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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by KennedicalEnergy(m): 10:10pm On May 22, 2020
Battle for the young. There are choices we make in life that are irreversible. This is one of them. Most young people are still making these kind of mistakes this lady made. When will people learn?

Madam, I pray for you to make heaven, but as for this life, you have really made lots of mistakes that only the grace of God can change.

Focus your energy on the adolescents who haven't made the kind of mistakes you made, try to change them by sharing your story with them instead looking for solutions to irreversible choices.

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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by peacemara54(m): 10:31pm On May 22, 2020
If truely you've repented and Jesus has saved you from sin. The Spirit of God bares you witness you're now a child of God.
Then, why worry?...
The word of God says; the time of ignorance God winketh at.

What you need is prayer. God will help you. The heart of kings is in Gods hand. God can turn the heart of your family and brother to you.

Dont struggle but pray.
When the night is dark and dreary, dont forget to pray
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Semaj77(m): 10:31pm On May 22, 2020
MelaninSkinGirl:


Life has been unfair to her she has 6 kids that she has no access to until they are 18 and that is if they chose to contact her. Her family are no longer in touch with her and she is all alone. Have some sympathy please.


I see you don't know the meaning of unfair , everything happening to her now is solely her doing. Not having access to her children because of her drug addiction isn't unfair , her family not reaching out to her after implicating her uncle and her poor choices in life isn't unfair. On the contrary she had a uncle who took her away to a better and foreign land and also provided for all her needs is more than fair to me , not many can boast of that. Please know the meaning of words you use before you use them

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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by BENARI: 10:32pm On May 22, 2020
Divine89:
Hello everybody. I am Nigerian based in France. My English it is not 100% perfect but I will try to make it possible for you to understand me with the help of google french to English translator and my story is also long sorry for that.

When I was 9 years old I joined my uncle, my mum's younger brother in France. He declared me as his daughter. During that time he only had one child, 2 years old. He and the wife were so loving to me. I never lacked anything in their house.

But when I turned 12, I went to secondary school. I met some bad friends there. This is where the problem started.I became a very difficult child. I will go to school come home late. My uncle will beat and beat me but I never listened. I smoked my first cigarette at 12 and had my first sex at 13 and I started running away from home to stay with boyfriends. Sometimes I can go for a week and when uncle reporta me missing, the police will be looking for me, then they will bring me back home.

Then at 14 I went to school and lied to my teacher that my uncle was abusing me. I told them he was beating me with belts, electric wire, they don’t give me foods and I really said a lot of bad things about them doing to me to make my teacher believe my story so they could take me away from them because I wanted freedom and my teacher believed me and reported to the police and child protection, they are people who take away abused children from their parents. They took custody of me and my uncle three children, the youngest was 6 months old to their care and they gave us to this white lady to care for us and my uncle and wife were arrested for child abuse and the police were doing some investigation.

After spending 1yr 9 months in care of the white lady I dropped out school. They found out that I was a difficult child that I lied to get freedom so they have decided to give my uncle his children back to him while I stayed in care of white people but my uncle had sworn because I made him lost his children for 1yr 9 months that I will never found happiness in my life and I will never enjoy the fruit of my labour which it is true as I am typing this.

I have given birth to 6 children by 6 men and none of the children is living with me. The first one was taken away from me at 2 months old because I beat her up and fractured her hands and I also tested positive for heroinn (drugs), so that did not stop me from giving birth second child was removed from my care 4 hours after birth she also tested positive for heroin the same way my other children were removed at birth too so I carry on with my lifestyles. I did not care about my children at that time all I care about was sex, alcohol and drugs this is what I wanted and I have been to prison several times for selling drugs and fraudsters. The longest I have spent in prison was 2 years then after i left prison, I met with this sister who introduced me to this church she attended so I went along with her, the pastor told me to confess my sin to him and promised it will be a secret between I, him and God which I did repented and accepted Jesus as my saviour. To be honest, my life did changed a lot, I fell the peace in my heart , enjoyed going to church every Sunday but this pastor went tell his wife my life story and the wife told everyone in church my life story and started using it against me so it made me so angry that I left the church in November 2017 without looking back. I have decided not to attend any church again. I have stopped alcohol, taking drugs and sleeping with men I no longer do it. I prayed at home, read my bible and behaving good and it's almost 2 years I havnt slept with a man and i went to look for my uncle asking him for forgiveness but he has refused and I send him many text messages begging him to forgive and I still no heard anything from him or the wife even their children I have tried to ask them forgiveness they have blocked me and they all want nothing to do with me even my own parents and siblings in Africa they have rejected me, none of them want to talk to me, my parents said i am dead to them, it is so painful I cry everyday in my prayers, as for my children 4 of them are adopted with new family. I can't see them again maybe until they are 18 years old If they want to know me if they don't want I will have no choice to accept it and my 2 youngest children i am only allowed to see them once a year in a children play centre with someone supervise because they don't let me to be alone with them and soon I will stop visiting them because they are planning to adopt them to a new family too that will mean I will have nobody on this earth.

I regret my mistake so bad I wish I could change it but it will no be impossible. I can't have more children because they will be removed from me like the others and I am only 31years old. I don't know if my repentance was genius because my family has refused to forgive me and my question goes like this if they never forgive me will I ever found happiness again or I will just have to accept it until I died?

Please, advise me in a Christian way maybe if there's more I can do and also prayed for me so my family will be able to forgive me and also pray for my two children that nobody will adopt them so I can get custody of them and i promised to be a good mother to them, please I am begging you in the name of God.

