@ZIMDRILL
Yes marriage is a partnership but its an unequal partnership in which the man takes d lead. Does that mean he gets to do everytin? No but it means dat he has 1st shot at everytin. Now as d leader he must delegate some responsibility to his partner/wife however certain responsibilities cannot be delegated as long as he is physically capable. These responsibilities go beyond d financials but since dats d focus lets explore them a bit.
Housing very basic, clothing basic too feeding right there with the rest n finally education. The man gets first crack at this however if wat he brings in can't cover he says to his partner we have a shortfall wat can u add. As much as marriage is about love it also practical n all Atreides has said follows dat pattern.
U guys on the other hand wat a "50-50" marriage right out d box believe me u'll get more trouble than not

@Atreides
I am Edo too n am so proud dat I have a lil sista like u lol
Those who say u are cynical are d ones deluded. There is no such tin as 'soul mate'. We all have to choose. Now wats obvious is some choices are better than others. Quality people making quality choices will win over some mini-mini-mini-mo looking for soul mate.

Atreides:

Really? Lemme test you. . Vbo hie e,temwen?

i cant read nor write jorr , no involve me
u embrassing me

Atreides:

@Tensor,the whole Edward/Bella/Jacob thing was just an example. And please,i NEVER said a soulmate is just someone you meet and fall in love with. Secondly,a soulmate is ONE person out of the billions of people who shares a twin soul with you,is the ONE and ONLY other half of you,'the one',your 'one true love',blah blah blah.That's what i don't believe in.

Agreed an example though you set it in the context of a movie.
But you have got the soulmate concept twisted. It is not  creepy.
It is not one out of billions, millions, thousands hundreds or whatever. You are reducing such a sublime divine concept to facts and figures?smh
The point is that if and when you meet you will know it is a match made in heaven even without any exchange of love declarations.

@Reed my Dune reading love,OMG,you're Bini? That's soo cool! Vbo hie e? Domo no wain. . Please help me tell them. So taking care of his family is no longer the husband's responsibility? Shior. .

Lord_Reed:

@ZIMDRILL
Yes marriage is a partnership but its an unequal partnership in which the man takes d lead. Does that mean he gets to do everytin? No but it means dat he has 1st shot at everytin. Now as d leader he must delegate some responsibility to his partner/wife however certain responsibilities cannot be delegated as long as he is physically capable. These responsibilities go beyond d financials but since dats d focus lets explore them a bit.
Housing very basic, clothing basic too feeding right there with the rest n finally education. The man gets first crack at this however if wat he brings in can't cover he says to his partner we have a shortfall wat can u add. As much as marriage is about love it also practical n all Atreides has said follows dat pattern.
U guys on the other hand wat a "50-50" marriage right out d box believe me u'll get more trouble than not

Don't get things twisted. Marriage is not a partnership whether equal or unequal but a union.

Idowuogbo:

i cant read nor write jorr , no involve me
u embrassing me  

You are a fake Bini girl. . Obviedo ne setin z'edo. That means Bini person that cannot speak Bini. . You're a fake Bini girl-made in China version. .

Atreides:

You are a fake Bini girl. . Obviedo ne setin z'edo. That means Bini person that cannot speak Bini. . You're a fake Bini girl-made in China version. .

no am aba made , tseewww
its not fair oo ,
instead of u to offer classes u attacking me bcus u are japenese made , make God judge dis sha

Lord_Reed:

These responsibilities go beyond d financials but since dats d focus lets explore them a bit.
Housing very basic, clothing basic too feeding right there with the rest n finally education. The man gets first crack at this however if wat he brings in can't cover he says to his partner we have a shortfall wat can u add. As much as marriage is about love it also practical n all Atreides has said follows dat pattern.
U guys on the other hand wat a "50-50" marriage right out d box believe me u'll get more trouble than not

You de talk like person we dem force to marry. Frankly this kind of cynical mindset is a recipe for misery.

