Romangalactic:


Today you're a man, some days ago you were a woman looking for a tall dark young man.

Hermaphrodite, don't go and find something to do you hear?

pocohantas:


The unfortunate one that ends up with you. Such is life...

anslem04:




ALOL.!! now i feel like i am on the ring with a woman.

Gloriagee:
You nko. Abi u no sabi pray

eyinjuege:


Don't be retarded
Perhaps if you weren't blinded by your sentiments and opened your eyes to look, see and understand what the OP has written.
Her very first sentence agrees with me that her mother has always been toxic towards them since childhood, and OP rationalised it by saying its because her parents marriage broke down due to them looking for a boy child.
OP herself said mum has always been negative, toxic and unsupportive right from their childhood.
She knows her mother better than anyone on here.
Someone that didn't love her own daughters because they were born female is incapable of truly loving her female grandaughters. Her grandsons on the other hand will be over-pampered and spoilt rotten. The young girls will only grow up with low self esteem and feeling of unworthiness.
OP has a duty to protect her girls from toxic people, and I hope she doesnt fail in that responsibility.
may you be blessed with such a character as OPs mother in your life.

Unnerve:

Ok dear, you were right and I am sorry.

She should disown her mother and never speak to her again or let her children anywhere near her. She should also not attend her funeral when she dies.

sassysure:
It's even females that take care of their aged parents more.

There is one thing we don't understand. Male children tend to loose their names actually in family tree.

E.g., my husband's name is emeka, his dad is ugochukwu, their surname is Obi. Now check out who is actually the obi, it will be like 6th or 8th generation. So what happened to the sons after obi to my husband's name? All gone to oblivion. Nobody recognises them anymore.

As time goes on, I'm changing the surname of my kids to their fathers name. I asked him about the name of the man they bear and he couldn't give me any answer. Can't give my kids name they don't have any relationship with.

So are we really preserving the names of the males in the family?

Some part of my family have started answering their fathers names. People know them as children of Mr A of B and C family, C being the surname we were known with while B is the name of the man who gave birth to A. Maybe in another 2 generations, the present B and C will be replaced with new ones. That way, people are not easily forgotten as soon as they did, and you can trace your genealogy easily.
I noticed this is becoming common in my place.

jaksmillioniar:
am not d one facing attack and am not d one DAT carry baby.a woman understand her body

bukatyne:


Urbanization and individualistic living has watered down the cultural 'advantages' of having a male child.

For we Yorubas that a child may never step foot in the village more than twice, of what use is a man/female child to 'take care' of your house like in the olden days?

And if the surname doesn't ring a bell or isn't a notable one, who cares? Enter Ogun state and shout 'Adesina' if 10,000 unrelated people would not respond back.

Each person should instead work towards building enduring legacies (not everyone can/will) for remembrance.

Titi03:


Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to speak low of his disabled son.
However, it's glaringly obvious that Otedola only shows off his female children (Cuppy and Teni).
I'm sure most people don't even know he has a son and if we are honest with ourselves we know why!

pocohantas:


You are trying so hard. Someone perfectly captured your person- IGNORANT. Take a break from countering me, you keep falling flat on your face.

anslem04:


You can't redirect me buh keep trying ...for the bolded i won't read meanings to it, cos am not done.

anslem04:



Apparently OP husband has no reason to think like men on forbes list, a name without continuity is as lifeless as "Remembrance" denotes. when these men are long gone "who will represent "gates" "bryant" "obama 50yrs time lemme guest daugthers with another man last names, obama becums other names, sebi you fill jamb form.
LOL ! see mumu, i expect to see names of women that had there father's name behind their husband's name, dangote, jonathan, atiku, buhari daughters are married .. google there last name as mrs, hyphenate my burnt ass.
A life without representation is as inanimate as the word " remembrance" every man needs a heir to keep his line. name is - line + , one will alway bring life without d other put a tester on it
Should we also be aware of feminist, the real ones dress to work like men tho! many are hideous lesbians

blessedaunty:


