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Re: Why Men Find It Hard Accepting Children Their Wives Had From Infidelity by Biglittlelois(f): 7:26pm On May 24, 2020 |
Romangalactic: When a person thinks that money solves all things, and sees it as an absolute fact, I see no need for a counter response anymore. 6 Likes |
Re: Why Men Find It Hard Accepting Children Their Wives Had From Infidelity by Nobody: 7:26pm On May 24, 2020 |
ibkayee:Doesnt still make sense to me. There is nothing like maternity fraud. A woman sure knows shes raising her own child aside the case of hospital mix ups. A man shouldn't be made to believe he is his the father of a child when he isn't. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Men Find It Hard Accepting Children Their Wives Had From Infidelity by ibkayee(f): 7:26pm On May 24, 2020 |
angelfallz:Nope |
Re: Why Men Find It Hard Accepting Children Their Wives Had From Infidelity by Kingarthur21: 7:37pm On May 24, 2020 |
Kuns84: Lol,you went so far with this? 3 Likes |
Re: Why Men Find It Hard Accepting Children Their Wives Had From Infidelity by Kingarthur21: 7:38pm On May 24, 2020 |
Romangalactic:stick to your opinion ,I will stick to mine. Have a nice day! 2 Likes |
Re: Why Men Find It Hard Accepting Children Their Wives Had From Infidelity by bukatyne(f): 7:40pm On May 24, 2020 |
rockstarB: 100% 2 Likes |
Re: Why Men Find It Hard Accepting Children Their Wives Had From Infidelity by bukatyne(f): 7:43pm On May 24, 2020 |
Kingarthur21: If you as a man does not understand the essence of family trees and DNA disruption as you put it, it is a shame. It is not 21st century gibberish, it is fact. 7 Likes |
Re: Why Men Find It Hard Accepting Children Their Wives Had From Infidelity by bukatyne(f): 7:44pm On May 24, 2020 |
Kuns84: Thank you. 1 Like |
Re: Why Men Find It Hard Accepting Children Their Wives Had From Infidelity by Nobody: 7:45pm On May 24, 2020 |
Kingarthur21:Congratulations. At least you're being wise. If you read my post well you will see I am not being biased. No man or woman should be forced or coarsed into raising a love child. My point only is that it would be easier for a man to raise a love child in a healthy way outside his marriage(if the wife wont file for divorce cos of that), than a woman. Its reality. |
Re: Why Men Find It Hard Accepting Children Their Wives Had From Infidelity by Mariangeles(f): 7:46pm On May 24, 2020 |
ibkayee: Who suffers most at the end? The product. |
Re: Why Men Find It Hard Accepting Children Their Wives Had From Infidelity by Nobody: 7:47pm On May 24, 2020 |
bukatyne:Dont mind him. For someone that did a DNA on his own child. If DNA disruption doesnt mean anything to him why did he do a DNA test on his own son? 2 Likes |
Re: Why Men Find It Hard Accepting Children Their Wives Had From Infidelity by Kingarthur21: 7:50pm On May 24, 2020 |
bukatyne:now I understand why ladies came for your head in the family section. I dont blame them for it. Talking of fact . I am a medical doctor,upper year I will be through with my residency and become a surgeon over here in Texas .So dont tell me what is fact and not fact. 8 Likes |
Re: Why Men Find It Hard Accepting Children Their Wives Had From Infidelity by Kingarthur21: 7:50pm On May 24, 2020 |
rockstarB:stop displaying your ignorance online 4 Likes |
Re: Why Men Find It Hard Accepting Children Their Wives Had From Infidelity by vandp: 7:53pm On May 24, 2020 |
Kingarthur21: Stop being a hypocrite. You do not need to paint all men on this forum bad just because you want to be regarded as the only decent man. Of course, I have always known you to be ubinja's disciple, even before you dropped your old monikers for this new one. Not all men on this forum are hypocrite like you, even though you are now trying so hard to appear decent for whatever hidden aim you have up your sleeve. I hate hypocrites. 6 Likes |
Re: Why Men Find It Hard Accepting Children Their Wives Had From Infidelity by bukatyne(f): 7:55pm On May 24, 2020 |
Kingarthur21: I am struggling to understand how your post is in any way connected to mine. First, I did not mention money in my post; it was very deliberate. Second, I stated why love children from men are different from love children from women. By now, you should realize I don't argue theories from thin air or to be woke online. I have not seen a woman confess about a love child (not one bore before marriage) before. It is either she pins the baby on the husband or aborts it. Let's even go with your scenario and say a woman confesses a love child while the husband is away for a period of time. Except you want to be funny, you will acknowledge that the effect of pregnancy on a woman is different from a man. If the man is back home before she delivers, who will care for her? After she births the baby, who will bear the emotional cost of catering for her and the new born? Who would come to do Omugwo? In which house? Where would the wife nurse the babe? Now talk of the wife getting her body back in shape. Imagine the lover's child left stretch marks on her tummy. So the husband would bear the new body his wife acquired carrying the child of a lover? Please come back to earth. As long as a woman bears the responsibility of pregnancy and infant child care, a wife getting pregnant out of an affair WILL ALWAYS BE DIFFERENT from a husband getting a woman pregnant. Each gender have their 'peculiarities.' 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Men Find It Hard Accepting Children Their Wives Had From Infidelity by Kingarthur21: 7:55pm On May 24, 2020 |
rockstarB:I never objected to this,I debunked the Op stance that once he drops money it settles it. I also debunked the Op stance that motherly grooming,nurturing and affection is lesser than providing money. I also debunked your stance on family tree and DNA gibberish You and kuns84 interpreted it in your own way 3 Likes |
Re: Why Men Find It Hard Accepting Children Their Wives Had From Infidelity by bukatyne(f): 7:58pm On May 24, 2020 |
rockstarB: That is humans for you. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Men Find It Hard Accepting Children Their Wives Had From Infidelity by Jullima(f): 7:59pm On May 24, 2020 |
