AgamaProf:

Don't heed to this. This is the most useless advice so far.

bigpicture001:


Honestly it's not Tru... If he invested those times in education, though for him, no sponsorship, but if he had.. He mayb b working at access bank by now at 23...

Alot of ppl finish service by 22...

veave:
Errrrrr. You go need patience oooo.

One thing you should know is that your brother is now married and is firstly responsible to his wife and kids before any other person so him allowing three extended family to stay in this hard times is an act of kindness and bravery please don't add more stress to his life by bickering with your in-laws. We women are troublesome by nature then when we see someone who has our time we extend the trouble. The truth is
1. There is no way the room would have been left for you while there are women in the house (they need privacy).
2. Why will you say that you will go to the village? Don't you know you give your brother some kind of security in the midst of his wife and her obviously troublesome sisters by staying with him? Has he asked you to leave yet?
3. You where wrong to slap the young woman, no matter what the grieviance is you don't touch a woman.
4. They where wrong to throw your mattress out but please forgive them and move on. Thank God your brother made provisions for a replacement.
5. Take this place as a training ground for your future, if it's anything you should be bothered about now, is to be more determined about gaining independence and making it in life.
6. Leave rofo rofo fight for women, in fact ignore them totally for your national peace.
7. Hustle!!! Hustle!!! Hustle oooooo!!!!

Hugs.

veave:
Errrrrr. You go need patience oooo.

One thing you should know is that your brother is now married and is firstly responsible to his wife and kids before any other person so him allowing three extended family to stay in this hard times is an act of kindness and bravery please don't add more stress to his life by bickering with your in-laws. We women are troublesome by nature then when we see someone who has our time we extend the trouble. The truth is
1. There is no way the room would have been left for you while there are women in the house (they need privacy).
2. Why will you say that you will go to the village? Don't you know you give your brother some kind of security in the midst of his wife and her obviously troublesome sisters by staying with him? Has he asked you to leave yet?
3. You where wrong to slap the young woman, no matter what the grieviance is you don't touch a woman.
4. They where wrong to throw your mattress out but please forgive them and move on. Thank God your brother made provisions for a replacement.
5. Take this place as a training ground for your future, if it's anything you should be bothered about now, is to be more determined about gaining independence and making it in life.
6. Leave rofo rofo fight for women, in fact ignore them totally for your national peace.
7. Hustle!!! Hustle!!! Hustle oooooo!!!!

Hugs.

flyingpig:
you're a very shameless man, shame on you!

pcguru1:


Lol what you think of me don't affect me in the slightest however I feel its easier for me to look at things from my own angle. I was given nothing growing up so I expect nothing from people, I've stayed in relative places where it didnt pay me and I always realize that no one owes me anything, now from the story he has an unfortunate brother who caters to the whims of his wife, isnt that the more reason for him to be careful, you think I don't think it is wrong for him to only do the housework in the household, him hitting the girls has put him in a bad position. Plus I do not believe in the mentality that because my brother owes something that it is mine or I have a say, in my opinion both sisters and the brother should be kicked out, besides why do you care what I say its my opinion nau, can't I have a skewed opinion anymore geez

klufs:

To what extent does he have to endure. Must the man favour his wife to the extent of aiding her evil? I feel bitter cos I once lived with a step-mother, I know how this feels, his station in life is not a ground to humiliate him. My step-mother would have killed my sister but not for the fact that I decided to raise hell and face the consequences. My father was weak and favoured her over us, I expected no justice from him whether I was the complainant or not. So, i chose the injustice I was willing to suffer. I refused to be the complainant but the defendant when matters where reported to him. I fought her like a man when she laid hands on my sister, I took the food she refused to give us, I embarrassed her visitors after she embarrasses mine and trained my younger brother to defend himself too until she left us alone and asked my father to give us money for our own food because she knows what will happen if he didn't.
My advice is to retaliate with equal measure. Dont be fatal, mind what you use to fight them but fight them. Dont allow anyone to blackmail you with not fighting with a woman thing. Let your brother chase you out on their account if he chooses but match up with them for your self and on behalf of any other person they will meet. You may behave weak and your brother may still not settle you after. If his wife can torment you like this and to his knowledge, she may as well convince him to use your settlement money for something or someone else. After 8 to 10 years you are due for assessment and possible settlement. Get it as soon as possible or move on. Remember, be aggressive but don't be fatal, meet them with commensurate force.

bigpicture001:


Honestly it's not Tru... If he invested those times in education, though for him, no sponsorship, but if he had.. He mayb b working at access bank by now at 23...

