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Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by Tapout(m): 7:32am On May 12, 2020 |
budaatum: the issue is a very complicated one... there are women going through worse but they keep quite because the husband has the money, good job and the rest. They rather endure till the end. No jokes, I've met ladies that told me "it's okay if my husband is cheating on me as long as I don't know about it and he takes care of his responsibilities at home" where this mindset originated from I don't know. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by angelfallz(m): 7:33am On May 12, 2020 |
ReeLoaDead: Lol no. your advice is not causing me to lose sleep. I didn't attack your advice. you missed the point. what i was referring to was, you blatantly saying you side with the OP. |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by whiteeyes: 7:35am On May 12, 2020 |
Mstick:You are broke and same time suffering me. Aswear I'll poison this idiots food. you cannot kee me, I'll pack you up first! I can't take nansense |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by Ladycewhy(f): 7:36am On May 12, 2020 |
anslem04:many boys start their bossy attitude from their homes . I know a woman who her daughters eat and clear the table include that of their younger brother because he is the only son. In some homes the boys don't do chores because they are boys and their daughters are the ones who need to know how to take care of husbands. Those are just examples,now there are obvious things parents do to raise their daughters to be good wives ,let me ask you ,who teaches boys and what is taught to boys in the home to make them good future husbands? 3 Likes |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by ipswitch: 7:37am On May 12, 2020 |
Oh dear, I really feel for u. God will make u happy again. Follow the 40% salary reduction advice, get few things for yourself, dont get pregnant again. And get d service of a marriage councellor to help you both. Most brothers` galivanting around churches these days are clowns and empty. 1 Like |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by emilas1979(m): 7:39am On May 12, 2020 |
You ended up saying nothing. Sorry I can't save your miserable life. Take your frustration elsewhere darling. I' so wish the woman do not take your words for anything omoharry: |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by whiteeyes: 7:41am On May 12, 2020 |
veave:Exactly! serious advice to singles, be very careful, don't be received by those men forming spirituality, they wear tight suit upandan... they are worst than devil. it is even better to marry a man that sleeps in a beer parlour! 1 Like |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by Nathan7(m): 7:41am On May 12, 2020 |
Your husband is a mumu man M sure this is not helpful Buh u jst have to knw |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by SweetCunt97(f): 7:48am On May 12, 2020 |
Superwave:Words of a very broke man. Gift ur salary to him because he helped her in slaving away to earn d salary baaa? Mtcheeeew. You men should get ur shiit together 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by NEIGHBOUR(m): 7:49am On May 12, 2020 |
Mstick: Gbam!!! You said it all. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by HundredWays(m): 7:50am On May 12, 2020 |
[s] dominique: Men nag more than women in marriage yet they keep saying it's women that nag. Me, I can't keep apologising for the wrong I did not do, if he wants to carry face, let him carry face. Good thing my ignore game is on point. If you refuse to eat, I stop cooking for you. I may not always talk back but I won't keep quiet all the time because I gats to be submissive. @op A lot of people treat you bad because you let them get away with it. You need to start standing up for yourself. Tell him disagreeing with him does not mean you're disrespecting him. Once a while, remind him of your contributions to the family. Tell him you're ready to live without him if that's what will give you peace of mind. If he's still acting up, park him to one side and face your kids. Start being selfish, put yourself first. let your happiness revolve around yourself and your kids. The moment men see how well you can and will live without them, they tend to sit up.[/s] |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by baillers123: 7:51am On May 12, 2020 |
Nwodosis:u may b right. But i read everything thing n wouldn't doubt her story because that's exactly what my mom pass tru. Though my own dad is richer but greedy.. Am a man n by Gods grace, i've worked the different directions away from dad. My wife is so proud. I also pray that when am approaching old age i don't change to become him 2 Likes |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by SweetCunt97(f): 7:51am On May 12, 2020 |
