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Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by MilkANDpepper: 7:22am On Jun 27, 2020 |
I don't usually do this but I'll be straight here. He won't change. An egomaniac like him would be resentful because the truth is that you won't meet up to his expectations ALWAYS. leave before he chokes you to madness or death. Alwaysachick: 1 Like |
Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by mkoabiola: 7:23am On Jun 27, 2020 |
coolakins: Weesdom will not kee u Kudos 1 Like |
Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by Richieniit: 7:26am On Jun 27, 2020 |
ethicallyright: Pls don't listen to this idiot reply.. he's the type you're talking about "overbearing man" In a union everyone's opinion matter. If you don't have a say in ur relationship or can't do things your way that pleases you both then know you're in a wrong relationship. Imagine him asking u to ikj late evening without even considering ur safety and insisting tells much abt him. Be very careful. Not asking you to leave him o but be careful. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by apatheticme(f): 7:30am On Jun 27, 2020 |
Spysees: Y'all don't react Y'all be screaming upandan nairaland; Nigerian girls, Nigerian girls! Hypocrisy! 2 Likes |
Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by butterfly777(m): 7:32am On Jun 27, 2020 |
Let me say again.Discussion does not solve a problem like this. If you discuss it with him, expecting him to change, he may just start pretending in order to get you to marry him. Once you get married, the true character will surface again. I remember how my father treated my mum. If you can't cope with such behaviour, just quit now. 5 Likes |
Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by Parrot173(m): 7:32am On Jun 27, 2020 |
Alwaysachick: The way u are detailing the scenario of what happens he may end up giving u advice here 1 Like |
Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by nomenclature(m): 7:35am On Jun 27, 2020 |
Take this advice at your own peril,all this online wsingle and bitter women only wants you to be like them Heiterkeit: 3 Likes |
Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by leisuretym: 7:35am On Jun 27, 2020 |
the moment he succumb to you, you will overstep your boundary, you are only been rebellious, an attempt to overthrow. you are plotting a coup ! 3 Likes |
Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by jornwhite: 7:39am On Jun 27, 2020 |
Alwaysachick: Men like that are alway logical, which means for every disobedience to his order or command give him a logical reason why you won't do it his way, about your concern on "domestic violence" these is more reason why you must stand ur ground now n see how he will take it, if your comment is anything worth going by i think he is not the violent type, just an egomaniac don't be surprise real men don't even want a push around wife because they love challenge .. not insult o. apply discretion tew |
Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by peacettw: 7:39am On Jun 27, 2020 |
Xisnin: Had to 'like' when I read the pavlov and his dogs comment... Classic conditioning theory |
Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by oshaosha2014(m): 7:40am On Jun 27, 2020 |
Newsflash, there are good guys out there who are easygoing about life and their relationship. Yes, easygoing guys, but not without their own side effects. Stop talking as if there are perfect people out there. Just choose your own demon. victorian: |
Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by Kingzeez10: 7:40am On Jun 27, 2020 |
ethicallyright:Alwaysachick, don't listen to this guy please. If you can't cope at the long run please leave now. |
Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by lomprico(m): 7:41am On Jun 27, 2020 |
Alwaysachick: A clergy once told me if you have any form fears at all concerning the person you want to marry, that person is not for you. 2 Likes |
Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by Heiterkeit(f): 7:42am On Jun 27, 2020 |
nomenclature: Fake strong and smart man. Real strong and smart men are not overbearing, fake ones like you are. And real strong and smart women only submit to real strong and smart men. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by oshaosha2014(m): 7:43am On Jun 27, 2020 |
Their ladies who would like a guy to always keep them in check like your bf is doing. If that side of him is not bearable for you it is better you leave him and look for the one that can allow you have your way as you please. The thing is, you ladies think you don’t need a man that is “controlling” but without such a man in many of your lives, you’ll definitely self-destruct and destroy everything thing good around you. Alwaysachick: 2 Likes |
Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by spiceadole: 7:43am On Jun 27, 2020 |
Alwaysachick: Walk away ..You have seen this side of him before marriage. Let him go since you can't cope. You ladies clearly see signs of toxicity in boyfriends but you try to overlook and manage just to get married..Then start suffering and complaining unnecessarily. 1 Like |
Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by peacettw: 7:44am On Jun 27, 2020 |
Alwaysachick: Wow, didn't get to this part. This is tricky. Again, having being married for years, I will tell you this. Trust your instincts and follow them. God has blessed us women with that singular gift. Whatever you decide, please go with it. |
Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by Xeroxlis(m): 7:45am On Jun 27, 2020 |
Juliusmomoh: No mind em...make em die dia joor...is it easy to syke a woman? |
Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by Etemma1(m): 7:45am On Jun 27, 2020 |