Alot of ppl finish service by 22...

TheArchangel:
lol. Which paradise are you living in.? How long does it take graduates to be masters in their field? Certainly, 6-8 years all this being equal. From bachelors to Masters.

Championxxx:

They were doing all this to frustrate me I think she brought them to the house with a mission to frustrate me so I can leave , the funny part is they don’t come to clean only to watch tv and making all kind of noises to disturb my sleep and if I am awake they will go back to their room to sleep till noon. These girls has never help around the house when I am around , I do everything mopping , sweeping , washing dishes when they around pressing phone my brother doesn’t say anything to them. I asked him if he is right for me to do all these chores when we have his wife sisters at home , he said before he married I was the one doing it and why am now I complaining , I told because it doesn’t sound right for me to be doing chores when the girls are busy pressing phone, anyway there is more but not everything is good to say on social media. If he refuse renting a place for me I think I will go back to the village because I am short tempered I don’t want to stay in the same house with that mannerless small girl because I don’t want to do something stupid that will land me to prison for life . I prefer to be in the village than staying somewhere where I am not comfortable

eni4real:
That 19 year old immature girl is a woman too, that 'veave' is just deceiving herself. Too much sexist remarks in a comment!!

I blame the OP's Elder Brother tho

Championxxx:

Thanks I agree with you because he promised to settle me when I am 25 years old with a huge amount of money to start up my own business and then he changed his mind that he has had spent a lot of money during his wedding and building his house that he don’t think he will be able to settle me again in 2 years time that I should wait when I am 28-30 he will give me double of the amount he promised me . But the way things are going I don’t think I will get anything from him I can only leave for the village I don’t have any trusted friend to stay with in Abuja I also don’t have any money to rent my own place , village is my only option . Yes he is my blood brother we are 5 in total 2 boys and 3 girls he is our first born and I am the last

Championxxx:

They were doing all this to frustrate me I think she brought them to the house with a mission to frustrate me so I can leave.
I prefer to be in the village than staying somewhere where I am not comfortable

veave:
Errrrrr. You go need patience oooo.

One thing you should know is that your brother is now married and is firstly responsible to his wife and kids before any other person so him allowing three extended family to stay in this hard times is an act of kindness and bravery please don't add more stress to his life by bickering with your in-laws. We women are troublesome by nature then when we see someone who has our time we extend the trouble. The truth is
1. There is no way the room would have been left for you while there are women in the house (they need privacy).
2. Why will you say that you will go to the village? Don't you know you give your brother some kind of security in the midst of his wife and her obviously troublesome sisters by staying with him? Has he asked you to leave yet?
3. You where wrong to slap the young woman, no matter what the grieviance is you don't touch a woman.
4. They where wrong to throw your mattress out but please forgive them and move on. Thank God your brother made provisions for a replacement.
5. Take this place as a training ground for your future, if it's anything you should be bothered about now, is to be more determined about gaining independence and making it in life.
6. Leave rofo rofo fight for women, in fact ignore them totally for your national peace.
7. Hustle!!! Hustle!!! Hustle oooooo!!!!

Hugs.

Lazycyndy:


You just spoiled this write up with the bolded.

If you're a troublesome woman that's for you but don't go around generalizing it, am not troublesome and the women around me aren't either.

murphyibiam15:

Trash upon trash.. If u like let it be u have stayed 100 years in marriage if u are not wise you won't be wise.. The old age of metusela has nothing to do with wisdom of solomon

veave:



Where did you know me from please?