rockstarB:Looolll so when a man has a child outside his own child is not a ‘bastar**d’ but a woman’s outside child is a ‘bastar***d’?? Also, so you’re saying children with different father but same mother aren’t siblings but children with same father but different mother are siblings?? If the mother drops her outside child with the father is she still welcomed in the marriage? Lmfao 17 Likes |
Re: Why Men Find It Hard Accepting Children Their Wives Had From Infidelity by Nobody: 8:00pm On May 24, 2020 |
Kingarthur21:Stop forming woke either. You called my concept of DNA disruption and family tree archaic, yet you did a DNA test on your child, just to be sure he is truly yours, and he is in no way being a false member of your family tree. We are on the same side, you can as well say we should both stop displaying our ignorance 4 Likes |
Re: Why Men Find It Hard Accepting Children Their Wives Had From Infidelity by Jullima(f): 8:01pm On May 24, 2020 |
Kingarthur21:Lol They didn’t come for her head they did the same thing you’re doing now, quoting their different opinions. That people do on NL in everrry thread. You can now see how cunning bukatyne is, she totally changed the topic of what the OP is talking about to paternal fraud when she KNOWS the OP is making a case why people should accept an outside child of a man but would tell the husband to divorce the wife if she’s caught with an outside child. Now she is kikikking with people bullying you for your own opinion. 19 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Why Men Find It Hard Accepting Children Their Wives Had From Infidelity by bukatyne(f): 8:01pm On May 24, 2020 |
Kingarthur21: What has being a MD got to do with the fact a woman committing paternity fraud disrupts the family tree and DNA of the family? Goodbye, no time for irrationality. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Men Find It Hard Accepting Children Their Wives Had From Infidelity by bukatyne(f): 8:02pm On May 24, 2020 |
rockstarB: Permit to laugh small. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Men Find It Hard Accepting Children Their Wives Had From Infidelity by Nobody: 8:12pm On May 24, 2020 |
Jullima:1) Bastard children are called omo ale where I come from. And it means a child a woman has with her concubine. Bastard children dont come from a man, as long as that child carrys the DNA of the said man, then the child is his blood and not a bastard. Regardless of the woman that has the child for him. If you're yoruba go and ask your elders. Different cultures have their beliefs about this, but this is my own and I hold on to it. 2)Both cases, the kids are siblings. Half siblings. 3)That is totally up to both partners. 1 Like |
Re: Why Men Find It Hard Accepting Children Their Wives Had From Infidelity by Mariangeles(f): 8:13pm On May 24, 2020 |
Jullima: Be realistic, this is Africa where the father gives the child an identity! It might not matter in other parts of the world, but in Africa, a child who does not know who his father is, not to talk of his family roots, is termed a bastard. 6 Likes |
Re: Why Men Find It Hard Accepting Children Their Wives Had From Infidelity by Jullima(f): 8:18pm On May 24, 2020 |
Lmfao at the attempts of people trying to change the topic of the OP to paternity fraud even when the OP has come on the thread to clarify that he meant when it’s open that both cheated and they they both have children from the affairs. This thread started from another thread, someone asking the OP if he can accept an outside child if his wife cheated and he knows, since he’s asking an OP to accept the children of her husband from another woman. Changing the topic to something you’re more comfortable talking about or trying to avoid the question of an obvious double standard is funny to see. 18 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Men Find It Hard Accepting Children Their Wives Had From Infidelity by Nobody: 8:19pm On May 24, 2020 |
Jullima:Blame the Nigerian culture and religion. The child answers whose name? The father. And here who is the father, def not the woman's husband. So the child don't belong to the family. U see baby mamas giving their children the surnames of their baby daddies. Why? Cos at the right time, the child will get to know his father and become part of him. A woman can't get pregnant by another man while married and make the child bear the name of her husband. If it's known, the real father will come for his child whether the woman want it or not. He don't belong to that family. Then again, unless there is an agreement e.g., if the man is sterile etc. My culture allows that and the child is protected by the laws of the land. If it's children before marriage, it's understandable and there is always an agreement before saying i do. Na our society. It's even more of cultural than religious. 1 Like |
Re: Why Men Find It Hard Accepting Children Their Wives Had From Infidelity by Nobody: 8:21pm On May 24, 2020 |
Archaic posts everywhere.... |
Re: Why Men Find It Hard Accepting Children Their Wives Had From Infidelity by Jullima(f): 8:23pm On May 24, 2020 |
Mariangeles:What are you typing?? Did you even read what I typed? The topic is children from known affairs. The love child of a woman knows his/her father and he isn’t a bastard (he knows his father) because the woman is the cheat. Stop projecting your archaic culture on the rest of Africa, that your culture would call a love child from a woman a bastard and would not do so from a man is not so for the rest of Nigeria sef not to talk of a whole continent. 15 Likes |
Re: Why Men Find It Hard Accepting Children Their Wives Had From Infidelity by bukatyne(f): 8:26pm On May 24, 2020 |
sassysure: Sassy, Let's put culture aside and look at nature: I said this in another post: Except you want to be funny, you will acknowledge that the effect of pregnancy on a woman is different from a man. If the man is back home before she delivers, who will care for her? After she births the baby, who will bear the emotional cost of catering for her and the new born? Who would come to do Omugwo? In which house? Where would the wife nurse the babe? Now talk of the wife getting her body back in shape. Imagine the lover's child left stretch marks on her tummy. So the husband would bear the new body his wife acquired carrying the child of a lover? If we are debating a husband and wife cheating without children involved, that's another discussion. 2 Likes |
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