As difficult as it might sound, it will be near impossible to have those kids back. You said they tested positive for heroin at birth. That will mean you cared nothing about any of those kids while you carried them in your womb. That those children are alive is probably because of the good Health system there, the authorities, and the care of thier new parents. You lost the right to be mother to those children.
If you wish, you may go ahead and have another child or children(You're still young). If you're able to take good care of them, that will bring you joy, and possibly make it possible for some of your other children and even relatives to see you're now a new person.

Work hard to be somebody. Challenge yourself, go back to school if you can, get a degree, and you'll see the world taking note of you again, even those who have lost hope in you.

Best wishes
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Algold: 10:36pm On May 22, 2020
Thank God you are still young... At 31 you still have time to adjust and make yourself useful.
Firstly, find something doing to give you balance.
Secondly, dress the way you will like to be addressed. It will attract the kind of people you want in your life.
Thirdly, suitors will come when you are balance... Choose wisely the one that suit your present lifestyle
Fourthly, remember your family back home by sending them there basic needs and try and lift someone out of poverty or penury.
Stop begging your uncles and other for forgiveness. If God can forgive you, you don't need any other person forgiveness.
Move on my dear life is too short

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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Okwyjesus(m): 10:37pm On May 22, 2020
Divine89:
Hello everybody. I am Nigerian based in France. My English it is not 100% perfect but I will try to make it possible for you to understand me with the help of google french to English translator and my story is also long sorry for that.

When I was 9 years old I joined my uncle, my mum's younger brother in France. He declared me as his daughter. During that time he only had one child, 2 years old. He and the wife were so loving to me. I never lacked anything in their house.

But when I turned 12, I went to secondary school. I met some bad friends there. This is where the problem started.I became a very difficult child. I will go to school come home late. My uncle will beat and beat me but I never listened. I smoked my first cigarette at 12 and had my first sex at 13 and I started running away from home to stay with boyfriends. Sometimes I can go for a week and when uncle reporta me missing, the police will be looking for me, then they will bring me back home.

Then at 14 I went to school and lied to my teacher that my uncle was abusing me. I told them he was beating me with belts, electric wire, they don’t give me foods and I really said a lot of bad things about them doing to me to make my teacher believe my story so they could take me away from them because I wanted freedom and my teacher believed me and reported to the police and child protection, they are people who take away abused children from their parents. They took custody of me and my uncle three children, the youngest was 6 months old to their care and they gave us to this white lady to care for us and my uncle and wife were arrested for child abuse and the police were doing some investigation.

After spending 1yr 9 months in care of the white lady I dropped out school. They found out that I was a difficult child that I lied to get freedom so they have decided to give my uncle his children back to him while I stayed in care of white people but my uncle had sworn because I made him lost his children for 1yr 9 months that I will never found happiness in my life and I will never enjoy the fruit of my labour which it is true as I am typing this.

I have given birth to 6 children by 6 men and none of the children is living with me. The first one was taken away from me at 2 months old because I beat her up and fractured her hands and I also tested positive for heroinn (drugs), so that did not stop me from giving birth second child was removed from my care 4 hours after birth she also tested positive for heroin the same way my other children were removed at birth too so I carry on with my lifestyles. I did not care about my children at that time all I care about was sex, alcohol and drugs this is what I wanted and I have been to prison several times for selling drugs and fraudsters. The longest I have spent in prison was 2 years then after i left prison, I met with this sister who introduced me to this church she attended so I went along with her, the pastor told me to confess my sin to him and promised it will be a secret between I, him and God which I did repented and accepted Jesus as my saviour. To be honest, my life did changed a lot, I fell the peace in my heart , enjoyed going to church every Sunday but this pastor went tell his wife my life story and the wife told everyone in church my life story and started using it against me so it made me so angry that I left the church in November 2017 without looking back. I have decided not to attend any church again. I have stopped alcohol, taking drugs and sleeping with men I no longer do it. I prayed at home, read my bible and behaving good and it's almost 2 years I havnt slept with a man and i went to look for my uncle asking him for forgiveness but he has refused and I send him many text messages begging him to forgive and I still no heard anything from him or the wife even their children I have tried to ask them forgiveness they have blocked me and they all want nothing to do with me even my own parents and siblings in Africa they have rejected me, none of them want to talk to me, my parents said i am dead to them, it is so painful I cry everyday in my prayers, as for my children 4 of them are adopted with new family. I can't see them again maybe until they are 18 years old If they want to know me if they don't want I will have no choice to accept it and my 2 youngest children i am only allowed to see them once a year in a children play centre with someone supervise because they don't let me to be alone with them and soon I will stop visiting them because they are planning to adopt them to a new family too that will mean I will have nobody on this earth.

I regret my mistake so bad I wish I could change it but it will no be impossible. I can't have more children because they will be removed from me like the others and I am only 31years old. I don't know if my repentance was genius because my family has refused to forgive me and my question goes like this if they never forgive me will I ever found happiness again or I will just have to accept it until I died?

Please, advise me in a Christian way maybe if there's more I can do and also prayed for me so my family will be able to forgive me and also pray for my two children that nobody will adopt them so I can get custody of them and i promised to be a good mother to them, please I am begging you in the name of God.

Stand from where you are and began a new leave.
Throw the past behind and work on being a living testimony of a transformed life.
God will bring them back because the heart of men are in His hand.
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by tityboi: 10:37pm On May 22, 2020
hmmm
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by ronyman(m): 10:46pm On May 22, 2020
Do you have the wherewithal to have them back? Can you care for them now? I think not. So I advise you continue your rehabilitation and self-discovery and pray God helps you become a better person. Beg your uncle! Your life depends on it
Divine89:

My children are in the custody of the french authorities, according to them I will never have custody of them till they reach 18 years old because I am an unfit mother. only God grace can help me to have them back. Thank you
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Janosky: 10:47pm On May 22, 2020
Divine89:
Hello everybody. I am Nigerian based in France. My English it is not 100% perfect but I will try to make it possible for you to understand me with the help of google french to English translator and my story is also long sorry for that.