People with this kind of mentality are the reason why Africa is so backward. When you think, you amount to nothing when you don't have a male child. It is so unfortunate.

pocohantas:


With displaying your stupidity- obviously yes.

wisdomiskey:



Your boyfriend Mynd4 will not see anything wrong with this comment of yours but if someone points out the fact that you're 38 years old with the mentality of a retarded 10year old now, comments will start vanishing.

cc. anslem04

pocohantas:


With displaying your stupidity- obviously yes.

pocohantas:


Same way my bf hasn’t seen Anslem04’s comment. Show my bf both...

sassysure:

I really love this.
This male child of a thing is a pandemic in igboland. The sole reason we have baby factory everywhere.

Culture evolves. Though it may take time but we are getting there slowly. They are seriously o erhauling all these cultural practices that put husband and wife in bondage or a family as a whole.

bukatyne:


Culture/Society is made up of people and people would always hold on to what makes sense to them.

I know some people with two girls and fine; I know about three families who have just one child (girl) and have stopped birthing kids. And I know others who have two/three girls and are very uneasy like they have an issue.

Someone even told me that her marriage greatly improved as soon as she had her son.

People should just find their level jare.

Leshurr:
Right from childhood my mother has always been very toxic, negative and unsupportive towards me and my elder sister. We were the only two kids she ever had with my father and their marriage packed up because he wasn't happy with the fact that she didn't bear him a son. I get the impression that she secretly resents us for being girls and that's why she treats us terribly.

I got married 7 years ago and had a daughter shortly after.. when I did the scan and we found that it's a girl, my mother drove all the way to my house and laid hands on my tummy declaring and demanding that the gender must be transformed to a boy in Jesus name. I was so upset and humiliated as she did this in the presence of my husband. Of course her prayers didn't work and I gave birth to a girl - and I've recieved little to no support from her in the raising of my daughter.

Now fast-forward to this pregnancy, from day one when I told my mother I had concieved again, she showed no enthusiasm and simply said "it better be a boy this time"..

I felt so sad and dejected, and so worried of the amount of criticism i would get from my mother.. coupled with the fear of my husband being unhappy if it turns out to be another girl.. so when it was time, I went to do the gender scan alone.. lo and behold, the doctor told me it's another girl.. my world shattered and I spent the rest of the day just driving around town crying... whilst my mother kept blowing up my phone throughout the day to find out the gender but I ignored her calls. When I got home my husband asked me the gender and I lied and said it wasn't clear. He suggested we do another scan but I kept avoiding it.

Till date I'm the only one who knows the gender and I'm due in two weeks. My mother still keeps calling pressuring me that I must deliver a boy this time.

I'm so depressed and haven't been motivated to do any baby shopping.. I just feel like I'd be felt sorry for by my friends and will be ridiculed by my mother if this child does turn out to be another girl.

sassysure:

I love to respect people's culture but in this, I'm strongly against my people as it has destroyed many homes and people. We should do away with it jor.

bukatyne:


It is not the culture, it is the people who decide to uphold the culture whether abolished/dumped or not.

Lack of male kids have destroyed many many homes.

I remember growing up, there was a woman who had five girls. Her husband married another wife who had Junior the king of the house. The first wife was broken because the 2nd wife and husband would play 'love' around the house, bath together, eat together etc.

The guy even opened a shop for the 2nd wife.

It was sad sad sad.

A neighbor then killed a cow when he birthed his son. And used chicken for the daughter's naming. Or people who keep having kids till they birth the illusive boy.

wisdomiskey:



What's actually so funny is the fact that you can offer your smelling cuunt to a nigga that looks like this simply for Nairaland "immunity". Such a loser!

pocohantas:


My dear, leave talk, all na FORNICATION. Whatever you get out of it is jara...

wisdomiskey:



Well then, happy fornication to you and your loser Mod friend!!

wisdomiskey:



Well then, happy fornication to you and your loser Mod friend!!

pocohantas:


Thank you. You can now rest... A wise one once said “Yes no dey cause problem”.

anslem04:





Gud 2 know seun & mnyds let you off the hook. #no debes escapar