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Re: Was My Childhood Effeminacy The Reason For My Homosexuality by RichieMichie: 11:31pm On Jun 13, 2020 |
HuntSon: Sadly, he's been at it for years, I have been seeing this pathetic display of self hate for long. I'd definitely pray for him this night, e don do 1 Like |
Re: Was My Childhood Effeminacy The Reason For My Homosexuality by HuntSon(m): 11:33pm On Jun 13, 2020 |
RichieMichie: Very pathetic! He's telling the Heteros so they can clap for him ....I've been through this stage 1 Like |
Re: Was My Childhood Effeminacy The Reason For My Homosexuality by HuntSon(m): 11:35pm On Jun 13, 2020 |
ehmmy11: You're born homophobic...who fucking cares?? Stop jumping from here to there...."let everyone do what they like but I'm homophobic" like the f"k niqqa?? Una dey fear?? Be homophobic with ur chest! 1 Like |
Re: Was My Childhood Effeminacy The Reason For My Homosexuality by HuntSon(m): 11:38pm On Jun 13, 2020 |
Ekemeze: Like why are Heteros this dumb?? Rape and paedophilia is about CONSENT and everyone one on earth understands this! Why sounding like you are homophobic because they didn't allow you rape that girl or touch that kid?? 3 Likes |
Re: Was My Childhood Effeminacy The Reason For My Homosexuality by RichieMichie: 11:40pm On Jun 13, 2020 |
HuntSon: The majority of us had internalize homophobia while growing up because of the toxic clime, but God forbid I did 1 tenth of the foolery Durentt has been displaying for more than 4 years now on Nairaland. 3 Likes |
Re: Was My Childhood Effeminacy The Reason For My Homosexuality by HuntSon(m): 11:46pm On Jun 13, 2020 |
RichieMichie: Yeah! You're absolutely right. We had internalized homophobia during our naive days cos of the toxic environment and these homophobes! I pray he definitely come to realization and be at peace with himself 1 Like |
Re: Was My Childhood Effeminacy The Reason For My Homosexuality by Ekemeze: 6:53am On Jun 14, 2020 |
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Re: Was My Childhood Effeminacy The Reason For My Homosexuality by Ekemeze: 6:59am On Jun 14, 2020 |
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Re: Was My Childhood Effeminacy The Reason For My Homosexuality by Ptolemy22: 7:54am On Jun 14, 2020 |
Durentt: I saw your post and the comments that came and I couldn't help but laugh and also feel sorry for you. A question like this is not for Nairaland boys to answer. If you're on Facebook, search for Kito Diaries, it is a page and lots of persons there will answer you better. You can also visit sexuality section as I recall seeing a guy talking about his Homosexuality proudly over there. Your years as an effeminate kid did nothing to you, you are as gay today, as the day you were born. Porn did nothing to you and neither are you possessed, you're just too blessed in ways you don't understand yet. Stay safe, strong and sane out there. Their are lots of people who will want to make you feel bad about yourself, but you should never give in to that. There is nothing wrong about being gay, and there is nothing wrong about questioning or doubting your sexuality too. I pray you see the light real soon. 5 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Was My Childhood Effeminacy The Reason For My Homosexuality by Nobody: 9:06am On Jun 14, 2020 |
Ptolemy22:thanks 1 Like |
Re: Was My Childhood Effeminacy The Reason For My Homosexuality by HuntSon(m): 3:20pm On Jun 14, 2020 |
Ekemeze: I told you before hetero...fagget is old and stale, stop boring me out! Use Google for new synonyms. I don't entertain slow and medieval mentalities 1 Like |
Re: Was My Childhood Effeminacy The Reason For My Homosexuality by HuntSon(m): 3:22pm On Jun 14, 2020 |
Ekemeze: Someone who Can't understand the concept of consent and sexuality in 2020 is talking about therapy. Isn't God great? 1 Like |
Re: Was My Childhood Effeminacy The Reason For My Homosexuality by Hypnotise: 3:22pm On Jun 14, 2020 |
Durentt:When last did you fukk pussy |
Re: Was My Childhood Effeminacy The Reason For My Homosexuality by HuntSon(m): 3:23pm On Jun 14, 2020 |
Hypnotise: Fucking pssy has nothing to do with sexuality. Use the internet oga |
Re: Was My Childhood Effeminacy The Reason For My Homosexuality by HuntSon(m): 3:27pm On Jun 14, 2020 |
Ptolemy22: Thank you for this brother. This is not a conversation for Nairaland boys! 4 Likes |
Re: Was My Childhood Effeminacy The Reason For My Homosexuality by Hypnotise: 3:27pm On Jun 14, 2020 |
HuntSon:I asked that to maybege can change his mind and how can you say fucking pssy has nothing to do with sexuality. What is sex? |
Re: Was My Childhood Effeminacy The Reason For My Homosexuality by HuntSon(m): 3:31pm On Jun 14, 2020 |
Hypnotise: That's not how it works man. Sex is just pleasure. Being gay is far from that. A straight guy may engage in anal sex with a guy but will never see a guy as a sexual or romantic companion or spouse or as a gay guy see another guy. A gay guy may Bleep pssy but will never see a lady as a sexual or romantic companion/spouse, or the same light a straight guy sees a lady. Hope you get? 4 Likes |