When I was 9 years old I joined my uncle, my mum's younger brother in France. He declared me as his daughter. During that time he only had one child, 2 years old. He and the wife were so loving to me. I never lacked anything in their house.

But when I turned 12, I went to secondary school. I met some bad friends there. This is where the problem started.I became a very difficult child. I will go to school come home late. My uncle will beat and beat me but I never listened. I smoked my first cigarette at 12 and had my first sex at 13 and I started running away from home to stay with boyfriends. Sometimes I can go for a week and when uncle reporta me missing, the police will be looking for me, then they will bring me back home.

Then at 14 I went to school and lied to my teacher that my uncle was abusing me. I told them he was beating me with belts, electric wire, they don’t give me foods and I really said a lot of bad things about them doing to me to make my teacher believe my story so they could take me away from them because I wanted freedom and my teacher believed me and reported to the police and child protection, they are people who take away abused children from their parents. They took custody of me and my uncle three children, the youngest was 6 months old to their care and they gave us to this white lady to care for us and my uncle and wife were arrested for child abuse and the police were doing some investigation.

After spending 1yr 9 months in care of the white lady I dropped out school. They found out that I was a difficult child that I lied to get freedom so they have decided to give my uncle his children back to him while I stayed in care of white people but my uncle had sworn because I made him lost his children for 1yr 9 months that I will never found happiness in my life and I will never enjoy the fruit of my labour which it is true as I am typing this.

I have given birth to 6 children by 6 men and none of the children is living with me. The first one was taken away from me at 2 months old because I beat her up and fractured her hands and I also tested positive for heroinn (drugs), so that did not stop me from giving birth second child was removed from my care 4 hours after birth she also tested positive for heroin the same way my other children were removed at birth too so I carry on with my lifestyles. I did not care about my children at that time all I care about was sex, alcohol and drugs this is what I wanted and I have been to prison several times for selling drugs and fraudsters. The longest I have spent in prison was 2 years then after i left prison, I met with this sister who introduced me to this church she attended so I went along with her, the pastor told me to confess my sin to him and promised it will be a secret between I, him and God which I did repented and accepted Jesus as my saviour. To be honest, my life did changed a lot, I fell the peace in my heart , enjoyed going to church every Sunday but this pastor went tell his wife my life story and the wife told everyone in church my life story and started using it against me so it made me so angry that I left the church in November 2017 without looking back. I have decided not to attend any church again. I have stopped alcohol, taking drugs and sleeping with men I no longer do it. I prayed at home, read my bible and behaving good and it's almost 2 years I havnt slept with a man and i went to look for my uncle asking him for forgiveness but he has refused and I send him many text messages begging him to forgive and I still no heard anything from him or the wife even their children I have tried to ask them forgiveness they have blocked me and they all want nothing to do with me even my own parents and siblings in Africa they have rejected me, none of them want to talk to me, my parents said i am dead to them, it is so painful I cry everyday in my prayers, as for my children 4 of them are adopted with new family. I can't see them again maybe until they are 18 years old If they want to know me if they don't want I will have no choice to accept it and my 2 youngest children i am only allowed to see them once a year in a children play centre with someone supervise because they don't let me to be alone with them and soon I will stop visiting them because they are planning to adopt them to a new family too that will mean I will have nobody on this earth.

I regret my mistake so bad I wish I could change it but it will no be impossible. I can't have more children because they will be removed from me like the others and I am only 31years old. I don't know if my repentance was genius because my family has refused to forgive me and my question goes like this if they never forgive me will I ever found happiness again or I will just have to accept it until I died?

Please, advise me in a Christian way maybe if there's more I can do and also prayed for me so my family will be able to forgive me and also pray for my two children that nobody will adopt them so I can get custody of them and i promised to be a good mother to them, please I am begging you in the name of God.

OP, nothing can change the past but you can look to the future with renewed hope and optimism. But you must let your past be in the past.... Just like when you throw a plastic bottle in a fast flowing River...

Please keep praying for your family especially your uncle you hurt badly... begging God to touch their hearts and forgive you.
Someday, some how ,they will welcome you back as family... Keep praying and BELIEVE...

You must consciously cut off ALL ties with your drug dealing,drug addicted relationships.

You have to plan ahead, choose a viable vocation to do to earn honest,decent living for paying your bills....

Please hold on to God. JWs are in your neighborhood, in can reach them in order to build your faith in your CREATOR.
Shalom.
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Nobody: 10:48pm On May 22, 2020
Yours is a very sad story, a tale of caution, the type of graphic story to warn young people how not behave.

I am not trying to be insensitive here, but do you really really think taking your children back is the best thing for them? Especially considering that you probably don't have the kind of decency and ethics required to effectively raise children. Yes, I understand you might have been sober for two years or so... But those two years of sobriety are not enough to drill into you the attitude and value system and discipline required to take care of children and to raise them to be responsible adults.

It may be just the best plan right now for your children to grow up without you. You need to accept that fact, and it is probably the best thing for your kids. You shouldn't think only about yourself, about the satisfaction you will have taking back the custody of your children. Thank about what is best for them.

And right now, at 31 you are not too old to turn a new leaf. You should consider the new lease on life that you have now, signaled by your sobriety. Consider it as a second chance and starting gradually but steadily building your life into a responsible member of the society. I promise you if you are able to remake yourself into the kind of person any child would like to have as a mother, it would greatly make it easy for your children to choose to know you when you are 18. And you should consider having a family when you have finally and truly overcome your demons.