Idowuogbo:

no am aba made , tseewww
its not fair oo ,  
instead of u to offer classes u attacking me  bcus u are japenese made , make God judge dis sha

Eyaah. . Koyo. . Pele. . Ma binu. I will teach you the Bini wella-ly,s'ogbo? If i teach you Bini,then you will teach me Yoruba. Deal?

bingoo deall , wasere wa gba

@Atreides
Am Edo but not Bini.
@tensor777
Well well I see d claws coming out.
Yes marriage is a union n a partnership. A partnership is a union n a union is a partnership mere semantics my man.
If I was forced into a marriage would I not b of d opposite mind n resentful of d burden of leadership I must provide? smh
Even God doesn't force our choices, He leads us to where we can safely make a good choice but does that mean every happy couple was lead by God? Nope.
Soul mate concept is man made so don't bandy it about as a divine concept please.

Lord_Reed:

@Atreides
Am Edo but not Bini.
@tensor777
Well well I see d claws coming out.
Yes marriage is a union n a partnership. A partnership is a union n a union is a partnership mere semantics my man.
If I was forced into a marriage would I not b of d opposite mind n resentful of d burden of leadership I must provide? smh
Even God doesn't force our choices, He leads us to where we can safely make a good choice but does that mean every happy couple was lead by God? Nope.
Soul mate concept is man made so don't bandy it about as a divine concept please.

I don't know anything about you but you have no idea what marriage is about. What you are descibing is instead a glorified man-concubine relationship.
Anyway from your cynicism and unreflective comments, I strongly suspect that your real issue is your lack of faith in God

Silly teenagers on this thread confusing infatuation and casual sex affairs with the real deal of marriage.

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@tensor777
Dats u u're describing. The ideal of marriage? Pray tell is it all d selfishness u've been going on about? Pls learn d meaning of LOVE b4 u sprout foolishness n call it wisdom.
My faith in God? U have no idea d tins I been through on my knees b4 d Most High so don't even play there.
Show me were in d scriotures where there is soul mate n then I'll believe till then keep it quiet.

tpia*:



cant disagree with that but it's not a license to date irresponsibly.





quite true.






[size=16pt]abeg, dont go start aligning with certain characters here just because i responded to your post oh. I mean those ones wey go do s.tupidity in the name of parapo[/size]

WTF Tpia?

Why the paranoia?

@tpia
Glad u agree. Me I'd prefer if everyone could b God lead but hey dis life.
They've got nothing on me.

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Ask not what can the man do for you; but what can you do for the man I don't mind dating a broke guy, as long as he has goals. Some of the most successful people in the world grew up in poverty. I believe if a guy likes you, and he is concern about you, he will ask do you need some help. But men only responsibility is to his wife; not his lady friend. When women required a man to provide for her financially in order to date her, she is selling herself. I am worth more than a dinner, movies, and a nice pair of shoes. What can a man do for me that I can't do for myself. If he gives you money, then what? Just my opinion

@ruff
Sure u are worth more dan money, movies, clothes etc but how does he show his love if he doesn't give especially wen its of no advantage to him?
Asking a BF for stuff doesn't degrade a lady if we are talking about love. However one must differentiate btw honest need n pie in the sky requests.

I totally agree with you. I don't want you to misunderstand my point of view. If I am in need, I will ask a guy, but to flat out say, I won't date a guy unless he can give me money, no

@ruff
Anoda gud headed lady. Am happy!

If he ain't got no money then I ain't got no time for him.

@Mrs.Chima
U don come o! LoL

Mrs.Chima:

If he ain't got no money then I ain't got no time for him.

Mama Chike welcome! . @Reed,being Edo's still really cool. And why does tensor get personal when people don't agree with him? I refused to say that i believed in the soulmate principle,and he said i'd been burned. You refused to believe in the soulmate principle,and he questioned your faith in God. I see a pattern here. @tensor,the soulmate principle isn't divine,dude. Do you even know how it came about? Lemme see. . Greek mythology! I could tell you the story,if you like. And please don't call me silly! I've been trying not to be insultive so kindly do the same,kay? That i do not have the same beliefs you do and you cannot convince me otherwise does not make me silly.