Re: Was My Childhood Effeminacy The Reason For My Homosexuality by Onliie(m): 7:40pm On Jun 14, 2020 |
Durentt:WhatsApp me on 08153046090 |
Re: Was My Childhood Effeminacy The Reason For My Homosexuality by Ptolemy22: 5:57am On Jun 17, 2020 |
Hypnotise:Are you offering your mom ? 3 Likes |
Re: Was My Childhood Effeminacy The Reason For My Homosexuality by Hypnotise: 2:25pm On Jun 17, 2020 |
Ptolemy22:You can offer your mom. Bastard. |
Re: Was My Childhood Effeminacy The Reason For My Homosexuality by MrCanceller: 8:05am On Jun 22, 2020 |
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Re: Was My Childhood Effeminacy The Reason For My Homosexuality by MrCanceller: 8:06am On Jun 22, 2020 |
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Re: Was My Childhood Effeminacy The Reason For My Homosexuality by MrCanceller: 8:06am On Jun 22, 2020 |
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Re: Was My Childhood Effeminacy The Reason For My Homosexuality by PattyMike(m): 9:25am On Jun 26, 2020 |
Durentt: Do you want the honest truth? Acceptance! You're are struggling because you are struggling to accept your identity. Even if you castrate yourself, you will still be sexually attracted to men just minus the urge. Nature is strange, there are queer animals too and not just humans. Personally I can't look at gay porn or a gay sexual picture. It will revolt me and when I close my eyes I will keep seeing the image. Sexual exposure from a young age I think is the cause. For example I was molested sexually at age 6 (can't call it rape cus I don't remember a penetration). The gal was 12 or 13 and it made me try it out sexually with others infact I kept doing it will other spoilt children until I was about 16. Just normal mummy and daddy cloth on cloth shyte. I had a very high libido and I still do, and till now I am very highly sexually attracted to older women, like women of 30-45 arouse me very very quickly even just by sight. Sure I like younger gals too but not with the same passion of older experienced women, my reason is for their sexual experience majorly. Imagine being aroused by fallen breast, stupid big wide hips and ass. Now back to you, think well and clear far back. Someone must have tried it with you when u were a child or you tried it with someone play play and found it pleasurable. Some queer guys I knew said they started from boarding school, school father and all that starting playing with them and sucking their dvck and they grew into it and couldn't stop. A friend of mine here said he started doing it for money with one banker who gave him 10k after sex (the banker was bottom and the guy was top) and then he met others who would do one round with him for 5k. It got to a point where he preferred sex with men, he said it was so bad if he slept near a male friend all him anus go just dey wet like pvssy. Now he's back to having sex with women but I'm very sure if he gets a very good offer he will offer his bombom again. Again back to you, I dunno if you're a virgin but try having sex with a woman, if the pleasure is the same then u can try changing one pleasure for the other. Or if it's not as satisfying then find a gay guy and make una dey live una life low low, just have money u will see them wella. It is your cross and u have to carry it, you can't change it don't waste your time trying. If u have never had sex with a man then have it with a woman and try to be content with a female body. The thing is do what works best for you, don't rape or molest, don't have straight or gay sex without consent and always use protection especially for gay sex. Live your sexual life codedly cus it's against the law here or save up and go abroad where u can practice your sexuality without prejudice. Nothing is wrong with you, it's just nature. |
Re: Was My Childhood Effeminacy The Reason For My Homosexuality by HuntSon(m): 11:41am On Jun 26, 2020 |
PattyMike: You started well but ended up badly! Sex is different from sexuality which is also different from addiction. Even if a gay guy refuses to have same sex, it doesn't take away the attraction. Lots of gay men like me for example, have heterosexual sex and watch straight porn, but it's just what it is... Pleasure! We can't be romantically or emotionally involved with women like you straights do and that's just it. A straight guy who may have anal with the same sex may get addicted to it but it still won't make him see men as an emotional companion like gays do and vice versa. If being gay was just about the sex, then alot of gay men would have been converted with a vagina. But it's more than that! Nowadays heterosexuals has reduced their sexuality to mere sexual adventures, that's why homosexuality repulses y'all cos the first thing you picture is SEX. Your friend who offers sexual services for gratification is just a greedy fellow. I wonder where this narrative of boarding schools grooming homosexuals came from, why hasn't mixed schools make homosexuals straight?? This guy's problem is that he's making it more difficult for himself by denying himself and coupled with the fact that he's very addicted to porn! We don tell am tire Btw i noticed your nice points and contributions, thank you. 1 Like |