Championxxx:
I am 23 years old guy I ave been staying with my brother in Abuja for the past 8 years , I help him with his shop and his house , everything was fine till he got married his wife carry his two sisters to the house 24 and 19 years old , he said I should leave my room for them I didn’t argue I let them have the room while I am sleeping in the parlour , during lockdown this girl will wake and come to the parlour to watch tv to disturb my sleep , I complained to my brother he said I should keep calm he will speak to his wife which he never does and these girls kept disturbing me meanwhile the older girl stopped but the younger one carry on and I told her to stop disturbing me she has a phone she can press her phone in their room , she insulted me and told me to go and marry I got angry and ask her to leave she said I should do my worst and I landed a thunder slap in her face she held me by my neck screaming when my bro and wife came his wife started hitting me on my back I had to leave the house and went outside to cool down , my brother followed me and said I didn’t do well by hitting his wife sister he said I should go and apologise to his wife and sister , I refuse and asked him why he didn’t stop them when I was complaining bitterly about them but he waited for me to take matter to my own hand now he blamed me he said I should apologise which I did to his wife but not to the girl but that small girl was expecting me to knelt down and beg her , I told her she will wait for eternity.

Since the incidence his wife stopped talking to me , she ordered her sister’s to stop giving me food , the older girl used to dish food for me sometimes when she is not around but I told her to stop because I don’t want her to be in trouble with her sister and I didn’t report to my brother, it’s not a big deal for me I buy foods and eat at work and I only go home to sleep , 2 weeks ago I came home to see my mattress outside in the rain soaking wet , I was confused because it was supposed to be inside the girl room that’s where I keep it and they always bring it for me when is time for me to sleep so how come it was outside in the rain , I asked them they both denied they didn’t take it out and I suspected my brother wife or her youngest sister were the one who did it because they didn’t want me in the house anymore , I told my brother he said I should sleep on the sofa and in the morning I will get a new mattress in his shop but the wife get angry that I will damaged her sofa she wanted me to sleep on the floor with a wrapper but my brother refuse and I slept on the sofa , the next day I spoke with my brother I told him because I am not wanted in his house I don’t have peace of mind there , I want him to rent a self cont for me closer to the shop so It will be easier for me to get to work he refuse saying when he has a bigger house why would I go and leave alone , he said he provide all my needs and the rest the way his wife and sisters are treating me it doesn’t matter that he will never allow me and I told him I want to go back to the village , he said if I leave his house he will disown me and I will not longer be his brother , for 3 days now he stopped talking to me even if I greet him he won’t reply I feel hurt. I love my brother I want to serve him but I don’t want to stay in his house . I don’t know if I did something wrong by asking him to rent a room for me to be living alone? Am confuse please advice me

Softhands:
18 considered an adult in Nigeria? Abi u smoke weed ni...

VULCAN:
Of all the things that were written, this was the only one that you noticed.

What a shame.

In a two bedroom house with 5 people why would you imply that he sleeps in the parlour during the day?

Do the brother and wife spend 24hr in their bedroom?

Is it not obvious that he is referring to night time when the girls should be in their room?

Are you a woman? I hope so because any man reasoning like you is an error.

Ignoring all the clear injustice meted out to him to ask about what wasn't made clear.

What a shame!

stormborn28:
nonsense.heart to heart discussion... It is wrong to disturb someone still sleeping at that hour... You cannot eat your cake and still have it.. If they love the parlour so much, they should pack out of the room and let the guy occupy it.

stormborn28:
even if he sleeps by noon.. Is it a crime? Don't they have their own room to stay? If they want the parlour, they should move out of the room and let the guy go to the room to sleep... Nonsense everywhere

BrutusOj:
You have been so annoying with nonsense questions since. Is it so difficult to comprehend the little passage up there? He is an apprentice of a trade, hence he is not paid and get a token of #3000 at most once a while. Haven't you heard about Igbo style of setting up an apprentice learning a business/trade with them before? What exactly are you driving at? The young man is passing through some hard times already, all these your JAMB questions wouldn't solve his problem. I don't think his story sounds like he is at fault in any way. He was with the brother before the privileged strangers came in the name of in-laws.

Scout60:


Oga it doesn't work like that....
Igbo call it igba gboyi. you have to serve your master for a specific year before they give you money to open your own shop

Fhemmmy:


Thank you so much for enlightening me on this and i really appreciate it . . .Knowledge is said to be power and you have empowered me on this but if the condition and arrangement is too complicated for the young man to learn, what can he do? (I am asking based on how it works since i don't know sir)

Scout60:


his own is better. They are some people that will serve their Oga in shop, serve his wife in house chores. Restricted movement, no access to android, no bank account, poor quality food etc. The only option is to endure or quit. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. That why most igbos have many successful business or trade men.

Ejenavi18:
Why are your sisters in-law living with you guys?
Don't they have parents?