emilas1979:Typical igbo male.. Didn't u read where she doesn't mind but a Lil appreciation would be OK with her? Broke men state of mind. Go get a women to pay ur bill na as na una way for Abuja.. Anumpama 3 Likes |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by LaKriss: 7:52am On May 12, 2020 |
How's the sex life? It is called Love Making for a reason. To Create or Make Love. Do you still allow him touch you when he wants? Do you even initiate such moves? Madam, I know he's not financially as buoyant as you want but, he's doing is best. Trust me, this is not the life he envisioned for himself. He is also frustrated. He needs a Muse, someone to inspire and motivate him. Don't make him look outside for that. Don't just be the mother of his children. Also be his Wife, Partner, Helper, Muse, Friend etc. In most Marriages, Men expect women to apologize more. It doesn't take anything from you, even if you don't know what you are apologising for. It is good to save but don't hide and do it alone. It will destroy your marriage more if he finds out. Discuss it with him and both of you should do it together. Sometimes, the money earned is never enough to save anything even, but try. The Children are your biggest burden or responsibility. They would leave one day and this Sacrifice will end too. So continue Sacrificing. Help him draw back and closer to good. Truth is, the more he makes you unhappy and fights with you, the lesser he sees God's blessings. I am not blaming you for anything please. I am just saying, it's all in your hands to fix this. Pray too. God Listens to Women a lot too. God Bless. MizJaY: |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by Aniedi30(m): 7:52am On May 12, 2020 |
And who are u? Painful soul. kestolove95: |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by Nobody: 7:59am On May 12, 2020 |
Yezzybaebay: Madam i guess am not the 1st person to say these, ur hubby has an "inferiority issue" these majorly bloat a man's ego and make him reason in a competitive way only. rather than for ur husband to see you as a wife he sees you more as a competitor. i maybe wrong that what i see. The major solution here for you as a wife is to be passive, i mean react to is actions like it a norm, does not mean you are fool buh that will help you ignore him in a better way without any form of malice. you av lived with him long enough to know how & when he wants to foment trouble.... just look 4 an excuse to leave d room, if you can't leave listen to his blah with a mild smile. if you believe in God yu can support with prayers. my 1cent 1 Like |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by Theoutsider: 7:59am On May 12, 2020 |
2012 Miz_JaY: My first r/l was a flirt, he disappointed me so bad, I didn't date for almost 3 yrs and wen I realised I was not getting any younger, I decided to enter anoda r/l, which lasted for almost 5 yrs. During this period, I was paying d bills even when I had no job. I am too calm & cool so he took advantage of that. I decided to go my way though it was a tough decision because of all the sacrifices I've made for almost 5yrs and I'm 28, couldn't imagine I wasted almost 5yrs on a r/l dat ended up no where, I snobbed enough guys that period because I chose to stay faithful, I don't double date & also he promised me marriage. I am supposed to be a very pretty gal but I don't always look good cos I'm always worried about what he will eat or wear etc so instead of using d money to take care of my looks, I channel it to him. Was I being stupid for 5 yrs? ? Its not just about love though it was compassion because I couldn't stop helping him as I couldn't watch him suffer. I didn't think I was getting a fair treatment as he scolds me at any slight mistake I make making me feel like a mumu when I'm a smartass. Sometimes I wished I Can just have babies & take care of them myself without marrying? I can't seem to meet any really good guy, my dream guy. I've suffered in d hands of my 2 relationships and I'm tired of men, even if I decide to date, I can never date a broke arsse anymore, I used to hate d talk dat a guy has to really have cash b4 u date him but omo I second that now as I have seen Oba.. I am wrecked cos I took care of a guy for 5yrs and I'm suffering for it. By now I should have a land and at least a small ride & some cash saved up in my account if I had invested all dat money I spent for 5yrs on dis guy. I am so devastated....what guys do to gals...Mtscheww...Smh...now I'm wondering where I would start from. Sometimes Why do some really good girls go through baad relationships? I just feel like d world should end already you messed up |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by Denzele(m): 8:02am On May 12, 2020 |