I did not type this maliciously, but as someone looking at things from what is best for your children and also with respect to the options left for you.
I wish you the best.



Divine89:
Hello everybody. I am Nigerian based in France. My English it is not 100% perfect but I will try to make it possible for you to understand me with the help of google french to English translator and my story is also long sorry for that.

When I was 9 years old I joined my uncle, my mum's younger brother in France. He declared me as his daughter. During that time he only had one child, 2 years old. He and the wife were so loving to me. I never lacked anything in their house.

But when I turned 12, I went to secondary school. I met some bad friends there. This is where the problem started.I became a very difficult child. I will go to school come home late. My uncle will beat and beat me but I never listened. I smoked my first cigarette at 12 and had my first sex at 13 and I started running away from home to stay with boyfriends. Sometimes I can go for a week and when uncle reporta me missing, the police will be looking for me, then they will bring me back home.

Then at 14 I went to school and lied to my teacher that my uncle was abusing me. I told them he was beating me with belts, electric wire, they don’t give me foods and I really said a lot of bad things about them doing to me to make my teacher believe my story so they could take me away from them because I wanted freedom and my teacher believed me and reported to the police and child protection, they are people who take away abused children from their parents. They took custody of me and my uncle three children, the youngest was 6 months old to their care and they gave us to this white lady to care for us and my uncle and wife were arrested for child abuse and the police were doing some investigation.

After spending 1yr 9 months in care of the white lady I dropped out school. They found out that I was a difficult child that I lied to get freedom so they have decided to give my uncle his children back to him while I stayed in care of white people but my uncle had sworn because I made him lost his children for 1yr 9 months that I will never found happiness in my life and I will never enjoy the fruit of my labour which it is true as I am typing this.

I have given birth to 6 children by 6 men and none of the children is living with me. The first one was taken away from me at 2 months old because I beat her up and fractured her hands and I also tested positive for heroinn (drugs), so that did not stop me from giving birth second child was removed from my care 4 hours after birth she also tested positive for heroin the same way my other children were removed at birth too so I carry on with my lifestyles. I did not care about my children at that time all I care about was sex, alcohol and drugs this is what I wanted and I have been to prison several times for selling drugs and fraudsters. The longest I have spent in prison was 2 years then after i left prison, I met with this sister who introduced me to this church she attended so I went along with her, the pastor told me to confess my sin to him and promised it will be a secret between I, him and God which I did repented and accepted Jesus as my saviour. To be honest, my life did changed a lot, I fell the peace in my heart , enjoyed going to church every Sunday but this pastor went tell his wife my life story and the wife told everyone in church my life story and started using it against me so it made me so angry that I left the church in November 2017 without looking back. I have decided not to attend any church again. I have stopped alcohol, taking drugs and sleeping with men I no longer do it. I prayed at home, read my bible and behaving good and it's almost 2 years I havnt slept with a man and i went to look for my uncle asking him for forgiveness but he has refused and I send him many text messages begging him to forgive and I still no heard anything from him or the wife even their children I have tried to ask them forgiveness they have blocked me and they all want nothing to do with me even my own parents and siblings in Africa they have rejected me, none of them want to talk to me, my parents said i am dead to them, it is so painful I cry everyday in my prayers, as for my children 4 of them are adopted with new family. I can't see them again maybe until they are 18 years old If they want to know me if they don't want I will have no choice to accept it and my 2 youngest children i am only allowed to see them once a year in a children play centre with someone supervise because they don't let me to be alone with them and soon I will stop visiting them because they are planning to adopt them to a new family too that will mean I will have nobody on this earth.

I regret my mistake so bad I wish I could change it but it will no be impossible. I can't have more children because they will be removed from me like the others and I am only 31years old. I don't know if my repentance was genius because my family has refused to forgive me and my question goes like this if they never forgive me will I ever found happiness again or I will just have to accept it until I died?

Please, advise me in a Christian way maybe if there's more I can do and also prayed for me so my family will be able to forgive me and also pray for my two children that nobody will adopt them so I can get custody of them and i promised to be a good mother to them, please I am begging you in the name of God.
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Darey85(m): 10:49pm On May 22, 2020
Let me first CONGRATULATE you for meeting the Lord. I am happy that Jesus has found you, this alone is worth more than your 6 children, parents and your uncle's love.
I also like to apologise on behalf of that pastor and the church members. They were simply incentive and made you almost return to your old life. That's the problem of men, we tend to find it difficult to forgive and love whole heartedly. Thank God Jesus never left you and He is the One behind your decision to your reading of the bible, praying and ensuring you continue devoting your time for His worship.

Let me assure you that Jesus has not finished with you, after restoring your life, He is going restore your joy too. He will definitely get you your children back. He will restore back your parent's and uncle's love towards you.
No matter how serious anyone's case may be when the person meets the Lord Jesus, Jesus can help such to get back all that he has lost. To man this is impossible, but to God all things are possible.

Stop seeking for advice from social media as many of them will attend to your issues without being sensitive to its nature and discourage you the more.
Concentrate more on your devotion to the Lord Jesus Christ who had given you the salvation. Please know that Jesus orchestrated it not the sister you met or the pastor that told you to confess to him. The pastor got it wrong by asking you to confess to him, you are to confess to God as only Him has the power to forgive sins.

Study Scriptures more, pray more and commit your issues to God in your prayer, sing and worship God more and as you continue in doing this more and more you will be overshadowed with God's light and He will reveal Himself to you more than you can ever imagine. And He will talk to you over His plans for your life. Please know that God has a plan for you and that is the reason for your salvation. That's is why He decided to save you from that life.