Lord_Reed:

@Mrs.Chima
U don come o! LoL

I am just keeping it real. I can't stand a man that don't work. I am not talking about he must be a doctor or lawyer. I don't want them mofos. They work too much, but a man working a decent job with decent hours and can come home by the time the children out of school. I like those kind of guys. I am not looking, but I am just saying that what I was attracted to.

I am not into riches and glam. I am not caught up like that because I know the grass isn't green on the other side but I like being comfortable.

My husband know to work and if he have to work at WAL-MART then that fine but he don't have to at this time and I PRAY THAT HE NEVER HAVE TO. Amen.

Atreides:

Mama Chike welcome! . @Reed,being Edo's still really cool. And why does tensor get personal when people don't agree with him? I refused to say that i believed in the soulmate principle,and he said i'd been burned. You refused to believe in the soulmate principle,and he questioned your faith in God. I see a pattern here. @tensor,the soulmate principle isn't divine,dude. Do you even know how it came about? Lemme see. . Greek mythology! I could tell you the story,if you like. And please don't call me silly! I've been trying not to be insultive so kindly do the same,kay? That i do not have the same beliefs you do and you cannot convince me otherwise does not make me silly.

Hey suga!

Gud morning ma! Bawo?. . I don't want a poor man who's poor because he chooses to be. I don't want some lazy ass N.F.A(no future ambition) in my life. I want a man with vision,with drive,a man who'll want to provide and take care of me to the best of his abilities. I want to be comfortable,and that makes me a gold-digger? Mscheww. .

Mrs.Chima:

I am just keeping it real. I can't stand a man that don't work. I am not talking about he must be a doctor or lawyer. I don't want them mofos. They work too much, but a man working a decent job with decent hours and can come home by the time the children out of school. I like those kind of guys. I am not looking, but I am just saying that what I was attracted to.

I am not into riches and glam. I am not caught up like that because I know the grass isn't green on the other side but I like being comfortable.

My husband know to work and if he have to work at WAL-MART then that fine but he don't have to at this time and I PRAY THAT HE NEVER HAVE TO. Amen.

Amin! Amin!! Amin!!! L'oruko Jesu! . . How is Mr. Chima?

Atreides:

Gud morning ma! Bawo?. . I don't want a poor man who's poor because he chooses to be. I don't want some lazy backside N.F.A(no future ambition) in my life. I want a man with vision,with drive,a man who'll want to provide and take care of me to the best of his abilities. I want to be comfortable,and that makes me a gold-digger? Mscheww. . Amin! Amin!! Amin!!! L'oruko Jesu! . . How is Mr. Chima?

Your Papi is sleep from our uhmm discussion. There is nothing wrong with wanting a man with such drive and ambition. I have stated that I do not want a man that do not work and my husband knew that before he married me. Now let be realistic when we pick potential mate based on what they have to offer because what we think we want may not be what we need.

IF you meet a decent guy and he work a decent job then accept him wholeheartedly. Trust me chile, you do not want a man that work ALL THE TIME. How would you get your quality time if he working all the time? He come home and crashes in bed while you sitting there in your lingerie and stilettos! No thanks! I want my baby home at a decent time and I want my quality time.

Be firm in what you want and STICK TO IT. Do not allow anyone to tell you what you want and make sure it is realistic because if it is not then you will be like that old lady at the bus stop waiting for her PERFECT MAN.

Mrs.Chima:

Your Papi is sleep from our uhmm discussion. .

Lol. . I hear ya. I'm not looking for a guy who'll fly me all around the world in his private jet(although if that guy shows up i wouldn't turn him away. . ). I don't want to be extremely rich,i wanna be comfortable. And if he has a normal/decent job,then he won't have any problems taking care of the basics. As long as the money is there,his responsibilities are his responsibilities. Maybe it's a Nigerian thing,but usually/ideally,the husband bears the brunt of financial expenses. He is to take care of his family for as long as he is able to. If some reason,there's no money,then i can step in.