peer group influence.. that's all... no matter your home training.. if the child is surrounded by wolves.. he'll soon become one

gRESEARCHER:

20% Father
50% Mother
30% Society

Look here, you can't blame the majority on the mother because the father also plays an equal part in a child's life. This is not the olden days where women don't work. So the major blame should not be rested on the mother alone.

Devil naah

Joshmodest:


I'd like is to have this argument !
You just highlighted here that the mother should take 50% I don't know your reasons , but i want to glance at your thoughts , and I expect your reply to be .
Cos the mom is always around them , I don't understand how two people would have a child and one takes the larger share of the child's upbringing....now most moms work just same hours as the dads , if not more but society still tends to blame the mom for poor upbringing of the child .....
Fathers make the mistake as a result of what the society has constructed ,to always think thier wives should train the children why they portray themselves as head of the home with biblical references.
..
Saying moms should take 50% while fathers take 20 ks like saying lalastic.lala should take the blame for nairaland's failure instead of se.un

Ask ur self why mothers most times win custody of kids after divorce.

There is this bond between mothers and kids and not even the father can come close to that.

That bond alone is the advantage mothers will ever have over kids.

Even if mothers works same time as fathers kids are still closer to mothers at the development age

Enterusernamehe:

Look here, you can't blame the majority on the mother because the father also plays an equal part in a child's life. This is not the olden days where women don't work. So the major blame should not be rested on the mother alone.

Let me ask u, during the development age of the kids who are thy closer to, mother or father.

Ask ur self why do court easily grant mothers custody during divorce.

There is a bond between kids and mothers civilisation can't take away.... That bond is the advantage mother's can use to bring this kids up in their own way.

U think the breast milk is just for feeding alone?

the child has the greater blame for fucking up his or her life,then the parents

No need for blame game its nature. Some will succeed, some will be just there, some will fail

The parents, the child & society

EdEdEddy:
Who really is responsible for the failure of a child in the society?

Just here to learn, the child itself is not an option here.

While growing up these are the common factors, that can make or destroy a child.

But really who do we blame, for the childs failure?

Family
Religion
Environment
Teachers

Nigerian failed government through their corrupt practices, stupid policies without proper implementation.


In most western and developed countries, every child is a success based on his or her dream or vision. If you want to be a dancer you will be a successful dancer in developed countries and you will never beg for food or job.....if you are a model the same, engineer, doctor, accountant, lawyer, babysitter, baby-minder, gardener, security personnel, driver, bartender, waitress, hotelier, stripper, sex worker, etc.....no matter your field or career, you will never beg for food or alms, you will be satisfied and fulfilled, and if you chose to be an employee, you will never need to fast for 30 days to secure a job that will take care of you.



Nigeria as a nation is a failure so everybody in it, including the president is a failure and to be blamed for any Nigerian child's failure

EdEdEddy:

It's barely 7:30 am, get a life.

The young man answered the question correctly in layman's terms can't you see that (BUHARI & APC) means Government.

We blame Government

Both parents. Society and the Church only have little / minor role to play in a child's life.

Now I said its both parents because training begins with them at home from a very tender age. And a child can only be shaped from the tender age of 2 when they have not started mixing up with peers and other groups in the society. So whatever you instill in that child is what will inform and guide his/ her decision when he/she goes out there. if the child is already spoilt from home, he'll easily flow with the bad gangs when he goes out there but if well trained, he'll naturally and wisely chose his peers. Which would now determine his failure or success in life.

How?

Now, ages 2, 3, 4 are the most important developmental stage of any child and it when parents should start teaching and training them on some basic things like moral standards, academical and practical life as this is the time their brains is more absorbent and easy to tame and in the process, their focus level is built. But when parents overlook this stages ( believing they're still too young to know anything) it becomes a problem as they soon go off to school and its easy to learn the bad things as there's nothing in them to serve as a reminder or warning that what they are about picking up in school is wrong. And then they continue like that throughout life except the parents step in along the line to correct somethings which most times is not 100% effective.

Why I said society or religion have little to do is because, most children spoilt from home always feel no body can talk to them since their parents can not talk to them or does not talk to them. So any thing you do will fall on deaf ears. But if parents make them understand it's the same rules everywhere, they'll listen and take to correction anywhere and everywhere they go. And this will help guide them to success.
Speaking from experience.

Everyone that has a role to play in training a child is contributory to whatever a child becomes.

I would have said you blame the society the most but the parents, institution of learning and religious institutions are no just part of the society they shape what the society is.