Then as you commit the hearts of your uncle and parents to God, God himself will deal with their hearts and they will find it easy to forgive you. The bible says the hearts of Kings and Princes belong to the Lord.
Don't listen to the lies of the devil that you cannot be loved again, or that you can never get your children back or that you cannot live a meaningful life again. Always counter all these evil thoughts with the word of God.

I pray for you, you will find more Grace, God will restore in full all that you've lost. God says I will show mercy unto whom I will show mercy unto, you have received God's mercy and that Mercy will continue to speak for in all fronts, France govt, your parents, uncle, your children etc.The Power of God will rest on you mightily and you will fulfil Divine purpose in Jesus mighty Name.

God bless you.


Yours In Christ,
'Dare

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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Nwaonyishi69: 10:49pm On May 22, 2020
Yet, at every opportunity, what we hear is ‹men are scumbags'. Well, reasoning is not that easy, anyways.

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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Sweetcho: 10:53pm On May 22, 2020
Divine89:

I have forgiven him already but I prefer praying at home because the humiliation I receive from people in church was too much , they judge me as if they have never sin in the whole life. Praying in my house as helped me a lot because I watched many Christian pastors and movies on YouTube my pray life has increased so much. I am the church not the building , I am living my life with the fear of God , I don’t hurt people anymore , I avoid people that will make me go back to my old lifestyle, I don’t smoke , drink , I don’t have boyfriends like before. I am grateful that God has given me a second chance and I will never go against him. I have faith that one day my children will be back with me which is possible for my 2 youngest but for my other 4 they are adopted it’s up to them to decide if they want me in their life , I prayed to God to give them a soft heart to forgive me and accept me as their mother especially my first daughter whom I hurts and injure when she was only 2 months old I prayed she will forgive me for everything I did to her

I have so much to say but will refrain.

The only useful advise I can give is make sure you update your details with the adoption agency and also make sure you keep a Facebook account so you are easily traceable. Finally do the dna test that traces family and keeps you on a database so as your children will be able to find you and hopefully each other. Did any of them get adopted together or all separately? Do any of them have Nigerian fathers?
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Nobody: 10:53pm On May 22, 2020
pat077:
Pourquoi n'écris-tu pas dans une langue que tout le monde ici comprend?
Et bien... c'est un problème?
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Deolamopapy(m): 10:54pm On May 22, 2020
Wow your story is touching. I know how you feel, just put hope on God he will not fail you, as you already confess your sins.
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by miriamchi(f): 10:57pm On May 22, 2020
Divine89:

Thank you very much for the prayer I receive and believe in Jesus name . I am hard working , i work 2 jobs cleaning, one in the morning and the other in the afternoon. As I am typing I am at my second job I will finish at 7pm
Send me a pm also if you don't mind.I have found a sister in you already so henceforth you are no longer alone.Funny enough i also speak french very well...so let's roll.Bon Chance!
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by nisco18ng(m): 10:58pm On May 22, 2020
The most important thing has been done,which is whole hearted repentance.
These i can assure you my dear, so long you NEVER go back to your vomit;
1. And I will restore to you the years that the locust hath eaten, the cankerworm, and the caterpiller, and the palmerworm, my great army which I sent among you. Saith the Lord.
2. Trust me, nothing makes God happier than seeing a sinner repent. Just live your life, not trying to prove to anyone that you've changed and NEVER be conscious of time (cos a day is like a thousand years before God and a thousand years like a day), just hold firmly unto your faith no matter how long it takes and EVERYTHING will fall in place. After repentance always comes the great test of faith/patience. You have to pass this test to overcome, for things to be restored.
How long this test will last? No one knows. Maybe a day, months, years, deacdes. Just hold FIRMLY to your faith and CERTAINLY, as long as God remaineth, in this lifetime you will SURELY see your children again and make peace with them whether or not you have custody.
Your family will have no choice but to accept you and forgive you. It's going to be a very tough one for your uncle, but he will SURELY forgive you before his death.
This is the God i know and these are his words to you.
Do you know what the best part is, God honors his words more than his name. In other words, God's word is more powerful than his name.
All you need to do to see this come to pass is to hold FIRMLY to your faith no matter the storms!
Channel all of your energy towards being a better person every day and you will be amazed!
PEACE BE UPON YOU!
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Grace2Grace(m): 10:59pm On May 22, 2020
My dear friend, what is done is done, you can't take back the hands of the clock. But you can still fulfill your destiny...

As we spoke now, no man can help you, so don't even look to man's direction.

ONLY JESUS CAN SAVE AND SEE YOU THROUGH,
ONLY JESUS CALLS THINGS THAT ARE NOT AS THOUGHVTHEY WERE.
ONLY JESUS GIVES A SECOND CHANCE.

Who said you can't have your children back??
Remember, the heart of kings lays with God, He can turn them wherever He likes.
Also remember, if God is for you, no man can be against you.

So my sista, its still in your hands, you wrote the first part of your story with unrighteousness as partner,

This time, you can partner with righteousness to rewrite your story....

The following scripture are truevand they are life. Meditate on them...

Matthaw 11: 28-30
Isaiah 1: 18-19
John 6: 37

" With God nothing shall be impossible. " Luke 1:37

Finally, no need to cry, Jesus did it for you on the cross of calvary, and it is finished.

Remember, " it is for this reason that the Son of Man was made manifest. "

Shalom.....!!!!
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by bukkysam(f): 10:59pm On May 22, 2020
Divine89:
Hello everybody. I am Nigerian based in France. My English it is not 100% perfect but I will try to make it possible for you to understand me with the help of google french to English translator and my story is also long sorry for that.

When I was 9 years old I joined my uncle, my mum's younger brother in France. He declared me as his daughter. During that time he only had one child, 2 years old. He and the wife were so loving to me. I never lacked anything in their house.