Re: Was My Childhood Effeminacy The Reason For My Homosexuality by PattyMike(m): 1:08pm On Jun 26, 2020 |
HuntSon: True true I didn't look at it from the emotional level cus most gay men I met were more concerned with the sex. The first was a guy on Facebook told me plain and clean that he wants to f me and I was like guy what's your problem, I am straight. The second one was an old friend the guy was actually pressing his erection on my bum, I almost got physical with this guy but he apologized and we moved on. But looking at it from your point of view it must be frustrating to love and not have that feeling returned. Imagine falling in love with a straight man. Yeah zikky nah animal, sexual satisfaction for money especially when you're straight. According to him he had to take enough alcohol before the act. I have never actually met a gay man who was looking for love, most just want to realize the fantasy of gay sex. Anyway kudos to you guys for hanging on, I can't imagine how difficult it must be emotionally for y'all. |
Re: Was My Childhood Effeminacy The Reason For My Homosexuality by HuntSon(m): 1:33pm On Jun 26, 2020 |
PattyMike: Yeah. You're absolutely correct, both heterosexuals and homosexuals have reduced their sexualities to mere sexual relations. I can understand for the gays cos their sexuality is not openly celebrated and most gays are on the down low. So that's why they just wanna satisfy themselves and move on with the available gay person they see coupled with the excessive porn they see. We grew up to see straight men as the standard that's y most gays esp when young used to fantasize about them(esp bottoms) but I'm glad the society is advancing to where you can hook up with someone of the same sexuality. It used to be very emotionally difficult like you said. For me, once i discover you're straight or pretending to be one now, its a huge NO and turn off for me. We're many, me for example, i only want a relationship built on love, that's y i turn down most advances cos they just want sex. It annoys me alot to see homophobes reduce my sexuality to mere sex cos they do it with heterosexuality. I apologise for the harrasment you've received in the past, not all queers are like that. |
Re: Was My Childhood Effeminacy The Reason For My Homosexuality by PattyMike(m): 2:45pm On Jun 26, 2020 |
HuntSon: Nah bro. The harassment thing is all water under the bridge. Probably they mistook my curiosity for interest or consent and probably thought I was queer too. As at then the queer concept was new, strange to me and I wanted to know know and know. I was not satisfied with research online. Even went as far as asking personal questions, honestly it was intriguing about a whole different side of nature. For example I didn't know there are queer animals too. I needed to understand what the phenomenon was and why people hated it and all. Whatever I faced was nothing compared to the personal experience and little knowledge I gained. Like, when I talked about the boarding school situation. Of the four guys I asked, two were molested in boarding school and admitted that they don't have any sexual attraction whatsoever to a woman (like no erection) talkless of love. The other one was molested too but with the son of a family friend who was in boarding school that one went on for years until they relocated. The one nah bingo, serial umm (do we call him a manizer? ). Then the last guy was just attracted to boys from the onset. He dated a girl for a while due to family and peer pressure but described the sex like eating white rice with no stew or salt (he would just put in his semi flaccid pen!s and lie that he has erectile dysfunction) lol. And the love was onesided, he liked her but he just couldn't love her. He enjoyed spending time with her but dreaded intimacy. She was the first person he came out to and was very supportive, although nah naija girl but she spent most of her life in London. I think the worst thing a queer person can do is try to change or hate him or herself for what they are. But then what do I know about how it feels to be seen as an abomination especially in Nigeria. Very insensitive people in this country. 1 Like |
Re: Was My Childhood Effeminacy The Reason For My Homosexuality by HuntSon(m): 3:09pm On Jun 26, 2020 |
PattyMike: I can sense you're very active reader. The worst thing a queer person can try to do is try to change and hate yourself. When you try to change and it doesn't work out, you'll slowly be inching towards suicide and all manners or depressing thoughts...bliv me I've been there countlessly before accepting myself brought me peace. That's why i never entertain homophobia in any way! 1 Like |
Re: Was My Childhood Effeminacy The Reason For My Homosexuality by Onuhgabriel(m): 5:25am On Jul 12, 2020 |
HuntSon: Goat inform of human |
Re: Was My Childhood Effeminacy The Reason For My Homosexuality by HuntSon(m): 4:36pm On Jul 12, 2020 |
Onuhgabriel: You came late bro |
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