So this seed of child failure is sown by the parents, watered and fertilized by religious institutions and institutions of learning and then reaped by the society.

It's beyond human reasoning sometimes

Na who decide to born the pikin in the first place? Hold am should be held responsible.

EdEdEddy:
Who really is responsible for the failure of a child in the society?

Just here to learn, the child itself is not an option here.

While growing up these are the common factors, that can make or destroy a child.

But really who do we blame, for the childs failure?

Family
Religion
Environment
Teachers

Now you have to first define what you mean by failure.

From there, I can contribute my quota

And because of that mindset most people have that a mother is mainly responsible for how a child turns out, leaves some fathers irresponsible and unaccountable

Joshmodest:


I'd like is to have this argument !
You just highlighted here that the mother should take 50% I don't know your reasons , but i want to glance at your thoughts , and I expect your reply to be .
Cos the mom is always around them , I don't understand how two people would have a child and one takes the larger share of the child's upbringing....now most moms work just same hours as the dads , if not more but society still tends to blame the mom for poor upbringing of the child .....
Fathers make the mistake as a result of what the society has constructed ,to always think thier wives should train the children why they portray themselves as head of the home with biblical references.
..
Saying moms should take 50% while fathers take 20 ks like saying lalastic.lala should take the blame for nairaland's failure instead of se.un

tayebest:
I'll put blame on the Environment. Environment has a great influence on children's life. Its an external factors where one learn about life. Even though many parents try to teach their children on how to live good life, and peradventure such child find himself in an environment where social vices is been encourage or practiced often. It will be so hard for such child not to be influenced.


Someone like me learn so much from the street than what I was taught at home.

like wise too na my Environment turn me to confirm street Niggy my parent try every possible best to Change my point of view but it can't cos I believe na Street Sure pass to survive

They win custody mostly because some men choose to be irresponsible and won’t sit in a place to care and raise their kids.

martowskin1:


Ask ur self why mothers most times win custody of kids after divorce.

There is this bond between mothers and kids and not even the father can come close to that.

That bond alone is the advantage mothers will ever have over kids.

Even if mothers works same time as fathers kids are still closer to mothers at the development age

EdEdEddy:
Who really is responsible for the failure of a child in the society?

Just here to learn, the child itself is not an option here.

While growing up these are the common factors, that can make or destroy a child.

But really who do we blame, for the childs failure?

Family
Religion
Environment
Teachers

Blame liquid metal

favour442:
peer group influence.. that's all... no matter your home training.. if the child is surrounded by wolves.. he'll soon become one

Thats a big fat lie!

Home training is 100%. Speaking from experience.
My mum taught us at a very tender age so many morals of life that is still guiding me till tomorrow and dad was a disciplinarian to the core. We grew up among wolves, but dad made sure he guarded his territory to the point that all the boys then used to warn themselves to steer clear of Mr. XYZs daughter. And we on the other hand know better than to be found in the wrong places. Up to my secondary school, when girls would bring change of clothes to school to attend after school lit in an all boys school, we couldn't join for fear of what my dad would do to you. If at 2 :05pm you're not home from school, mum would report to dad as soon as he gets back and your ass will hear it. I'm talking about final year in secondary. So when you now get to the uni, you'll have lost interest in bad things or following bad gangs.

Home training is very key and forms the bases of a child's success in life.

gRESEARCHER:

20% Father
50% Mother
30% Society

Can u please explain.

EdEdEddy:
Who really is responsible for the failure of a child in the society?

Just here to learn, the child itself is not an option here.

While growing up these are the common factors, that can make or destroy a child.

But really who do we blame, for the childs failure?

Family
Religion
Environment
Teachers

20% family 0% Religion while 80% goes to the environment.. but I still believe it's the child beliefs to get himself or herself destroy..while growing up have always have this mindset that I will never smoke but at last I got influence by friends which I finally did..but thank God I was able to back off from it on time..so I believe anything a child do shouldn't be blamed by anyone instead the child himself.

MrImole:
93% of the time, it is the child.

Its 100% of the time.
Everybody is responsible for their lives and have no right to blame anyone or thing except themselves.

blame upbringing.

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martowskin1:


Ask ur self why mothers most times win custody of kids after divorce.

There is this bond between mothers and kids and not even the father can come close to that.

That bond alone is the advantage mothers will ever have over kids.

Even if mothers works same time as fathers kids are still closer to mothers at the development age

This is completely false and a figment of your imagination.