But when I turned 12, I went to secondary school. I met some bad friends there. This is where the problem started.I became a very difficult child. I will go to school come home late. My uncle will beat and beat me but I never listened. I smoked my first cigarette at 12 and had my first sex at 13 and I started running away from home to stay with boyfriends. Sometimes I can go for a week and when uncle reporta me missing, the police will be looking for me, then they will bring me back home.

Then at 14 I went to school and lied to my teacher that my uncle was abusing me. I told them he was beating me with belts, electric wire, they don’t give me foods and I really said a lot of bad things about them doing to me to make my teacher believe my story so they could take me away from them because I wanted freedom and my teacher believed me and reported to the police and child protection, they are people who take away abused children from their parents. They took custody of me and my uncle three children, the youngest was 6 months old to their care and they gave us to this white lady to care for us and my uncle and wife were arrested for child abuse and the police were doing some investigation.

After spending 1yr 9 months in care of the white lady I dropped out school. They found out that I was a difficult child that I lied to get freedom so they have decided to give my uncle his children back to him while I stayed in care of white people but my uncle had sworn because I made him lost his children for 1yr 9 months that I will never found happiness in my life and I will never enjoy the fruit of my labour which it is true as I am typing this.

I have given birth to 6 children by 6 men and none of the children is living with me. The first one was taken away from me at 2 months old because I beat her up and fractured her hands and I also tested positive for heroinn (drugs), so that did not stop me from giving birth second child was removed from my care 4 hours after birth she also tested positive for heroin the same way my other children were removed at birth too so I carry on with my lifestyles. I did not care about my children at that time all I care about was sex, alcohol and drugs this is what I wanted and I have been to prison several times for selling drugs and fraudsters. The longest I have spent in prison was 2 years then after i left prison, I met with this sister who introduced me to this church she attended so I went along with her, the pastor told me to confess my sin to him and promised it will be a secret between I, him and God which I did repented and accepted Jesus as my saviour. To be honest, my life did changed a lot, I fell the peace in my heart , enjoyed going to church every Sunday but this pastor went tell his wife my life story and the wife told everyone in church my life story and started using it against me so it made me so angry that I left the church in November 2017 without looking back. I have decided not to attend any church again. I have stopped alcohol, taking drugs and sleeping with men I no longer do it. I prayed at home, read my bible and behaving good and it's almost 2 years I havnt slept with a man and i went to look for my uncle asking him for forgiveness but he has refused and I send him many text messages begging him to forgive and I still no heard anything from him or the wife even their children I have tried to ask them forgiveness they have blocked me and they all want nothing to do with me even my own parents and siblings in Africa they have rejected me, none of them want to talk to me, my parents said i am dead to them, it is so painful I cry everyday in my prayers, as for my children 4 of them are adopted with new family. I can't see them again maybe until they are 18 years old If they want to know me if they don't want I will have no choice to accept it and my 2 youngest children i am only allowed to see them once a year in a children play centre with someone supervise because they don't let me to be alone with them and soon I will stop visiting them because they are planning to adopt them to a new family too that will mean I will have nobody on this earth.

I regret my mistake so bad I wish I could change it but it will no be impossible. I can't have more children because they will be removed from me like the others and I am only 31years old. I don't know if my repentance was genius because my family has refused to forgive me and my question goes like this if they never forgive me will I ever found happiness again or I will just have to accept it until I died?

Please, advise me in a Christian way maybe if there's more I can do and also prayed for me so my family will be able to forgive me and also pray for my two children that nobody will adopt them so I can get custody of them and i promised to be a good mother to them, please I am begging you in the name of God.
Continue asking for mercy

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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by olokolekan: 11:09pm On May 22, 2020
Sister, This your story, I really feel sympathy with you dear, I ll pray for you and the lord will Help you,,

i ll give you counsel by the spirit of God.....

Do the following....

1) Firstly forgive your Pastor and his wife that reported you

2) Go to a Church that has a branch in Nigeria ,,,, tell the Pastor your problem and tell him to help you with your family ,,,You want to make things right and you need your family forgiveness,,,,,So the church is going to communicate to the branch in Nigeria the village were your family are,,,

Let me tell you dear when a Pastor go and meet your Parent and explain the reason why they should forgive you, , things will work well....

3) and for your Uncle in France , He ll forgive you,,, Call a Pastor and elderly Man to Visit him at home and ask him for forgiveness, i will recommend that you do the Nigeria family first inorder for your people in Nigeria to also tell your uncle to forgive you.....

4) Sister concern your Children , i will recommend that you settle down,,, get a job,, get married,,,just be okay,,, you and your husband can meet the government to release your children, they may consider listen to you if they know you are very okay....

5) Lastly Forgive yourself, Psalm 37:4 Delight yourself in the LORD; And He will give you the desires of your heart. Christ did not condemn you...Love God,,,,be Happy,, dont worry about anything,,,,go back to church be Happy....God Love you, Jesus Love you, and the Holy-spirit want to have intimacy with you,,,I love you

I will like to here your testimony ......and your testimony will inspired Praise in Jesus Name....
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Adedoyin537(m): 11:34pm On May 22, 2020
Med oo
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Nobody: 11:34pm On May 22, 2020
My Advice:
Get a job, save a lot, go to a friendly church and pray a lot and, the most important, go to the support group, not only for to get the support for yourself but to teach teenagers to be better, teach with your own example and tell them to stay away from bad companies, help others and maybe God helps you and reunite you with your family and kids. Don't ask anything for yourself, give from your experience and from your heart.
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by nnono: 11:41pm On May 22, 2020
I was angry initially but I think everybody deserves a second chance,pray for forgiveness from your relatives.
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Ghostmode2two(m): 11:45pm On May 22, 2020
God has forgiven you truly but you will bear the consequences of your errors and short comings. Continue praying and reading your bible and I and sure one day you might see your kids again and gain the love of your family back even though you have hurt so many loved ones in your life. Sex is not everything.
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by uchmannn(m): 11:46pm On May 22, 2020
Divine89:
Hello everybody. I am Nigerian based in France. My English it is not 100% perfect but I will try to make it possible for you to understand me with the help of google french to English translator and my story is also long sorry for that.

