 'condition' is Obsessive Compulsive Disorder(OCD),we all have it in varying degrees..

Skmoda360:
Ki leleyi tun fe bayi.....you get problem woman....this is the reason why it's not good to be good all the time...."your being good can be used against you"...continue saying trash, he will soon discover and stop then your eyes will open...

God will over bless you

Beautykate:
I am writing to ask if you can help me to persuade my husband to do less around the house. I am worried that he is going to make himself ill from exhaustion. Also, and it is hard for me to say this to him without being hurtful, I married him for his fun personality not his work ethic and I fear I am losing him to domestic drudgery. I want an equal partner, not a slave.

We have a toddler and a baby, born few months ago. During the pregnancy, I was quite tired and run down and my darling, supportive husband started to do more and more around the house and with our son (and despite a full-time, responsible job, he has always done more than his fair share of housework). I am now breastfeeding the baby, which is tough because he barely stops feeding and won't really nap anywhere except in my arms.

So this leaves my husband doing the shopping, tidying, washing and cooking. He gets up at 6am every morning to get our toddler ready for nursery, with a packed lunch, and he drops him off before he can get himself off to work. Meanwhile, I just sit around feeding the baby!

I feel permanently guilty and as if the only way I will get my husband to do less is if I do more. The thing is that I can walk away from mess and he can't.

I hugely appreciate him helping, but, beyond the basics, would rather see him sleeping or even cuddling me on the sofa rather than trying to be on top of everything. I love my husband – he is truly the sweetest, most loving, most wonderful lover and father, but I find myself resenting the fact that I barely see his fun side these days because he is so tired that he is essentially ill – and I can't help thinking it is at least partly self-inflicted

Wow
Had to read this like 3 times to be sure she is referring to a Nigerian Man
May God in his infinite mercy Bless your husband my Sister.
Yah, it's true there are people who can't stand things not being in their places.
We love to keep things in their places at all time
I think you should sometimes learn to help him in the chores so it can make it fun and relieving to him.
May God bless me with a man like him soon, Amen
Be careful of the kind of advice you get online before you go dent your already perfect family with someone else perceptions of life.
Cheers

Beautykate:
I am writing to ask if you can help me to persuade my husband to do less around the house. I am worried that he is going to make himself ill from exhaustion. Also, and it is hard for me to say this to him without being hurtful, I married him for his fun personality not his work ethic and I fear I am losing him to domestic drudgery. I want an equal partner, not a slave.

We have a toddler and a baby, born few months ago. During the pregnancy, I was quite tired and run down and my darling, supportive husband started to do more and more around the house and with our son (and despite a full-time, responsible job, he has always done more than his fair share of housework). I am now breastfeeding the baby, which is tough because he barely stops feeding and won't really nap anywhere except in my arms.

So this leaves my husband doing the shopping, tidying, washing and cooking. He gets up at 6am every morning to get our toddler ready for nursery, with a packed lunch, and he drops him off before he can get himself off to work. Meanwhile, I just sit around feeding the baby!

I feel permanently guilty and as if the only way I will get my husband to do less is if I do more. The thing is that I can walk away from mess and he can't.

I hugely appreciate him helping, but, beyond the basics, would rather see him sleeping or even cuddling me on the sofa rather than trying to be on top of everything. I love my husband – he is truly the sweetest, most loving, most wonderful lover and father, but I find myself resenting the fact that I barely see his fun side these days because he is so tired that he is essentially ill – and I can't help thinking it is at least partly self-inflicted

The only part that I thank you for is the fact that you recognise that modern women want slave as husband.
Help yourself this way, assume your husband is the other way will you give excuse of breast feeding No so get up and be responsible.

Well, what is really there to worry about?
If he is doing it on his own volition, then so be it.

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Adasun:
Lols,what do humans really want?

I wonder ooo. Poster may just be seeking for attention if this story is true.

Woman you have a problem, tell him, not bringing it to nairaland.

Beautykate:
[s]I am writing to ask if you can help me to persuade my husband to do less around the house. I am worried that he is going to make himself ill from exhaustion. Also, and it is hard for me to say this to him without being hurtful, I married him for his fun personality not his work ethic and I fear I am losing him to domestic drudgery. I want an equal partner, not a slave.We have a toddler and a baby, born few months ago. During the pregnancy, I was quite tired and run down and my darling, supportive husband started to do more and more around the house and with our son (and despite a full-time, responsible job, he has always done more than his fair share of housework). I am now breastfeeding the baby, which is tough because he barely stops feeding and won't really nap anywhere except in my arms.So this leaves my husband doing the shopping, tidying, washing and cooking. He gets up at 6am every morning to get our toddler ready for nursery, with a packed lunch, and he drops him off before he can get himself off to work. Meanwhile, I just sit around feeding the baby!I feel permanently guilty and as if the only way I will get my husband to do less is if I do more. The thing is that I can walk away from mess and he can't.I hugely appreciate him helping, but, beyond the basics, would rather see him sleeping or even cuddling me on the sofa rather than trying to be on top of everything. I love my husband – he is truly the sweetest, most loving, most wonderful lover and father, but I find myself resenting the fact that I barely see his fun side these days because he is so tired that he is essentially ill – and I can't help thinking it is at least partly self-inflicted[/s]

Nonsense.

Sisijetue:
Person way get cap no get head and person way get head no get cap....that’s your case ma’am..Appreciate every bit of him remember you can’t have it all. Why do you want to create problems anyway if you don’t want him domestic get a maid

Your adage doesn't make a sense with the womans case.

Onto pe ur husband they help with house chores, u dey here dey complain....?

Kare laye

Kwontinue...

You know something is not right, that is why you are being insecure.
Better get off your Ass and take over your house chores like a Woman if the home

funshint:
The husband simply can't tolerate living like a pig. He has sensed you're lazy and dirty that's why he's taking it upon himself to do all the chores. Correct husband!

Gbam!!! Wisdom will kill you

What a million question. The more you look, the less you see. Human being is something else. They do for you trouble., They don't trouble

Adasun:
Lols,what do humans really want?

vickydankal:
I just hope that your female friends are not on Nairaland reading this else ......

Else, they will steal her husband. EOD

So what do you want us to do about your guilt?? I know this is every woman's dream.. Continue.. You think he doesn't know what he is doing?? ... Continue with your lazy bone..

You can never please a woman. This is the real meaning.


No kill yourself trying to please a woman. You'll die for free.