From ur story, I believe u encouraged him to treat u dis way... How will he just focus on the payment of rent and school fees alone while the daily expenses is absolved by u. From the look of things, d rent looks way beyond d family income also with d school fees, u guys have to look into that with d family income in mind. Thank God for d cost of lockdown, why not tell ur hubby that ur salary has been reduced by 40% , which u will now use for ur savings...My dear please be wise ooo to avoid "had a known story in future" |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by Lleigh(f): 8:02am On May 12, 2020 |
[quote author=dominique post=89112694]Men nag more than women in marriage yet they keep saying it's women that nag. Me, I can't keep apologising for the wrong I did not do, if he wants to carry face, let him carry face. Good thing my ignore game is on point. If you refuse to eat, I stop cooking for you. I may not always talk back but I won't keep quiet all the time because I gats to be submissive. @op A lot of people treat you bad because you let them get away with it. You need to start standing up for yourself. Tell him disagreeing with him does not mean you're disrespecting him. Once a while, remind him of your contributions to the family. Tell him you're ready to live without him if that's what will give you peace of mind. If he's still acting up, park him to one side and face your kids. Start being selfish, put yourself first. let your happiness revolve around yourself and your kids. The moment men see how well you can and will live without them, they tend to sit up.[/quote . Word sis |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by veave(f): 8:03am On May 12, 2020 |
Jellia: Did you or did you not see quotation marks? |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by inioluwaDaniels(m): 8:04am On May 12, 2020 |
Sis since dem no force u marry n u av money of ur own I think is better to divorce him n move on wit ur life.but d story is one sided sha cos no sensible man ll do all dis to a peace loving woman.tell us ur own bad side too 1 Like |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by Truthshurts: 8:04am On May 12, 2020 |
MizJaY: This is easy...... First every marriage has one common enemy “Devil” They come in different forms so u won’t notice To prove this to you....was things like this before? Was this how both of u started? A quick antidote is to go down on your knees and pray. challenge the strong man or woman in your marriage and also ready to bend and submit to conquer I will recommend a movie for u WAR ROOM Find that movie and learn from it Let your husband watch Fireproof U will be surprised the turn around Thank me later |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by Havemercylord: 8:06am On May 12, 2020 |
At this point, I am a single man...IF I SEE SUCH A WOMAN AS THIS, WALAHI SHE WILL FOREVER BE HAPPY |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by perryy(m): 8:06am On May 12, 2020 |
Alawaxbimbex: All men are bad, so it is better to stay unmarried. I am a man and I know I and all my over 10000 friends are bad. They ( my friends) equally told me all their friends are bad husband's. We men can pretend a lot. It is better u don't think of marriage at all. Good luck. |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by Fortune118005(m): 8:07am On May 12, 2020 |
CAPSLOCKED:Are you sure, then treat your wife well |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by Pacesetter123(m): 8:08am On May 12, 2020 |
bukatyne:I think so far so good, this commentator had said something very reasonable. |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by Surfacebaba: 8:09am On May 12, 2020 |
God is ur strength |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by PS712: 8:10am On May 12, 2020 |
Jullima:All I can say is that you are almost 100% correct when you say that is the description of an average Nigerian man, I may just add as a man that the description above is for quite a very large number of men. Truly. 1 Like |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by CAPSLOCKED: 8:10am On May 12, 2020 |
Fortune118005: I AM TRYING BUT YOU SEE, HER LOVE FOR MONEY AND MEN IS OVERWHELMING. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by Pacesetter123(m): 8:10am On May 12, 2020 |
kestolove95:Do u think of the impact of the action on de children? |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by imam07: 8:11am On May 12, 2020 |
katyamizotta:read my post again. |
Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by Truthshurts: 8:11am On May 12, 2020 |
Havemercylord: Lol...that’s what her husband said too from the beginning. It’s better you are still single. There is time to understand before you make that decisions. PS The worst place after hell fire is a bad marriage. Seek and you shall find 1 Like |
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