When I was 9 years old I joined my uncle, my mum's younger brother in France. He declared me as his daughter. During that time he only had one child, 2 years old. He and the wife were so loving to me. I never lacked anything in their house.

But when I turned 12, I went to secondary school. I met some bad friends there. This is where the problem started.I became a very difficult child. I will go to school come home late. My uncle will beat and beat me but I never listened. I smoked my first cigarette at 12 and had my first sex at 13 and I started running away from home to stay with boyfriends. Sometimes I can go for a week and when uncle reporta me missing, the police will be looking for me, then they will bring me back home.

Then at 14 I went to school and lied to my teacher that my uncle was abusing me. I told them he was beating me with belts, electric wire, they don’t give me foods and I really said a lot of bad things about them doing to me to make my teacher believe my story so they could take me away from them because I wanted freedom and my teacher believed me and reported to the police and child protection, they are people who take away abused children from their parents. They took custody of me and my uncle three children, the youngest was 6 months old to their care and they gave us to this white lady to care for us and my uncle and wife were arrested for child abuse and the police were doing some investigation.

After spending 1yr 9 months in care of the white lady I dropped out school. They found out that I was a difficult child that I lied to get freedom so they have decided to give my uncle his children back to him while I stayed in care of white people but my uncle had sworn because I made him lost his children for 1yr 9 months that I will never found happiness in my life and I will never enjoy the fruit of my labour which it is true as I am typing this.

I have given birth to 6 children by 6 men and none of the children is living with me. The first one was taken away from me at 2 months old because I beat her up and fractured her hands and I also tested positive for heroinn (drugs), so that did not stop me from giving birth second child was removed from my care 4 hours after birth she also tested positive for heroin the same way my other children were removed at birth too so I carry on with my lifestyles. I did not care about my children at that time all I care about was sex, alcohol and drugs this is what I wanted and I have been to prison several times for selling drugs and fraudsters. The longest I have spent in prison was 2 years then after i left prison, I met with this sister who introduced me to this church she attended so I went along with her, the pastor told me to confess my sin to him and promised it will be a secret between I, him and God which I did repented and accepted Jesus as my saviour. To be honest, my life did changed a lot, I fell the peace in my heart , enjoyed going to church every Sunday but this pastor went tell his wife my life story and the wife told everyone in church my life story and started using it against me so it made me so angry that I left the church in November 2017 without looking back. I have decided not to attend any church again. I have stopped alcohol, taking drugs and sleeping with men I no longer do it. I prayed at home, read my bible and behaving good and it's almost 2 years I havnt slept with a man and i went to look for my uncle asking him for forgiveness but he has refused and I send him many text messages begging him to forgive and I still no heard anything from him or the wife even their children I have tried to ask them forgiveness they have blocked me and they all want nothing to do with me even my own parents and siblings in Africa they have rejected me, none of them want to talk to me, my parents said i am dead to them, it is so painful I cry everyday in my prayers, as for my children 4 of them are adopted with new family. I can't see them again maybe until they are 18 years old If they want to know me if they don't want I will have no choice to accept it and my 2 youngest children i am only allowed to see them once a year in a children play centre with someone supervise because they don't let me to be alone with them and soon I will stop visiting them because they are planning to adopt them to a new family too that will mean I will have nobody on this earth.

I regret my mistake so bad I wish I could change it but it will no be impossible. I can't have more children because they will be removed from me like the others and I am only 31years old. I don't know if my repentance was genius because my family has refused to forgive me and my question goes like this if they never forgive me will I ever found happiness again or I will just have to accept it until I died?

Please, advise me in a Christian way maybe if there's more I can do and also prayed for me so my family will be able to forgive me and also pray for my two children that nobody will adopt them so I can get custody of them and i promised to be a good mother to them, please I am begging you in the name of God.

I will advise u to visit Synagogue Church Of All Nations SCOAN in lagos, Nigeria. With faith, u shall receive all u asked for in prayers Mathew 21:22...visit SCOAN now!
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by elsom: 11:58pm On May 22, 2020
Walk with God not because you want your children back or your family. but do so because He is your source.
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Lorechino(m): 12:03am On May 23, 2020
Only God will give you the grace, I pray you find Favour in His sight, ,,, forget your past no matter how hard, just bear in mind that you have no one except your creator.
If this is real try contact me maybe there will be more.



Divine89:
Hello everybody. I am Nigerian based in France. My English it is not 100% perfect but I will try to make it possible for you to understand me with the help of google french to English translator and my story is also long sorry for that.

When I was 9 years old I joined my uncle, my mum's younger brother in France. He declared me as his daughter. During that time he only had one child, 2 years old. He and the wife were so loving to me. I never lacked anything in their house.

But when I turned 12, I went to secondary school. I met some bad friends there. This is where the problem started.I became a very difficult child. I will go to school come home late. My uncle will beat and beat me but I never listened. I smoked my first cigarette at 12 and had my first sex at 13 and I started running away from home to stay with boyfriends. Sometimes I can go for a week and when uncle reporta me missing, the police will be looking for me, then they will bring me back home.