Listen to sound advice @poster. Talk to him about it, share your fears of the relationship with him. Do not let your conversation be as if you're starting a fight with him oh! Get him to sit down and open up to him. Let him know how you feel and what you equally want from the relationship. If he truly loves you and he has number six, he would adjust that overbearing side of his, just to make things work between you two. That's why they say, it takes 2 to tango. Both of you must meet at a middle point. If you do not let him know your deepest concerns for the relationship now, it might prove a bit difficult later. Lastly, don't feed his ego all the time. I'm a Man, I know what I'm talking about. It's dangerous. Put all in prayer and trust God to do the rest and perfect things and you'll be fine. At least, when I was overbearing and all macho macho (insensitive) around my Wife. This was how she cured me, lol... It's well. 3 Likes |
Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by JustCryptos: 7:47am On Jun 27, 2020 |
Alwaysachick: @op. I don't know if anyone has told you this but please, there is nothing you can do to change him. I am married and one primary lesson that I have learned is that you can never change anybody. Marriage does not change the character of people, rather, it amplifies it. Once the love has cleared you will start to see things you never thought were there. So, if you've weighed your boyfriend and seen that you won't be able to manage this in marriage, I beg you to leave now. A broken courtship is better than a broken marriage or a broken head. Finally, all men are possessive. I am too. But it takes understanding and logical reasoning to know when your partner won't be available. Good luck. |
Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by Nobody: 7:47am On Jun 27, 2020 |
Xisnin: Xisnin: All "overbearing" people (both males and females) are terrible. So, do not paint it that it is not bad as it looks. Also, why must anyone "condition" (I guess the right word is tame) another like a dog? Check your utterance. So, what if the girl was the one taming you? 2 Likes |
Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by Xeroxlis(m): 7:47am On Jun 27, 2020 |
MrD2: Really it's only cowardice to run from your problems...no man can be 100%, frm her story it's sort of hereditary trait passed down to the menfolk, u are his joygiver.. then you can be his moulder...buy him beer.. talk to him gently...pls don't nag |
Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by Etemma1(m): 7:48am On Jun 27, 2020 |
This also I completely agree with. peacettw: |
Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by cray91(m): 7:50am On Jun 27, 2020 |
You nailed it! nothing else to say about it ethicallyright: 1 Like |
Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by Xeroxlis(m): 7:52am On Jun 27, 2020 |
Heiterkeit: Overbearing attitude doesn't make him fake... That's why there is red, maroon and orange, if you can't get the maroon you want...buy another color to mix it up to ur taste, talk to him about it...DONT NAG PLEASE...I recommend sweet talk not nagging |
Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by oshaosha2014(m): 7:52am On Jun 27, 2020 |
The only sensible reply to the OP here. Real talk. peacettw: |
Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by LiveLifeHub(m): 7:52am On Jun 27, 2020 |
Alwaysachick:It is better you move away if yiu know you cant bear him. But mind you, you cant get a perfect man (a man with a perfect personality), you are even lucky he isnt the pretending type he shows you who is he. and you said thats the only issue you have with him, if you dump him for another who isnt overbearibg but possesses much worse traits than him and to kill it, he pretends just to impress you till when you are fully married. My advice is this, talk to him in a cool man but you made that mistake of texting him that he is overbearing, you could have just simply ask him why doesnt he want you to do it your own way. talk it out, and if that doesnt work , walk out. |
Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by oshaosha2014(m): 7:53am On Jun 27, 2020 |
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Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by Favour22amaka(f): 7:55am On Jun 27, 2020 |
For you to have come here to seek advice meaning you are not comfortable with his attitude. So I advice you quit ASAP. Don't think he l change wen you get married. 1 Like |
Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by oshaosha2014(m): 7:56am On Jun 27, 2020 |
So, I think we should find and kill them wherever they are because they are the worst. Xisnin: |
Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by Microwhy: 7:57am On Jun 27, 2020 |
Alwaysachick:My wife is a very good lady.. She's respectful, caring, a tireless mother to her kids, and a person who can sacrifice her happiness for you, some would say i married her for her cool headedness but, she's not the type you can lay your hand unto even if you're mad and very angry. I have never dare to beat my wife or ever intend to beat her but I just know that she cannot forgive/cope with a man that will lay his fingers on her. Hence, Please let him know what you can't really take (by action not by saying though) before the relationship get more serious. Be sincere with yourself and be truthful , some women prefer beating to silent treatment while some cannot let go of a man who act manly and always incharge. Forget about social media and its definition of a perfect man. Just know what you want and act accordingly. 2 Likes |
Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by LiveLifeHub(m): 7:57am On Jun 27, 2020 |
Etemma1:One of the best advice so far. my own opinion as well. but she wenr ahead to text him as if they are fighting and that shows she bears bitterness against him already cos the guy would be shocked that he called him names, when he has no quarrel with her. And again, no one is perfect including the op, the best is to talk it out amicably first and if that doesn work WALK OUT. |
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