sassysure:

How many of them are divorced?
And who told you they are sad?

DontBullshitMe:
Women are in marriage for money.

worworbabe:
Most people talk about money in reference to the man's money.

All I know is, I am happy spending my own money. I am much happier knowing that my own money can get me most of the things I want.

When my husband spends, it's a plus. Most of the things that make me happy in my marriage aren't because of money. I was making good money even before I met my man.

ibkayee:
I don't think it's the only way to be happy at all, so your sister and her husband's situation isn't that uncommon.

But there's a possibility that having it would make them substantially happier, assuming money is the only thing that changes in their marriage because money and power change what people can literally afford to do and how they act, and a change in attitude and movement brought on by the money could be what impacts the level of happiness or being happy at all, not necessarily the money itself, but what it brings along with it

That saying, whilst I don't think it's enough on its own to bring absolute happiness, most people would probably cry in a Ferrari than on a bike. It's an important/helpful factor but not enough to bring total happiness to a marriage, there are also many other factors that contribute to a 'happy' marriage

But for the most part, at the end of the day it depends on what you're looking for

RealMrNigerD:

You just scrambling all over the place on this simple question like a fish out of water and in the end, we and even you yourself probably, can't exactly tell where you stand.
Now catch your breath and in a simple sentence, try again.

DontBullshitMe:
Women are in marriage for money.

Biglittlelois:




Mostly true, but there are also men who have next to nothing in marriages that don't also respect women, so it is relative.

sassysure:
Poor people have maids.
They subscribe to dstv or gotv.
The things u listed are not attributes of rich people alone.

U have to define what u mean by being married to rich man.

A man earning 150k with wife earning 80 to 100k monthly are rich going by your description.
Also, lots of rich people drive themselves.

Stop assessing people with this.


There are men who naturally don't have competitive spirit. If they marry a kindred spirit, they are comfortable and ok. It's who they are and their beliefs that determine their level of happiness.

A guy who love the good things of life and work extensively to get them with a wife who is equally materialist like him will no doubt enjoy their riches to the max.

It's all about compatibility. U will only have problem when Mr A goes for the lady who doesn't believe in his ideology or miss A going for an opposite to who she is.

In as much as we all love money so much in Nigeria, I have come across people who don't care about millions and billions.
I have also come across grand parents who have been in money all through their lives and still oozing out love.
Find your spec. Simple. It's never a competition.

walkwithgod:
There is nothing like true love in a Nigerian woman's dictionary. The day you loose your job / stop earning...she takes the next flight.

Hypergamy is the name of the game, that's just how things work over here.

If you want to get married, at least have a job / side hustle...make she sef get her own cause naija no funny one bit.

People say 'money isn't everything' and I tell them to have lots of it before saying such nonsense.

Mstick:
It's doesn't bring happiness but lack of it also doesn't bring happiness either. Like everything in life there must be a balance.

I've not seen a couple dancing Indian dance when their property is being thrown into the street by their landlord .

patani:


Ratio?

Biglittlelois:



I don't do guess work, so it doesn't matter, the most important thing is that they exist.

Mstick:
It's doesn't bring happiness but lack of it also doesn't bring happiness either. Like everything in life there must be a balance.

I've not seen a couple dancing Indian dance when their property is being thrown into the street by their landlord.

DontBullshitMe:
Women are in marriage for money.

I know money brings COMFORT in all form, marriage inclusive but does it bring HAPPINESS along?
Like does being married to a man rich automatically makes a woman a happy woman? Will it make the marriage a happy marriage? A happy home for the kids etc. I know the wife of a rich man would quite be comfortable compared to that of a low income earner.

She can easily outsource whatever she needs thereby making her comfortable in her home. From washing machine, maids, full dstv subscription, driver, Gateman, shopping, vacation and all good things that money can buy; does all these bring true happiness?

When a distance sister of mine got married to her husband years ago, we were definitely not too happy for her. We thought she'd suffer in a marriage without finance. The truth is they still have finance issues till now, but not something beyond their power.
It's close to 10 years now and I realise she is happy there, herself and her husband are low income earners yet they found happiness in each other. See her looking younger than her age with two kids to show for it.

I have also come to realise(from observation) that most times, it's likely for a woman to eventually marry a low or average income earner(as against the illusion of a millionaire husband). As long as the woman has something doing, they usually end up doing well. You see them looking better than they were when they both got married lol
Seems like a good marriage brings out the beauty of both sexes, little wonder why young ladies dont mind dating married men

So married men and women, what is your take on this? Does money bring happiness in marriage? Is finance all about the comfort it can bring?
Let singles like me learn something new