Then at 14 I went to school and lied to my teacher that my uncle was abusing me. I told them he was beating me with belts, electric wire, they don’t give me foods and I really said a lot of bad things about them doing to me to make my teacher believe my story so they could take me away from them because I wanted freedom and my teacher believed me and reported to the police and child protection, they are people who take away abused children from their parents. They took custody of me and my uncle three children, the youngest was 6 months old to their care and they gave us to this white lady to care for us and my uncle and wife were arrested for child abuse and the police were doing some investigation.

After spending 1yr 9 months in care of the white lady I dropped out school. They found out that I was a difficult child that I lied to get freedom so they have decided to give my uncle his children back to him while I stayed in care of white people but my uncle had sworn because I made him lost his children for 1yr 9 months that I will never found happiness in my life and I will never enjoy the fruit of my labour which it is true as I am typing this.

I have given birth to 6 children by 6 men and none of the children is living with me. The first one was taken away from me at 2 months old because I beat her up and fractured her hands and I also tested positive for heroinn (drugs), so that did not stop me from giving birth second child was removed from my care 4 hours after birth she also tested positive for heroin the same way my other children were removed at birth too so I carry on with my lifestyles. I did not care about my children at that time all I care about was sex, alcohol and drugs this is what I wanted and I have been to prison several times for selling drugs and fraudsters. The longest I have spent in prison was 2 years then after i left prison, I met with this sister who introduced me to this church she attended so I went along with her, the pastor told me to confess my sin to him and promised it will be a secret between I, him and God which I did repented and accepted Jesus as my saviour. To be honest, my life did changed a lot, I fell the peace in my heart , enjoyed going to church every Sunday but this pastor went tell his wife my life story and the wife told everyone in church my life story and started using it against me so it made me so angry that I left the church in November 2017 without looking back. I have decided not to attend any church again. I have stopped alcohol, taking drugs and sleeping with men I no longer do it. I prayed at home, read my bible and behaving good and it's almost 2 years I havnt slept with a man and i went to look for my uncle asking him for forgiveness but he has refused and I send him many text messages begging him to forgive and I still no heard anything from him or the wife even their children I have tried to ask them forgiveness they have blocked me and they all want nothing to do with me even my own parents and siblings in Africa they have rejected me, none of them want to talk to me, my parents said i am dead to them, it is so painful I cry everyday in my prayers, as for my children 4 of them are adopted with new family. I can't see them again maybe until they are 18 years old If they want to know me if they don't want I will have no choice to accept it and my 2 youngest children i am only allowed to see them once a year in a children play centre with someone supervise because they don't let me to be alone with them and soon I will stop visiting them because they are planning to adopt them to a new family too that will mean I will have nobody on this earth.

I regret my mistake so bad I wish I could change it but it will no be impossible. I can't have more children because they will be removed from me like the others and I am only 31years old. I don't know if my repentance was genius because my family has refused to forgive me and my question goes like this if they never forgive me will I ever found happiness again or I will just have to accept it until I died?

Please, advise me in a Christian way maybe if there's more I can do and also prayed for me so my family will be able to forgive me and also pray for my two children that nobody will adopt them so I can get custody of them and i promised to be a good mother to them, please I am begging you in the name of God.
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by bskyb(m): 12:20am On May 23, 2020
It is good to know that you are back on your feet. Mistakes have been made, but you still have some time to make amends. Stay true to yourself, maintain a close relationship with God and listen NOT to the naysayers. There are some things you can not change, go out there and LIVE. You may yet find a good man (if you want to) and make a great family with your younger kids. Even the older ones may come looking for you.
All the best
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by d33types: 12:22am On May 23, 2020
Millenniumlady:
Go let them know you're a change person so you can get you children back......Child support is not something to joke about you can build/buy a house from the cheque you'll be receiving from their dad's annually

look at this b.astard. This is how you women take undue advantage of the innocent men...

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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by d33types: 12:25am On May 23, 2020
incogni2o:

pls forgive the pastor, remember forgive us our sins as we forgive those who trespass against us, let go of the hurt, it may even be the one delaying others forgiving you, you never know.

Sooner or Later, I promise you that you will have not just one, but all all your children back.

any child will always want to know his or her mum, it's pure human instinct, just prepare to meet them, they'll come one day. only prepare to be the opposite of what the government and their parents have painted you to be in their mind.

but you have to forget about them for now, focus on God, and Let God mold you. I believe you are broken, and broken people make the best vessels with what I have known with the way God works.

me that I am being patched here and there wished I could just be broken to some extent but every life is different.

I will leave you with this bible verse. Phil 1:6

Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ:

Amen.
Peace.



what does the bolded mean? Nobody painted anybody. It was what it was.
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by titusmichael27(m): 12:28am On May 23, 2020
wow! i really want to congratulate you for the opportunity you've got. for the mere fact that you're still breathing shows that God has a wonderful plan for you. remember the woman that was brought before Christ by the pharisee? john 8:1-12. so i would love you to put yourself in there, and imagine you before Christ. He's not condemning you but rather He said that you should go and sin no more. please contact an l.d.s church around you. they are very good in helping people through such situation. i'll love to know how you're doing with the missionary so you can reach on titusmichael27@gmail.com
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Slynation(m): 12:28am On May 23, 2020
Millenniumlady:
Go let them know you're a change person so you can get you children back......Child support is not something to joke about you can build/buy a house from the cheque you'll be receiving from their dad's annually
So if someone should sit you down and unleash this kinda life experience to you, the best thing your cranium can come up with is child support so as milk money from their fathers, not even taking consideration if...

1.She knows the actual man who got her pregnant

2.Whether the dads are still alive or their whereabout.. And many other factors i can't type...

Now judge yourself... Do you have sense??

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